If I do a side business, my energy expenditure will be lower, but if I don't do a side business, I won't have enough money to spend. What should I do?

Dear host, You seem motivated. From your previous description, I can see that you said the word "compelled," which shows that you're rejecting it.

The host is under pressure. What does "want to make money" mean to the host? Does the host think it means a lack of money and a financial crisis?

Focus on your breathing. Think about these three words.

If you can change your mind, it may help.

The host has done a lot to cope with difficult situations. I admire the host for her growth.

You have already thought of using your own media to increase your income, so this will not affect you.

I'd like to ask for the host's self-media account number. I'm also doing it, but I get almost no income. I hope to learn from you.

The main problem for the original poster is not money, but not wanting to do a side business. The more resistance, the more it affects thoughts. I hope the original poster finds ideas from the source and changes beliefs.

I believe everything will be fine! Good luck!

Hello, I can relate to your situation. I recently took a course to get a qualification in the hope of earning more. I also had similar confusion and pressure. But I have gradually come out of it. I would like to share some of my experiences in the hope that they can help you.

First, I understand you're confused about:

1. Your main job income is not enough, but you keep working because you value it.

2. Your side business can make money, but it may take up too much of your spare time.

3. You're worried your boss will question your performance at work because you've spent too much time on your second job. You're afraid of losing your job.

Many young urbanites are unhappy with their main job and want more money. They get a second job, but it's exhausting. They may earn more, but it's still a burden.

I have some suggestions that I hope will help you.

1. Write down why you want your main job. This will help you believe in yourself and work better.

2. Part-time work can temporarily slow down the pace. If you can earn 2,000 yuan by working 15 days, but you feel the pressure is too great, you can try working 13 days and taking 2 days off to relax. If you earn 200 to 300 yuan more but it increases your mental burden, it's not worth it. But earning 200 to 300 yuan less can make you feel more relaxed and happy, which is more beneficial to you in the long run.

3. Talk to your family and friends to feel better. Don't be alone. Learn to trust others and feel better by talking to them. You can also talk to the professionals on this platform.

4. You can continue to meditate and accept your negative emotions. Emotions are not right or wrong; they are the body's way of telling you to pay attention to something, such as your low energy. Our traditional education has led us to misunderstand that negative emotions are bad. Now, let's learn to accept them. Secondly, you can add deep breathing exercises. When you notice your negative emotions coming, touch your abdomen to relax your body, breathe slowly, and let yourself calm down. This is an exercise method for the emotional muscles. Through such exercises, our emotional muscles gradually become stronger, our negative emotions stay for a shorter time, and we can face greater challenges.

5. Don't rush your exercise. It's a slow process of improvement. If you find that negative emotions overwhelm you, it is recommended that you seek professional counseling.

It's not that you have a mental illness. You need a counselor to help you change your beliefs and get out of your emotional predicament. Treating a mental illness with a psychiatrist is a different concept. Online counseling is not expensive.

I hope this helps. Let's do our best!

Hello, young lady. I can see the confusion you are facing right now, and I'm going to help you.

You are currently experiencing some problems in your career. Let me give you a warm hug again.

Your side job is writing for a WeChat account.

You don't have enough money.

How is that not enough?

You should stop buying your mother snacks every day.

Absolutely. It's great to have money to buy your mother snacks. It shows you're very filial.

You don't have to buy her snacks every day.

Just three to four times a week, max.

I am certain that your mother will not be upset if you skip buying her snacks once or twice.

Otherwise, having a side business will affect your main business, which is a very bad idea.

You can easily plan in your mind how much money you will spend on snacks for your mother each time, and how many times you will buy them a week.

I will write more about Toutiao's self-media when I have more time. Then I will buy my mother more snacks.

You can adjust your spending according to your income if buying snacks for your mother is not a priority.

I am confident that the problem you are facing will be resolved soon.

That's all I can think of right now.

I am the answer, and I study hard every day. I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you, girl.

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you. Best wishes!

Hello, and thank you so much for your question! I'm a listener at One Psychology, and I'm happy to help.

The first thing you need to do is find a side job to earn some money. This is one source of income, and then your main job is another source of income. It feels so good to have money! You can buy delicious food you want and nice things for your family. You can also save some money for future savings and future investments.

In short, making money is a happy thing!

It's totally normal to have a side business! It's a great idea to have a side hustle, but the most important thing is to make sure you're doing something you enjoy. The problem we often run into isn't whether or not to have a side business, but whether the one you're doing is something you're happy with and won't affect your main job.

If this side business isn't really your thing, have you thought about switching to something that makes you happier? It's so important to remember that your state of mind is affected by what you do, and if you're not happy, it's not going to be good for you.

Wouldn't it be great to find a side job that can earn you 100 a day and is more enjoyable? Who knows, maybe the side job will become your main job one day and earn you even more!

It's so important to remember that work is still a matter of whether you are happy or not. As long as you work a little harder, you can make money. The key is whether you are happy at work, which is a matter of discussion and concern. If a job makes you happy, sometimes it seems acceptable to earn a little less, and it seems that you will be happier.

Take a moment to think about how you feel when you're doing this side business. If it's good, then just adjust your schedule. If you don't feel good, don't worry! There are so many other side businesses you can try. There are so many kinds of side businesses out there.

I really believe it would be better for you to have both a main and a side business because we all need a change of pace sometimes. Having a lot of money makes you feel more at ease and comfortable. My advice to you is that you can try to save a little bit. If you have savings, you may not feel so anxious and stressed. So save some money every month, if you have more, save a little more, if you have less, save a little less. Having savings is a more stable and reassuring feeling.

Absolutely! You can absolutely do both the main business and the side business really well. Sometimes the side business will also help the main business, make the main business work even harder, or help the main business do better. This is what a good side business should be. I love you, the world, and I'm here for you.

Hello, host. I am confident that my answer will be of some help to you.

First of all, I want to say that you are really great. Not only do you do your own work, but you also make money to support your family through your own media. You have done your best and are already very, very good. The reason why you feel bad and your energy is low is that we have recently expended too much energy. In fact, our energy is limited and not inexhaustible. We are always expending it without replenishing it, so naturally we feel low in energy.

You said you meditate every morning and evening to regulate your mood, which is excellent. You can continue to persevere, but if you want to maintain the same level of performance as before when you did not have a side business, you need to learn how to manage your energy effectively.

It's time to face facts. Everything that requires our control consumes our energy. Your day job, controlling your emotions, and now writing articles on social media all require energy. And our daily energy is limited. When we want to control more things, it consumes more willpower, and we become more and more tired.

So, what should we do?

I advise you to:

Let go of the unnecessary ties that bind you to a situation you cannot change.

For example, due to the pandemic, the company has adjusted its work mechanism and our wages have been reduced. This is difficult to change, of course, but you have done a good job of finding other ways and means to protect your income. Now that we have found a relatively appropriate way, we need to stop worrying. When we are doing one thing and worrying about whether to do it, internal conflict will arise.

Do it. Insist on doing it decisively. Don't do it. Choose to give up. Be brave enough to bear the consequences of that choice. You'll reduce a lot of internal friction. You'll reduce a lot of the consumption of our energy. You'll be able to use our energy on other more important things.

I believe that, given the current circumstances, it is essential to embrace a more determined approach to generating income from a side business. While maintaining excellence in our primary role, we should also pursue other opportunities. The company's expectation is clear: we must excel in our primary role and then utilize the extra time freely. However, it is crucial to maintain a balanced state, be aware of our own needs, and make necessary adjustments.

2. Develop good habits and use the power of habit to reduce the consumption of willpower.

As I said earlier, willpower is used up because we are controlling something. But if an action becomes a habit, we don't need to control it anymore. This means there will be no excessive consumption of willpower.

For example, brushing our teeth and washing our faces every day is a routine we've come to accept. These habits can be completed without our having to control them. You can apply the same approach to other tasks you need to get done. Once these habits are formed, you'll complete the tasks without realizing it, while not expending too much energy.

I have made a commitment to myself to listen to a book while grooming every day. I have been doing this for 1097 days, and it has become a habit for me, like washing my face and brushing my teeth. When I first started answering questions on our platform, I took a whole day to answer each one. I also had to work hard to meet the standards of essence. However, I persisted, and now I have answered 765 questions. This has become a habit in my life, and it has made a positive impact on my energy levels.

3. Replenish your energy at the right time.

Meditation is an excellent way to recharge, but it may not have an immediate effect and requires perseverance. In addition, getting enough sleep and doing some exercise are good ways to recharge, but if you don't have the time to sleep and exercise during the day, here's a way to recharge at any time: do something you like and get in the flow.

When you do something you like, you can reach a state of ecstasy. You become absorbed in what you are doing and forget about time. This is the state of flow. People in the state of flow feel a sense of achievement and pleasure. They are rejuvenated.

I'll give you a few examples from my own life. I don't like doing the housework, but while I'm doing it, I listen to psychology courses. When I'm absorbed in psychology, I feel a strong sense of pleasure and accomplishment, and I forget about the drudgery of housework. Sometimes I watch an hour of variety shows at lunchtime. After laughing a lot, I shake off the tiredness and happily get back to work in the afternoon. Sometimes I read a few pages of my favorite book, and I always come across a few sentences that resonate with me, which rekindle my inner enthusiasm.

The epidemic will pass, and life will get better and better. Let's cheer together!

I am confident that the above information will be helpful. Best wishes!

Hello!

Pat my shoulder and take a deep breath. I'm really struggling with the side business. I feel mentally anxious, have difficulty concentrating, and my work has been affected. I'm starting to worry about being questioned by my leader about my work ability, and I'm afraid of being rejected. A series of worries have arisen, and I want to regulate my emotions, but I don't know how to do it. Is that right?

I've noticed that as soon as I start a side business, my energy levels start to dwindle. Could this be the reason for my poor work performance?

We all need energy to live our lives to the fullest! It comes from having sufficient mental resources and being in good physical and mental health. We all have 24 hours of disposable time each day. After deducting normal sleeping hours, most people have 16 hours of disposable time. Working hours are 8 hours, so the remaining 8 hours are our personal disposable time. Two hours of this is fragmented time used up by life's necessities, leaving only 6 hours of real disposable time. During this time, we need to replenish our energy while also digesting the negative energy generated during the day.

It's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed when you finish your main job and then jump into a side business. It's like you're entering a "working state" again, which requires continued expenditure of mental resources. If the side job doesn't require too much energy, you might not notice the impact, but the more content that requires output and the creation of more energy value, the greater the expenditure of energy and mental resources. It's like you're burning the midnight oil! And the more supplementary energy and mental energy you need to recover.

It's so important for kids to play and relax after school. It helps them recharge their energy for the next day. But, often, kids still have to face a second "catch-up" lesson after school. This usually lasts at least an hour and up to three hours! Then, they really get home from school at 9 or 10 o'clock. But, they still can't rest. They have to finish their homework before they can go to bed. This means they don't have time to relax at all. When they go to school the next day, they feel unwell and find it difficult to concentrate.

Let's think about the typical day for a woman. She gets up at 5 or 6 to make breakfast for her child and send him off to school. She goes to work at 8 and gets home at 5. She picks up her child, but there's still so much to do! She needs to clean the house, do the housework, then cook dinner in the kitchen, and tutor her child in his studies. It's only at 9 that she has some time for herself. With such a high workload in a day, if she doesn't get a good buffer, her mental strength will be weak, and she'll give the impression of being unmotivated and very tired.

If you're feeling down, it might be because you're losing too much energy. But there's another reason why you might be feeling mentally drained: you don't get enough positive feedback at work. When you feel appreciated and see the value of your achievements, it makes you feel good about yourself. But if you don't get that positive energy from your work, you might feel tired and burned out.

I used to have a Toutiao We Media account, but I got too busy at work to write. I started writing again when I had some free time at home on my days off, and it's been going well! I've been writing for 10 days now and I'm making more than 100 yuan a day. If I average it out over 15 days, I can make 2,000 yuan a month! I've been able to buy my mom snacks after work, which is really nice. My family is so supportive. It's great to have this extra income, but it does affect my state of mind. I'm not able to explain things at work clearly, and my leader is questioning me. I'm afraid I'll lose my job, but if I don't do a side business, I won't have enough money. I don't know what to do!

It seems like the side business is something the questioner is pursuing with the main goal of making money. It's great that there's a need and that the questioner is persistent in trying to make it work! However, it does require a lot of energy to complete the work. Sometimes, it can also become a bit of a stressor after work because not doing it means that this part of the need cannot be met, and the financial pressure on life will increase. It's a tough spot to be in, and it's understandable that the feeling of constant freedom and ease of mind is lost.

It's totally normal to feel afraid of being questioned by your boss or losing your job. After all, the working environment during the pandemic has been pretty stressful. Work has become a huge part of our lives, and it's only natural to worry about losing a job that's hard to maintain or feeling threatened in general. It's okay to feel anxious or nervous sometimes! In an uncertain world, we all crave stability. That's why it's so important to prioritize your own sense of security.

I just wanted to share a little bit of advice with you.

It's totally normal to feel a bit scared or overwhelmed when you're facing a lot of pressure. It's like your body is sending you a little warning signal to take a step back and breathe. And it's okay to feel that way! Life is full of uncertainty, and it's natural to feel a little uncertain in an unfamiliar situation. But here's the good news: you can learn to handle pressure and thrive in any environment. So, let's talk about how you can stay calm, confident, and in control when you're facing challenges. It's all about developing your inner independence and creativity. When you're feeling uncertain, it's easy to get caught up in the chaos and lose sight of your goals. But when you start to help yourself and face your fears, you'll start to see your ability to handle problems and overcome obstacles. This is the inspiration that life brings! Now, let's talk about how you can use this inspiration to your advantage. Have you ever thought about starting a side business? It's a great way to boost your competitive strength. But remember, it's important to focus on your core strengths. Determine which work you truly want to devote yourself to wholeheartedly. This will help you stay energized and focused, and it'll make you a more competitive candidate in the long run. So, don't be afraid to take the leap! You've got this.

I'm sending you all the good luck in the world and I know you've got this!

Hello, I am Meng Xiaoxiao, a student at YI Consulting. I am pleased to meet you on this platform.

I can see that you are facing existential pressures and a crisis of financial expenditure. I understand that you are feeling helpless at the moment, and I empathize with your situation. You have worked hard during this time! You deserve a warm hug.

We will now explore possible solutions to address your concerns.

This disaster came out of nowhere and caught us all off guard. To prevent the spread of the virus, many companies and businesses have had to shut down. Many people are facing a crisis, and the general environment has become anxious and unsettled. I believe that what you really want is a stable life.

Who stole your energy?

You need to find a side job to relieve your current pressure to survive. You are tired, but you cannot muster the energy to juggle your main job and a side job. This is because you feel deprived. You are worried about your future and want more resources to balance your anxiety. However, you cannot work around the clock.

If you're tired, take a break and relax.

Meditation is an effective way to heal yourself. I strongly support this method of regulation. Meditation can help you clear your mind of negative thoughts and deepen your self-awareness. When practiced effectively, meditation can bring a renewed sense of ease.

After a comprehensive assessment, it is clear that your depressed state is a stress reaction caused by external stimuli. If this state continues to worsen, or if you experience a spontaneous sense of worthlessness and meaninglessness, you need to be alert to your psychological abnormalities. If you are not confident, you can take time out to go to the hospital for an assessment of mental disorders to rule out the possibility of a mental illness.

You can do this! It is already very difficult to keep your job in such a difficult situation during the epidemic, but you are still able to receive your basic salary and you are able to do a side business with your own abilities. Believe in your own strength and you will safely get through this low period!

I am certain that my words will bring you support and warmth.

Hello!

I feel that the questioner has a sense of guilt, as if by starting a side business, they are letting down their salary job. But there's no need to feel that way!

You clearly wrote about the many reasons for starting a side business, including the different income, how it allows you to take care of your family after making money, and getting better feedback.

Behind these positive value experiences, there seems to be a voice saying, "You must list enough reasons to justify this 'betrayal'—and you can do it!"

The word "betrayal" here is in quotation marks because we've set a lock and knot in our hearts, requiring us to be loyal to our salaried work.

It sounds like you can achieve the state of flow when you have a side business! The better that state is, the more you'll feel excited about your wage-earning job.

I absolutely believe that the most worthwhile loyalty for a person is to be in a state of "flow."

In the market, more and more young people are now working a side job, which is great to see!

This is a great sign that society is becoming more open to the idea of having multiple sources of income! It's likely that social acceptance will continue to grow in line with this trend.

I'm thrilled to see people realizing their personal value through side businesses!

This is also a kind of potential that has been stimulated during the epidemic, and it's an amazing thing!

Rationally allocating time well is a wonderful thing! It doesn't mean that you have wronged anything or anyone.

I'm Qin Ling, a certified psychology writer and listener, and I'm thrilled to greet you along with my three cats at home!