If you don't know how to properly solve a problem, how can you take care of both sides?

Good day, my name is June.

I have carefully read your text and can discern the dilemma and concerns you are experiencing as you grapple with the decision between home isolation and returning to school for quarantine.

Indeed, the answer is already present within your own consciousness. Your personal inclination is to maintain your own personal space and autonomy within the confines of your own home. Since you have already made this choice, the first step is to identify a way to make it a reality.

1. It would be advisable to inquire with the instructor as to the specific prevention and control measures that the school has in place.

2. Are home isolation and school isolation both optional? Alternatively, what circumstances would permit the choice of home isolation?

3. What are the obligations and responsibilities that must be fulfilled during the isolation period?

4. Collaborate with the school's administrative authorities.

If home isolation does not conflict with the school's prevention and control measures and the requisite obligations and responsibilities are fulfilled, it should be approved. What if it cannot be approved?

It is important to note that the school's management measures are not intended to target any individual, but rather to ensure fairness and responsibility to the larger population.

2. It is advisable to prepare the necessary supplies in advance to avoid any negative emotional consequences that may arise from a lack of supplies during the isolation period. This may include personal items, winter clothing, and food items that can be stored easily.

3. It is advisable to prepare mental nourishment to avoid feelings of boredom and emptiness. This may include books that the individual enjoys reading, electronic products, and so forth.

4. It is advisable to prepare indoor exercise equipment or clothing. Prolonged isolation in a small space can easily lead to depression, so it is important to engage in moderate exercise.

It is recommended that one prepare a yoga mat, yoga clothes, and exercise for at least 20-30 minutes every day. This can be done with or without a foundation in yoga. Software such as Keep can be downloaded to assist in following along with the exercises.

I extend my best wishes to you all. You are not alone.

Hello. I can see that you're facing a dilemma and some conflict. On the one hand, you want to continue taking online courses at home after the teaching qualification exam. On the other hand, you're not sure how to tell your tutor. You're worried that if you don't check in at the dorm at the weekend, your tutor will be unhappy and you'll offend him.

I can see that you're hoping there's a way to find a solution that works for everyone. I can also see that you're feeling anxious and restless. It seems like you're dealing with a typical avoidant conflict, caused by specific events. Once the events are resolved, I think the anxiety will go away.

I can see that you're a thoughtful person who wants to do what's best for you and follow the school rules to make your advisor happy.

To help you feel less stressed, I'd like to look at the pros and cons of the two options, your coping strategies and the risks you'll need to weigh up. You can write them down and think them through.

I can see that you've already expressed your true wishes. You said you don't want to go back so soon, that going back to the locked school is very depressing, and that if going back to the locked school is bad for your recovery, it would be better for you to stay at home. You can respect your own feelings and make choices that are good for your health because your physical and mental health is the most important thing.

I get that you're worried your instructor will be offended if you're not there for his rounds. From what you've said, he seems like a reasonable person. He's also a former student, and he knows the school closure has made everyone feel depressed, so he told you to stay home after your medical appointment and go back to school when it's unblocked.

Your health is more important than school discipline. I think your advisor understands this, which is why he said to wait until you are unblocked before returning to school.

If you're worried you won't be able to communicate with the other party and you're feeling anxious about being investigated, I suggest you take the initiative to report your situation to the instructor, tell him your repressed thoughts and feelings about returning to school, make your request, and try to gain the other party's understanding.

You can write down what you want to say on paper, make a draft, read it to yourself first, and rehearse it. This can help you feel more relaxed. Think about what could go wrong. Then think about what could go right. What do you think is the most likely outcome? The person asking the questions can write all of this down.

I hope you'll learn some great communication skills. I'd highly recommend the book "Nonviolent Communication" to help you learn to express your own feelings and needs.

I'm a heart exploration coach. I'm here to help. If you need to continue communicating with me, please click "Find a Coach" below to ask a question and chat. I hope you can get rid of your distress soon. Good luck!

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling a bit torn and confused, which is totally normal!

It sounds like you're feeling a bit torn and confused, which is totally normal!

Taking online classes from home is really quite wonderful. You get to arrange your own schedule, eat whatever you want, and choose to do other activities after taking online classes. You can stay at home if you want, or go out if you want. It's very liberating and there are a lot more choices.

I know the word "lockdown" can sound pretty depressing. We just lifted the lockdown today, after a week of self-isolation at home.

I could tell you were really happy when you heard the news about the lockdown being lifted.

During non-pandemic times, living in a dormitory already has a lot of restrictions. The schedule, study time, meal times, and activity times are all arranged by the school, which can sometimes feel a bit restrictive.

As a student, you just have to follow the school's rules. Some of them you might like, and some you might not. If you don't like them, it's only natural to feel a bit rebellious and suppressed.

I can really sense how much you're longing for this freedom. I can also tell that you're a very responsible person. You feel that you should check with your mentor to see if you need to go back to school, and I completely understand why.

After all, the school has its own rules and regulations, and the instructor also has his job responsibilities here. You know that you actually have to do it, and I know you'll do a great job!

I can see you're feeling torn between the freedom and the lack of freedom. It's a tough choice, isn't it?

Maybe we can try looking at it from a different angle. At this stage, our main goal is to learn and grow our knowledge, to prepare for and lay the foundation for life after university. So, if we spend a long time taking online courses at home and going to school to learn and participate in activities, which is more helpful for our future development?

Let's try to let go of this momentary dilemma and look a little further ahead. I'm sure you'll think differently and make different choices if you do!

Our current dilemma is just a tiny part of the big, exciting decisions we'll make in the future! For example, should we work or stay at home?

Have you thought about whether you want to have children or not? Have you considered whether you want to start a family or not?

And so on and so forth, there will be a lot for us to think about, decide on, and make compromises. None of them are absolutely free; each has its advantages and disadvantages, and we need to find a balance and make compromises.

I really hope my thoughts are helpful to you!

After reading your account, I feel that you are in a difficult situation. You don't want to go back to school because it will feel like being locked up, and you will feel very oppressed and have no freedom.

However, you are worried that if you don't go back to school, the instructor will remind you to return to school, and you are worried that the school will find out and you will be criticized. Your situation is indeed quite difficult, but you can get through it!

You were already absent from school due to illness, and being sick already made you feel bad. The pandemic lockdown made it even more unbearable. You don't want to go back to school and be under lockdown, and that's understandable. But, there are so many other options!

You don't want to be criticized when checking in, but you also want to be free. This is a classic dichotomous conflict, where you're faced with two choices and want both! But in reality, you can only choose one. It's like the old saying, you can't have your cake and eat it.

You've already made your choice and you're ready to stay home! Now it's time to figure out the best way to tell your instructor.

In fact, when we solve problems, facing our own sincere inner expression is a great way to go about it!

When you first got out, your advisor said to wait until the school was unblocked before coming back. Now the situation outside is not optimistic, but there's still plenty to be excited about! Even if many students who have come out want to take the teacher qualification exam, the situation outside will not change substantially just because a lot of people have come out to take the exam. This is the reality, and it's a great opportunity to make the most of it!

When the big reality hasn't changed, the way to deal with problems will basically not change much. At this time, you can communicate with the instructor in advance and tell him your actual situation. I think Yuan Ye will make a rational judgment, which is great news!

You're worried that you might not tell him, and that the instructor might not remember you. But don't worry! You can just not go back to school. And even if you do tell him, and he remembers you, he might ask you to go back to school. But there's another possibility: since you've been outside for a while, it might not be safe to go back to school. So, as long as you can ensure your learning effectiveness, taking online classes is also fine!

Ultimately, your studies are your own, and you will have the chance to show off all you've learned by getting a diploma and finding a job. You've already made a decision, and I'm sure the instructor will respect your choice.

And you are out because you took leave to see a doctor. So is your health back to normal now? You only talked about the freedom of taking online classes at home and the oppression of being confined at school, but there's still the matter of your physical condition to consider.

If you've recovered but still have some lingering symptoms, your instructor will be happy to hear about it. And if you're still on the mend, your instructor will be right there with you, supporting you every step of the way!

I really hope this helps!