I'm 25 years old and I still haven't found anything I really like doing. It's hard.

Let's be there for the OP from afar.

My dear questioner,

It's so sad to see that the questioner has been taking advantage of himself since the third year of junior high school, which has led to depression. This has allowed him to avoid schoolwork, which continued into high school.

I've never even had the chance to go to college, and I've never really had the opportunity to plan my own lifestyle.

Even now, after experiencing the failure of working, there are still a lot of anxious emotions in my heart. I know how you feel! At this time, the questioner found that the current state of affairs really began to feel difficult.

We all have to live with the consequences of our choices, but we can also learn from them.

Every choice you make can change your destiny. It's possible that the choice you made at the time has already led to this result.

I just wanted to let you know that no matter what you choose, it is absolutely possible for you to live the life you want again.

First of all, the main thing you need to do is go back to being in high school. I don't mean going back to school, but experiencing again the process of choosing a major and studying hard. Think about what kind of life you want to lead, whether you can cultivate a career that allows you to live, and re-plan your career direction.

It's totally normal to have unfinished tasks from childhood when you grow up. We all have them!

And then, if you feel comfortable doing so, you can gently suggest that if the questioner feels that they can live like this and that it's okay to feel this way, then maybe it's all right.

Hello, question owner,

From what you've said, it seems like you've been taking it easy and not pushing yourself too hard since your illness. Now you're feeling a bit lost and frustrated because you realize you haven't been learning much. I can sense your frustration and anxiety, and I want to give you a hug from afar.

It's natural to feel lost and unsure when we're facing challenges. It often means we're on the brink of growth. We're confused and anxious, not knowing what to do. This is the moment we're looking for our goals. Take a moment to reflect. Do you subconsciously think you can't do anything, that you're not good enough, and so you give up on yourself, deny yourself, and doubt yourself? It's easy to fall into a vicious cycle.

It's pretty normal to experience this kind of state, but we just need to learn to adjust our mindset, find what we can learn from the confusion, and set our goals. Don't use being sick as an excuse. In your subconscious mind, tell yourself, "I can learn, I'm not worse than anyone else," and then carry out positive self-talk to show that you have confidence in yourself and boost your confidence.

If you want to learn something, you can't just imagine it. You have to take practical action. You're feeling overwhelmed by emotions right now. I think you should first adjust your mentality, become aware of the negative impact of your emotions, then reflect on what you can do and what you want to do.

We can use the internet to expand our knowledge and find simple jobs to get familiar with before moving on to more complex tasks. Every moment of our lives is a chance to learn, and learning is something we'll face throughout our careers.

If you walk down the street, you'll see that everyone is in a hurry, but in fact they are all on the road to learning. We just don't know it. When we are resting, while others are still studying, this is the gap between people. So now you should adjust your mentality, relax your mood, find a definite goal first, and then make a plan. Nothing is impossible to learn, as long as we are willing to learn with all our heart, willing to work hard and get out of the emotional whirlpool, then we will definitely succeed. Believe in yourself and come on.

I hope this helps.

Good day.

After reviewing your description, do you feel that your current situation is chaotic?

While the results may not have been immediately apparent, it is evident that you have made significant strides in your ability to approach life with a more relaxed attitude, allowing for greater flexibility in your actions. For someone who has experienced moderate depression, this is a notable and positive transformation.

You repeated the 9th grade, experienced moderate depression, and after entering high school, you did not prioritize academic pursuits, which proved beneficial for your overall well-being.

You demonstrated an ability to adapt to changing circumstances and avoided excessive pressure on yourself when your body and mind were not fully engaged.

Furthermore, your parents demonstrated understanding and support, which was a fortunate circumstance.

Your positive circumstances were not solely a result of external factors, but also a consequence of your own actions.

There is no need to regret or feel sorry about your own learning experience in junior high and high school.

Given the circumstances, you did an admirable job of providing a supportive environment and psychological assistance to facilitate your recovery.

Furthermore, you value the autonomy you exercised in completing the university application form, and the fact that your parents did not impose their preferences on you.

While you may have selected a school that did not meet your expectations, you now have the opportunity to chart your own course.

Subsequently, from internship to employment, it appears that you have consistently demonstrated an unwillingness to settle down.

What is the rationale behind this decision?

Are you dissatisfied with your current work situation?

Are you still uncertain about your career path?

Or is your physical and mental state not compatible with the demands of the job?

If you are not in an optimal mental or physical state and unable to maintain a position due to anxiety, it may be challenging to remain in any role for an extended period.

In this situation, the primary objective is psychological adjustment, which can be achieved by reducing stress and anxiety levels.

If you have been unable to maintain employment for an extended period and it is not a suitable fit for you, it is essential to identify your interests and clarify your career path.

If you can align your work with your interests, you will be more likely to persevere.

In practice, however, it may prove challenging. Many individuals pursue employment solely to sustain themselves and earn a livelihood, which can naturally lead to psychological pressure. As long as you do not exceed the limits of your abilities and become more familiar with the work, the pressure may subside.

You have indicated that you believe caution is necessary when seeking employment. Is this based on your experience?

Was your previous position not what you expected because you were not cautious and joined the company too hastily?

Provided you are not being misled and your dissatisfaction is not due to other factors, there is no cause for concern. Otherwise, your employment prospects may be limited, which could lead to increased anxiety.

After a few years out of school, many companies require applicants to have work experience and abilities gained through on-the-job training.

The knowledge gained in an academic setting is insufficient for navigating the complexities of the modern workplace.

After transitioning to a new industry, it is essential to gain a fundamental understanding of the field.

Therefore, there is no need to be concerned about your lack of work experience and abilities.

What is required now is determination and perseverance, which are closely related to one's state of mind.

It is important to allow yourself time to recuperate after an illness, but it is also essential to identify the underlying cause of your condition and implement a plan to address it effectively in order to manage the pressure you may face at work.

You may find it beneficial to use the time at home while on leave to address any anxiety or other psychological concerns. Once these issues have been resolved, it will be easier to focus on work.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

My name is Yan Guilai, and I am a licensed psychological counselor. Best regards,

Hello!

What were the author's feelings about being depressed?

You will feel ashamed and think you can't do things. Is there such self-suggestive language?

You didn't listen to your parents about school.

You can't accept this job because it's related to choosing a school.

There seem to be three stages in the subway work: walking out and walking in.

You haven't given up your career, but you can't accept it.

No mention of interpersonal difficulties, so work is going well.

The subway operation has been affected by the epidemic, but the job still needs you.

If you want to change industries, you can. The key is whether you're brave enough.

Your choices depend on how you see yourself. If you don't know who you are, you won't know what to do.

When you find yourself, you accept the past. Force it and you'll feel pressure. Give yourself time and space.

Not because of your parents, but because you want to.

Globalization is developing fast. The earth revolves, but so do we.

Our lives move at our own pace.

Mentalist, Zhihu, and Bilibili can absorb knowledge, but it can also create anxiety.

You must feel that learning is not a chore and be willing to do something about it every day. This could be getting to know nature, learning to bake a cake, or just looking at the sky and clouds and meditating. It's all a choice, not something forced on you.

We live hard under the sky.