I'm afraid of marriage and not sure if I want to get engaged next year. What should I do?

Hello, sister?

I'm an intern and a listener.

You remind me of myself. I had dreams of marrying for love and finding my Prince Charming.

[Don't get married just for the sake of it]

One netizen said, "There should be a marriage cooling-off period. If I had known marriage would be so painful and getting a divorce would be so troublesome, I would have thought twice before getting married."

Often, when we get married, we are just infatuated or we choose to live with our own agendas.

Many people enter marriage with high expectations but don't know how to manage it.

There is a book for those struggling with marriage. It's called "If Only I Knew Before Marriage."

1. Mutual love isn't enough for a happy marriage.

2. Romance comes in two steps.

3⃣ There's truth in "Like mother, like daughter" and "Like father, like son."

4. How to handle differences without arguing

5. Apologies are powerful.

Forgiveness is not a feeling.

7. The bathroom at home won't clean itself.

8. Spend Money Wisely

9. Sexual satisfaction isn't guaranteed for couples.

10. Marriage connects families.

11. Going to church doesn't mean you have faith.

1.2. You are what you do.

Apart from the initial love, marriage involves disagreements, arguments, and the influence of the original family. It also requires tolerance, understanding, and accommodation.

This book lists all kinds of "accidents" in marriage, as well as business philosophy for before and after marriage. After reading this book, you may feel less fear and more strength when deciding whether to marry him.

[Parents' wishes]

You're only 21 and want to get married early. I think parents worry about their children. They want their children to be happy and meet someone they can trust.

Parents may have ideas about their children's marriages. If you don't know what to do, ask your parents.

A happy marriage is one blessed by parents.

Good morning. My name is Gu Yi, and I am modest and down-to-earth, as I have always been.

What are the underlying causes of the apprehension surrounding the institution of marriage?

Individuals who are happy tend to have similar characteristics, whereas those who are unhappy often have their own unique set of issues. Many challenges in a relationship can be relatively straightforward and manageable. However, when it comes to marriage, two individuals with simple characteristics and a straightforward relationship will become two families with complex interconnections. This intricate network structure represents the most significant challenge in marriage.

The unfortunate or unhappy cases observed in marriages are primarily caused by immaturity and a lack of patience in navigating relationships within this network. This often results in the formation of relationships that are characterized by responsibility and unpleasantness. It is, therefore, crucial to distinguish between the fears associated with the challenges encountered after engagement and those pertaining to the act of marriage itself.

It is essential to identify the underlying fears that may be influencing your decision-making process. By understanding these fears, you can develop more effective strategies to address and overcome them. As the adage goes, "He who ties the bell must untie it." It is crucial to assess your trust in your partner, your perception of the strength of the relationship, and other factors in your daily lives. The most valuable guidance I can offer regarding the fear of marriage is to learn to manage it effectively.

It is important to consider the situation from a rational perspective.

The primary challenge for women in romantic relationships is that they either exhibit unwavering confidence in specific domains or allow external influences to influence their emotions. While relationships often flourish during the initial stages, commonly referred to as the "honeymoon period," they can also become strained as the realities of life take shape. It is not a reflection of a changing relationship foundation but rather a shift in external circumstances. Many individuals find it challenging to remain calm and actively listen to their partner's perspective. This could potentially explain why relationships may appear to deteriorate after two years in the absence of marriage.

In considering a relationship or marriage, it is essential to make a mature judgment. Given that one is still young and has limited social experience, it is not yet clear whether one has a well-defined career position. With a half-year remaining before next year's engagement, it is prudent to utilize this period to formulate small plans and become independent.

Marriage is a decision that should be made after a stable relationship when the couple wishes to take it to the next level. Therefore, during the course of a relationship, there is no need for undue nervousness or anxiety. The question of why people fall in love is a complex one. However, it can be argued that it is a process of getting used to each other's values. In the process of falling in love, one can discern whether there is a mutual understanding and compatibility between the two individuals. Once this understanding has been reached, the couple can then decide to get married, which will greatly reduce the cost of trial and error.

Consequently, the act of falling in love is contingent upon communication.

I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

From what the questioner says, it seems like they and their boyfriend have a good relationship. But, they're worried about what life will be like in the future marriage, which is making them feel anxious and fearful about marriage. There are lots of negative examples in reality, which are making the questioner feel pressured.

If you're dating someone who's older than you, it can be tough to think about your future life together. How can you manage your negative emotions and navigate your future marriage?

Here, give the questioner a little pat on the shoulder to show you're there for them. When talking to your current boyfriend, you can calmly, sincerely, and clearly state your feelings and talk about things that matter to you. Since the questioner asked the question on the platform, I'll also give the questioner some quick advice here:

Do your best to support each other.

Show your interest and support for your boyfriend's decision by responding clearly. Make eye contact with your boyfriend and nod your head to show you're listening and support him.

When he talks about something or asks you a question, don't respond with words like "hmm" or "it doesn't matter." Listen to what he has to say, ask a relevant question, tell him you support the decision he has made, or share something about yourself and ask him to support you as well.

Showing your interest and support, or your "bias" towards your boyfriend, is the foundation of maintaining a good relationship.

If your boyfriend brings up something emotionally charged, you can support him and help him through it. For example, if he says he had a fight with his boss, don't immediately dismiss him. Find out what happened and support him in his decision.

You could say something like, "That's awful! I feel so sorry that you're going through something like that."

"How can I help?"

Discuss your relationship or future plans.

The questioner can often discuss your relationship with your boyfriend or the vision of life after marriage and share your feelings about how things have progressed. Ask your boyfriend how your relationship has developed over time to get the conversation started.

Have some relationship discussions and future discussions: "What made you first think that we should start dating? What is the biggest change you've noticed in me since we started dating?"

"What are my strengths and weaknesses as a girlfriend? How can I improve?"

"What are your thoughts on our future together? What are your plans for the future?"

"I've been thinking about the future. Would you like to talk about it?"

Have a calm, objective discussion about your relationship with your boyfriend.

If your relationship with your boyfriend is facing some challenges, try to keep an objective and calm tone when discussing the relationship. It's important to remain open-minded and avoid getting emotional.

It's important to focus on building a stronger relationship, not attacking each other.

If she wants to tell her boyfriend that the engagement is bothering her, she can say, "Don't think I'm being picky. I care about you and our relationship, and I just want our relationship to be perfect."

"If you want to marry me, you'll have to wait until I'm ready."

It's important to face the emotional issues head on.

It might seem easier to let things take their natural course and avoid difficult topics. However, avoiding these issues will only make things worse.

Instead, take the time to talk through the issue. You could say, "I know you're upset about what happened the other day."

"I'd really appreciate it if we could find some time to talk."

Remember, avoiding these difficult issues will only make things slowly get worse and eventually destroy your relationship. Tell him, "I think we can have a calm and honest talk about our problems."

"Or, I need to talk to you about the engagement, and I hope you can keep an open mind."

Think about whether you're avoiding talking about your feelings. If so, try to figure out why and explain it to him.

Tell him, "I know I've been under a lot of pressure lately with the engagement. I've thought about why this is, and I think it's a defense mechanism."

"I've always been the type to think a lot, and I feel pressure and confusion about the future. I hope that couples can be honest with each other, and I hope you can discuss this with me patiently."

Be patient.

If you run into any issues, it's best to communicate in a patient and compassionate manner. The person asking the question should be understanding and try to convey their thoughts to their boyfriend.

If there's a conflict or a problem, stay calm and try to understand the other person. You could say, for example, "I don't want to put too much pressure on you."

I hope we can talk through this calmly and honestly, and I hope you can listen to me patiently.

"

Be open and honest about what you want to achieve.

When it comes to emotionally tricky topics, it's best to be open and honest. Whether you're looking to improve the relationship or tackle a problem head-on, it's important to be upfront and clear about your intentions.

For instance, you could say, "I'd like to discuss whether our relationship can last. Do you have any plans for our future married life?"

How can we maintain consistency in our married life? Are you ready to get married now?

Ask him, "Can we talk about the future of our marriage? I sometimes really feel neglected."

"Because I'm feeling a bit nervous about the future, I hope you can reassure me and give me confidence. I hope you can appreciate my feelings."

You're about to embark on married life. In a marriage, honest communication is key to a long-lasting relationship. Love, respect, and courtesy are essential for a happy married life.

Be honest with your loved one and show them you understand and appreciate them.

I hope this helps!

Greetings. I am a heart exploration coach. I will provide a supportive and empathetic presence as you share your emotional experiences.

It is evident that you are apprehensive about the prospect of marriage. The notion of assuming new responsibilities, whether related to starting a family, navigating social relationships, or taking on household chores, can evoke feelings of unease. The potential risks associated with marriage, such as financial obligations or the dissolution of the marriage, can also contribute to feelings of anxiety.

A warm embrace is a suitable initial gesture. There are numerous potential solutions to any given problem; let us consider the issues that are troubling you.

1. It is essential to gain an understanding of the nature of marriage in advance.

A marriage is a union of two individuals and two families. Each party brings patterns from their original families into their intimate relationships.

Consequently, an analysis of the boyfriend and the dynamics of the relationship can provide insights into the family dynamics of the boyfriend's parents. This includes the nature of the relationship between the parents, the extent to which the father exhibits traditional patriarchal attitudes, and the degree to which the mother holds a position of influence within the family.

Such behaviors can be observed in the manner in which the couple interacts with each other. For instance, if the male partner provides for the female partner financially, demonstrates care and affection, and invests significant time in their relationship, this may be indicative of a family-oriented and loving dynamic.

The book If Only I Knew Before We Got Married provides insight into the potential challenges that may arise after starting a family. It suggests that if these issues can be resolved before marriage through mutual understanding and agreement, it can lead to a more harmonious and fulfilling marital relationship.

In marriage, men and women have different needs. There are innate differences between the sexes with regard to the expression of love. Some are more inclined to express their affection through verbal displays, while others are more inclined to demonstrate their love through concrete actions.

The book The Five Love Languages provides a detailed explanation of this concept. It is recommended that couples select the method of expressing love that is most compatible with their individual preferences and the preferences of their partner. This approach is likely to result in mutual satisfaction and emotional nourishment.

Men desire appreciation, admiration, and adoration from women; women seek security, value, and care from men. If mutual respect is maintained, communication is enhanced, understanding is fostered, and growth is achieved together.

2. Experience the emotional state of anxiety and the underlying need that it serves to fulfill.

It can be argued that behind every emotion is an unmet need. This suggests that emotions are, in fact, giving us an important gift. In order to fully understand this concept, it is essential to "see" and "feel" the deeper emotions.

It is erroneous to conclude that fear is the root of the problem; rather, it is the fear of fear that is the underlying issue. The apprehension associated with marriage, to a certain extent, reflects an underlying insecurity about the institution of marriage and the transition to married life.

The feeling of security can be defined as the psychological need for stability and safety. It is characterized by a sense of confidence and safety, as well as freedom from fear and anxiety.

A sense of security may be defined as a feeling of foreboding about possible physical or psychological danger, as well as a feeling of strength or weakness in dealing with such situations.

This sentiment is frequently articulated as a sense of assurance or a perception of control.

Security may be enhanced in both external and internal realms.

In order to achieve external security, one must seek external sources of stability and safety. This can be achieved through material possessions and the affirmation and recognition of others. Internally, security can be found in one's own inner resources and strengths.

If one looks outside of oneself, one will inevitably encounter the pain of not getting what one wants. Once these external, material, and other people are removed, one will once again fall into a state of disappointment and despair.

One must look within and become rich within in order to achieve riches without.

The most effective method for self-support is to maintain a learning orientation. It is essential to provide care and support to one's marriage and family while simultaneously nurturing one's individuality and financial autonomy.

In general, one can cultivate the ability to meditate and love oneself through meditation. Focusing on each breath and living in the present is the optimal method for managing anxiety.

It is my sincere hope that the aforementioned advice will prove beneficial to you, and that it will contribute to a better world for us all.

Should you wish to continue the communication process, you are invited to click on the "Find a coach" link, which can be found in the upper right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. I will communicate and grow with you on an individual basis.

Hello! I'm glad you're getting help. I hope my sharing helps.

You worry that you won't be happy after you get married.

Allowing and accepting yourself can be worrying. You hope your intimate relationship will stay happy.

How can you keep your marriage happy?

First, learn to manage intimacy and marriage better. Take courses on relationships and read books like "Intimacy," "Happy Marriage," and "The 7-Step Journey to Happy Intimacy."

Second, accept yourself and be confident. Marriage is a relationship with ourselves.

When you accept yourself, you can accept others. You can let go of unreasonable expectations and accept yourself and others as they are. You believe you are good enough and deserve to be treated well. You respect your feelings and express them honestly.

Your marriage should not be your whole life. You must always take care of yourself first. In marriage, you will respond better to your loved ones when you see yourself first.

Also, know that you want to marry to escape your family, not to compensate for unmet needs. Do you feel indebted to your future spouse?

This is why you worry about being unhappy in marriage.

If you feel you owe something to your original family, you must heal this debt through your own growth. A sense of deprivation makes you focus on what you care about and makes you judge people and things harshly. Marriage requires you to get along with a complete person. Therefore, you need to heal your past trauma through your own growth, so that you can understand marriage better. What do you think?

You can also tell your boyfriend about your family to gain his understanding, acceptance, and support.

When you are confident and accept yourself, and you want to be loved and meet your needs in marriage, your fear of marriage will go away because you are already a loving person, and marriage will make you feel good.

I love you!

Hello, host!

Understanding the unease and anxiety about the future of your marriage will give you a warm hug and relax your tense emotions!

Most of us feel a certain degree of unease and anxiety about the unknown future. It's like driving in heavy fog — but it's also an adventure!

It's totally normal to feel this kind of anxiety! It's even normal to be afraid to drive fast on an unfamiliar road when visibility is less than 1 meter.

How can I conquer this fear of marriage?

First, be aware of the arising of the mind and accept this emotion!

Anxiety can arise for many reasons, but when it does, it can be unsettling.

Then, take a moment to observe your inner self and realize:

Is the thing I'm anxious about something that has already happened?

Absolutely!

If it isn't, will my anxiety help?

If it's already happened, my anxiety is still useless!

In other words, the first step is to accept this emotion. Then, you can tell and hint to yourself that...

Any anxiety is useless! You can do it! Get out of it!

Then, I found the reason why I was so panicked—and it was a doozy!

The great news is that our material conditions are not a problem. The even better news is that it is mainly my inner panic that we can work on!

Because nowadays I have seen too many unhappy marriages, where the man cheats during the pregnancy, or maybe gets divorced and has to raise the children alone.

The information I have encountered is more realistic, and I am excited to face marriage with confidence!

There are so many people in the world, and it is impossible for everyone to have an unhappy marriage. But that means there are plenty of great marriages out there for us to find! Unfortunately, women who encounter unfortunate marriages are afraid to make any choices, and can only settle for such marriages. But they can change that! Even if they are abandoned, they can still be themselves.

So, if you want to be happy, you've got to be able to stand up for yourself!

Even if he leaves one day, having the courage to remain yourself is the way to go!

This is the key to a woman's happiness! It's not about worrying about whether he will abandon me.

Among those strong women, there are also those who are happily married and those who are not.

The key to becoming a happy woman is always related to one's own abilities—and you can do it!

If you have to hang your happiness on your husband or children, and if they don't develop as you want them to, you will only be the one suffering. So, make sure you choose wisely!

Now for the fun part! Anticipate the direction of your marriage and how to deal with it.

There are roughly three states of a marriage, and each one is an exciting new chapter!

Downward trend:

It all starts with passion, then slowly turns into affection. It's a journey that takes twists and turns, and it's all part of the adventure! Sometimes it might even get boring and tasteless, but that's when you know it's time for a change.

Upward:

The other is that familiarity breeds affection. In the course of getting to know each other better, you will slowly discover the better side of each other and grow to like each other more and more. It's a wonderful thing!

Straight line:

From the very beginning, there's been a fantastic pattern of getting along! Both of you are really happy with each other and don't want to change a thing.

The great thing is, any decision made in this regard is not the result of one person's problems. It's the result of the cooperation between the two parties!

And the best part is, it doesn't matter who's right or wrong! It's just a result of two people getting along with each other.

Now, let's talk about the downward spiral of a marriage. Nobody wants to encounter it, but if you do,

And don't just blame the other person! Do your best to protect yourself from being consumed by this kind of marriage. Go ahead and make some changes! Rebel!

And finally, give yourself a positive hint!

So that your fears and anxieties are never about other people, but about your own over-worries. Give yourself a positive hint!

One thought can lead to incredible things!

From this moment on, the landlord should replace his anxious mood with the belief that everything is going to be absolutely amazing in the future!

The good news is that the problem itself is not the problem. It's how we perceive the problem that makes a difference in our state of mind!

And finally, I wish you the happiest life possible!

I am Warm June, and the world and I love you!

Hello, host!

From your description, it's clear you have lots of exciting things to think about as you prepare for your big day!

Marriage is a whole other ballgame than love!

One of the best things about marriage is that it gives you the chance to get to know both your partner's family and your own!

The best part is that marriage will take care of all the daily necessities of life!

The other person in a relationship will lavish you with extra attention because of the incredible power of love!

The other person in the marriage will return to their true self more often, which is great because it means they'll be even more themselves in the marriage!

So, what kind of person are you, and what kind of person is he? This will have a greater impact on the quality of your marriage—and it's going to be great!

Now for the fun part! What to investigate before marriage.

It's totally normal to feel unsure about whether you can trust someone new. It's a great opportunity to learn more about what you really want in a partner! You might not know the difference between a scumbag and a dependable man yet. But you will!

Here's a quick and easy way to spot a scumbag: just avoid pitfalls and stay away from them! You can easily search for them online.

His family of origin: What was his parents' relationship like? Did his father have any interesting habits? Did his father take care of the family? How was he to his mother? While the relationship between your parents cannot determine your relationship, it's fascinating to see how your father's actions can influence your own!

His emotional intelligence: People with high emotional intelligence often have an advantage in marriage. And if the woman has high emotional intelligence, it doesn't matter if the man is slightly lower—high emotional intelligence doesn't mean sweet talk!

Growing in marriage

No matter how you try to control risk, you can't actually reduce it to zero — but you can do something even better!

When we have worries and fears, it's a great opportunity to understand ourselves better and gain insight into the other person's multiple relationships. If that part of the worry doesn't come from the other person, but from the social atmosphere, it's a chance to embrace it and see it as part of the bigger picture.

And when you understand reality—his reality and the social reality—

Once you understand your own needs and feelings, your fears and concerns will change!

Love, marriage, and parenthood—what a journey it is!

They're all such fun-filled and challenging processes!

Oh, thank you so much!

Hello! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

From your description, it seems that you and your boyfriend show mutual care and understanding for each other, which is wonderful! At the same time, you are a little worried inside, worrying that if the relationship goes on for too long, it will lose its original flavor; worrying about whether the marriage will last forever; worrying whether married life will be as good as you had hoped. These issues are troubling you, which is why you are a little hesitant and a little torn. But don't worry! These are all things you can work through together.

Now, let's dive into the exciting topic of marriage!

From your description, I can tell that you have some thoughts and plans of your own about love and marriage, which is great! You are neither rejecting nor sure about your boyfriend's plan to propose next year, because from his perspective, he is getting on in years and should hurry up; from your perspective, you also want to start a family sooner rather than later, which is wonderful!

However, the uncertainty about the future makes you very excited to see what the future holds!

Such worries mainly come from the influence of negative examples around you, and the fear that you will encounter the same situation. But don't worry! You can overcome these challenges by learning from the experiences of others and embracing the exciting journey ahead.

How do we do it?

First, when facing a major life event, it's important to proceed with caution. After all, the person in front of you is the one who will accompany us for the rest of our lives! If you feel that the time you have spent together has been a bit short and you want to spend more time together, then you can communicate your thoughts to your boyfriend. If you are worried about your future married life, you can talk to your boyfriend about your expectations and see what his attitude is.

Second, learn to communicate effectively. Marriage is an amazing journey that requires nurturing. It's an intimate relationship that's also a community, and you get to experience both the good and the bad together. These aspects are different from what you might have experienced in a relationship, but they're also incredibly exciting!

Finally, we must guard our hearts and follow our inner instincts. If we hesitate or worry, it may be a sign from our deeper thoughts. The good news is that we can discuss this with a professional counselor.

I'm so excited to share these personal opinions with you! I really hope they'll be helpful and inspiring for you.

Thank you so much!

Dear question asker,

It is challenging to provide guidance on such a significant aspect of your life in a limited format. Nevertheless, I hope to have an opportunity to converse with you further in my response to address your concerns and alleviate your anxiety.

From where does the setting of the marriage script originate?

From your text, I can see that you are actually feeling quite good in your current intimate relationship. You have been with your boyfriend for almost a year, and he provides you with most of his time and money. You are moving towards marriage. At the same time, I can also see that you have a number of personal expectations for marriage, including the following: (1) It cannot take more than two years to go from dating to marriage, otherwise the relationship will change.

(2) You have indicated a desire to get married before the age of 24. I am interested in learning more about the rationale behind this decision.

Is it feasible to maintain a loving relationship for over two years while still experiencing high levels of happiness? Is it possible to achieve the desired level of happiness through marriage after the age of 25?

What are the underlying factors contributing to the lack of confidence in marriage?

We often say, "The one who rings the bell must untie it." Who first introduced the concept of marital unhappiness into your life? We can only remove this concept by identifying the source. You mentioned the influence of your family of origin in the question, but you didn't expand on it, so I don't know exactly what kind of influence it was.

Furthermore, I note that your boyfriend is eight years your senior. Given this age difference, I inquire as to whether you had the expectation that his maturity would contribute to your happiness in the relationship.

"The decision to marry is a matter for the two individuals involved."

It is natural for anyone contemplating marriage to experience a certain degree of apprehension. After all, it requires a great deal of courage to make the decision to spend the rest of your life with someone. You have been in a relationship with your boyfriend for approximately one year, and the first 28 years of his life were spent without you. There is still much that you do not know about his past and his future, so some of the feelings you have right now are similar to those experienced by many brides-to-be.

It is also likely that your boyfriend is experiencing similar thoughts and feelings at this time. As the decision to marry is a joint one, you have the opportunity to communicate more about this, discuss and plan your life together after marriage, and visualize the unknown parts in advance. This may help to ease your concerns.

In conclusion, I wish you success and happiness.

Good day, young lady. I can see you are confused, and I would like to offer you a hug.

You are currently experiencing some marital issues. Please allow me to offer you a warm embrace once more.

You have indicated that you are apprehensive about the prospect of marriage, which may be influenced by your upbringing in your immediate family.

I am curious to know what the intimacy of your parents was like.

Could you please elaborate on the nature of their marriage?

If the quality of your upbringing was poor, you may have developed the subconscious belief that marriage is a destructive force in relationships. This could lead to a reluctance to marry.

Furthermore, you have indicated that you are concerned about your boyfriend's fidelity after marriage. This may be a reflection of your overall sense of security.

Our initial sense of security is derived from our mothers.

It is likely that your mother did not provide you with sufficient security as a baby. It is possible that every time you cried, she ignored your needs, turned a deaf ear to you, and continued to mind her own business.

If this is the case, I recommend seeking professional psychological counseling.

Given that your current issue is related to your family of origin, I would advise seeking the assistance of a professional counselor rather than an instant listener.

I hope you are able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

I have no further suggestions at this time.

I hope my above responses are helpful and inspiring to you, the client. I am the solution, and I study hard every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our best wishes to you and the world.

Hello, questioner! I am Jia Ao Bu Xun.

I saw your question on the platform. You said you are fearful of marriage and unsure about getting engaged with your boyfriend next year. You have high expectations for marriage and are afraid of a mental breakdown if you don't meet them. You want to overcome this pre-marital anxiety.

To help you sort things out:

Let me be clear: you are not afraid of marriage. You are anxious about some uncertain issues in married life. This is normal. I believe that unhappy marriages are often the result of one or two problems, but there are also many happy married people. Look for the positive aspects of marriage.

2. You and your boyfriend have been together for a year. You want your own home so your parents don't worry about you. Your boyfriend wants to get married. You're both of suitable age. You have good material conditions, get along well, and your boyfriend treats you well. Getting married would be a happy event for everyone. Both sets of parents would certainly be happy to support you.

3. If you truly love each other, go for your own happiness! Two people in a relationship can last long only if they understand and tolerate each other's shortcomings, appreciate each other, and avoid being critical or complaining. This is the only way to get along happily and harmoniously and live a harmonious married life. Of course, it is also very important that the two of you have similar worldviews.

4. The one you love is ready to be good to you, to your family, to spend time and energy on you, to tolerate your little whims, to understand your little moods, to support whatever you want to do, to receive all your negative emotions, and both sets of parents support each other. This is a happy and perfect marriage, and it's something you should look forward to.

5. I'm going to tell you how to regulate your pre-wedding anxiety.

You need to communicate more with your boyfriend and express your true inner desires to him honestly. I am sure that this issue you are worried about will be resolved well.

② Stay positive and don't let worry get the better of you.

If you're struggling to adjust, it's time to seek help from a psychologist. You're facing certain psychological challenges, and professional intervention is the most effective way to overcome them.

You must also establish a positive connection with your parents. You are the closest people to each other, and you will never be alone in this battle.

You can do this.

You will adjust your state of mind and pursue your own happiness. Don't doubt, don't be afraid, and don't worry. You deserve more beauty and love. The world and I love you.

It's totally normal to have a boyfriend you're really happy with, but feel unsure about your feelings because of the fear of marriage. Let's take a closer look at why this might be.

So, at 21 years old, is it okay to think about getting married?

It's totally normal to feel this way! Human beings need emotional experiences to grow up. At the age of 21, you have no other emotional experiences, and you really need to think carefully about entering into marriage. The main reason is that you don't have much experience, and you don't know if the other person is the lifelong partner who will satisfy you.

And the big question is, can he really bring you happiness?

Then you might as well ask yourself a few questions, my dear.

It's so important to be happy with your partner! If you're not, it might be worth asking yourself whether you'd be tempted to leave him if someone better came along.

It's so important to know what you argue about in your relationship and to be able to resolve things in a harmonious way.

It's totally normal to have this question in mind: does he have any habits that you can't accept?

It's so important to be able to trust your partner and know that they have your back, even when you're facing challenges. So, it's worth asking yourself: does he really not care about your shortcomings, or does he always want to force you to change?

If you were to get married, what problems do you think you might face? Do you think you could solve these problems together? If not, would you be able to accept them?

Once you understand the above points, I truly believe you will have a better understanding of your relationship and whether you can enter the marriage hall. When making a choice, it's also really important to think about this issue specifically.

It's totally normal to have some worries about your husband cheating during your pregnancy.

It's important to remember that infidelity in marriage is a very specific issue. To help you understand it better, it's useful to identify the main factors that lead to infidelity.

1. The man is fickle. It's so unfortunate, but such a guy will be attracted to other women no matter how good his wife is, and he just can't help himself.

It's so important to be prepared for this, even if you don't experience it during pregnancy. Men like this will never refuse any woman who shows interest in them.

2. Unmet needs during pregnancy. This is a question of how the two sexes get along in a relationship.

It's totally normal for it to be inconvenient for women to fulfill their wifely duties during pregnancy. But don't worry! There are plenty of other ways she can satisfy her partner's needs. This is a special period that tests the man's character and how much he loves you.

If you have a great relationship and your partner is the type to be monogamous, you just need to communicate with each other during pregnancy. There's really no need to worry about infidelity!

3. Being tempted by outside influences. It's so easy for men to be tempted by outside influences!

It's also worth noting that some men, even if they don't actively seek to get involved with other people, might be tempted by women with ulterior motives at work. So the nature of your boyfriend's work and the people he comes into contact with are factors that could influence the probability of him cheating, but they're not the main factor.

Because when it comes to infidelity, it's often internal factors that play a part. So it might be a good idea to keep an eye on whether your boyfriend is the type of person who draws a line with the opposite sex or whether he wants to socialize with the opposite sex.

If it's the former, you've got nothing to worry about! But if it's the latter, just be a little more careful. Sometimes a little reminder when the first signs appear is also a great way to prevent the problem of infidelity.

I'm here to help you find solutions to your fear of marriage.

It's totally normal for someone your age to be nervous about marriage. But have you ever thought that if you're feeling resistant because you're afraid of being unhappy after marriage, you'll still feel that way even if you're 50 years old?

So I thought I'd better face my inner self in the following ways to find the source of the problem and a solution to dispel the fear of marriage.

Do you long to enter into married life? It's okay if you don't! In fact, there are already many people in today's society who do not get married.

He'd prefer to live a free and independent lifestyle, and he's not sure he's ready to tie up his life in the shackles of marriage. After all, marriage is not just about two people, it's about two families.

Marriage is a wonderful thing, but it does come with a few responsibilities and obligations. There are so many advantages to marriage, but there are also a few challenges. While you enjoy the advantages that marriage brings, you will also experience its negative effects.

For example, the financial situation of the other person will directly affect the whole family. The physical health of the other person will affect your living conditions, and even the living conditions of the other person's parents will have more or less an impact on your world as a couple. So ask yourself, are you really ready to take on the responsibilities of a wife?

Let's do a SWOT analysis! This is a great tool that's often used in business reports.

It looks at four different areas — the good and the bad, the chances and the challenges — to help you figure out if a plan is doable. You can use this same method to think about your future life, too!

Take a moment to list all the advantages, disadvantages, opportunities, and threats of marriage for you. Then, take a deep breath and see which of these items are acceptable and which are not. Can those that are not acceptable be changed through the efforts of both parties? I truly believe that after analysis, you will have a better grasp of your marriage.

It's totally normal to feel a little scared when you're faced with the unknown. It's all down to the future being unpredictable. But, when we think about it logically and objectively, we can identify the issues we're facing and work out solutions together. This helps to put our minds at ease.

So it's better to say you're not sure than to say you're afraid of marriage. But I really hope that after reading this, you'll have a better understanding of your needs and the problems you'll face in the future through objective analysis.

I wish you a happy life! And I really hope you find the bright path leading to the marriage hall pretty soon!

Hello!

From what you've told me, I can see you're feeling worried and unsure about marriage. I can also see you're keen to find out more.

I hope my answer can help you out a bit.

You're feeling anxious because you've seen too many unhappy marriages, men cheating during pregnancy, or perhaps divorced with children. The information I've come across is more realistic, and it makes you lose confidence in marriage. You're more afraid that the marriage you desire will be wonderful, but in reality it will not meet my expectations, and I will feel like I've failed.

It's true that many people are afraid of getting married, and it's usually because of what they've heard from others or seen in the news about married life.

It's true that many people are afraid of getting married, and it's usually because of what they've heard from others or read about in the news.

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage, and there's no such thing as a bad one either. But you can often read online about people being subjected to domestic violence, about widowhood-style marriages, about men shirking their responsibilities, and so on.

You may have heard a lot of complaints, which are probably the reason for your fear and worry.

You may have heard a lot of complaints, and these are the reasons for your concerns.

It's important to remember that it's not marriage itself that's the problem. It's the choice of partner. From the start, they haven't taken responsibility for themselves. They haven't been rational, cautious, or serious. Don't doubt love or marriage just because you see someone else has met the wrong person. Learn from their experience. Work hard to find the right person. Someone who is capable of taking responsibility and determined to do good for you.

I hope these tips are helpful for you.

1. Before tying the knot, it's important to do some psychological prep and get a solid grasp on what marriage is all about.

2. It's important to share your feelings with those around you, especially your spouse. Try not to accumulate too many negative emotions.

3. Don't set the bar too high for married life. Try not to let the differences between before and after marriage affect you mentally.

4. It's important to relax and not dwell on negative or bad information. Instead, focus on positive and forward-looking information.

Even if you run into problems in your marriage, there's no need to be afraid. It's like when you're at work and you need to keep improving your problem-solving skills.

Even if you run into problems in your marriage, there's no need to be afraid. Just as you work on improving yourself by solving problems at work,

The same goes for managing your marriage. You need to keep working on your problem-solving skills to make your marriage happier and happier.

If you love each other enough, don't be afraid of the problems and troubles you may encounter after marriage. You should learn to solve the problems and troubles in your marriage together. In marriage, you can improve your problem-solving skills with your loved one, work together, grow together, and stand side by side.

You'll find that this kind of life is more complete and fulfilling.

I hope you find my advice useful.

I hope you have a happy life.