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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello!
You have had problems with classmates. You are angry at friends who tricked you. You are also upset about the support you get from classmates and roommates.
You're probably a high school student, a girl in her teens. Many kids at this age have these peer-related frustrations. Living away from home and going to school means having more interactions and conflicts with peers. This is a normal part of your growth. You learn how to get along with others. Kids at this age, especially those of the same gender, will form small groups. Each group seems to share some common values. If there's a conflict in values, they'll be considered traitors and ostracized. Kids who are isolated will be very painful and at a loss. This is normal and something that every child will experience during their growth process.
You are a reflective child. When you found out that gossiping about people could get back to them, you stopped.
You keep your promises. You've kept your former best friend's secrets. This is a good quality. It will serve you well in life.
You are a capable person who can seek out resources. Despite encouragement from your classmates and roommates, you were still able to make peace with them. You will also open your heart and speak your grievances on this platform, which shows that you are open and communicative.
I don't know your classmate, so I can't say why she's doing this to you. But that's her problem. If you don't understand it, don't dwell on it. Stay away from her and focus on friends you can trust. You can't change her, but you can adjust yourself. Choose your friends carefully. She's taught you that certain types of people aren't suitable friends.
I hope this helps.
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I can't believe how much this whole situation has hurt me. I trusted her completely and confided in her about others, never imagining she'd turn around and share all that. It's heartbreaking to see the impact it had on my relationships within the dorm. Despite everything, I chose to keep her secrets safe, yet she couldn't do the same for me. The isolation from everyone was tough, but what's even tougher is knowing she continued to speak ill of me behind my back. It makes me question the sincerity of people around me.
It's really disheartening when you open up to someone thinking they're your best friend only to have them betray your trust like that. Even after we reconciled, the drama with my other roommates revealed more of her hidden actions. Trying to mend those bridges felt impossible when I learned of her deceit. Ignoring her became the only way to cope, and now facing the entire class ignoring me feels like a heavy burden. Reflecting on this experience taught me valuable lessons about friendship and loyalty.
The fact that she spread negative things about me to others just adds insult to injury. I've always tried to be honest and kind to everyone, so seeing this response is bewildering. It's frustrating because it seems like no matter how sincere I am, some people just don't return that respect. This situation has made me rethink who I can truly trust and how I handle conflicts moving forward. I've decided not to speak poorly of others anymore, hoping to break this cycle of negativity.
I feel like I've grown a lot from this experience, despite the pain. Trusting someone so deeply and having that trust shattered is incredibly hard. Now, I'm left wondering why she acted this way when I never treated her poorly. My reflection led me to change my behavior, realizing that talking about others' faults isn't right. It's important to learn from these moments and move forward with more wisdom and caution in friendships.
This experience has been a real eyeopener for me. To think that someone I considered my best friend could act this way leaves me questioning the nature of our relationship. Her actions towards me and others have caused a rift that might never fully heal. What's most upsetting is that I stayed silent about her betrayals, yet she didn't extend me the same courtesy. It's a reminder that true friends are rare and that being selective about who you confide in is crucial.