I want to go to the toilet during class. I'm embarrassed to ask for leave, but I can't hold it in. Can I still go back to school and attend class?

Greetings, inquirer. I am Jia Ao, your Heart Exploration coach. I am not seeking anything from you at this time.

I have carefully read the problems and confusions you described on the platform. Might I inquire as to whether you are experiencing difficulties at school?

You perceive your classmates to be unfriendly and to negatively impact your self-esteem. You felt embarrassed to request leave to use the restroom during class, yet you felt compelled to do so. However, you observed another individual covering their nose, which made you feel uneasy. Prior to that, a classmate vomited, and the entire class expressed concern and offered assistance in cleaning up. No one covered their nose, and your situation was similar. You felt maliciously discriminated against and were frustrated. Ultimately, a classmate raised their hand to report you to the teacher. What should you do?

It is true that sometimes it is inevitable to encounter some unexpected situations, and your actions were not intentional. You currently hold negative sentiments towards your former friend, but previously considered her a friend. Had she not raised her hand to report you, your misdeed would have remained undetected, and you would not have been aware of her subsequent animosity. You currently experience feelings of shame, but can you still attend school and participate in classes under these circumstances? You are currently experiencing a degree of embarrassment, but this will dissipate over time. It is important to recognize that everyone will gradually forget about this incident. It is also essential to understand that you should not allow this incident to persistently affect you.

I am here to assist you in analyzing and sorting out the situation.

1. It is imperative to maintain emotional control.

It is understandable that you feel embarrassed and angry when you encounter such unexpected situations. Regardless of the circumstances, it is advisable to attempt to control your emotions and avoid direct confrontation with the other party. Displaying anger may provide them with the satisfaction of leaving a negative impression of you. You have the option of communicating with the teacher or, if you are particularly distressed, you may wish to consider taking a leave of absence to allow yourself time to calm down and process your emotions.

2. Attempt to maintain composure and rationality.

Once you have regained your composure, it is advisable to maintain a calm and rational demeanor while analyzing the motives of the other individual. The fact that they are mocking you is of no concern to you; it is merely a reflection of their relative indifference. Furthermore, you did not intend to offend them. Your friend, who previously enjoyed a cordial relationship with you, has also deliberately made things difficult for you. What is her motive? You may analyze the reasons and motives, but it is important to remain calm and avoid taking their actions too personally. Simply be yourself and respond in a manner that is appropriate to the situation.

3. Reinforce your intrinsic values and beliefs.

One should not concern oneself unduly with the opinions or comments of others. With the passage of time, such opinions tend to lose their potency. It is therefore advisable to focus on one's own actions and to concentrate on the class. When this is done, one becomes more powerful. Learning to strengthen one's inner self means that other people's ridicule, accusations, and suppression will have no effect on one. One will then be able to break free from the cycle of inferiority or embarrassment and become fearless.

4. It is imperative to cultivate a resolute determination to be your own person.

It is imperative not to concern oneself with the opinions or comments of others. Instead, it is essential to maintain one's individuality, strive for academic excellence, and seek guidance from educators when faced with challenges. Engaging in conflict or argumentation is unproductive and should be avoided. In some instances, ignoring a situation can be an effective strategy, as it can highlight one's distinctive characteristics and attributes, ultimately shaping one's unique personality and style. It is crucial to remain composed and not succumb to worry.

It is my hope that this response is of some assistance. Should further communication be required, the questioner is invited to follow me (by clicking on my personal homepage), select the Heart Exploration service, and communicate with me directly. The world and I extend our best wishes to you.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today regarding a query you submitted. Please allow me to address your question.

It is understandable that you would feel embarrassed and ashamed after an incident like this occurs. It is also understandable that you would be afraid of being teased by your classmates. This has led you to ask, "Can I still go back to school?" The answer to this question is an unequivocal "yes."

Something similar occurred when my child first started preschool. He continued to attend school the next day, and no incident occurred as you may have thought. It was an unintentional occurrence, and you are not at fault.

First and foremost, it is the responsibility of the teacher to inform the students that they have the option of going to the restroom during class if necessary. Some newer teachers may lack the experience to remind the students of this.

You observed your colleagues covering their noses, which is a typical reflexive response to an unpleasant odor. When you smell something, don't you also instinctively cover your nose? If you consider this perspective, will you not comprehend the actions of your colleagues?

You dislike the student who raised her hand to report to the teacher because you believe she made you look foolish. However, consider that even if she had remained silent, there was a possibility that other students would have noticed.

She was providing accurate information, namely a truthful account of what had transpired. Her objective was to seek assistance from the teacher to help resolve a challenge that she was unable to address independently.

As a result of this line of thinking, do you feel less animosity towards your classmates?

Once the blame has been eliminated, we should consider what kind of experience and lessons should be learned from this incident so that the same thing does not happen again. This is what we should focus on. I can think of the following points:

1. Have the courage to express your needs to your colleagues and superiors.

Should you require the use of the restroom with great haste, or if you are experiencing any other form of distress, it is imperative that you request assistance from your instructors and fellow students.

Before seeking assistance, it is natural to have concerns and negative thoughts. However, if we do not act, we cannot know the outcome. It is therefore advisable to temporarily set aside these concerns and express our thoughts. This approach often yields more favourable results than we initially anticipated.

This method is also applicable to other interactions and exchanges between people. If you do not communicate your thoughts and intentions, how will others be able to understand them?

2. Should the need arise to use the restroom during recess, please do so promptly. It is not uncommon for younger children to require bathroom breaks during playtime, as they are still adjusting to the structured routine of school.

3. Children have a wide range of interests and cannot maintain focus on a single task for extended periods. Their attention will naturally shift to other interests the following day.

Similarly, you will soon forget about it and be able to go to school with a positive attitude.

4. Have you experienced a fall while walking? Should we cease our journey because of this misstep? It is therefore advisable to put aside these concerns and continue with your daily activities.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

I hope you are able to make daily progress in your studies.

I know this is a tough situation, but I want you to know that it's really just a small blip on your journey through life. Even if your classmates have some misunderstandings or prejudices against you now, with the passage of time, these will all become things of the past. You've got this!

First, remember that everyone has to go to the bathroom at some point during class. It's a normal physical need, and it's okay to ask your teacher to leave the room to go. You don't have to feel ashamed or uneasy about it.

Your value and dignity are so much more than just a few minor details.

Secondly, it's important to remember that change is a natural part of life. Whether it's your current class or your future workplace, you'll constantly be exposed to new groups and new environments.

In the process, you may encounter all kinds of people, some of whom may have a favorable impression of you, while others may have some prejudice or misunderstanding. But don't worry! This doesn't affect your own value and charm.

It's so important to remember that your value is determined by your own wonderful qualities, abilities, and hard work. It's not about what others think of you.

It's also important to understand how our classmates might react. When you're going through adolescence, you might find that you're more sensitive to smells than usual.

It's totally normal for your classmates to feel uncomfortable when you emit an unpleasant odor for some reason. It's not because they intend to hurt you, but rather because it's their instinctive reaction.

It's important to understand their feelings, but we don't have to over-blame ourselves or feel inferior.

I think it would be a great idea for you to try to see the positive in this situation. First of all, if you need to go to the toilet, don't be afraid to raise your hand and tell the teacher.

You have every right to do this, and it's also a great way to show respect for your own body. Don't hold back just because you're worried about what other people will think. It'll only make you feel uncomfortable, and it might even lead to more serious health problems.

Another great option is to reach out to your teachers or the school. They're there to help and can offer more professional advice and support to help you better cope with the situation.

And there's another great way to make friends! You can expand your social circle by taking part in some extracurricular activities or social events.

I just want to say that these things will eventually fade with time. People have their own pace of life and focus, and they won't always think about this little incident of yours.

And as you grow and change, you'll have so many more chances to show your charm and value. So don't let this thing get in the way of your future!

In this process, it's really important to keep a positive mindset and an optimistic attitude. Believe in yourself and your ability to overcome this challenge. You can do it!

And don't forget to learn from the tough times! They're a great chance to grow and improve.

So, when you're facing a tough situation, try to stay positive! Don't let it get in the way of your future. Instead, think of it as a chance to learn and grow. You'll get better at handling relationships and dealing with challenges.

You've got this! Believe in your own abilities and charm, and go out there and meet the challenges of the future head on!

Hi, I'm Bai Li Yina, and I hope my reply will be helpful and provide some warmth.

The person who asked the question said that she felt unkindness from her classmates because of a sudden situation in class. She felt treated maliciously, felt very bad inside, and even had resentful emotions towards the students who raised their hands to report. She even had the thought of not wanting to go back to school to attend classes. What should she do?

Let's take a moment to analyze the situation.

A classmate raised their hand and reported to the teacher without your consent, which made you feel like your privacy had been violated. Because of this, you saw some classmates' behavior that hurt your self-esteem, which added to the pain and embarrassment you were already feeling. It's understandable how difficult it was for you at the time. It seemed like no one stood up to protect you. Obviously, everyone got along well together normally, but at this critical moment, you didn't receive any care. Let's hug the injured part of you inside and let's work together to see how to face your own doubts.

[Questions to get you thinking]

1. What's the difference between vomiting and incontinence in your mind? Most people think vomiting is more common when someone is unwell, while incontinence is more common when they were young or couldn't hold it in for a while.

2. If you notice that a classmate has incontinence, what would you say to show your concern? It seems that many of the concerns that can be expressed to a vomiting classmate aren't really applicable to a classmate with incontinence.

3. Have the other students in the class ever had embarrassing situations? How did you all get through it?

Have you gotten over it? How did you handle the embarrassing situation in the past?

Here are some suggestions for ways you could try:

You felt like no one cared about you, or maybe there just wasn't much attention paid to you. You thought this would prevent you from feeling more embarrassed. You let it go, just as you felt at the time that if you didn't say anything, it would be as if it never happened. The embarrassment you encountered was occasional. Everyone knew you were sad and embarrassed inside, so you said that no one in the class was talking or laughing, which was enough to prove that you were very popular.

The difference in treatment you felt was unfair was probably because you were feeling so bad at the time that you couldn't calm down and compare the differences between the two.

We all face challenges and difficult situations as we grow up. Everyone will encounter obstacles that they find difficult to overcome. But if you reflect on it, you'll realize that you're in a different frame of mind now. This embarrassing incident won't be the first or last thing you encounter. I understand that you don't want to go to school and face everyone.

What's behind your feeling of shame? Are you afraid that everyone will hate you?

You want your colleagues to like you, but if something embarrassing happens to someone you like, will you stop liking that person? If so, is that really the kind of liking you understand?

What kind of approval were you looking for? Which classmates did you get along with in the class, and did you speak to anyone afterwards?

Did the classmate you didn't get along with like to report everything to the teacher? Or did she only report what happened to you?

Was she really trying to be mean, or was the report just the only thing she could think of in the moment?

Why didn't you tell the teacher? What were you afraid of?

Was it the teacher's rejection or the attention from your classmates that upset you? And why did you hurt yourself because of this?

Next time, will you be willing to speak up for what you need?

Once our emotions have settled down, we can start to think about this in a different way. Whether we look at it from the other person's point of view or from our own, we'll probably come to a different conclusion.

You'll learn from your mistakes. Once you've identified the issue, you'll be more confident in the future. It's always okay to express your normal needs, and this is one way to take care of yourself.

When you're not feeling well, it's probably best not to make any decisions. When you feel better and your emotions are stable, you can then consider whether you can go back to school. If you don't go back to school, you'll need to face the challenges you need to deal with, and you're the best person to decide what that looks like.

No matter what you decide, you'll have to live with the consequences. I believe you can get through this and come out stronger on the other side.

I hope these methods will be helpful to you.

It'll take time, but you'll get through this. Don't worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems.

You've got my support, and I'm here for you. I hope you find a solution to your problems soon and are able to relax.

I'd like to thank everyone who has liked and responded to me. I wish you peace and joy.

Good morning, my name is Coach Yu, and I would like to engage in a discussion on this topic with you.

Emotional perception is the capacity to recognize, regulate, and control one's emotions, which is also an indicator of emotional intelligence.

In "The Plastic Me," Chen Jiejun posits that many individuals struggle to cope with their emotions and external stimuli due to a lack of differentiation between feelings, emotions, and thoughts.

What are feelings? They can be defined as the physiological and biological responses of the human body to external stimuli.

For example, if an individual is stabbed with a needle, they will experience pain; if a north wind blows in the winter, they will feel cold. Feelings encompass not only reactions to external stimuli but also to internal stimuli.

As the questioner wrote, although no classmates in the classroom discussed or laughed at him, he experienced discomfort when he observed someone covering their nose.

Emotion can be defined as a person's reaction to feelings.

For example, exposure to a hot environment causes the palms of the hands to perspire and the heart to beat faster. Emotions are the irritability or excitement one experiences when the body is highly enthusiastic and the heart is beating rapidly. Emotions and feelings generally respond through the peripheral nervous system of the nervous system.

As the questioner stated, he perceived his classmates as unfriendly and subjected to differential treatment.

Thoughts are the cognitive processes through which an individual interprets and makes sense of their emotional experiences.

As thoughts are understood and interpreted, they do not originate in the peripheral nervous system, but in the central nervous system. As the questioner wrote, had she not raised her hand to report it, I probably would not have been discovered by my classmates, and I would not have known why she was so malicious towards me.

The question thus arises as to whether it is still possible to return to school in such a situation.

The following section will examine this process in order to gain insight into the nature of emotional change and to facilitate the management and expression of emotions, with a view to resolving the issue of emotional perception and interpersonal relationships.

What are the feelings and thoughts that arise when one desires to use the restroom in a classroom setting? The act of requesting permission from the instructor is often accompanied by feelings of embarrassment.

One might inquire as to the underlying psychological need that causes individuals to experience embarrassment when requesting leave.

It may be beneficial to reflect on one's childhood experiences and consider whether there were instances where one was rejected, blamed, or criticized by a teacher or parent for attempting something new, making a request, or even asking for leave. It is possible that such experiences were endured in silence, which could explain the current feelings of worry and fear. With the passage of time, these memories may have been forgotten and suppressed in the subconscious, yet the physical sensations associated with them remain.

When confronted with a similar situation, this bodily memory is activated, resulting in increased muscle tension, elevated heart rate, and shallow breathing. This phenomenon is referred to as a "complex" in psychological literature, or an emotional trigger.

What were our emotional states and cognitive processes when we did not request permission from the teacher and were unable to suppress our actions? Would our classmates become aware of our transgression?

The question remains whether the teacher will become aware of the situation.

One might also inquire, apart from the internal turmoil, whether there were any olfactory sensations present at the time.

One might also consider how one would respond to an unpleasant odor in the classroom, for example, if it originated from another student, and how the other students would react.

After being reported to the teacher by a friend, I was made to look like a fool in public. Despite our friendship, I now harbor negative feelings towards her.

Indeed, it is worth considering how we would respond if the situation were not with this particular friend, but with another classmate who had raised their hand to report it.

Additionally, one might inquire of themselves, "If this were to occur once more, how would I respond?"

In conclusion, feelings, emotions, and thoughts can be defined as the coordination between the nervous system and the brain. The smooth coordination of these systems is essential for achieving inner peace.

It is always possible to be aware of one's emotions and attempt to reconcile with them. One can also attempt to record the current state of one's feelings. The writing in question is for the author's own benefit, and thus the author is encouraged to write about their feelings in an honest and open manner. This will assist in understanding the origin and impact of one's emotions, as well as clarifying the root of the problem.

It is also recommended to seek assistance, given the difficulty in immediately overcoming this issue. It is advised to identify a family member or friend who can provide positive support and guidance. Should the need arise, it is also possible to consult with a counselor, as confronting and accepting the underlying negative thoughts is essential for their gradual dissolution.

In response to the final inquiry, it can be stated with certainty that the answer is affirmative. The questioner has indicated that they typically interact with others in a positive manner, which is a crucial factor in determining whether returning to school is a viable option.

It is important to recognize that nobody is perfect, and that there are benefits to be gained from noticing and appreciating the little things in life.

It is evident that continued exploration and development in the realms of self-improvement and self-awareness are essential. Gradually, individuals will ascertain their intrinsic value and construct a comprehensive self-assessment system. This will facilitate a more composed approach to navigating life's challenges.

It is this author's recommendation that the reader engage with the text entitled "The Plastic Me."

Hello, classmate!

I can see you felt a bit embarrassed because you had to go to the bathroom during class and didn't have the courage to ask for a break. I can understand why you wouldn't want to go back to school and face your classmates and teachers, right?

This might seem like an accident, but it could also be a sign that you're having trouble expressing your needs and taking care of your inner feelings. When you focus on feeling embarrassed, it can make it harder to deal with your inner sense of shame.

It's totally okay if you find it hard to talk about the need to go to the bathroom in class!

If you feel a little embarrassed about bringing up this topic in public, it might be that you view people's normal physiological needs as somewhat shameful. We've all been there!

If you feel like you can't break the rules in class, it might be because you're holding back a bit and setting limits for yourself. It's totally normal to feel this way! We all have our own ways of controlling ourselves and setting boundaries. It's just a matter of finding a way to break through and express yourself.

If you're worried the teacher won't let you go, you can just wait it out. It's possible you're holding back a bit because you're afraid to show yourself.

If you're afraid to make your requests in public, it might be because you have an internal fear and a weak sense of existence.

It's totally normal to feel embarrassed about asking for a break to go to the bathroom. It can be hard to let your body tell you what it needs! But remember, you're not losing control. You're just exercising a little psychological control.

If you don't go, you'll lose control of your body.

It's totally normal to feel embarrassed and ashamed when you lose control. It's like you're experiencing a feeling of being out of control, which is caused by wanting to continue to control.

So let's look at this together: this thing that makes you feel so ashamed and embarrassed may be telling you, "Be brave, relax, face your own needs, and dare to face those embarrassing things!"

You're usually such a great friend to others, so after this little hiccup, no classmates gossiped or laughed at you.

Maybe the student who covered her nose was just acting on a conditioned reflex.

The classmates who reported to the teacher were probably just trying to help. They probably wanted to let you take a little break from class.

It's totally normal to feel embarrassed and hope not to be discovered. It's easy to misinterpret well-intentioned help as malicious when you're feeling that way.

I know it can be really tough to go to school when you're feeling this way. But if you don't go to school because of this incident, will you lose out on the big picture and delay your whole life's prospects?

Sometimes, we might have to give up on things because we can't accept them right now. But don't worry, you can always try again later!

And you know what? You can always start again by changing your mind and taking another action.

It's not about what you look like or how you feel inside. It's about having the courage and wisdom to know that you can do it!

When two forces are competing, it's so important to break through your perceptions and emotions. Know that true self-respect means standing up for yourself, not shrinking back!

If you're worried about going back to school because you think it might be embarrassing, you can bring up the incident with your classmates yourself. For example, I just couldn't bring myself to ask for leave, so I totally get it if you're feeling the same way!

Your light touch has a wonderful effect on your classmates!

I really think that after you've handled it like this, your classmates will admire your honesty and bravery!

How about it? I'd love to know if you're ready to go back to school!

I really hope I can be there for you again if there's a follow-up!

Hi, I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor. I wish you the best!

Good day, question asker. I perceive a certain degree of unease and anxiety in your demeanor at this moment.

It is accurate to conclude that such an occurrence in a classroom setting would be perceived as embarrassing and uncomfortable. However, it is imperative to acknowledge that such an incident is not a reflection of personal inadequacy. It is, in fact, a common experience for individuals to confront unexpected circumstances in similar settings.

It is unnecessary to experience feelings of shame or blame.

It would be beneficial to consider this situation from a different viewpoint. Despite the negative emotions that have been experienced, this event has also facilitated a deeper understanding of oneself and has contributed to personal growth.

One might regard this as an opportunity for personal growth and the acquisition of the ability to remain calm and confident in the face of difficulties.

With regard to the reactions of your classmates, it is understandable that you feel hurt and confused. However, it is important to recognize that such reactions are often influenced by the experiences and emotions of the individuals in question and are not directed at you personally.

It is possible that the individuals in question are unaware of the extent to which their actions impact you. You may wish to consider adopting a more expansive perspective and refraining from attaching undue significance to their opinions.

We will now proceed to discuss specific advice.

Firstly, it is recommended that you allow yourself a period of time and space to calm your emotions. This can be achieved by finding a quiet place, taking deep breaths, relaxing, and gradually stepping away from the situation.

Secondly, upon returning to school, it would be beneficial to proactively seek out classmates with whom you have a positive rapport. This could facilitate an open dialogue wherein you can express your emotions and experiences. Such an approach may foster a supportive and encouraging environment, which could prove invaluable in navigating this challenge.

Concurrently, it would be advisable to attempt to communicate with those classmates who have formed erroneous perceptions of you. This should be done in a composed and diplomatic manner, wherein you express your thoughts and feelings in a calm and tactful way. For instance, you could say, "I am aware that this incident has caused considerable unease among everyone, but I hope that everyone can comprehend that this was an unanticipated situation and that I did not intend to cause offence."

"I also experience feelings of embarrassment and sadness, but I hope you can provide me with support and understanding."

It may also be beneficial to seek assistance from your instructors. As your academic advisors, they may be able to provide specific guidance and support.

It would be advisable to identify an appropriate time to communicate your situation to your instructors and request their understanding and assistance. Your instructors may be able to provide suggestions, such as adjusting your seating arrangement or temporarily removing you from the classroom, to alleviate your discomfort and embarrassment.

In addition to the aforementioned recommendations, one may also consider pursuing specific actions to alleviate emotional distress. For instance, one might engage in extracurricular activities or join clubs that align with their interests, cultivate new relationships, and become more integrated within the campus community.

Furthermore, one may also educate themselves on the subject of mental health and the techniques that may be employed to more effectively regulate one's emotions and stress levels.

In conclusion, it is imperative to emphasize that regardless of the difficulties and challenges one may face, it is crucial not to abandon one's self-belief. Each individual possesses boundless potential and the capacity to overcome adversity, provided they maintain a positive outlook and a resolute conviction in their abilities.

It is my conviction that you are a person of considerable strength, courage, and distinction. I am confident that you will prevail over this challenge and embrace a more radiant future.

It is important to remember that you have the right to pursue happiness and joy at any time and in any place. It is crucial not to allow this experience to impede your progress, but rather to view it as a catalyst for growth and personal development.

I wish you the best of luck!

Questioner, you have to accept that the present is good! You have to be grateful for the encounter.

From your description, I can tell you're feeling a lot of shame. You're going to be okay.

Let's talk about this topic.

1. Tell me how you feel about this matter.

This incident has had a significant impact on your studies and life. It is normal that you cannot escape from this sense of shame for the time being. Your classmates' views of you now determine whether you can go back to school and continue your studies.

But every student will have a different opinion, and you can decide for yourself whether or not you can go back to school to study.

If some classmates have experienced something like what you have, they will understand you. If some classmates are also as embarrassed as you to ask for leave in class, your situation will serve as a reminder to them, indirectly helping them.

Put yourself in his shoes. If it happened to your classmate, you'd probably feel a little uncomfortable with him at first, but you'd get over it. After all, you go to school to learn, and what happened to you is just a small part of the past, not something that keeps happening.

If you keep remembering this and worrying about it, you are making it happen and causing yourself pain. If you think, "So what?

"After all, people have to go to the bathroom three times a day. You didn't do it on purpose, and you will learn from this experience and pay more attention in the future, so that something similar will not happen again. If you can let go of this matter and take it lightly, it will determine whether your classmates will take it lightly as well.

2. Confront your sense of shame head-on.

Don't reject shame. It's a part of you that helps you observe public morals and correct your behavior. Face your shame, feel where it is in your body, its texture, color, and size. Then, replace it with a doll figure you like.

Tell it, "Hi, welcome. You're here to help me correct my behavior. I see you. Thank you!"

Feel it. Don't avoid, reject, or judge it. Stay with it and feel it.

You will feel that its impact on you is gradually weakening, and it will gradually become a part of you.

3. Write down your thoughts.

Write down all the thoughts you have about how your classmates and teachers view you. Then, try to see the matter from their perspective. You'll find it's easier to accept and let go when you do.

To others, it is just an anecdote, and time will dilute the impact of the incident. We must dilute the impact within ourselves.

I don't know how old you are or what grade you're in, but everyone has experienced something like this at some point. When you ask if you can go back to school and attend classes, you are actually concerned about other people's comments and words.

There's a story about an old man and his grandson who were going to the market with a donkey. Some people laughed at them because they weren't riding the donkey. When they both got on, some people accused them of not caring about the donkey. The old man rode the donkey while the grandson walked next to it. Some people said the old man was selfish because he didn't care about his grandson.

Some people say that the grandson is being disrespectful and not filial when the grandson rides a donkey while the grandfather walks next to him. They are wrong. You see, no matter what you do, everyone will have a different perspective and interpretation, and will have different opinions and comments. What we have to do is consider how we view and handle the situation.

Know what you are doing and what you want to do. Don't live in the mouths of others. Live in your own personal plan.

How you treat and view yourself directly affects how others treat and view you.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you, and I wish you the best!

Good morning,

Naturally, you are able to resume your studies at the educational institution.

You are the one who least wants this to happen. You feel ashamed, and you are very worried about how you will face your classmates when you go back to school and how they will look at you. I am providing you with a gesture of support from a distance in the hope that it will provide you with some comfort.

It is an embarrassing situation, and you feel ashamed and self-blame. Even adults would feel embarrassed if they encountered such a thing, let alone you, who are still a child.

However, this matter is now closed.

If this were to occur to your colleague, would you hold her responsible and ridicule her? How would you provide support?

Please take the time to write down words of comfort and read them a few times to help you feel more at ease. It is important to be as forgiving with yourself as you are with your classmate.

It is important to recognize that the incident in question is in the past and should not be a source of ongoing self-blame.

The next step is to clean up the mess and sort out our emotions.

There appears to be a distinction between vomiting in class and being unable to retain the vomit. The majority of individuals vomit when they are unwell.

It is challenging for individuals to suppress the urge to vomit. We can control our bowel and bladder functions for a period of time after the age of seven with our own volition.

It is probable that they were unable to contain their reaction due to an inadequate scheduling of the event. However, their classmates refrained from gossip or ridicule, and given your generally positive interpersonal skills and popularity, you were not mocked.

However, you observed someone covering their nose, which may have been a natural reaction to the unpleasant odor.

You were reported to the teacher by a classmate who raised their hand. As a result, you now hold negative feelings towards this individual, despite previously considering them a friend.

Given that the incident has already occurred, your initial reaction is to conceal it. However, instead of assisting you in doing so, your colleague has made it public.

Your expectations were the exact opposite of her actions, which understandably caused you to become upset.

Let us speculate as to whether her actions were intended to cause harm. Was there an element of mockery when she reported you to the teacher?

Please consider whether there was an intention to expose you and make you look foolish.

Was this classmate's original intention to facilitate a prompt resolution to the follow-up issues, or was it to create a negative impression? If her intention was to facilitate a prompt resolution, then her original intention was beneficial.

She did not consider the situation from your perspective and did not think it through thoroughly enough. You can find some time to talk to her and see how she would explain to the teacher at the time.

I believe that your classmates' behavior was not the primary issue. Rather, your decision to avoid taking time off, which resulted in the accident and subsequent injury, may have contributed to your current situation.

You are well liked, and most of your classmates are friendly. If it was your best friend who was in a difficult situation, how would you help and support her? You should do the same for yourself.

In time, this incident will recede from memory.

Going forward, you will be able to request leave to use the restroom with confidence, without concern for embarrassment. We hold our teachers in high regard and value our own well-being. If we are not feeling well, we must have the courage to inform our teachers and request assistance.

Additionally, you will inform your classmates or other trusted colleagues at the earliest opportunity and request their assistance. As you have demonstrated your courage in asking a question here, you will undoubtedly find it within yourself to do the same when seeking help from others.

The incident is in the past. You have moved on from it, returned to school, and resumed your studies. This is also an act of courage. You may choose to omit it from discussion if you wish, or you may choose to discuss it. If you do choose to discuss it, you should do so with confidence and provide a rationale for your decision.

Have confidence in yourself.

I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.

Hello, my child. I am certain my answer will help you in some way.

I can see you're struggling. You're unsure about going back to school. I understand why. You feel embarrassed about going to the toilet during class and ashamed of not being able to hold it in. From what you've told me, you feel unfriendly and malicious people are avoiding you. People tend to avoid danger and seek safety. When we feel that an environment is dangerous, we will naturally want to escape. But is this danger real or imagined?

Let's dispel the myth that reality is really that bad. Let's explore it together.

You can imagine your classmate. If she were in your situation, you would think she was a great person and you would admire her for being so brave.

If one of your classmates encounters the same situation as you, you are just as likely to raise your hand to report it to the teacher so that she can go to the bathroom more quickly and feel more comfortable. If a classmate of yours also encounters the same situation as you, you will unconsciously cover your nose, but it is not a sign of ridicule or rejection. It is just an automatic reaction. If one of your classmates encounters a similar situation, you will not want to laugh at her all the time. You will want to express your concern and understanding for her so that she does not feel sad because of this. If one of your classmates encounters such a situation, you will forget about it the next day and not take it too seriously.

The reality is that things are not as bad as we think, and many people don't care about it that much. What matters is that we accept and understand ourselves.

2. Change your attitude towards yourself. Accept your mistakes, understand your difficulties, and care for yourself. This will give you the courage and wisdom to face everything.

You feel ashamed because you don't accept that this has happened to you. You don't allow yourself to make a fool of yourself in public. But the urge to go to the toilet is a human instinct. It's understandable that you couldn't hold it in and had to ask for leave from class because you were embarrassed. We need to understand our own difficulties, care for ourselves like we would for a good friend, give ourselves comfort, care and tolerance, and tell ourselves that everyone will have a similar experience at some point. Accept that this has happened, and allow yourself to make a fool of yourself. It doesn't mean that you're not good enough, and it doesn't mean that they won't like you. We can't define ourselves by one thing, so we don't need to exaggerate the impact this has on us. I believe that when you have the courage to accept and face it, you will reap many surprises when you go to school again.

3. Learn to grow in adversity. There is a positive side to everything, and we must identify the growth nutrients this can bring us.

When I was a child, I also peed my pants in class. I went home crying, changed my pants, and went back to class. My son also peed his pants in class once. I took his pants to school and he changed them. After that, he went back to class and studied and played with his classmates together. Each of us will encounter similar adversities during the growth process. It's important not to get trapped in adversity, but to see resources in it and the parts of ourselves that need to grow.

I know it feels bad to make a fool of yourself in public, so next time I will definitely raise my hand in time and tell the teacher that I need to go to the bathroom and take care of my bodily needs, which is very important. I have learned to accept my mistakes, which has given me more courage and inner strength. I know that it doesn't matter if I make some mistakes occasionally; it won't affect my growth and development as a whole.

You may find the above useful. Best wishes!

Hello! I totally get where you're coming from and I'm sorry you're feeling distressed and embarrassed.

When you're in these situations in class, it's not just physically uncomfortable. You also feel really bad mentally, especially when you feel like your classmates are treating you differently and misunderstanding you.

Regarding the bathroom issue you mentioned, it's something many people face and there's no need to feel ashamed or embarrassed. Physical needs are normal and everyone has to meet them.

If you keep it to yourself because you're embarrassed, it'll do more harm than good. I suggest that in the future, when you encounter a similar situation, you should raise your hand and ask the teacher for leave. It's perfectly normal behavior.

I get it. It's normal for students to have misunderstandings or conflicts over trivial matters at this age.

However, this doesn't mean everyone is out to get you. From what you've said, it seems like you usually get along with people, which shows you have some skill in interpersonal relationships.

Given the circumstances, I recommend taking a deep breath and staying calm. It might be helpful to reach out to a trusted classmate or teacher to talk through your feelings and get their input.

At the same time, you might want to think about whether there's anything you could do better, or ways you could improve your relationship with your classmates.

In terms of next steps, I suggest you take the following measures:

Get some help: Talk to a trusted teacher or counselor about your concerns. They can give you more specific advice and support.

If you think it would help, try to talk to your classmates who don't understand you or seem indifferent. Explain your situation clearly and try to clear up any misunderstandings.

Self-adjustment: Don't worry too much about what others think or say, and keep a confident and positive attitude. Everyone has their own value and strengths, so don't deny yourself because of a temporary setback.

If you're feeling too overwhelmed to handle it on your own, it might be time to seek professional help from a counselor.

Finally, I just want to say that you're not alone. Lots of people face similar problems and challenges. The key is to learn to face and solve problems, rather than avoid them.

I truly believe you have what it takes to overcome this challenge and regain your self-confidence and happiness.

I hope you'll be back to your old self in no time, feeling confident and happy again.

Hello. I just wanted to give you a warm, loving hug. I can feel your worries, concerns, and the sense of shame this incident has brought about. You felt a bit sad and disappointed because you were embarrassed to ask for leave during class and you felt as if you had been humiliated in front of the whole class when your classmate raised their hand to report to the teacher. You also felt angry and dissatisfied with this classmate.

It's also worth noting that you seem to have been treated differently in this process. Some students covered their noses, which made you feel very uncomfortable and hurt your self-esteem. You can certainly go back to class. We can look at this from two different angles:

Firstly, using the restroom is a normal bodily function and need. Even in some public places like a classroom, we can make this a reasonable request to raise our hands and speak to the teacher. Your embarrassment might be because you're usually shy and reserved, or you might be afraid of authority.

But whatever the reason, we can try to understand and accept our own mistakes this time, adjust our state, and then go back to class again. From what you said, it seems like the students in the classroom didn't gossip or laugh, so it doesn't seem like they made any malicious assumptions about what happened to you.

It's also worth noting that the classmate covering her nose was just acting naturally in the moment. It's not a reaction that's specific to you.

On the other hand, you feel angry and dissatisfied with the student who raised her hand to report. It seems like she was hostile. You originally regarded her as a friend, but she took the initiative to report to the teacher, which made you feel very disappointed in her behavior. You felt humiliated in front of your classmates and your self-esteem was hurt. Can you understand your current mood?

If she doesn't report it to the teacher, maybe the classmate won't find out, and you can take care of it after class. Let's think back and see if this classmate is the type to talk to the teacher. If this situation were with another classmate, would she do the same?

There's another possibility: maybe this student just wants to help you out because she thinks of you as a friend and has overlooked your feelings. We can find a good time to talk to this student and share your feelings and thoughts, which might help your relationship.

I'd like to suggest you read a book called "The Courage to Be Disliked." I think you'll find it helpful. Best of luck!

Hello, question asker!

It's totally understandable that you're feeling aclassmate-20483.html" target="_blank">shamed right now. Something very troubling to you recently happened, and you did something that made you feel that way in public. It was made public by other people, so your feelings of shame were instantly magnified.

I can see you were really disappointed by the feedback from your classmates. I bet you were expecting them to be more tolerant and loving, but they didn't do that. They even did something that made you feel even more ashamed. I know you're angry about this, and you're wondering why she did it. I can understand why you're feeling this way.

I can tell you feel bad about what happened, but you didn't mean to do it. It's okay, it's happened to all of us. Your classmate just happened to see it. She didn't stand in your shoes. In a way, you've turned your shame into hatred for her. But you can turn this around! Let your emotions out, and you'll feel better.

It's totally normal to feel this way, since self-esteem is a basic and common human emotion.

So, I'd like to ask you another question: what do you do if your self-esteem is hurt?

We've all been there! We often find ourselves in embarrassing situations like accidentally passing gas too loudly and being heard by the people in the elevator, or falling asleep on the bus and waking up with drool all over the place.

It can also be a little embarrassing to think about, but most of the time people just laugh it off. You might feel a little ashamed in the moment, but once you walk out of the scene, it's probably over.

It can be tough when it's not strangers who saw it, but your classmates with whom you have to spend time every day.

If you're still in junior high or high school, which is a really exciting time, the behavior of classmates and teachers can make a big difference in how you experience it.

It's totally normal for young people not to be mature enough to be tolerant. It can really take a toll on you, though.

If this has other negative effects, such as on studies or relationships, it can really take a toll on you.

So, after this happens, you can take a moment to observe your own feelings and see if you're feeling too trapped. It's okay to ask for help from family members and teachers when you need it.

Second, try to accept the situation as best you can and remember to treat it with a normal attitude.

Finally, you can also talk to this classmate about your disappointment in her. It might be that she's feeling similarly regretful about her actions right now.

If you don't have an open and honest chat, you might find yourself stuck on this matter for a long time, and she might continue to regret it for a while too.

Talking is a great way to help both of you, and it can even lead to a beautiful friendship!

I'm sending you lots of good luck and best wishes!

Hello, questioner! I'm Jiang 61.

First of all, thanks for trusting us and being willing to tell us what's on your mind. It seems like you're feeling a bit confused about whether you should go to the bathroom during class or not. You're also wondering if you should ask for a leave of absence or not. And you're concerned about whether you should go back to school and attend class after having a bowel movement.

"After reading your introduction, I understand your embarrassment and confusion. Let's discuss the problem together."

1. Introduction

1. Uncomfortable

You said, "I felt that my classmates were unfriendly and it hurt my self-esteem. But I think I usually have a good reputation. Although no one in class was talking or laughing about it, I felt bad when I saw people covering their noses."

This kind of thing has happened to a lot of students, including me. It's true that how classmates act can make us feel out of place and embarrassed.

2. Being rejected

You said that because someone in the previous class threw up, everyone was concerned, comforted, and helped clean up. No one covered their nose, and since everyone was in a similar situation, you felt treated differently.

Ultimately, one of my classmates raised their hand and informed the teacher about me. I've developed a strong dislike for this person, even though I previously considered her a friend. Had she not raised her hand, it's likely that none of my classmates would have noticed.

"

I'd like to make a comparison.

It's not just seeing classmates covering their noses in front of you, but also seeing them vomiting. Some classmates treated you differently. They didn't look down on you and went up to you to care for and comfort you. In comparison, this makes you feel sad.

I think you're feeling betrayed.

The questioner believes that their once-beloved friend not only failed to care for and look after them, but also betrayed them by telling the teacher and letting the whole class know, which caused them to be humiliated in front of the whole class. So, they really hate her.

3️⃣, confused

You said, "I don't understand why she's treating me this way. I feel so ashamed, and can I still go back to school and attend classes under these circumstances?"

You're confused about why your best friend treated you so badly and you're really upset. At the same time, you feel like you've lost face and you're wondering if you can go back to school like this.

2. Why the confusion?

1. Comparative psychology

Comparative psychology

One common psychological phenomenon is comparative psychology. This is when people compare their own advantages, disadvantages, achievements, status, etc. with others to gain self-evaluation and positioning.

This psychological phenomenon isn't just about comparing yourself to others. It also includes comparing yourself to your past self and your ideal self to evaluate your current state and future goals.

?? Influence

The questioner is unhappy and has a different mood after thinking about how a close friend treats similar people. This is the effect of comparing oneself with others.

2. Anticipation

Anticipation

When we say "expectation," we're talking about a longing for something we don't know about yet. It's not just about what we think will happen, but also about what we hope for and what we want.

Expect and care

From what you said, it's clear that you were hoping for some support from a friend at that moment. Unfortunately, things didn't go as you expected. Not only did your friend not offer help, but she also told the teacher about it, leaving you feeling confused and upset. On top of that, she made sure the whole class knew about it, which made you feel embarrassed and resentful.

3. Characteristic reasons

Given that you were afraid to tell your teacher you needed to go to the bathroom, it seems you're also an introvert with few friends and a melancholic personality.

Depression

People with melancholy personalities are more sensitive than others, have delicate and profound feelings, are born perfectionists, always want to make a good impression on others, take things seriously, and love to dwell on problems.

Characteristics:

Characteristics: thoughtful, highly sensitive, idealistic, and a pursuit of truth, goodness, and beauty.

On the plus side, you're sensitive, loyal, talented, and insightful.

Weaknesses: stubbornness, indecisiveness, self-centeredness, pessimism, and passivity.

The questioner, due to their personality, encountered a friend who treated you differently from others and told the teacher, which led to a misunderstanding. You got caught up in the situation and couldn't let it go. At the same time, your perfectionist thinking made you feel unable to hold your head up after the embarrassing situation, and you were also very sensitive to other people's opinions.

This makes you dread going to school. It's the effect your character has on you.

3. What to do

1. Figure out what's going on.

Figure out what's going on.

A lot of people experience a loss of control after an emotional outburst. Once we find the cause, we can get rid of the hidden dangers. I looked for the cause from a physiological perspective at the time, and found that it was caused by a lack of protein intake. After making up for it, the problem was solved.

Figure out what the problem is and fix it.

The questioner might have other reasons, like drinking too much water or being overly nervous. We need to find the cause and fix it to get rid of our worries.

2. Let it go.

Let it go.

In psychology, letting go doesn't just mean letting go of bad habits. It also means accepting what has happened and not fighting against the past.

It's also important to let go of expectations.

We keep coming back to this because we can't let go of what our friend did and we keep dwelling on the past and hoping for the best.

So, if we look at this from another angle, maybe your friend didn't have the experience of dealing with this, and she could only get you out of the situation by telling the teacher. What happened next was also something she didn't expect.

We see it this way: isn't it also a kind of friend who cares about you, but just doesn't handle things properly? If we forgive others for their unintentional mistakes, we can let go of grudges and expectations and feel a little more relaxed and at ease.

3️⃣. Look in the mirror.

Take a good look at yourself.

To face yourself means being able to admit who you really are and what has happened, seeing both your achievements and your shortcomings, and being open-minded about everything about yourself. It also means taking positive steps to correct your shortcomings, make up for them, or solve the problems you face.

Take the problem head-on.

Since it's already happened, it's only natural that classmates will have various reactions, and there's nothing we can do to stop it. So let's just face it, not worry about what others think, and keep a positive attitude. In time, they'll forget about it too, and you'll get over the worst of it.

Question owner, your own state of mind is the most important thing. If you don't let it get to you, no one else will talk about it. We need to find the cause of the problem, solve it actively, let go of the past, and face the problem head on. That way, we can quickly overcome this unhappy moment.

I wish the original poster all the best for a happy life!

Good morning, classmate. From your description, I can appreciate your embarrassment and hatred of the informant. However, these are merely your own psychological feelings, and your own psychological feelings do not necessarily reflect the truth. It is crucial to recognize that your primary objective should not be to continue feeling embarrassed, but rather to learn a valuable lesson from this experience that will prove beneficial in the future. Let us proceed with a thorough analysis:

1. It is imperative to cultivate self-esteem in an appropriate manner. On the one hand, self-esteem is a beneficial quality, as it provides individuals with the motivation to persevere in the face of adversity and challenges.

Conversely, self-respect does not necessitate concealment; rather, it entails courage. One might cite historical accounts of individuals enduring humiliation, such as lying on straw and tasting gall, yet these individuals retained their self-respect.

Such individuals are aware that their current self-esteem is devoid of value and that it is of no consequence to them as long as they achieve significant goals in the future. What is your objective in pursuing an education?

What will your sense of pride feel like when you become successful in the future? Who will remember what happened now in the future?

One might inquire as to the potential consequences of her remembering and confronting you. It could be argued that a single incident is not of significant consequence.

2. In the past, when a classmate vomited, the other students provided assistance with cleaning up the vomit, which indicates that the students were still very kind and benevolent. Although your situation is similar, the most significant distinction is that the other students were unable to provide assistance, not that they were kind to the previous student but not to you alone.

It is important to consider the situation from the perspective of the individual in question. If one were in her position, it is likely that the desire to assist the student who was vomiting would have been present, yet the ability to do so would have been limited.

3. The purpose of the classmate who raised her hand to report to the teacher is unknown. It is possible that she has never spoken with you, which may have led to the assumption that she deliberately made you look stupid. However, this is merely a subjective speculation. One possibility is that she wanted to help you, but was afraid that it would make you feel bad, so she did not speak up.

The thoughts of the other individual are a matter of personal interpretation. Whether these thoughts are perceived as kind or malevolent is a subjective matter. What is crucial is to remain true to one's own values. Many Buddhist masters demonstrate tolerance towards those who are deemed irredeemable, offering them an opportunity for redemption. This is an exemplary display of wisdom. The decision to use violence in response to violence is a personal one. It is essential to adhere strictly to one's own values in such matters.

4. The most important thing is self-improvement. There are a few areas where you can improve. First, distinguish between fact and fiction. It is only natural to eat, drink, defecate, and urinate. If you eat or drink badly, you will have various physical reactions. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. If another student in your situation raised their hand to ask for leave and was laughed at, it would indicate that the other person is not of high quality, not realistic, and not considerate.

Secondly, it is important to interpret situations in a positive and constructive manner, as these interpretations are subjective and reflective of one's own inner world, rather than being influenced by external factors. Thirdly, it is crucial to prioritize resilience and strength in the face of challenges. The incident in question may appear trivial when compared to the experiences of others, and it would be unwise to let such a minor issue deter one from pursuing their educational goals.

In conclusion, it is important to note that if one does not care about a particular matter, it is unlikely that others will do so either. Each individual has a multitude of unresolved issues, and it is not within their capacity to devote significant attention to the concerns of others. It is essential to cultivate inner strength, refrain from dwelling on these issues, and allow time for them to recede from memory. If they are inadvertently brought up by others, one's response can influence the dynamic at that moment. Whether one chooses to respond with humor or assertiveness, it reflects their own emotional state.

This is embarrassing. I understand your anxiety. However, I don't think it's serious enough to stop you going to school. You just need to deal with your classmates' comments and advice. You must take responsibility for not paying attention to and valuing your physical and mental needs. If you had asked the teacher for leave earlier, you wouldn't be in this situation.

This should make the questioner think. Why didn't you ask the teacher for leave in time? What do you value and want to protect? Has this done any good?

The questioner should think about what they would do if they were in her position. I have experienced something like this before. When I was in elementary school, the girl sitting next to me also pooped her pants in class. I immediately stood up and reported it to the teacher.

I didn't mean to make fun of her. I just wanted the teacher to stop the class and help the girl go to the bathroom. It would be hard for anyone to bear that smell. It's good for my deskmate and good for the teachers and classmates.

It's hard to accept when this happens, but I believe the questioner didn't mean for it to happen. No one wants this. This teaches the questioner a lesson: if you don't want to face embarrassing situations, you need to pay attention to and meet your needs, and stop holding it in. Holding it in makes you feel bad and hurts your face.

These are just my opinions.

Hello, questioner! You wanted to go to the bathroom during class, but were too embarrassed to ask for leave. As a result, you couldn't hold it in and a classmate reported you. You must have been so embarrassed and humiliated that you wished you could find a crack in the ground to crawl into. But don't worry! This is just a small hiccup in your journey.

Embrace it! This is how life is. We will always encounter things that make us feel embarrassed, but as long as we can face them with an open mind, they are not a problem. As long as you let go of those unnecessary thoughts in your mind, everything will pass.

In history, there are some incredible stories of resilience. Take Han Xin, for example. He was humiliated, but he didn't let it get him down. He kept going. And then there's Goujian. He was lying on straw, tasting gall, but he didn't let that stop him. He kept going. These stories are so inspiring! They show us that we can overcome anything.

It's totally normal to care about what others think of you. It's only natural to feel hurt when your classmates' actions affect you, and it's okay to feel left out when no one seems to care about you. But here's the good news: you can adjust your mentality!

In fact, most people in life are indifferent. They only care about themselves and don't care about others. Most people usually don't take the initiative to help others. But there's no reason why they should! They should regard the help of others as a favor, and not helping is also their duty.

Don't worry about the details! This is actually not a big deal, because everyone has their own thoughts. So we just need to be ourselves! As the saying goes, as long as you're not embarrassed, it's other people who will be embarrassed.

The great news is you can still go back to school, and the teachers will definitely understand you. After all, everyone has to go to the bathroom sometimes! My advice is that, after you go back to school, no matter what happens, don't care too much about what other people think of you. Just be yourself!

If you really can't stand it, just change your environment!

I really hope you can live your life with ease in the future! Wishing you all the best!

First of all, I want to be clear that it is completely understandable for an accident to happen in class. This was not your fault, and you should not feel ashamed or lose face because of this incident.

You need to decide whether or not to go back to school based on how you feel and how the school treats you.

The classmates who covered their noses and raised their hands to report to the teacher probably didn't mean to be malicious. They were probably just following the rules or reacting instinctively. Even though their behavior made you feel uncomfortable and hurt, it's not fair to say that they were targeting you.

Try to understand the situation from their perspective. They probably didn't mean any harm.

The classmate who raised her hand to report you may have been acting according to the rules as she understood them, but her actions have caused you a lot of distress and hurt. If you cannot forgive her, you can choose to distance yourself from her, but you are not a failure if you have lost a friend.

You need to calm down and deal with your emotions first. Share your feelings with some close friends or family members. They can support and encourage you.

Seek professional psychological counseling if you need to. You can also communicate with your teachers or school management about your distress and feelings. They can provide help and support.

Don't let this affect your confidence in yourself or your future studies. Everyone makes mistakes, and that's okay.

It's how we face and deal with these problems, and learn and grow from them, that matters.

Hello! I'm Li Di, and I'm so happy we got to chat.

I can totally relate to how you're feeling! I've been there, and I know it's so hard to ask for a leave of absence during class. I think anyone in your situation would feel the same way you do right now: embarrassed, ashamed, and most worried about what others think of us. But you're not alone! I'm here for you. First, a big hug! Let's talk about a few things that might help.

☞First, you want to go to the bathroom during class but are embarrassed to ask for a leave of absence. It's totally understandable! What is the reason for your embarrassment? Are you afraid because the teacher is too strict? Do you think going to the bathroom during class is an unacceptable and incomprehensible behavior? Or have you been taught since childhood that you must wait until after class to go to the bathroom, even if you have a physical problem?

Secondly, I feel that my classmates are being a little unfriendly, which hurts my self-esteem a little. Although no one in the classroom is talking or laughing, I feel bad when I see some covering their noses. Do you think there are any specific signs that your classmates are being unfriendly?

In class, the students didn't gossip or laugh, but they did cover their noses. If we put ourselves in their shoes, isn't that the best way to show them respect? You can also ask yourself, when you encounter something like this with a classmate, what would your first reaction be? Would you try to comfort them or give them some space to deal with things on their own?

Third, before, when a classmate threw up, everyone would care about them, offer comfort, and help clean up. It was so nice to see everyone looking out for each other like that! But it also made it feel like they were being treated differently and maliciously, since everyone was in a similar situation.

I'm sure your classmates have helped other students who've vomited before, so why didn't they help you? We can all think about what we'd like our classmates to do for us in an embarrassing situation. Would you have liked them to help you in the same way? Or would you have preferred to leave the classroom quickly to deal with it?

☞ Fourth, in the end, she raised her hand to report me to the teacher. I have to say, I hate her now, even though I used to consider her a friend. If she hadn't raised her hand, no one would have found out.

I'm not sure why she's being so mean to you. I can see you're feeling really embarrassed and confused. I'm also wondering if it'll be discovered by other classmates. Is your classmate really trying to make you look bad by telling the teacher?

It looks like she didn't succeed either, because no one is talking about you or laughing at you. In a way, your classmates' behavior is actually helping you, because they are encouraging you to deal with it as soon as possible. After all, it's not only uncomfortable, but it also smells, right?

It's totally normal to feel a loss of self-esteem when faced with such an event, especially in an environment where image and social interaction are important. Your feelings are valid and worthy of respect.

It might be helpful to remind yourself that nobody's perfect, and we all have our vulnerable moments. It's okay to feel embarrassed about this, but try to accept it as part of reality for now.

At the same time, we can also do a quick emotional check-in together to help you work through some of those feelings right now. I really hope it helps!

It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling. We all have moments when we feel out of sorts. It's how we process those feelings that matters. Try expressing your emotions in a way that feels good to you. Maybe it's journaling, drawing, or talking to a trusted friend. Whatever you choose, just let yourself feel.

☆Cognitive restructuring: Try to see this event as a lesson, not a failure. It has taught us to take care of our physical needs even in the most unlikely situations. You've got this!

☆Social support: It's totally normal to feel isolated sometimes. Try to find people who are willing to listen and offer comfort to help you through it. This could be close friends, family members, or mental health professionals.

☆Self-affirmation: Remember that you are worthy just because you are you!

☆Time and space: Give yourself some time and space to heal, my dear. You can go back to school when you are ready to face it again, and you will find that you have become stronger.

We all have moments in life when things don't go well. But that doesn't define who you are! Your feelings are valuable, and your experiences deserve to be heard.

If you feel like you need more support, counseling is a great option! You'll get to talk to someone who will listen to your feelings and help you cope better with the situation.

I really hope my answer is helpful for you! I love you all so much! *^O^*

Dear Question Asker, Your question prompted me to recall a similar experience I had as a student. I once experienced my menstrual period and neglected to change my sanitary napkin in a timely manner, resulting in a significant staining of my entire lower body and the bench. I was so embarrassed that I was unable to move, and at the most inopportune moment, my teacher called on me to answer a question. I had no choice but to stand up. I was sitting in the second row, which meant that all the students behind me could see my reddened bottom.

At that time, I experienced a profound sense of embarrassment and animosity towards the instructor. I also felt that I would never again have the courage to return to the classroom, fearful of being the subject of ridicule and derision from my classmates.

.

These experiences will undoubtedly evoke a range of emotions, including shame, guilt, and anger. It is understandable to feel hesitant and apprehensive about the prospect of returning to school. However, it is important to recognize that many individuals have encountered similar challenges. Imagine being in a quiet study room when suddenly, a loud fart is emitted. The student responsible for the noise would undoubtedly feel embarrassed. Nevertheless, it is crucial to understand that these experiences are not permanent. Memories of such incidents fade with time, and while others may laugh at our missteps, their amusement is not a lifelong phenomenon. Furthermore, it is essential to recognize that individuals often hold diverse perspectives on similar matters. It is not necessary to prioritize the opinions of others. Instead, it is vital to focus on self-care, emotional management, and effective study strategies.

It is recommended that you return to class with courage. At a future date, you will be able to view these experiences with the same frankness with which I view them today and conclude that they are insignificant.