I lost my puppy. How do I deal with the thoughts in my head?

Dear question asker,

From your question, I can tell that you love your pet very much, and you have some conflicting thoughts because of the loss of your puppy. I'm not sure how to properly address the thoughts in your mind, and I understand your feelings of distress, sadness, and guilt. I send you my support from afar.

I found myself going through a series of stages, beginning with denial and eventually leading to acceptance. However, this was followed by a period of grief.

When we lose something, we will all experience a range of emotions. Whether it is a person or an animal, we may initially feel grief, pain, and an inability to accept the situation. We may feel a sense of heartache and distress. Second, we may come to accept that this is a fact and allow ourselves to embrace it. We may then experience feelings of guilt and blame ourselves, thinking that we could have done more, that we were not quick enough, or that we did not love it enough. I may find comfort in the belief that I am not to blame and that there are positive aspects to this transition (the challenges posed by the puppy's indiscriminate defecation and urination, and its love of getting sick, have indeed caused me trouble, and I hope that these troubles can disappear). So, "my mind will suddenly come up with things that make me feel like "it's me" and "it's not me": for example, the brain will come up with: if it's dead, it's no trouble; as long as it doesn't die in front of my eyes, I can escape" [rationalizing one's own thoughts].

It is a natural process to experience grief for a longer period of time when we lose a loved one. The depth of our feelings for animals and people is influenced by the length of time. With time, we will find a way to adjust and return to a peaceful state of mind.

[2] If this situation arises again in the future, I will take a moment to close my eyes, ask myself what result I would like to see, and engage in a quiet conversation with myself. After seeking guidance from my heart, I will then proceed with the action that feels most aligned with my deepest desires.

It is important to resist the influence of habit and instinct.

When we are overly focused on a specific outcome, it can lead to a range of emotions, including the pain of causing harm and the desire to rationalize or justify our actions. You suggest resisting the urge to act on instinct, but it's important to recognize that many thoughts and emotions are beyond our control. One approach could be to embrace uncertainty and allow both potential outcomes to exist simultaneously. I have strived my best, and I am at peace with the outcome. Losing me would be painful, but I would be grateful for the opportunity to do so. By embracing a more balanced perspective, we can normalize our thoughts and emotions and approach situations with calm objectivity. By doing so, we can better understand the nature of our experiences.

In the end, loss is a process, no matter what it is. It is natural to mourn, to feel pain, guilt, and regret. However, it is important not to suppress our emotions and thoughts. Allowing them to arise will slowly subside the sadness and return us to a peaceful life. This is a normal process. Pets, like humans, will experience birth, aging, illness, and death. It is the law of nature, and it is something we cannot change. All we can do is treat them well in their daily lives and do our best to save their lives at the last moment. Even if we lose them, we will have no regrets.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

Hello, question asker. I hope my answer helps.

These thoughts are all your thoughts, and it's normal for them to pop up. You're grieving because you lost your puppy. Grief comes from love; without love, there'd be no grief. Grief and love are two sides of the same coin. You feel guilty because you want to keep connecting with it. It's been a great companion and source of quality time. You don't want to lose it so easily. So, your thoughts are a mix of love and guilt, which is totally normal.

My advice to you is this:

There are ways to express your emotions and grieve, to allow yourself to be open to your true emotions.

It's totally normal to have these kinds of reactions. Don't try to hide your emotions. Don't feel like you have to keep them inside. Instead, let your sadness out in whatever way feels right for you. This is a really healthy way to heal.

You can write a letter to your dog, and you can write about anything you want. It can be about gratitude, guilt, missing it, reluctance, regrets... You can write about anything. When you're done, you can say goodbye, wish it well, and ask it to wish you well too. You'll keep living well with the love and warmth it has given you.

I've found that using an empty chair to express grief works well. You can try it too. Just place an empty chair in the room and say anything you want to say to it for a safe period of time. Don't hold back, express yourself sincerely. You can cry, you can even have very intense emotions; it's okay. Express yourself as much as you can, and the more you express yourself, the more your heart will become unblocked.

2. When it comes to ideas, remember that they're just ideas. They don't represent the truth or you. You're the boss of your own thoughts. You can choose your thoughts. You can even adjust your state of mind by choosing positive thoughts.

It's normal to have all kinds of thoughts pop up in our minds from time to time. There's no need to dwell on whether these thoughts are right or wrong. Just don't follow them, don't debate with them, and don't suppress negative thoughts. Instead, allow them to flow, and they'll disappear on their own after a while. It's important to understand that thoughts are like white clouds floating under a blue sky. They don't represent who we are. We are the vast blue sky behind the white clouds. We are a much bigger existence than our thoughts. That means you are the master of your own thoughts. You can choose your thoughts, and you don't have to follow them and be bound by them.

Take a moment to think about some positive thoughts you can choose for yourself now. Thinking constructively can help you take better care of yourself. So, go ahead and choose those optimistic thoughts. These thoughts will give you strength and help you adjust your state of mind.

Just wanted to share this with you for reference. Best regards!

Hello, landlord!

From the landlord's description, I can feel the landlord's pain caused by the loss of the landlord's dog.

I just wanted to give you a big, warm hug! The host is a very caring, soft, and kind-hearted person!

In the week after losing her, I went from a state of denial to acceptance to missing her—and I'm so excited to start this new chapter!

And let's not forget about the puppy with a life of its own! Losing a favorite doll can also be very sad.

We have invested our emotions in it, seeing it as a partner in our lives and having accompanied ourselves, which is why it's so sad to lose them!

Some people are sensitive to this kind of emotional severance and separation, while others are not!

The host is a sensitive type and a kind person, which is an amazing innate quality!

There are also some fascinating factors at play, including childhood traumas, separation anxiety, and other intriguing elements that have shaped the landlord's current emotional landscape.

No matter what's going on with the landlord right now,

The good news is that the host just needs to accept that this is all happening!

So, how can I calm my conflicting thoughts?

I'm so excited to share these tips with you!

1. Embrace the adventure of a new chapter!

No matter how painful it is, dwelling on it won't change the fact that the puppy has already left. So, let's focus on the positive!

Rather than suffering, it is better to accept it! When faced with pain,

The good news is that acceptance can reduce the degree of suffering!

2. Embrace the rollercoaster of conflicting emotions and ride it to the fullest!

When these amazing, somewhat grounded words appear in my mind, I get to discover which one is the real me!

These are the thoughts of the original poster, and there is no good or bad distinction. In fact, they are all out of a psychological love for the puppy, which is a wonderful thing!

So don't be too hard on yourself! It's okay to have different thoughts and feelings.

Because your pent-up emotions have not disappeared, they have all returned to your own body to attack your body — so you get to experience them fully!

So, go ahead and let it all out! Talk to someone about it, or do something you love to distract yourself.

3. Be grateful and wish the puppy well!

Be grateful for the time you spent with your puppy!

Thank your puppy for bringing you so much joy when it was in the prime of its life!

Thank your puppy for being your best friend and for bringing you so much joy!

It's time for it to embark on a new adventure! It has completed its mission, and it's now ready to spread its wings and fly!

So bless it and send it off to its next adventure!

This is an incredible lesson in parting with life, a subject we get to experience and embrace in this journey.

It doesn't matter if it's a puppy or the loss of a loved one, we can face these issues head on by looking within ourselves!

We may not be able to get over the pain of losing a loved one for a long time, but we can get through it!

As time passes, all we can do is accept and allow it to happen—and it's so freeing!

I am so grateful for the moments that accompanied me at that time, and I bless its spirit in heaven!

Maybe there is no illness or pain there, and I feel so relieved!

A heart of gratitude and blessing will also bring a little comfort to the landlord—and it's a wonderful thing to do!

Wishing you the very best!

I am Warm June, and I love the world! And I love you!

Hello, I'm Gu Daoxi Fengshou, a Heart Explorer coach.

It is often the case that awareness is the first step towards change. It is therefore noteworthy that the questioner has demonstrated the ability to be self-aware in this particular matter.

Some people will be with us for a while, while others will be with us for the rest of our lives. The same goes for animals. Some animals may be able to be with us for a longer period of time, while others may be able to be with us for a shorter period of time. However, I believe that the days we spend together will all be precious memories. The puppy was with the questioner through the most difficult time, and the questioner was with the puppy through the time when it needed the most care. This was a period of mutual love.

It seems that the questioner did not abandon the puppy subjectively and took very good care of it. However, sick animals are inherently weak, and whether they can stay healthy depends on whether they can be cured. It is possible that the questioner may not feel guilty about this. Moreover, the questioner did their best, and it could be said that the puppy and the questioner were meant to be together, but perhaps not for a long time.

It might be helpful to think about the difference between habit and awareness. The latter is more about subjective initiative, but it's not always possible to solve everything by being highly subjective. It could be beneficial to try to exert yourself in things you can change and forgive yourself for things you can't. This could help to reduce internal conflict.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask yourself whether you did anything to hasten the puppy's illness and departure. If you feel you did nothing to cause this, you might like to try to do your best, accept what happens, and try to be tolerant of yourself.

We all have days when we feel down, and it's only natural to have unkind thoughts and want to relax a little. It's important to remember that the questioner probably doesn't need to blame themselves.

It is natural to experience a range of emotions, from excitement to loneliness, as you adjust to life without your puppy. It is understandable to feel a sense of emptiness, which is a testament to the love and dedication you have shown in raising your dog. Allow yourself the space to gradually adjust to this new phase of life.

In the case of unavoidable circumstances, such as the death of a puppy due to illness, it may be helpful to try to accept and allow this reality to happen, which could help to reduce internal conflict.

It might be helpful to consider listing the advantages and disadvantages of each plan, weighing and scoring them, and then making a decision after our own consideration. This could help to make the questioner more determined and reduce internal friction.

To quote a line from the song "Since You've Been Around": "Thank heaven, thank earth, thank fate for bringing us together." It might be helpful for the questioner to consider what they have gained from this experience of raising a pet, such as a sense of responsibility or healing from the physical symptoms of anxiety.

It might be helpful to ask yourself what you have given the puppy, such as care and companionship in the final days of its life. Seeing things objectively like this could help you to reduce self-blame and avoid internal conflict.

It might be helpful to try to accept yourself. Nobody is perfect, and we all have moments when we feel like giving up. There's a proverb that says "There is no filial son at the bedside of a long-term patient," and it's probably similar when it comes to taking care of a sick little animal. Allowing yourself to have emotions might help to reduce internal conflict for the questioner.

You might find it helpful to read "A Change of Heart."

I hope this finds you well. Please accept my best wishes for a positive outcome.

Despite seeking veterinary treatment, the animal in question ultimately succumbed to its illness.

Following the loss of the puppy, there was a notable shift in emotional response, moving from an inability to accept the loss to an acceptance of it and finally to a state of missing the animal. This may be considered to be beyond the typical range of emotional responses to the loss of an animal.

The question thus arises as to why a puppy would elicit such pronounced emotional fluctuations.

It is possible that you perceive the puppy as a means of sharing and bearing your illness, and that your care and treatment of the puppy is a form of self-healing.

This may be why the subject reports that the puppy has alleviated the somatic symptoms associated with anxiety disorder. The subject attributes this effect to the puppy, suggesting that it has a healing influence.

The puppy is not the agent of healing; rather, it is the act of caring for and treating the puppy that facilitates healing.

The adorable puppy can be seen as an embodiment of the lovable inner child within the individual.

In such instances, the puppy can be seen as a representation of the wounded, pitiful child within.

In the act of rescuing the puppy, the mind suddenly presents the notion of a definitive action, yet the individual is reluctant to confront the underlying motivation, which may be a desire for relief but also a fear of death.

The challenges posed by the puppy and the requisite effort to care for it may prove somewhat challenging for you.

However, the emotional bond between you and the puppy is so strong that you are unable to detach from it, just as you are unable to detach from yourself.

The relationship between the individual and the puppy can be described as one of companionship, warmth, and empathy for one another's suffering. The individual may experience distress when the puppy becomes ill and may feel a sense of emptiness when the puppy dies.

Therefore, when the brain generates these seemingly nonsensical yet somewhat rational concepts, they may all be your thoughts.

These thoughts are a combination of love and guilt. The love stems from the affection and appreciation for both the puppy and one's own life. Conversely, the guilt arises from a sense of helplessness in confronting and enduring the changes, coupled with a perception of being unable to offer more in the face of adversity and loss.

It appears that you are preoccupied with these thoughts, and it is possible that you feel you have not performed adequately or that you have erred in some way.

Indeed, you have done your utmost.

The time spent with the puppy before its departure, during which it was cared for and treated with great care, constituted the greatest gift it could have received in this world.

Although it is unable to communicate verbally, it is expressing its gratitude by alleviating your anxiety and somatic symptoms.

The subject has also imbued the object with extraordinary value and meaning.

It can be reasonably deduced that both parties have established a profound and meaningful connection, which is undoubtedly a source of immense gratification.

Furthermore, do you experience any feelings of regret?

If the puppy could communicate verbally, it might convey the following message: "You love me profoundly, and I love you in return. We have both striven to the best of our abilities, and you need not feel remorse. Each of us has our own life cycle; yours is still in progress, while mine has already reached its conclusion. If you wish to avoid feelings of guilt, I advise you to embrace life fully, with all the love I have for you."

Is this the desired outcome?

This concludes the matter.

I am Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor. It is my hope that we can all collectively wish your puppy a healthy and free life in the afterlife.

Hello. I am Bai Li Yina, and I am here to help.

The original poster revealed that their puppy had passed away due to illness. While you have accepted this fact after the pain, you are taken aback when you reflect on the thoughts in your mind at the time about the puppy getting sick. You loved her, so why did the thought of wanting to be free of her appear? It's unlike you; you are grateful and loving towards the puppy. You know that the next time you have conflicting thoughts, you need to calm down and explore your heart to determine which is truly your own intention.

Let's analyze the situation.

I applaud your kindness, awareness, determination, and wisdom. You have reflected on yourself and become aware of your different states and thoughts through the death of your puppy. You feel love and gratitude for the puppy, but taking care of her every day, worrying about her, and taking her to treatment is a considerable drain on human, material, and financial resources. When tiredness sets in, our instinct is to want to escape this pain, so we think she will just disappear suddenly. This is just a thought, an instant activation of the self-protection mechanism when faced with pain. Our autonomous consciousness will filter through countless thoughts to select the one that suits us best and that we feel the strongest need for.

Everyone has thoughts of heaven and hell. There's no need to blame yourself. Even saints have bad thoughts. As you said, ask yourself what you want, what you care about, and what you really want to do. You'll find your answer. Any thoughts you think are bad are just clouds and smoke. What you ultimately choose is your true intention.

You called the puppy "she" instead of "it," which shows you treat her as your friend and value her. You gave her company and care when she was sick. She likes you. Life is short, but as long as you are accompanied by love, I believe she feels warm inside. You will get over this period of grief. One day, you two will meet again in another form.

Facing the death of your puppy can help you face your inner pain, become aware of and reflect on your own thoughts, and find a better way to deal with it next time. You are good, so don't doubt yourself. Believe in yourself. I hope you will never be troubled by anxiety again, and find the most comfortable way of life in your loving inner world.

I am confident that the above methods will help you.

You will get through this. It will take time, but you will get through it. Don't worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, and you will get through this too.

The world and I are with you. You are not alone. You will find your way out of this fog and find your own most comfortable state.

I appreciate your likes and feedback. Have a great day!

While losing a beloved puppy is undoubtedly a very painful thing, there are ways to help you move on from your sadness! When we are grieving, our minds are often flooded with thoughts that can either make us feel more pain or help us gradually move on. Here are some suggestions to help you deal with the thoughts in your head:

It's okay to grieve! Don't suppress or deny your feelings. They're a normal part of the process. Let yourself cry, talk about it, and even let off some steam.

Grief takes time to subside, so give yourself plenty of time to adjust to this fact. You've got this!

Keep a record of your thoughts! Whenever thoughts about your puppy come to mind, try to write them down. This is a great way to understand your emotional state and gradually come to terms with the situation.

And there's more! The process of recording is also a way to release those emotions and relieve some of that psychological pressure.

It's time to share your feelings! Share them with friends, family, or a counselor. They're there to support you, comfort you, and give you advice to help you cope better with these emotions.

By talking about it and sharing it, you can gradually come out of the shadows and face life again!

Distraction: When you feel you can't control the thoughts in your head, try to focus on something else. For example, watch a movie, read a book, do some exercise, or learn something new. You'll be amazed at how these activities can distract you and make you forget your sadness for a while!

These activities can distract you and make you forget your sadness for a while.

Seek professional help: If you find that you cannot cope with these emotions on your own, consider seeking the help of a professional counselor. They can help you better cope with grief and pain through professional methods and techniques, so that you can gradually come out of the shadow and start living your best life!

You've got this! Losing a beloved puppy is a very painful thing, but you can absolutely give yourself time to adjust to this fact. In the process, you can try the above suggestions to better deal with the thoughts and emotions in your mind.

You can do this! Believe in yourself and you will overcome this and move on with your life.

Good day, question asker. I can discern the confusion you are currently experiencing, and I extend a supportive gesture to you.

Two opposing thoughts are currently competing for dominance in your mind.

One possible interpretation is that you experience a degree of culpability towards the puppy.

What is the source of this guilt?

The supposition is that had the animal been treated at an earlier stage, it might have survived.

The animal's demise was a consequence of your failure to identify the issue in a timely manner. This resulted in the animal's departure from your life.

Additionally, you have a fondness for the puppy.

You have a strong emotional bond with the puppy and are reluctant to see it endure pain or distress.

Given that the animal is no longer alive, it is reasonable to conclude that it is not experiencing suffering.

One might inquire as to whether sufficient care was provided to the puppy.

Despite your best efforts, the animal still became unwell. It is important to recognise that this is not something that can be controlled.

Furthermore, it is important to acknowledge that the puppy was already unwell when it was brought home, which inevitably limits its lifespan.

You have provided care for the animal for a minimum of 50 days. During this period, the animal has provided you with joy and you have helped it to experience a degree of happiness despite its illness.

In the course of our lives, there are numerous factors that are beyond our control.

As long as one has endeavored to the best of their abilities, the outcome may not be optimal. This is not a reflection of one's shortcomings.

At this juncture, it is imperative to reassure oneself that one has exerted the utmost effort. Even if the outcome is unfavorable, it is comforting to imagine the animal at peace, free from suffering in a distant land.

It is my sincere hope that a solution to the problem you are facing will be found as soon as possible.

At this juncture, I can only consider these matters.

It is my sincere hope that my above response is both helpful and inspiring to you. As the respondent, I endeavor to study diligently on a daily basis.

On behalf of Yixinli, I extend my sincerest regards and best wishes to you.

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Dear questioner, Thank you for your question.

I can fully understand how you feel. Losing a beloved pet is undoubtedly a significant loss. Although you didn't spend much time with the puppy, a deep emotional bond had formed, and its departure has undoubtedly left an open wound in your heart.

I can sense your pain, helplessness, and confusion. These emotions are understandable and normal at this time.

You mentioned that the puppy was your first pet, and it was only four months old and had been with you for less than 50 days. In such a relatively short period of time, it brought you a great deal of joy and companionship.

However, the unpredictability of fate forces us to face its departure. I can appreciate how difficult it is for you to accept this sudden loss, because you have already considered it a member of the family.

On that night, when the doctor was doing his utmost to save the puppy, you experienced some unusual thoughts. These thoughts left you feeling confused and uncertain about your own thoughts.

It is possible that these thoughts are a self-protection response generated by your brain in a state of extreme tension and anxiety. They may not represent your true thoughts, but rather an emotional and stressful catharsis.

You mentioned that some of these thoughts make you feel both "I am" and "I am not." This could be a sign of confusion about self-awareness, and it might also be a psychological reaction caused by grief and stress.

In this state, we may have some negative thoughts about ourselves, but they do not necessarily reflect our true selves. It is important to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the time and space to gradually accept and process these emotions.

You also mentioned that the puppy means a great deal to you and that it helped you recover from your anxiety disorder. This demonstrates the significant role it has played in your life.

If you find yourself feeling guilty or confused, it might help to remember the joy and comfort your puppy has brought you. This could be a useful way to remember it.

Your decision is a very wise one, particularly given the pain and confusion of losing your pet. You have chosen to close your eyes and calmly ask yourself what your heart really wants, and to talk to yourself in the future when you encounter similar situations.

This approach may help you find a balance between emotion and reason, and better understand your own needs and expectations. It could also be a form of self-healing that allows you to gradually emerge from the shadows and start a new life.

If I may suggest, it might be helpful to consider seeking the support of a professional counselor. They can provide more specific and personalized guidance to assist you in coping with your grief and confusion.

It might also be helpful to share your feelings and thoughts with family and friends. They can provide emotional support and understanding, and make you feel warm and cared for.

Finally, I want to say that losing a pet is a very difficult experience. However, I hope you can find comfort in the belief that time will help you to heal.

In the process, it would be helpful to learn to listen to your inner voice and pay attention to your needs and feelings. At the same time, it might be beneficial to cherish those beautiful memories and moments, and let them be your strength and courage on the way forward.

From my perspective, you seem to be a very caring and responsible person. It's understandable that the loss of the puppy has made you feel deeply guilty and self-blame. However, I believe you have done your best.

You have shown a great deal of effort and love for your puppy, which is evidence that you are a responsible owner. It might be helpful to remember that many things in life are beyond our control, and that it's not always possible to achieve perfection.

Furthermore, I believe your decision not to get a dog again so easily is also a wise one. This is not only responsible for yourself, but also for your future pet.

When you are ready to embrace a new beginning, you will find yourself cherishing and caring for it even more.

It is possible that you may experience a range of emotions during this process. Please remember that you are not alone.

Many people have experienced similar pain and confusion and have found a way out of the shadows. You may wish to seek help and support from them, and you may also find strength and courage from within yourself.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to be kind to yourself and allow yourself the time and space you need to heal. It would also be beneficial to cherish those who care about and support you.

They will be there to support you through this challenging period, helping you to find meaning and direction in your life again. I believe that you are a strong and courageous person, and I am confident that you will emerge from this difficult time and embrace a brighter future.

Additionally, you expressed your desire to engage in calm self-dialogue when confronted with comparable circumstances, and to act only after seeking the most resolute answer within yourself. This capacity for self-awareness and reflection is highly valuable, as it enables a deeper understanding of one's needs and emotions, ultimately leading to more informed decision-making.

In the process, you may also find yourself becoming stronger and more confident, as you learn to communicate deeply with your inner self.

Please remember that there is always someone who is willing to listen to your story and accompany you through the difficult times. You are not alone; we are all here to support you.

We are hopeful that you will overcome your grief soon and return to a happy life.

Hello! I can totally relate to your "state of transition between the stages of unacceptable-acceptance-missing." I really get where you're coming from with mixing love and guilt.

In fact, having these seemingly opposing and contradictory thoughts shows that we are living, healthy people who are just not yet able, no, are just beginning to gradually learn to face death and say goodbye. And that is a wonderful thing!

On the one hand, this puppy means the world to you. It has helped you recover from the physical symptoms of anxiety, been your loyal companion when you were sick, a witness to your victory over illness, and to some extent, your emotional support and anchor. It also has symbolic significance related to "health." On the other hand, as a living animal, the puppy's eating, drinking, defecating, and urinating does cause a lot of trouble for its owner, and this trouble continues day after day. As long as it is around, there will be trouble, and it is normal to feel annoyed and even want to give up. But you can do it!

But after 50 days, the puppy got sick and died. You couldn't accept its death, and you had to persuade yourself to accept reality (say goodbye to it). This conflict caused a lot of pain, making you ruminate back and forth between love, responsibility, and relief, and tossing back and forth between guilt and relief. It's also normal to be torn between these emotions, because they come from your own true thoughts. Our brains make us slowly forget the bad things that make us suffer over time, and you slowly begin to get out of this pain. You tell yourself, "I've decided that if this happens again in the future, I'll close my eyes and calmly ask myself what kind of result I want, and talk to myself.

Ask yourself the most determined answer in your heart, and then go for it! Don't be easily influenced by habits and instincts.

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It is perfectly normal to have emotions! We are living beings, and different reactions to different things make for different people and distinct personalities. Someone without emotions should be called a "machine" (just kidding).

What's the bad thing? It's how we deal with our emotions!

When we face our emotions openly, acknowledge them, accept them, experience them, find their source, and find a breakthrough to vent, relieve, and resolve them, we can transform those problems into things we can overcome!

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach, and I am here to give you advice.

From your description, it's clear that your puppy leaving you and returning to his canine world is causing you significant distress. A week ago, you were unable to accept this.

After a week, you are slowly coming to terms with the fact, but your mental state is still not good. The thoughts in your heart and mind are misleading you. You love him so much and cannot bear to let him go, so why are you letting thoughts into your mind that are so different from what you feel in your heart?

You came to our platform to ask a question and we are here to help you sort it out and seek our help for your self-awareness.

We saw that your puppy passed away a week ago. It was your first puppy, and he was only four months old. He spent less than 50 days with you, which means he came to your home when he was about two months old. You were certain he would at least accompany you for ten to twenty years. You wanted to give him the warmth of a family and to become good friends and family with him.

But you didn't anticipate that from the start, you were determined to save him despite his minor illness. After saving him, you assumed everything would be fine and that you could continue to get along with him for a long time. The nightmare finally came, and you're struggling to accept it.

From the start, your heart has been consumed with worry for him. You want to treat him as a family member, consider him a friend, and save him so that he can live a happier, more comfortable life.

After you have given your love, his condition has improved. He has survived almost two months, so he will survive for a long time. You are looking forward to being with him for a long time, but you also feel worried that he might die because of this.

Your mind is worried about this, and your brain is controlling it. Your brain will tell your mind that it's okay, isn't treatment going well? And you usually have to take care of him.

We give them so much, and they give us so little in return. It's only natural to feel a sense of imbalance in our hearts. When your dog dies, you might even think it would have been easier if he had just died and saved you the trouble.

There is a disharmony between your mind and heart. You must acknowledge this part of the heart: some of his past actions have troubled you, and you cannot escape from this.

It's normal to feel troubled by certain things. Just as we can get annoyed with family, relatives, or friends, it doesn't mean we don't love them.

It is not.

It's the same with the dog. You can't say you're insincere or untruthful when you say you love him. It's not in your heart, and you feel remorseful, right? Look at it rationally and objectively.

Your dog was a nuisance during the care-giving stage, but he also brought you feedback and comforted you emotionally. I saw that he rescued you from a depressed and anxious state, and this was a very good interaction.

But the things that we may have found troublesome at the time have left a deeper impression on our minds. After all, you had to cook for him every day and take care of him every day. For example, if he wanted to go to the toilet or go for a walk, you must have had a hard time.

It's repeated every day, and your brain is impressed. You might ask, "What about the problem of him curing my anxiety?"

He has cured you of this problem over time. This kind of loving feedback he gives you is a silent form of long-term support. It is not as obvious as saying that he has really caused you trouble.

This feedback from him to you is not easy to notice. However, you can now, through self-awareness, review the pattern of your interactions. During this period of time, you have discovered that he has truly healed you.

I am certain that as you reflect on this week, you will realize that the contribution and feedback he has given you is far greater than the contribution we have given him.

We can use the present as an opportunity. We can write down every little bit of your two months together.

Preserve these precious memories of him. Our human memories fade and weaken with time, and there may be bias in what happened.

Write a book about your dog. It will have a therapeutic effect and record the beautiful past of your dog's life. You will recall it in the future and feel the warmth it brings to your heart.

You will come to understand that despite the immense love and care you shared, he was still a well-balanced individual. This will bring comfort and a deep sense of loss. This is how things will unfold in the future.

We will continue to analyze the idea of mixing love and guilt.

You loved him, and he loved you. He gave you so much more than you gave him. So, forget about the guilt. He was a week dog, and you gave him a good life.

You two had a good interaction, which created the possibility of prolonging his life. However, he still passed away, leaving you behind.

You will feel a little bit to blame for him at first. You may even feel that he has abandoned you alone in this world and gone to his planet.

But you can also understand that it may be that you did not take good care of him, or that you made a mistake in choosing him in the first place. In fact, this is not the case, because we all know that it is considered a miracle for a dog to live more than a week.

You gave him a lot at the beginning. You took him to the doctor, you tried to give him nutritious food, and you took him out to play. All of this was a great effort on your part to prolong his life.

He has spent more than 50 days with you, which is a miracle in the world of the weekdays. If we imagine that he really got sick and had parvo in someone else's home, the other person definitely would take him for a checkup at the beginning.

It is not necessarily the case.

However, we cannot rule out the possibility that the other person is very caring. People who keep dogs are all very caring, and they hope that the dog can keep them company for as long as possible. However, your interactions with him, and his interactions with other owners, will actually be different.

It's simple: people are happy when they interact with someone and feel a genuine connection. If they don't feel that way when interacting with someone else, it's because the connection isn't there.

It doesn't matter whether you're in a good mood or a bad mood—the quality of his daily life will be different. We can give him our best help in his limited life, and this is not a waste of the journey we've taken with him.

Let's talk about the dog. He can give you a lot in return, and your mind and heart are in an unbalanced state with conflicting points.

I am certain that after some thought and self-reflection, you will realize that this period of time spent with him is actually a beautiful memory that is an integral part of your life and his life.

He can help you recover from the symptoms of anxiety disorder. At the same time, you should treat him well. In the future, we can help you resolve your emotional connection.

I am certain that the love you both share is mutual and flows in both directions. Only with mutual flow can you bring him a kind of care, and he can give you a kind of healing. Therefore, we should not overemphasize this experience as something we did not do well, but rather appreciate the growth this experience has brought you.

The same is true of friendships between people. While the duration of a person's life may be long, the lifespan of a friendship can vary. You may lose a friendship after a short time, or you may remain close for decades.

We can use this to objectively view life and death. Let's start with the perspective of animals. We have no control over life and death for small animals, but we do have control over the experience of being with them and the experience of giving and feeling what they bring you.

If you have the opportunity and fate to meet a suitable animal companion in the future, or to experience the friendship in human relationships, you will gain more understanding and feelings, communicate more with each other, and cherish the time you still have together. This will bring great comfort to your heart.

After reading the above content, I know you have a lot of feelings. Click on the text to go to my personal homepage and ask me questions. I will continue to sort it out for you.

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Hello, question asker. I can see that you're struggling with some confusing thoughts after losing your puppy.

As someone who loves dogs and has experienced the loss of a beloved pet, I would like to offer you my support and guidance. I understand the immense emotional significance your puppy held for you, and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, your dog passed away from parvovirus, a virus with a high mortality rate. Despite your efforts, including administering injections, medication, and intravenous drips, the virus took your dog's life at only 50 days old.

The thoughts that arise in response to the above situation may include feelings of acceptance, such as, "If it dies, it'll be no trouble," or a desire to avoid immediate distress, such as, "As long as it doesn't die in front of me, it'll be fine." These feelings are understandable and normal. When my first dog, Doctor, was rejected for treatment due to parvovirus, I was advised to bring him back and let nature take its course with no water or food. At the time, I was sad and felt a sense of helplessness, as if I could just let him die right away, so that he wouldn't suffer and I wouldn't be tortured.

It's important to remember that these thoughts are just thoughts, not facts. I still love my dog very much, and in the end, it survived. However, it is still gone, gone in a car accident, and I am also very sad.

The pain is unbearable. I also felt guilty at the time, and I thought I would never be able to raise a dog again. It hurt so much, and I was afraid that I would not be able to take good care of it. But after a few days, I got the dog I have now, passed on the love for it, and learned from the experience, so I believe I am now better equipped to take better care of dogs.

It's understandable to experience these thoughts when losing a dog that is important to you. It's a similar situation to losing a loved one, so it's natural to have these feelings. You are very good at self-awareness, so it might help to focus on your own thoughts and feelings.

I hope this finds you well. I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. At Yixinli, the world and I love you ❤️❤️❤️. I know it's tough, but try to remember that the puppy has gone to the dog star, it is not suffering anymore, and its love for you is still there.