I was speechless at my mother's behavior. How could she have behaved like that?

Good day, I am Fei Yun, a heart coach.

I empathize with your situation. You appear to be a young, innocent individual with legitimate grievances. I am at a loss as to who I may have offended. This is an unfortunate and unwarranted turn of events.

1. The anxiety caused by the fact that the entire family has become Yang.

Following the implementation of enhanced measures to prevent and control the epidemic, a significant number of individuals have experienced a notable shift in their emotional state. Initially, many people exhibited a strong sense of security and compliance with epidemic prevention protocols. However, with the recent lifting of isolation restrictions, a considerable proportion of the population has reported feelings of unease and vulnerability.

The aforementioned anxiety and panic, along with the imminent threat of becoming a yang person, have collectively resulted in a state of high tension and imminent danger for the individual in question.

The family situation as described in your text involved your two younger sisters playing and disturbing you while you were doing your homework. You scolded your younger sisters, which made them cry and woke up your mother. Your mother was angry with you, which made you angry and upset. Your mother was also angry...

This is the standard "kicking the cat effect" in psychology. Negative emotions among family members affect each other and enter a cycle.

From a macro perspective, the outcome is evident. Let's rewind and make a new decision: The sisters will continue to play independently, and they will be able to resolve their conflicts on their own; you will continue to study your homework without being distracted; and Mom will sleep peacefully as usual.

The situation was resolved peacefully and quietly. Due to the circumstances of the epidemic and the resulting psychological impact, there was a need for greater understanding, trust, and respect.

2. Empathy, mutual understanding, and overcoming difficulties together

From your mother's perspective, her current state of health is affecting her mood. You are the eldest child in your family, with two younger sisters. Your parents have placed their trust in you as a role model for your siblings, who look up to you and expect you to take on more responsibilities.

The criticism is not that you have done anything wrong, but rather that your parents believe your siblings could share some of the family responsibilities.

Let's examine your emotions: resentment. You are also a patient, and you require rest. Furthermore, studying is your own responsibility. You are already an adult, and you fully understand and know how to handle the problem between physical health and study.

However, your mother's accusations and criticisms have led to feelings of unappreciation and mistrust, resulting in frustration. You are currently experiencing a low-pressure emotional state.

During this period of the epidemic, it is essential that the entire family work together to overcome the difficulties. It is crucial to demonstrate increased understanding and tolerance, while reducing the amount of blame and complaining.

It would be beneficial to make a pact with your two younger sisters to ensure that they play without disturbing others. You should communicate sincerely with your mother and inform her of your desire for her affirmation, encouragement, and praise so that she can recognize your efforts.

In the family unit, emotional support and affection are of greater importance than logic and reason. The mother in question is loved by all her children, and vice versa. There is a hope that she will recover soon and be able to share the burden.

Begin with yourself. Allow positive sentiments to flow between you. A gesture of physical affection, such as a hug, can be an effective way to convey encouragement and praise.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards, [Your name]

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