I will unconsciously pay attention to others in the environment and find a balance in being myself.

When interacting with others, it's important to be mindful of not using them as a mirror for your own reflection.

Hello, my name is Liang Qingyou.

It is natural for people to pay attention to others when they are in relationships.

It would be wise to consider the extent to which you focus your attention on others.

Perhaps an example of excessive attention would be a mother who keeps her eyes on her six-year-old son during meals and never stops talking. She might say things like, "Eat more vegetables, don't be picky, eat less at night so you don't get full, finish eating and then do your homework..."

The questioner said that they would unconsciously pay attention to others. I believe this means looking carefully at other people's expressions, pondering whether they are happy or unhappy, and deciding what kind of emotion to respond with.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to be aware of whether they are using others as a mirror and whether they are being overly concerned.

The questioner said, "Being yourself can hinder others." It seems that in the questioner's eyes, other people are very vulnerable, and the questioner said something that could potentially hurt others. It might be helpful for the questioner to carefully verify the situation and ask others if they are really being hindered when encountering specific situations.

Could you please clarify what is meant by "being qualified to be oneself"? Is it necessary to consider others when being oneself?

Everyone deserves to take care of themselves in a more professional way. You may have heard of mindfulness practice. It might be helpful for you to learn more about it. Mindfulness awareness and acceptance can help you be your authentic self.

It's so great to be self-aware and try to understand others!

We all need each other in a group, and while there's bound to be some competition and conflict, there's also plenty of interaction and cooperation. It's hard to imagine a person who is completely unaware of or ignorant of the needs of others and who can still live harmoniously in their environment and society.

It's so important to interact and cooperate with each other! That means paying attention to and understanding others, which is a wonderful ability.

There's absolutely no need to make "pleasing" into a bad thing! Sharing kindness is a great way to start.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with trying to understand others and their needs, and trying to help or satisfy their wishes. This kind of "flattery" is a message of goodwill, the ability to satisfy others, and a willingness to make friends. For social relationships, it's certainly a necessary and good start!

If it's immature, it just means guessing where the other person is coming from and forgetting about your own needs.

However, in the process of "pleasing" others, one's own position and needs are often involved. When one's own needs conflict with or even contradict those of others, and one completely disregards one's own needs in order to "please" others, it can be really hurtful.

This is obviously also a bit immature and unsustainable, don't you think? After all, no one is completely selfless and altruistic.

You can be yourself and "please" others at the same time! In fact, they can coexist and balance perfectly most of the time.

It's so easy to think that pleasing others means losing yourself. But it doesn't have to be like that! You can be yourself and still take care of others. When you understand and appreciate what others need, and what you need too, everyone wins.

It's so important to remember that our own needs and those of others don't usually clash. Even if there is a disagreement, there's always a way to find a balance and come to a solution that works for everyone.

We all need to remember that we can't indulge ourselves as we please when we're social beings living in groups.

If you fully embrace your true self without considering the impact on others or the environment, you might find that not everyone is supportive of your choices. It's important to remember that we all need to consider the feelings of others.

Confucius said something really wise: "Follow your heart's desires without transgressing the boundaries of propriety." It's a great way to think and act! The key is that the boundaries don't come from others or the outside world. They come from within, from your heart. So, everything should be done from the heart. That way, you can follow your heart's desires without feeling like you're going against your own nature.

For example, if you agree with the attitude of pleasing others, rather than being forced by others or the demands of society, why not? At the same time, without losing your own position, without pleasing others without limits or principles, this is the rule that you need for yourself.

When we have a clear understanding and definition of both, we naturally have a complete self, an "as-you-will-without-transgressing-the-boundaries" self.

Everyone's values and judgments are different, and the points of balance or limitation are not consistent. But don't worry! Finding the rules of self-discipline may help you not to hesitate about the right amount and scale. And the most basic principle of distinction or rule is "not to do evil."

I wish you all the happiness in the world!

Hello, question asker! I saw your question and I'm excited to help you understand it better.

And you should also see your desire to immerse yourself and be yourself naturally. That's great because deep down you are exploring and being aware of yourself, which is fantastic!

Then, we can embark on an exciting journey of self-discovery to understand why you are confused at the moment and find a way of self-exploration that suits you perfectly!

First, take a moment to reflect on your own upbringing. Think about when you first started to unconsciously smile and pay attention to others in a way that seemed a little pleasing.

If you think back to your past experiences, what situations in your upbringing did you benefit from doing this? For example, when someone praised you for being friendly and polite?

For example, have you ever noticed that you tend to make friends and gain recognition more quickly by paying attention to and empathizing with others and going along with them? It's a fascinating phenomenon! And it's not just about making friends. It's also about avoiding conflicts.

Behavioral psychology research suggests that a person's behavior patterns are formed through continuous reinforcement. Think back to the situations that reinforce your tendency to pay attention to and agree with others.

What an amazing opportunity for growth! What would you need to do to make changes and adjustments? For example, try sticking to your true attitude for once!

For example, try ignoring or letting things take their course when you don't want to pay attention to or agree with someone or something!

Second, you're asking how to fully immerse yourself in being yourself. So, what do you think being yourself in an immersive way looks like?

I love that you mentioned things like audio playback, talking to yourself, or interacting with pets to relax. These are all fantastic ways to unwind, and they're also totally natural and allowed ways to behave. Of course, you can all be implemented!

However, when it comes to being qualified, it's not about being qualified to be yourself. It's about understanding how your actions affect those around you. You're able to consider this because you have a big picture mindset and are great at putting yourself in other people's shoes. This is a huge advantage!

After all, who can live alone without interacting with others? The so-called "prudence in solitude" is all relative — and it's time to embrace it!

If you are worried that being yourself will hinder others, you can choose to play music at home, for example, when you are alone. It's a great way to let your hair down and have fun! If talking to yourself is a burden, then you can talk to yourself through writing. It's a wonderful way to express yourself and get things off your chest!

Take your time, have aspirations and feelings, and face your feelings. You can do it! Don't demand that you change all at once. Being yourself is a long and arduous process, but it's also an exciting journey.

Enjoy the process, solve problems creatively, and give yourself the opportunity to try small steps!

I really hope you can discover more of your own strengths, acknowledge your own merits, and praise yourself from time to time to increase your self-approval. I truly believe your state of mind will be even better!

I really hope this is helpful!

Dear questioner, I got your question and it's clear from your words that you're a thoughtful person with a sensitive mind and keen powers of observation. It's also evident that your strengths have a few side effects, making you doubt yourself or worry about what others think.

From what you said, I get the feeling that when you're paying attention to someone, you unconsciously use their actions and the messages they convey as the basis for your own response. I'm not sure if this means "out of control," but I think the expression that comes from the heart in a natural state should be natural. I still don't feel very natural about it, though, for some reason.

I see "out of control" as being similar to driving on the road. Imagine you need to slow down but find that the brakes are broken. You can't control the speed, which could be dangerous for you and others. This is what it means to be "out of control." It seems like the questioner is worried about others and maybe neglecting their own feelings. I think this could be explained by "automatic thoughts."

Take, for instance, the questioner's concern about how others will perceive them when they're with others. It's natural to think that if they go along with others, they'll be accepted. But what if the real core belief is that one can only be accepted if others like them?

As for the questioner, he says that his expression doesn't look very natural, but others may not think so. It's because we tend to look at other people, and rarely at ourselves in the mirror. If you look at yourself often, you may find that the more you look, the more you think you look pretty.

So, I've got a few suggestions for you in response to the three questions the original poster asked.

❤️First, just be yourself! What does it mean to be yourself? And how far can you go with it?

I really believe that being yourself means "knowing what you are doing, having a sense of propriety, and having boundaries."

Take waltzing, for instance. Even though you're touching each other, you still maintain a comfortable distance and don't hold each other too tightly or step on each other's feet. It's all about respecting each other's comfort.

So, even if you want to be accepted, it's really important to know how far you can go and where the line of comfort is. Having your own principles and bottom line is being true to yourself, and that's a good thing!

? Second, when you're being your true self, do you still care about other people?

Absolutely! You'll still care about other people.

For example, when you're home alone, even if you're listening to music, you'll probably still think about what time it is and how your neighbors might be doing. Having your own space and being able to relax without disturbing others is really important.

? Third, how can someone who has a desire to perform and wants to gain attention find the balance to be themselves?

People with a desire to perform tend to focus on themselves, which can sometimes mean that they might not pay as much attention to the feelings of others. When getting along with others, other people also have their own thoughts and attitudes. It's only natural that people who don't like such people will have less contact with them. So we also use feedback from others to balance our behavior.

I really hope the original poster can find a way to achieve a balance in life soon. I think it would be great for them to be powerful and be themselves, but also to be flexible and resilient.

I really hope things work out for you. I love you, Psychology, and I'm rooting for you!

It would be beneficial to provide the questioner with a supportive gesture, such as a hug, to help alleviate their inner tension, anxiety, and fear when interacting with others. This would allow them to more easily and naturally show their true self when facing others.

It is possible that the questioner is unaware that when he displays a smile or shows vulnerability, it is the natural response of his true self. However, the conscious self may perceive such emotional displays as immature.

From the information provided by the questioner, it can be seen that the questioner has suppressed a significant number of emotional feelings and emotional needs that have not been released or met. The power generated by these repressed emotional feelings and emotional needs is about to exceed the questioner's ability to control, while the conscious self usually pays relatively little attention to itself and lacks a deep enough understanding of its own needs. Additionally, the questioner's subconscious perception of the self affects the conscious self's understanding and acceptance of the subconscious self's needs. The needs of the conscious self and the subconscious self are intertwined and mixed together, making it challenging for the conscious self of the questioner to distinguish between which are the needs of the conscious self and the subconscious self. This can be likened to a tangled mess, where it is difficult to find a clue.

In such a situation, it is understandable that anxiety may arise.

It is important to be true to yourself in order to ensure consistency between your thoughts and actions. This allows you to experience a sense of self-existence and satisfaction. However, it is also necessary to consider the impact of your words and actions on others and on the wider group when interacting with the group or others. This will help you to express yourself in a way that is appropriate for the situation and the people involved.

For instance, when in the presence of colleagues, you may express your differing opinions directly, as you are aware that doing so will not impact the relationship between you and the other person. When you disagree with the work leader's arrangement of your work, it is important to be mindful in expressing yourself and to find a way to communicate your opinions without affecting your work or causing you to lose out.

In other words, the degree to which one is true to oneself is contingent upon the prevailing environment and may fluctuate. The extent of this fluctuation is subject to temporal, spatial, and individual variations, rendering a universal standard response challenging to ascertain. To illustrate, when an individual is in their own room at home, they are free to be true to themselves, provided they do not contravene the law or infringe upon the established rules. This freedom extends to activities such as listening to music, reading books, or playing games, provided they do not exceed the limits of their physical endurance and do not negatively impact others. For instance, playing music at a volume that disturbs the neighbors or engaging in excessive physical activity would be considered transgressions of this freedom. In essence, while individuals are free to be true to themselves within a certain range, they are also expected to exercise restraint and avoid recklessly pursuing their own desires at the expense of others.

The questioner appears to be transferring the responsibility for satisfying their inner emotional needs to other people. This involves paying attention to other people's behavior and performance, and then reacting in a way that they think is appropriate. The questioner then seeks satisfaction from other people. This may not matter to the questioner, but it is a heavy burden and pressure for other people. They will instinctively react by refusing to bear it. This kind of reaction is not what the questioner wants. It also makes the questioner's subconscious self feel hurt. This increases the degree of inner pain and suffering. It also strengthens the negative perception of the self.

The issue at hand is somewhat complex and cannot be adequately addressed in a brief consultation. It will require a more comprehensive approach, involving multiple sessions with a qualified psychological counselor. This will provide a stable support system for the client to rely on, facilitating a more effective change process.

Hello, friend. From your description, it seems that you are very attuned to the emotions of yourself and others, someone with a strong sense of self-esteem and self-love who also knows how to care for the feelings of others.

However, you are also experiencing distress due to your sensitivity. You find yourself torn between following your own desires and pleasing others, and you even fear that you might lose yourself.

According to psychologist Adler, many of our difficulties may have their roots in our relationships with others.

In unfamiliar environments or crowds, self-defense, nervousness, and stress can make us feel a little unsure of ourselves. It's understandable that you'd then unconsciously pay attention to other people in the environment.

It's beneficial that you observe other people's reactions and then make your own judgments and choices. This is a form of active social learning. However, you've also discovered that "the easy, pleasing way to exist is to not ask who you are or what you want, but just to agree with and look up to other people as they do" is also an option. However, if you feel that way, it might result in a loss of identity.

From what I can see, you seem to be aware of your inner feelings when you observe others. This is a process of thinking and understanding, which is rare and valuable.

In a competitive environment, pressure can often come from constantly competing with others. This can sometimes result in having more enemies than friends and partners. Have you had this experience?

You mentioned that when you look in the mirror, you think about how you can present a natural look when you're around other people. Is there a way you can give off a sense of being down-to-earth and natural?

You often smile reflexively when you meet people, but sometimes you feel embarrassed. It seems to suggest that you may not feel as confident as you would like to be. From this, I can see that your low self-esteem and sense of worthlessness are affecting your interpersonal interactions.

Adler suggests that human behavior is driven by two fundamental goals: self-reliance and living in harmony with society. These goals are supported by two psychological objectives: the awareness of one's capabilities and the recognition of everyone as a partner.

These two points are precisely the two pillars that support a person's self-esteem. This brings us back to the question: You care so much about your relationships with others, greet people with a smile, and often show off your ignorance. What are your thoughts and feelings on this?

Do you ever feel that you are less capable than others, or that you have a lower status, and that you have no sense of worth? If your self-esteem is more about seeking external recognition or being highly demanding of yourself, then you may find it challenging to feel superior to others, as there will always be people who are more talented or accomplished than you.

If you want to be yourself, it might be helpful to focus on your own unique qualities and values, accept your imperfections, understand your true feelings about what you can and cannot do, be self-respecting and confident, and be comfortable in your own skin. That could be a good way to define what it means to be yourself. If you think you are capable and valuable, then you might want to embrace your own unique qualities and values. If you think you need to improve your abilities and harmonious relationships, then it could be helpful to follow your heart's guidance and constantly improve your value and abilities, and work on building positive relationships with others. At the same time, it might be valuable to be kind to others, treat everyone around you as a partner, not a competitor, and I believe your relationships will naturally improve.

The ultimate goal of interpersonal relationships is a sense of community. The so-called "sense of community" is a state in which you can see others as partners and feel that "you have a place" in it.

Being yourself is an ideal state of life. While immersed in the natural process of being yourself, it is also important to consider the surrounding environment. For example, when meditating, it would be more respectful of others if you did not play loud music or speak at a loud voice. Talking to yourself or interacting with your pet in a relaxed manner is the same. Living in harmony with others is also a basic requirement of being yourself, right? Being yourself is not about indulging or doing whatever you want, but about being the true self within. We are all part of the human community, and through self-discipline, we can achieve greater freedom in this world.

I wonder if that's the case?

Dear questioner, From your description, I see someone who is nervous and stiff, someone who tries to please and cater to others. At the same time, I see the weariness in your heart caused by this nervousness, and your strong desire to be yourself and relax.

You are undoubtedly popular in your environment. You may not be a pushover, but you are a considerate person who is sensitive to the feelings of others.

Your friends will feel comfortable with you. You may even hide your unhappiness, adjust the atmosphere, and hope that through your own efforts, everyone will be happy and like you.

Over time, this can lead to fatigue and a sense that you can't or won't relax and express your true self, which can be painful.

Catering to others is just a way of interacting. It is not bad, nor is it something you should avoid, let alone something you need to correct. Having such emotional intelligence and ability will give you a lot of convenience and help in life.

We mustn't make catering to other people's ways of interacting the only way. We shouldn't feel uneasy because we are not catering to or focusing on other people at certain times. We must allow ourselves to develop other ways of interacting. These include shared hobbies, carefree and unrestrained behaviour, heated debates, simple companionship, and so on.

Give yourself space to immerse yourself alone. Your sensitivity may make it difficult to immerse yourself alone in an important social situation, so create a little personal space and do something that allows you to devote yourself fully. This will help you experience a state of complete relaxation and forgetfulness.

With such practice, you will find a sense of relaxation in being yourself.

3. Know yourself better through the feedback of others. The more you know yourself, the less you will react to the feedback of others.

It is essential to gain clarity about who we are, acknowledge our strengths, and recognize our communication patterns and weaknesses. When we have a stronger sense of control over ourselves, we experience greater ease.

This way, we won't be overly concerned about everyone in the outside world.

I can say with confidence that being yourself is not the same as hindering others. Being yourself is not selfishness or disregard for others.

Know who you are and what you want. Don't be swayed by others' opinions. If you don't project your voice, you won't get in the way of others. Cultivate yourself and discipline yourself, and you won't feel constrained.

Everyone dreams of being completely comfortable being themselves. There's even a saying: "Seventy years old, do whatever you want without transgressing." We can achieve this state with age, nourished by a loving intimate relationship and with a full understanding of learning and self-awareness.

Let's encourage each other!

Thank you for your question. I am a listening therapist at One Psychology.

I can sense that you're facing some inner struggles and conflicts. Could you please share your thoughts on how you experience interactions with others? I'm curious to know more about your feelings when you say you're overly concerned about other people.

You are currently experiencing a period of transition. It is natural to want to find a balance between focusing on others and focusing on yourself.

I believe you are already considering this and searching for a balance, gently swaying back and forth. Eventually, you will find a balance that will bring you a greater sense of comfort and stability.

It would be helpful to consider that your attention to others shows that you care about them and that you will consider their feelings and thoughts, which allows for interpersonal interaction. This is a relatively positive state, but it seems that you feel that you are overly concerned about others, which may be something to reflect on.

And when you say you'll show your weaknesses or smile, it also shows that you're not being entirely natural. It seems to be a bit of a component of pleasing others, either through fear or through trying to please.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider why we do this and what the deeper reason behind this behavior might be. Could it be that our interactions with our parents have been transferred to our relationships with others?

Could I suggest that we consider why we show our weaknesses and smile? It may be that deep down, we are afraid of not being recognized by others and of being abandoned. So we seek emotional connection and a sense of security and stability through behavior and attention.

Secondly, it may be helpful to consider paying attention to ourselves as well. When we are trying to please others, it can be beneficial to be aware of whether we can please ourselves and to pay some attention to ourselves. On the one hand, we are interested in others.

It would be beneficial to express our attention and care, while also keeping an eye on ourselves, paying attention to our inner changes and future developments. Perhaps we could become more natural in our interactions with others by paying more attention to our feelings and thoughts. Is it really necessary to show a fake or disguised self when we could simply get along with others using our true selves?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what we are afraid of and why. Is there a way we could let it go?

It is possible that there is a deep psychological factor behind every behavior, and that this factor is sometimes related to experiences from childhood. It may be the case that from a certain point in time or with a certain event, we began to have problems with other people's interactions. Could I ask you where this is?

Perhaps we could consider where the point of difficulty lies? It might be helpful to reflect on what happened at the time, and how our current thoughts and perceptions may be influencing this feeling.

Thank you for asking. I appreciate your interest and support.

Hello, this is related to your family of origin.

To solve this problem, you need to be self-aware. You said you unconsciously focus on other people in your environment, and that when you do, you feel uneasy and even out of control. Being out of control basically means giving your own response based on the reaction of others.

This is a conditioned reflexive response. How do you perceive it? When you encounter this situation, record it, including your emotions, feelings, thoughts, and ideas. Record them all. For example, if you feel uneasy when you pay attention to other people, what are you thinking when you feel uneasy? What is the thought in your mind? A lot of human behavior is prompted by the subconscious mind. We have to explore the deeper thoughts in our own minds. This thought is the source that prompts your current behavior. You can only solve the fundamental problem once you find this thought.

You also said that as long as you agree with and look up to others, you can exist. This shows that you've thought about your subconscious behavior, but you can't solve it yourself.

I'd like to suggest two possible directions. The first is to decentralize. If it were your friend or a relative in the same situation as you, what would they do and why? Ask yourself this question.

At this point, you've focused your attention on self-reflection, and you've identified a key anchor point. Now, do the second one, asking yourself in reverse.

If you don't see eye to eye with others and look up to them, how do you feel? What's the inner voice that makes you do this? Write it down slowly.

So, here's the key: When did you first feel this way? When did you first hear this inner voice? And what were some similar feelings when you were a child? If you follow this method, you can find the source of the problem. This kind of reflection and exploration can help you perceive and understand the source of your problems, just like acupuncture puncturing the stuck points.

Our thoughts and actions are connected. We can change how we think and then change how we act.

Most people's behavior is caused by things they don't even realize, and those things are mainly shaped by what happened to them when they were young. Give it a try and you'll see how much it helps.

Your words show anxiety, lack of confidence, and uncertainty. There is a strong sense of insecurity. I think it may be from your upbringing and communication with your parents. Not being seen or paid attention to and worrying about external evaluations have formed a sensitive and cautious personality. You may seem unconcerned, but deep down, you are still unstable.

The first step is to be aware. We all have our own feelings, and it's important to be aware of them.

The second step is to express your feelings in words without judgment.

The third is to observe. In our work or social interactions, it's important to establish relationships with others. People have different personalities. After observing, we adapt and experience our emotions. There is no right or wrong, and we accept all our emotional experiences.

Understand yourself: Who am I? What do I want? What can I do?

Be kind to yourself. Think about things. If you're confused, you can also ask a professional for help. Use Maslow's theory to build a strong foundation. Meet your basic needs, seek security, maintain self-esteem, and learn to love and be loved. You will feel good about yourself!

Greetings.

It is evident from your written words that you are experiencing distress. It is possible that these difficulties have been present for some time, even before you began to express them in writing.

1. The rationale behind the assertion that one should refrain from striking an individual who is smiling...

In addition, a relative shared his insights on the workplace, emphasizing the value of maintaining a positive demeanor. He suggested that displaying a cheerful disposition could prevent negative interactions.

He is a male individual.

In some cases, the act of pleasing men can result in positive outcomes in one's professional life.

Should a woman exhibit a proclivity for acquiescence, she may find herself losing her sense of self, becoming subservient and obsequious. This could result in a situation akin to that depicted in the feudalistic Dream of the Red Chamber.

(One of the meanings of "A Dream of Red Mansions" is to call for new customs and to satirize feudalism.)

The phrase "I'm examining my own bad points and elevating the other person" elucidates the concept of winning the approval of one's social circle.

Furthermore, you have experienced an increasing sense of discomfort and unease.

In light of this, I am now in a position to consider your question: "If you want to laugh, don't hit someone who is smiling." This sentence has influenced me, and I am now in a position to conclude that I do not have to follow it in the future.

For women who have not received adequate parental support during their formative years, it is of the utmost importance to smile from within. It is not the intention to smile in order to avoid criticism and rejection from others.

As a result of their own personal development stage and the influence of their parents, who have employed verbal and non-verbal communication that is rejecting in nature.

1. They exhibit personal growth issues

2. They have not undergone an adequate process of emotional healing.

3. They adhere to inflexible and traditional feudalistic beliefs.

The responsibility for these circumstances does not lie with the child.

The responsibility for these circumstances does not lie with the child.

The responsibility for this situation does not lie with the child.

2. With regard to emotional outbursts

2. The topic of emotional outbursts

The aforementioned concern indicates that the subject is already aware of the issue.

Subsequently, individuals learn to manage their emotions rather than seeking validation from external sources.

Haste makes waste.

Despite the perception of constant failure, it is imperative to cultivate self-love and appreciation for life and nature.

It was recognized that during childhood, there was a complete inability to have one's needs met, which resulted in feelings of panic and disorganization.

It can be discerned that during one's formative years, there was a lack of satisfaction when expressing one's needs, which subsequently resulted in feelings of distress and a lack of organization.

An understanding of the underlying causes of emotional outbursts can facilitate the gradual reduction of feelings of helplessness and excessive narcissism.

It is imperative to extricate oneself from the confines of emotional self-blame and the constraints of causal limitations.

3. It is important to be true to oneself.

I have been engaged in the role of respondent for a period of one year. In October of this year (2022), I was conferred the title of telephone listener.

I have created an e-business card for the purpose of providing information about my services as a telephone listener.

Following its publication on WeChat Moments, the item in question was met with a high level of approval from my social circle.

Concurrently, I have been inspired.

How might one express respect for life and appreciation for freedom to every caller encountered in the future?

The listening message has been modified from "Let us gain trust and courage in the soothing emotions" to "Where the clouds cross the Qinling Mountains, my home is there. This is the place where my heart belongs. You can see the distant mountains smiling as the water flows on forever."

In conclusion, it is evident that the aforementioned message has undergone a transformation.

It is essential to be true to oneself.

You previously indicated your intention to perform music in a public setting. I believe this is an excellent approach.

Furthermore, the Earth itself would benefit from the auditory stimulation of music from a multitude of geographical regions.

Therefore, as self-aware human beings, we expand our freedom within the constraints of our environment.

Freedom remains a highly desirable and worthwhile objective.

Embracing one's authentic self is a means of avoiding the numbness and exhaustion that can result from a lack of authenticity. The idea of "new every day, if not more" is worthy of consideration.

It is unclear whether it is possible to obtain a phone listening order that meets the assessment criteria and pass the three-month assessment, even after modifying the listening message in the listening instructor introduction column.

However, it is also important to acknowledge the progress made and the changes that have occurred. It is beneficial to provide oneself with a positive reinforcement in the form of a pleasant meal.

Let us make a commitment to one another: regardless of the circumstances, I will return to this place at the beginning of next year to share the results of my assessment.

It is imperative that we continually strive to reawaken and reinforce our fundamental principles and initial intentions.

The listening master, Qin Ling, extended her hand to grasp the paws of the family's three cats and offered them a greeting as she spoke.

The emotions are heard in Qin, while the stories are heard in Ling.

One might inquire as to the location of one's place of origin when the Qinling Mountains obstruct the view of the horizon. This individual's identity is inextricably linked to the region from which they originate. The distant mountains appear to smile as the water flows onward, seemingly without end.

Greetings!

After reading your description, my initial impression is that the individual in question is someone who is highly attuned to the feelings of others and who may, as a result, tend to "bury" their own feelings.

The aforementioned care does not pertain to the capacity to safeguard others.

In contrast, I perceive a need for protection.

In order to avoid being violated by others, one must relinquish one's own strength.

Let us examine this matter in greater detail.

I will unconsciously direct my attention toward others in my environment. However, I have come to recognize that when I do so, I experience a sense of unease and a loss of control.

The term "out of control" can be understood to signify the act of responding to external stimuli based on the reactions of others.

It is a relatively simple and agreeable process to refrain from questioning the underlying motives of others. As long as one aligns with the opinions and values of those around them, they can maintain their own existence. I will unconsciously pay attention to others in the environment with my mind.

This passage can be understood in a straightforward manner as follows:

1. Prioritize the external environment, respond to the reactions of others, and experience discomfort and a loss of control.

2. The only methods by which an individual may feel as though they can survive are to ignore their own needs and feelings, to blindly attempt to please others, to conform to the crowd, and to cling to others.

The aforementioned situation may be attributed to one's upbringing.

The landlord may have been raised in a manner that is particularly strict, and tenants are expected to adhere to the landlord's wishes. Tenants must live their lives in accordance with the landlord's standards.

In such a situation, the only way to survive is to comply with the other person's expectations and agree with them.

Such an individual may evoke feelings of anxiety, fear, depression, a sense of being out of control, suffocation, grievance, and anger. In their presence, one may adopt a cautious and circumspect manner of living.

When this sentiment becomes deeply entrenched in one's psyche, it tends to manifest in one's interactions with all individuals encountered in life.

Even in the presence of individuals who are friendly and amiable, one may still experience feelings of nervousness and intimidation.

Furthermore, I am still uncertain as to how I should present myself in a natural and down-to-earth manner when interacting with others.

Frequently, upon encountering another individual, I involuntarily display a smile. Alternatively, I may engage in self-promotion, which can be perceived as a direct confrontation with those in my immediate vicinity. In this instance, I am simultaneously evaluating my own deficiencies and elevating the other person.

I posit that this is a sign of immaturity. It is imperative to express one's emotions openly.

The meaning of this passage is as follows:

1. An expression that is incongruous with the circumstances and the expectations of the audience.

2. It is recommended that one should smile at people habitually, even in the event of experiencing distress or fear, or when the other person is benevolent.

3. The host subscribes to the notion that concealing one's emotions is indicative of maturity.

An unnatural expression is indicative of a reluctance to display one's genuine emotions.

The host may be subconsciously motivated to conceal their emotional state, particularly if they are experiencing discomfort or frustration, for fear of becoming unpopular.

It can be argued that the only way to ensure the happiness of others is to display a welcoming demeanor, particularly through the use of a smile.

Maturity is not defined by the absence of emotional expression. The act of concealing one's emotions can, in fact, be a form of repression.

Indeed, one's emotions are a private matter and can be expressed in a manner that is deemed appropriate.

For example, verbal expression or normal, polite interaction without the need to cater to others.

In addition, it would be beneficial to gain insight into the concept of being immersed and natural in one's own self. Based on personal experience, it can be observed that the act of being oneself can potentially lead to behaviors that are perceived as self-absorbed and intrusive by others.

For example, this could include activities such as listening to audio files, engaging in self-talk, or interacting with pets in a relaxed manner.

What is the extent to which one can be oneself? Does one's sense of self remain intact when one is being oneself?

How might an individual with an inclination towards performance and a desire for attention achieve a balance between these two aspects of their identity?

The original poster's intent is to convey the following:

1. From my own experience, emotional exposure can affect others and make them uncomfortable. I am interested in learning more about what it is like to be at one with one's mind and body.

2. What are the means of providing care for others while maintaining one's own identity?

3. What is the most effective method for garnering attention without resorting to performance-based tactics?

Additionally, the original poster asserted that emotional expressiveness can evoke discomfort in others, a perspective shaped by their personal history.

It would be erroneous to assume that past experience is necessarily applicable in the present, or indeed that it has universal applicability.

Given that one is interacting with a different individual, it is not feasible to rely solely on one's past experiences as the sole reference point.

To achieve a state of mind-body unity and full immersion, it is essential to focus on one's own feelings and utilize them as a guiding principle.

One can only be expected to care for others when one has first ensured one's own well-being.

The ability to be oneself while simultaneously attending to the needs of others represents a fundamental aspect of social experience.

The principles of social ethics, the legal and regulatory framework, and the fundamental tenets of interpersonal relationships are widely accepted.

In the event of uncertainty regarding the optimal level, it is advisable to solicit feedback from others.

For example, when the audio is playing, one can inquire of the individuals in one's vicinity whether the volume is a source of disturbance. Additionally, one might inquire as to the volume level itself.

Should the audio prove disruptive to others, it is recommended that headphones be utilized.

For example, when engaging in self-talk, it is advisable to observe the content of the discourse and the duration of the monologue.

The content of one's speech is unlikely to cause harm, has a relatively short duration, and is unlikely to have a significant impact on others.

Should one be unable to resolve a problem by engaging in self-reflection, one may solicit or request the assistance of another individual to engage in discourse on the matter. In the event that another person is present, they will not be unduly disturbed.

It can be argued that relaxed interaction with pets is not something that will affect others, but rather represents a form of self-healing.

It can be reasonably assumed that others will perceive you as caring when they observe you interacting and conversing with your pets in a relaxed manner.

In conclusion, it is essential to recognize that one's individuality is of paramount importance.

In your current location, you will not impede the progress of others.

It is not within the power of others to infringe upon one's autonomy, as they are not responsible for every aspect of one's identity. Consequently, they cannot reasonably demand excessive levels of compliance from an individual.

It is imperative to liberate oneself from the constraints that bind one's mind and spirit. One deserves the freedom to pursue one's own path and realize one's potential.

The aforementioned points are to be considered.

My name is Yan Guilai, and I am a practicing psychologist. I extend my best wishes to you.