I often find myself getting distracted and thinking about other things while reading.

Hello! I'm so happy you asked for help. I really hope that sharing my experience can give you some support and help.

From what you've shared, it seems like your struggle is with being able to focus and concentrate on one thing at a time. It's totally normal to have moments where we feel like we're losing focus, and it's something we all face from time to time. What I can see is that you might be holding yourself to a higher standard than you should, and that's okay! We all have different strengths and weaknesses, and it's important to recognize that this part of you is still learning and growing.

It's totally normal to respond to inappropriate behavior in ways that satisfy certain inner needs, like comfort and relaxation.

The first step to making a change is to accept yourself, and that means allowing yourself to feel comfortable and relaxed. There's nothing wrong with having needs, and all of our needs deserve to be responded to and satisfied. The challenge is that when we suppress our needs, it can lead to some psychological distortion, and we might end up using inappropriate ways to respond to and satisfy our needs. What do you think?

So, when we accept our needs and respond to them in a way that feels good, we can avoid hurting ourselves with too much repression. It's also a good idea to let go of the idea that we have to be perfect. We can do our best work and study when we're rested!

It's so important to respect your physical and mental needs, and try to respond to them in a way that makes you feel comfortable and relaxed.

Hi, I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Center. I just wanted to say that the world and I love you!

Dear Student,

Classmate, may I inquire as to whether you are currently enrolled in junior high school, high school, or university?

I must admit that I envy you, as I graduated many years ago and have a strong affinity for the educational environment. I recall that each day I would rise at 4:30 and proceed to the classroom to peruse the assortment of books on the desk: Chinese, English, mathematics, physics, chemistry.

I recall that I had difficulty concentrating on physics and chemistry. When I attempted to calculate formulas, I often felt overwhelmed and tempted to fall asleep. I found it challenging to comprehend the instructions provided by the instructor. However, I was more alert and engaged in English and mathematics classes. There is a clear correlation between my performance in these subjects and my ability to concentrate. My grades in the subjects I found challenging were significantly lower than in the other subjects.

Chinese was my favorite subject throughout my academic career. I consistently received praise in class for my performance, which I attribute to my genuine interest in the subject. I appreciate the poetic nuances and depth of expression in Chinese poems and essays. The language's concise nature allows for a nuanced exploration of life's experiences. I value the rich history and cultural heritage embedded in the Chinese language, which provides insights into the evolution of our country over the past 5,000 years. The language's elegance and versatility enable me to express myself effectively and engage with its rich vocabulary.

I provided this example to illustrate a fundamental principle: when you genuinely like something, your attention is focused on it. Conversely, if your attention is always unfocused, it may be because you do not fully appreciate the value of what you are reading.

If you find yourself having to study this particular book, I would suggest communicating more with your teacher or classmates who have a better grasp on the material. Learn from their methods and identify where you may have gone wrong. This will not only foster a more collaborative relationship between classmates and teachers, but it will also help you identify potential issues.

If reading is a leisure activity for you and not a necessity, I recommend starting with a book you enjoy. Once you have established a routine, you will likely find yourself gravitating towards more books in the same genre. This will help you maintain focus and concentration.

I am unsure if you have ever experienced a romantic interest at any point in your life, or if you have ever had a secret crush. When such a person appears, you find yourself unable to look away. The underlying principle is the same. Your feelings are the driving force behind this phenomenon.

I wish you the utmost success and hope that you will become a cornerstone of the country.

I would like to request your assistance. Thank you in advance for your cooperation. Best regards,

I am not currently aware of the identity of the individual in question.

Hello, thank you for your question. It's understandable that when you're reading, you find your attention being drawn elsewhere. This is something we can all relate to. It's helpful to understand why this happens and how we can manage it better.

You mentioned that you often find yourself distracted when reading, which I can relate to. I often get distracted and find my thoughts wandering to other things, and sometimes I'm not sure what I was reading after a passage.

Perhaps we could consider this issue together? When reading a book, it can be helpful to remind ourselves to maintain focus on the text. It's natural to experience distractions, and it's not necessarily a problem when our attention wanders. However, when these distractions interfere with our reading, it can be challenging. It's understandable that you're feeling bothered by this, and it's something we can work on together.

This passage touches on the method of listening to music that I previously mentioned. However, I've found that it doesn't fully address the issue, as even when I don't listen to music, I can still get distracted and think about a piece of music while reading.

It might be helpful to consider the role of music in this context. Music can be a useful tool for guiding our attention when we are reading, but this only works if we are actively engaged with the music. If you find that music does not help you to focus, it might be worth exploring other options.

It would be more beneficial to approach this in a different way. Rather than demanding that you not be distracted, it would be more helpful to acknowledge the thought of being distracted when you are concentrating on something. It is not necessary to suppress this thought or tell yourself not to be distracted.

It is important to be mindful of when you lose concentration. Rather than focusing on the negative, try to recognize the situation and move on. Blaming yourself or suppressing your thoughts can hinder your ability to concentrate.

It is important to remember that it is perfectly normal to be distracted from time to time. When you notice this distracting thought in your mind, it is best not to suppress it.

When you notice the distracting thought arise, it's helpful to acknowledge it, allow it to be there, and then let it go. For instance, when you're reading a book and suddenly feel the urge to play a game, it's important to recognize that this is just a thought and not a reflection of who you truly are.

At this time, it is not about blaming myself or rejecting this thought that has appeared in myself. When the thought of playing games comes up, it is important not to reject it. This thought is normal; it is just a thought. It is important not to think that it is bad or that I am wrong to be distracted. If you do this, you will develop a fixation on your attention and a thought compulsion about being distracted.

I have tried reading after getting enough rest, but I find that it is still a challenge for me to read without getting distracted by other things. I often find it difficult to finish reading a book with high quality because I tend to get distracted. This makes it challenging for me to remember and understand the content of the book, which has led to my grades not being as good as I would like.

Could there be something wrong with me? I find it challenging to concentrate.

From my observation, it seems that this was the case before, but I have found that it has become increasingly easy to get distracted in the past two years.

Perhaps the entirety of your written description is the result of your own heightened concentration. It might be beneficial to read normally and not focus excessively on concentration, allowing yourself to read with ease.

Perhaps you are a bit too concerned about demanding your full attention to reading, which could be seen as a kind of restraint on attention.

It's important to remember that our attention will wander from time to time. If we don't reject these distractions, they can become a problem. We can recognize when our attention is wandering, understand ourselves, and refocus on the task at hand. With practice, we can learn to pull ourselves back. However, if we try to strengthen our concentration, thinking that wandering off is a problem, and reject it, our mind may become fixated on the distraction. This can make it more difficult to concentrate on reading, and the internal drain of attention may be on the problem of wandering off. In this case, it may be challenging to read and remember much.

It may be helpful to consider that trying to block or distract your attention may not be the most effective approach.

I would gently suggest that these methods may not be as effective as we would hope.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the purpose of reading. When it comes to reading, it might not be productive to demand high efficiency. It may be more beneficial to read for enjoyment and spontaneity.

Perhaps the best way to learn is to relax and focus, and to learn with ease. It's important not to be too hard on yourself.

You mentioned the issue of memory and the series of challenges caused by your own distractions while reading, which unfortunately led to some less than optimal grades. It seems that one of the main contributing factors could be a tendency towards perfectionism. For instance, when reading, it's important to remember the sheer volume of information you're trying to process. This can be mentally taxing, and when you're distracted, you may find yourself feeling too drained to engage with the material.

It would be beneficial to relax your concentration. It may be helpful to avoid setting overly ambitious goals for your concentration and to accept that distractions are inevitable. Even when reading a book, it's okay to get distracted.

It might be helpful to pay attention to the thought that you are distracted. It could be trying to tell you something. It's probably best not to let it make you feel uneasy. That might cause problems. It might be better to let your attention go naturally, and let thoughts come and go freely, with the goal of completion. Whenever you improve yourself, it could be a good idea to encourage and motivate yourself.

It might be helpful to remember not to reject your thoughts or be too harsh on yourself. Instead, try to do what you can, slowly adjust and surpass, and challenge yourself.

I hope this is helpful for you.

I just wanted to follow up on the above.

I'd love to share something with you.

Let's talk about the anatomy of inattention.

1. It's okay, absolute concentration doesn't exist!

Are distractions really a problem? Or could it be that you're just a little over-sensitive because of your inner anxiety?

So they want to be absolutely focused and become nervous at the slightest distraction. It's totally normal! Psychological research has shown that people can only concentrate for a certain period of time.

The attention span of teenagers is 45-60 minutes, which is totally normal! Some children can only concentrate for 20-30 minutes, but that's okay!

This is totally normal!

2. Flow is something that can be affected by different things:

Have you ever heard of the psychological term "flow"? It's a fascinating concept! It describes a state of being where you're so absorbed in an activity that you feel like time stands still. You're happy, excited, and fulfilled. You don't want to be interrupted because you're completely immersed in the moment. We've all seen people in the zone. Painters happily painting for hours, athletes effortlessly competing in the arena, a butcher absorbed in the process of butchering an ox, high school students absorbed in solving math problems. These are all examples of "flow."

How can we make this happen for test-takers? Is this the state that you've been dreaming of?

I'd love to help you achieve this!

I'm so excited to share with you how you can achieve the learning state of "flow"! To get there, you'll need to meet a few simple conditions.

It's so important to choose a task that you love or at least one that you're willing to do!

It's so important to have clear goals and a sense of time management when you're learning something new. Having a timeline and a plan in place makes it so much easier to achieve your goals!

The task is something you can totally do, and it's a little challenging, but you can do it!

You'll feel totally at ease as you learn.

Good news! Psychological research has shown that you can achieve "flow" if certain conditions are met.

Let me show you how to create a state of flow!

1. Be kind to your attention and take good care of it, little by little.

It's so important to respect the laws of attention. We can't challenge the limits or try to fish without using the bait.

It's totally okay if you only have 30 minutes to concentrate! Just do some assessment work first: spend a few days calculating the limit of your concentration.

Please don't be too hard on yourself for having a poor attention span. It's not your fault, and we can definitely learn how to use this law to our advantage!

Then, you can split your review time into sections that are each the right length for you. They can be 30 minutes, 50 minutes, or 20 minutes, depending on how you measure up!

And last but not least, if you can make sure you're focused during this time, you'll be amazed at how much more efficient you'll be!

2. Set up "goals" in a clever way and provide feedback right away!

To achieve that focused state of "flow," you need clear goals with immediate feedback. And you can do this:

Use knowledge points as goals: Tonight I'm going to spend two paragraphs figuring out a certain knowledge point in chemistry. If I do, I'll have gained something!

I'm going to set a goal for myself tonight. I'm going to complete my physics homework in two paragraphs, and if I do, I'll feel like I've really succeeded!

And the method is the goal! I'll memorize the answers to the political questions tonight without making a sound.

3. Learn to prioritize tasks

Prioritize your tasks according to how challenging they are!

The good news is that the easiest tasks are completed when you are in a bad or medium state. These include things like mastering knowledge points, familiar types of questions, and copying tasks.

Medium-difficulty tasks are great to tackle when you're in your best state! This could be when you're halfway through understanding a knowledge point or type of question, memorizing a widely used formula, or even just remembering some common English words.

If you're struggling with a particularly tricky task, find a kindred spirit who can help you out! For instance, during a study session, you could ask a teacher or classmate who's good at studying to lend a hand.

I know it might not make sense right now, but it's really important to find a balance between feeling confident and being challenged. This is the third step to achieving that perfect "flow" state.

4. Give yourself some space to avoid distractions.

It's best to stay in a relatively quiet place, and it's even better if there aren't too many complicated objects in front of you!

Hey there! Just a quick reminder to put your phone out of reach and never pick it up during your designated study time. ?

5. Have a little chat with yourself! A positive internal dialogue can help to reduce your worries.

It's totally normal to feel anxious about an exam as it draws closer. It's also normal to feel distracted by these feelings. If you can take a moment to observe your inner feelings, you might notice that when you're feeling anxious, your mind is repeating certain lines over and over. These are called "internal dialogues" in psychology, and they can feel like they're coming from nowhere. They might sound something like, "What if I fail the exam?" or "I don't think I can do it!"

Oh my, there's not much time left! I'm not sure I'll make it!

My ranking means I have no hope. I'm really sorry to say that these lines all point to an uncontrollable exam result, and they are all negative internal dialogues.

It's so important to remember that if we keep repeating negative and uncontrollable things inside our heads, we'll just become more and more anxious and unable to concentrate.

How can we break this pattern? We can replace those ineffective lines with some positive mantras!

For example, I'm working hard to fill in the gaps, and there's still time! Wouldn't it be great if I could complete my set goals tonight?

I know I can do it! As long as I keep at it, my level will definitely improve. I will review with all my heart and do better than before. These internal dialogues are positive and controllable.

I really believe that repeating positive and controllable feelings internally will help to reduce feelings of worry and enhance motivation.

I just wanted to share this with you in case it helps! I wish you all the best in your studies!

So, the best thing you can do when facing an exam is to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can't. When you can get into a calm, focused state of review and feel good about what you're doing, it'll help you feel less worried about the exam.

So, if you're taking a test, it's really important to try your best to get into that wonderful state of "flow"!