I'm in my senior year of high school, and I'm afraid that I won't get into college, that I won't be good enough. Why do I often want to cry?

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

I'd like to give the questioner a hug to help them feel stronger. The questioner seems to lack self-confidence and is nervous about the college entrance exam.

The questioner might not know that others feel nervous about the college entrance exam too.

The questioner is worried about not understanding themselves, the college entrance exam, and comparing themselves to classmates. They want teachers' approval. When they feel ignored, they feel overwhelmed. I wonder how family views this.

Have they given you any advice? I can't see the questioner's description of his family.

Or is the questioner embarrassed to tell their parents what they really think?

The questioner is seeking recognition and affirmation, but these negative emotions are interfering with them. Learn how to detect and eliminate bad emotions and replace them with a positive mindset.

What can't defeat you will make you stronger.

We can't communicate in detail about the question because it was asked on a platform. I can only give you advice on how to deal with negative emotions:

1. Find out what's making you anxious.

What makes the questioner anxious? Is it the college entrance exam, the teacher's disapproval, or confusion about life?

The questioner needs to find out what is making them anxious and write it down.

Find out what makes the questioner anxious and why. For example, the questioner feels that their grades are not taken seriously by their teachers. Is this lack of attention a kind of recognition of the questioner's grades by the teacher?

The teacher thinks the subject is self-motivated and has stable grades, so he doesn't need attention?

The questioner craves the teacher's attention. If this need is not met, it can cause anxiety. Is it possible that the questioner wants encouragement and attention, and is afraid of failing the college entrance exam?

To cope, you need to understand your real anxiety.

2. Focus on the most important problem.

The college entrance exam, lack of recognition, no plan for the future, and other things have left the questioner at a loss. Write down the things on a piece of paper to see what problems you need to solve.

Then, rank the problems in order of importance.

Next, find out if you can solve the problem yourself. If not, ask someone to help you. Then look for resources that can help you.

Talk to your family to see if you can help the person solve the problem. Don't dwell on anxiety. Say something positive. You'll get used to it.

There are always more ways than difficulties.

3. List the worst possible outcomes.

List the worst possible outcomes. Do you have coping strategies?

Instead of worrying, list the worst possible outcomes and come up with strategies to deal with them. If you fail the college entrance exam, you will be able to deal with it according to the strategy. Then, the anxiety of the questioner will be less serious.

There are always more ways than difficulties. A gentleman strives for self-improvement. If you want a good result, you have to face the real you and pursue improvement.

4. Pay attention to your words.

When we face a bad situation, we often say negative things like "It's so annoying" or "I messed up again." These words make us feel worse.

The poster should avoid using these kinds of words. Replace negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, "awful" can be replaced with "unfavorable" or "there is room for improvement," and "disaster" can be replaced with "challenge" or "inconvenience."

5. Look for the positive.

Nobody's perfect. Don't be too hard on yourself. When you feel negative emotions, stop and think of something positive.

For example, losing a game. This is unpleasant, but you can learn new ways to play so you don't make the same mistakes in the future.

6. Get help from someone else.

If the above approach doesn't work for you, seek help from a professional psychologist or counselor. Every school has a counselor you can talk to. You can be honest with them.

Describe how anxiety attacks make you feel, how they usually start, and how you respond. If necessary, keep communicating with these professionals until anxiety attacks no longer affect you.

I hope this helps.

Give the questioner a hug! I can feel the questioner's anxiety and unease, and I can see how much they want love. Maybe these emotions and desires have affected the questioner, to the point where they feel like crying when they find out that their favorite teacher pays attention to students with better grades than they have.

Crying is just an outward show of emotion. It's not really about what the questioner wants to express. They can take a step back and think about what they're trying to say with their tears.

Of course, there's more to it than that. There's also the hidden message behind the questioner's fear of not getting into college that we need to be aware of. What will happen if the questioner doesn't get into college? Perhaps the questioner doesn't realise that the questioner has equated not getting into college with not being good enough. Although the college entrance exam is important, is it really that important that it can determine whether you are good or not?

If that's the case, then if you don't have to work hard to get into university, does that mean you're good enough?

The college entrance exam is a big deal for every high school senior, but it's not the be-all and end-all. It's important to understand who the exam is for, what it's for, and how to approach it. You're invested in this exam, so can your current learning and physical and mental state help you get into the ideal university? If not, what can you do?

For example, you can focus on your studies, take care of your physical and mental state, improve your learning efficiency, and so on. It's always better to do something to help yourself get into college than to worry about things that affect your studies. This way, time and energy are wasted, academic performance doesn't improve, and in the end, just as the questioner fears, you will fail to get into college. In this way, it can be said that the questioner has just perfectly predicted and planned for this "accident" in the exam. You can do whatever you think is best. I have to say that the questioner is very good.

Given these abilities, can the questioner adjust their physical and mental state and learning style now to improve their academic performance and gain the teacher's attention? Put another way, is the questioner's goal to improve their academic performance so that the teacher will pay attention to them, or so that they can get into the ideal university?

There are so many students in a class. If you're a teacher, what would you do? Many schools have a mental health education base nowadays. If yours does, you can go and talk to the psychology teacher, and maybe you'll feel better.

If not, you can find a teacher on the platform to do some counseling sessions, which can also help you get past these current issues.

Good day, inquirer.

It is a challenging period to be a senior in high school. The majority of students aspire to perform well on their examinations, with the ultimate goal of attending a reputable university and gaining the approval of their peers. This makes the senior year particularly demanding and exhausting, as it represents the culmination of 12 years of academic effort. I empathize with your situation, and I offer my support.

From your description, I can almost see you in class, stealing glances at the teacher, showing affection for another student, and hoping that student's grades will be the same as yours, or even lower. You are angry, but you have to hide it on your face. You want to cry, but the tears won't come. This feeling is particularly challenging. Studying is already difficult enough, and now we have to put in so much effort to deal with these emotions. It is difficult to imagine how anyone could bear it.

From my personal experience, I believe that you may have doubted your own judgment at one point or another. For instance, you may have questioned the way your favorite teacher treats other students or the behavior of a student you perceive as similar to yourself. If this individual behaves well, it is possible that you, too, have made mistakes when you were in your third year of high school.

At that time, I perceived the homeroom teacher to hold me in low regard, believing that he regarded me as lacking proficiency in physics. This perception was shaped by the fact that he was both my physics teacher and homeroom teacher. I also perceived him to be genuinely intent on making things challenging for me. Despite my concerns, the teacher did not transfer me to another class. In retrospect, I recognize that the teacher was responsible for overseeing a large number of students, and that my situation was not a primary focus for him. Nevertheless, I had to experience the consequences of my own actions.

Given my own experience, I believe it is possible that you, in your third year of high school, may also have a slight misunderstanding of yourself. At that time, I was still in the 1980s, but I did not. Now, the Internet is so developed that it is impossible for me to know to go online for help like you are doing now. Therefore, I had to silently suffer the consequences of my own actions. However, you are different. You discovered the problem in time and came here for help.

It is important to note that in psychology, the ability to observe one's own problems is often seen as a crucial first step towards healing and growth. It seems evident that you are already on this path.

The following section will present a personal account of the author's views on the process of self-healing.

Firstly, it can be assumed that the individual is expressing a desire to cry. In the absence of external observers, it is possible to engage in uninhibited emotional expression. The context is that of the third year of high school, a period of significant stress. Following the release of emotions through crying, a sense of well-being is reported. Additionally, it is posited that tears can serve as a cathartic mechanism, alleviating feelings of bitterness.

Secondly, regardless of whether it is due to feelings of injustice or the influence of cognitive bias, it is important to allow oneself to express grief when necessary. It is also crucial to ensure that these emotions are not wasted, but rather serve as a source of strength in the future. To illustrate, if one encounters a situation where a teacher who previously held favourable sentiments towards them now displays indifference, it is possible to acknowledge this reality and experience grief. However, in addition to this emotional release, it is essential to maintain focus and attention during the lecture. I recognise that this may be challenging, but I have confidence in your ability to do so.

In conclusion, as you are in your final year of studies, I will refrain from providing further advice. Instead, I would like to reiterate the importance of the following exercise: when you experience discomfort, such as the sensation of bruising on your body when scratching your arm with your fingernails, I encourage you to take a moment to collect your thoughts. Then, using a pen and paper, I ask you to turn to the final page of the word list in your English textbook and write the words on a piece of paper with determination and repetition. This exercise can be performed as a means of self-soothing, as a substitute for scratching your arm with your fingernails. I believe you have the capacity to succeed.

I wish you the utmost success in your senior year, as you develop your own coping strategies. In the coming year, your dream university will extend a helping hand.

Students, it is imperative that you engage in a relentless struggle against the world and its challenges. I am here to support you in this endeavour.

My dear child, let me give you a hug first. As a mother of a soon-to-be-a-senior-year-student who has just finished the parents' meeting, I can't help but think, "What would I do if this was a question raised by my child?" I'm grateful that you've taken the brave step of asking for help, and have given me an opportunity to remain constantly aware and reflect on myself.

If you'd like, you can also come to me and share your feelings. I'm here to listen and support you in exploring the emotions that are currently troubling you, such as intense anxiety, a vague sense of inferiority, unspoken jealousy, uncontrollable crying, a great sense of powerlessness, and the great desire to become better that lies behind all this and which makes you feel so lost.

It is important to remember that adolescence is a time when young people are particularly susceptible and sensitive. This is due to physiological changes that occur during this period. It is therefore understandable that negative emotions may arise. Some children may be more sensitive than others, and this sensitivity may manifest in different ways. However, it is often the case that those who are sensitive in one area are also sensitive in others that we care about. This can lead to a greater number of challenges.

It seems that your current focus is on studying, which is a testament to the importance you place on it. This is a commendable direction, as it demonstrates your clear understanding of the tasks at this stage. It's understandable that you're concerned about being outpaced by classmates of the same level and that you find it challenging when the teacher's attention is directed towards other classmates of the same level. These reactions suggest that you desire affirmation from the teacher through your own efforts. However, your strong reaction to the teacher's praise for classmates of the same level also indicates a slight sense of inferiority, feeling that you may not be as proficient as others. This inferiority complex has led to a heightened level of jealousy, which can be challenging to manage. It's important to remember that in this vast world, no individual can achieve everything on their own. We all rely on and learn from one another, and that's something to be celebrated.

[Uncontrollable crying] may include pinching yourself until you get a bruise. This could be a kind of self-protection of the body, as well as a spontaneous response of the body to your tremendous anxiety. It could also be a signal from the body to remind you. Then today, I and countless people have seen your problem and want to do everything we can to help you.

My child, if you could, please describe in detail to your parents everything that you are currently experiencing. It would also be very helpful for you to seek the lasting, quality love and companionship of your parents. You may find it helpful to believe that you are not alone in this struggle, and that your parents will be your strongest and greatest support. This may also help you to get your motivation for studying back on a better track. You may then learn for yourself and work hard for yourself, because your life is also your own. How other people are doing is their business, and has nothing to do with you.

Studying or the third year of high school is certainly a pivotal period in a person's life. However, it is important to recognize that the purpose of the college entrance examination is ultimately to enhance a person's future prospects and personal growth. Without this, the significance of the college entrance examination may be limited.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

If I might make one more suggestion, perhaps it would be helpful to consider the following:

Hello!

Host:

Hi there! I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I've read your post and I can feel the anxiety and fear you're feeling. I also want to say how brave you are for facing your inner self and seeking help on this platform. This will help you understand yourself better, which will allow you to adjust your emotions and mindset. This will help you feel more in tune with your inner self and bring you more harmony.

I'd love to share my observations and thoughts in the post, which I hope will help you view yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. Why not try some anxiety-relieving exercises?

I've noticed that you often worry that you won't be able to get into college, that you're not good enough, and that you even scratch your arms with your fingernails, leaving bruises. I really don't want to do this, but I have no choice. I've tried to control my anxiety, but I just can't anymore. I know you feel the same way. I understand that you can't control yourself, and you know that this isn't good, but you can't control yourself not to do it.

This is because this behavior has some benefits for you. Using your fingernails to claw your arm can help relieve the pain in your body and help you relieve the pain in your heart.

So if you'd like to make a few simple changes to help you feel more relaxed, you could try some gentle exercises to help you breathe more easily.

When you notice you're feeling anxious, you can gently remind yourself to focus on your breathing again. Take a slow, deep breath in, then hold it for a few seconds. When you're ready, slowly exhale through your mouth, letting your anxious emotions leave your body with the breath.

This kind of exercise is often a great way to feel better in just 5 minutes! It's also a technique that's used a lot in psychological counseling.

2. Give your body a big hug!

Have you ever wondered what it means to link your body to your thoughts? It's so common to express our emotions physically!

For instance, some folks feel a bit of a squeeze in their heart when they're feeling anxious. For others, it might be their tummy.

It's so important to remember that everyone's different, so we all express our emotions in our own way. So, when the original poster senses her anxiety, she should focus her attention back on her body.

Take a moment to notice what's going on in your body. Let's focus on this area that's uncomfortable and just stay with it for a bit.

They can often help to relieve our emotions, which is really great!

3. I'd love to hear more about what not doing well in the exam means to you.

I can see from your post that you're really worried about not getting into university and feeling like you're not good enough. I totally get it!

I'd also love to chat with you, the original poster, about what it means to you to not do well on the exam and feel like you're not good enough. What are you worried about? Where do these thoughts come from?

These are all great questions to think about. Sometimes when we take a moment to think through the worst-case scenario we might face, we realize it's not as scary as we thought.

And we can also think about where this kind of worry might come from. Is there a voice in your head saying these things?

Let's say you don't get good grades. What do you think might happen?

If you're not good enough, I won't like you, I won't love you, etc. When we think about this and explore this, we can really understand and know ourselves better.

It would be great if we could all understand and recognize these things before making any changes.

4. Conditional love

Next, let's take a look at how parenting styles have changed over time. Many parenting styles nowadays involve conditional love.

What is conditional love? It's when you have to be obedient and meet expectations before you can get some love and appreciation from your parents.

I love, appreciate, and approve of you, my dear. If you don't meet my expectations, I'll still love you, but I'll also be honest with you.

And even punish you.

And for kids, it means getting good grades. So, what kind of impression does this leave on them?

It means that I can only receive love, affirmation, and appreciation if I am excellent and get good grades. The real me is not good enough, but that's okay! I can only be good enough, get good enough grades, and do well in exams.

However, human thinking is often binary and oppositional. It's so easy to get caught up in worrying about what if we don't do well in the exam! So the host can also explore yourself in this direction.

But this way of parenting isn't really very healthy. A better way is to combine unconditional love with conditional love. Unconditional love helps us nourish life, while conditional love allows us to better adapt to society.

I really hope these comments have been helpful and inspiring for you! If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication and exchange.

Dear colleague, I know it can be tough in your anxiety/senior-year-unstable-grades-mental-pressure-anxiety-always-want-to-daydream-what-to-do-4136.html" target="_blank">senior year. There's the pressure from parents and teachers, comparisons with your classmates, and your own internal goals. It can feel like a lot to handle.

I'll give you a hug and a shoulder to lean on so you can take a moment to catch your breath.

"I'm afraid that I won't get into university, that I'm not good enough. Whenever I see my favorite teacher paying attention to someone else who gets better grades than me, I feel so sad that I want to cry."

Take a moment to really think about these words, and you'll understand why I'm feeling this way.

"I have to get into a good university, otherwise I'll never be good enough."

"I'm not good at studying, so I don't get any attention. It feels like I've been abandoned."

This feeling is really awful, but is it all true?

"They're all pretty much at the same level, and I just don't like her. If she's really outstanding and not in the same league as me, I'll be convinced and not be jealous. But I just can't stand those who are more or less at the same level as me. Why?"

If you read these words carefully, you might feel a little afraid.

"I'm struggling to keep up with those who are more talented than me."

"What if he beats me?"

"If he gets in, I'll have to withdraw."

This is awful, but I can't control it!

"I feel so sad I want to cry, but I hold back because it's class time. I often daydream and don't look up or pay attention to the teacher. It's been like this for a long time."

"But I have to put on a brave face, to try not to let others see my anxiety, my nervousness, my worries."

You see, we spend a lot of energy fighting the urge to cry, feeling anxious, and feeling nervous. We also spend a lot of time trying to hide it from others.

As a result, we end up using all our energy on things other than studying, which means we don't have as much energy for studying as we should.

Then, it seems to confirm even more that we won't do well on the exam. It's as if the future is already set and it's not going to be good. We become more nervous and anxious, and it goes like this:

"I'm afraid that if I don't do well on the exam, I'll be so stressed that I'll start clawing my arms until they bruise, even though I don't want to. But there's nothing I can do."

Luckily, you have a strong and powerful inner strength that lets you ask for help when you need it.

So, what should we do?

First of all, no matter what university you get into, you are still you, and the people who love you will still love you. Nothing will change.

Let's take a simple example. Parents might scold us when we don't do well on exams and compare us with others. But you'll find that they'll buy clothes for children who do well on exams. And they'll take children who bake well on trips.

So, when you feel like you've failed an exam, their attitude towards you is pretty superficial. What's really going on is

"At the time, I thought... It's a shame I didn't make it. I regret that, and I'm counting on you to help me get into a good university so I can achieve my goal."

Secondly, it's important to remember that just because your classmates are getting stronger, it doesn't mean you're getting weaker.

Let's look at the 100-meter race as an example.

There are six people in each group, and you're in Group A, along with Groups B and C.

The other students in Group A were all fast runners, and even though you were last, you managed to catch up with them and reach the finish line.

Group B students are relatively weak, and Group C students are even weaker.

Xiaokuai came in first in Group C.

When the results came in, I was pretty blown away to see that you were eighth and Xiaokuai was thirteenth.

So, should we be friends with or rivals to our peers?

Ultimately, the pressure is intense and the nerves are running high. It's probably best to seek professional help and get some relevant counseling and treatment.

Such counseling and treatment can help us overcome stress and anxiety more quickly, allowing us to focus better on our studies and make positive changes.

Give it your all and let God take care of the rest. You've got this. Let's do this!

Words to the questioner:

We are jealous of those similar to us and those better than us because deep down, we know they're good.

The questioner needs to recognize that they are not trying hard enough to complete their studies. Instead of putting out an attack letter, they should be reflecting on this point.

The questioner can surpass their classmates who are at about the same level as them and even catch up with those they think are good. All they need to do is learn calmly with a calm mind.

The questioner bruised his hand, and it's clear from his behavior and physical changes that he's struggling with something.

Tell the questioner that they don't need to compare themselves with others. They just need to know how to make themselves better. Comparing ourselves with others can make us realize our shortcomings, rather than being used to attack others or make ourselves angry.

The questioner has some inner emotions that need to be dealt with. There are two ways to do this.

The first thing you need to do is experience the flow of emotions inside your body without interfering or thinking about them. Once the emotions have stabilized, you can then propose doing other things.

The second way is to stop letting your emotions get in the way of your thinking and behavior. Instead, distract yourself until your emotions fade away. When you're engrossed in something, your emotions won't affect you.

I'm also a student.

I just finished the college entrance exam, and I'm happy to say that I passed.

High school was probably the time in my life that I regret the most. I was never exceptionally outstanding, but I was considered an excellent student. At the beginning of my first year of high school, I was full of confidence and my grades were decent. Gradually, though, I started to tune out in class, copying answers for homework, and even going so far as to not hand in homework until the next day or just start copying it then. It seemed like I was trying hard, but it also seemed like I was just pretending. My family is the type that values learning very much, and for some reason, they really wanted me to go to college and get into a top university. My parents spent a lot of money finding tutors for me, but I didn't see any changes at all. Once the grades came out, I was definitely at the bottom. I was in a lot of pain, with the expectations my parents had for me, the mental and financial sacrifices they made, and the fact that after failing so badly, I thought about how I had let myself down in the past and felt proud.

In my second year of high school, I was in the science stream. I wanted to study hard, but I didn't know enough. I tried my best to pay attention in class, but I couldn't stop falling asleep. Physics and chemistry were like a foreign language to me. While everyone else was working hard for university, I was still at the bottom of the class. I couldn't accept it, and it was painful. My parents were angry too, so I chose to take a break from school.

Once I started school again, I was worried every day that people would ask me about my past and why I had dropped out. I was afraid of being gossiped about. I tried to fit in with the new group, but they were all in their own little cliques, and I couldn't find my place. I never liked being alone before, so I cried every night for the first few months. Then I slowly got used to being alone. I thought that after I started school again, I could study well and do better than before, get out of the bottom ranks, but I was just mediocre. Looking at the scores on the ranking list that were unattainable for me and looking at the questions on the test paper that I couldn't figure out no matter what, I was really scared. I could only bear it silently.

Everyone said the college entrance exam would be easy, but it wasn't. The Chinese language changed the type of questions, mathematics had a lot of calculations and very simple questions that were just given away, but I forgot the formulas, physics multiple choice questions were almost impossible to understand without a calculator, and chemistry had a lot of multiple choice questions that I wasn't sure about.

You can only do your best on the big biology questions. I knew I couldn't smile when I left the exam hall. My parents braved the scorching sun and stood outside waiting for me. I heard that they kept sighing when they heard that I didn't do well in the exam. I cried for two whole days.

I'm still struggling to reconcile this, but I'm slowly letting go. It's hard to explain, but there's a lot of pressure. It's not something you can really talk about with just a few lines of chicken soup or a few random comforting words. What you need to do now is to try your best. I don't think that a few tests in two days can represent your abilities or judge someone's whole life. As long as you do your best during the exam and have no regrets, that's enough.

The college entrance exam is important, but it's not the most important thing in your life.

Hello, my child. I hope my answer helps.

I understand how you feel. We care about our college entrance exams and are afraid of failing. We don't have a way to release these emotions, including jealousy and the desire for recognition. You haven't expressed these emotions, but you are trying to hide your nervousness and anxiety from others.

But you know what? Emotions aren't suppressed. When they're suppressed too much, they come out in a violent way, either outwardly or inwardly.

You say you'll use your fingernails to bruise your arms because your emotions are pent up. We can cover up anxiety with physical pain by harming our bodies. There are better ways to relieve anxiety.

My advice is:

Use reasonable ways to relieve anxiety.

Anxiety is normal. It can improve brain function and help us focus. Most students feel some anxiety before an exam.

It's only harmful when it's excessive.

Don't resist anxiety. It's normal.

We need to understand test anxiety and why it happens.

You might fail the exam, but the risk is lower than we thought. This can make you anxious.

These situations can lead to high anxiety: - Having high expectations - Worrying about what others think - Not being confident - Being too worried - Being overconfident

We need different strategies for different situations.

1. Overcome lack of confidence and self-deprecation.

To succeed, you have to stop procrastinating. Procrastination leads to self-doubt.

Make a plan before the exam and follow it.

Think happy thoughts. Recite a mantra like, "I can definitely succeed in this exam." This will help you relax and feel confident.

Focus on what you gain every day. Don't focus on your shortcomings. Focus on what you can do and what you master every day. This will help you feel more at peace.

Focus on what you have gained, not on your shortcomings. See what you have gained every day. You will feel more at ease when you see that you have gained something every day.

2. Target anxiety and sentimentality.

2. Deal with our anxiety by changing how we think.

We need to find a balance. If you are nervous, you are not alone. Those who get good grades are probably more nervous than you are. If a person has high expectations of themselves, they will also be more anxious. So, don't feel like you are the most nervous person.

Challenge negative beliefs and realize they're irrational. Don't worry about your thoughts.

If your favorite teacher pays attention to students who do better than you, it doesn't mean they don't like you. Teachers have to pay attention to all students.

We also need to train our concentration. Don't think about studying while eating, walking, or taking a bath. When you devote yourself to life, you will forget your anxiety.

We also need to train our concentration. Don't think about studying when you're eating, walking, or taking a bath. When you devote yourself to life, you'll forget your anxiety.

As the college entrance exam approaches, focus on absorbing and mastering knowledge. Set aside grand goals and enjoy each day.

3. If our goals are unrealistic, we need to:

If you always want to do better than other students or are jealous of them, you may be too self-important or have unrealistic goals. Talk to experienced teachers for advice and set realistic goals.

Sometimes we can't judge ourselves accurately. Ask two more teachers and they'll give a more objective opinion.

We have to accept that we're not the best. Setting goals too high will make you anxious. Just do your best.

Don't be too competitive. Just keep your own pace and review step by step.

4. You can control your anxiety in these ways:

Breathe deeply when you feel anxious. Hold your breath for a second or two, then slowly exhale. Repeat a few times to calm down. Practice this whenever you have a moment to spare.

Aerobic exercise is a great way to relieve stress. Try to exercise twice a week. Examples of aerobic exercise are running, basketball, badminton, table tennis, or walking.

Don't do too much or too hard for too long. Each time, do half an hour to an hour.

On the eve of an exam, it's not about what to review, but maintaining the habit of reviewing to ease your mind. Two weeks before the exam, make a plan. Don't do too many questions, but review and summarize. Look at notes, past exam papers with mistakes, etc.

In the week before the exam, do simple questions that match the difficulty of the exam. This will make you feel more at ease and give you more confidence.

Organize your life scientifically: avoid staying up late. Everyone has a limited amount of energy in a day, and after studying for such a long time, you are more likely to get tired. Adjust your routine according to the time of the college entrance examination, and make sure you get 7 hours of sleep every day. Don't study right after eating. You can listen to music, take a walk, chat...

Keep a diary of your emotions. Write down your anger and anxiety. Set aside 15 minutes every day to write about your emotions. When you write about your emotions, you will feel more relaxed. When you are relaxed, you can study better.

2. Look at your jealousy objectively.

We feel jealous of people we compare ourselves to. You said you won't compare yourself to people who are better than you. But you will compare yourself to people who are not far behind you. You may even feel they deserve the teacher's attention.

We humans like to compare ourselves with those who are similar to us because we want to surpass them. We cannot surpass those who are far away, but we can surpass those who are not far away. That's why we usually pick someone similar to us to compare ourselves with.

If you feel like you can't do something as well as someone else, and they get recognition for it, you'll feel jealous. Jealousy shows what we want. You want the recognition and praise too, but it's not you who gets it. So you'll feel jealous.

If it wasn't her but someone else like her, you would still be jealous because what you really want is to be like her. When we see what we really want, we can find ways to get it. This will make you less jealous.

You can also work hard to gain your favorite teacher's attention. When your teacher notices you, your needs are met, and you will not be jealous of others as much.

We can turn jealousy into motivation. When you can leave the person you are jealous of far behind, you will no longer be jealous.

Jealousy has little to do with other people. It reflects our desires. If we understand our desires and work hard to achieve our needs, we will not be jealous.

3. Don't stress about the college entrance exam. There are more ways to measure a person than just learning. Believe you can become the person you want to be.

You may think the college entrance exam is very important. I don't disagree, but we shouldn't overvalue it. There are other ways to change your destiny, and studying isn't the only way to evaluate a person.

If you want to get into your ideal university and become a highly educated talent, don't worry about not getting in. If we believe in something more, it will come true. This is confirmed by many experiments in psychology.

The Pygmalion effect says you'll get what you expect. What you get isn't what you want, but what you expect.

If you expect something and believe it will go well, it will. If you believe it will not, it probably won't.

It's important to have positive beliefs. When we believe in ourselves and have confidence, it helps us achieve our goals.

Positive beliefs lead to positive actions, which often lead to positive results.

What we expect ourselves to become is what we will work towards. We will become that person if we believe we can. If we don't believe we can, we won't succeed.

If we expect ourselves to become what we want, we will keep working hard. If we think we can't do it, we will stay the same.

Believe you can get into the university of your dreams. Believe you can improve your academic performance. Believe you can do it.

Believe in yourself and keep trying. You'll become the person you want to be.

Good luck!

Dear question owner, You are currently in your third year of high school and are facing a considerable academic workload. I can discern the considerable pressure and anxiety you are experiencing.

The questioner aspires to excel in the forthcoming examination. It is also reasonable to assume that the questioner hopes the teacher will treat them with the same degree of care and attention as they afford their other students.

Obtaining the attention of the instructor during class can facilitate a sense of comfort.

1. "I am currently in my third year of high school, and I frequently experience irritability and emotional distress, particularly when I am confronted with the possibility of not being admitted to college and being perceived as inadequate. When I observe my esteemed teacher directing attention to students with superior academic performance, I experience a profound sense of sadness and a desire to weep, yet I refrain from doing so due to the presence of other students in the classroom. I often find myself engaged in daydreaming and failing to maintain eye contact or attention on the teacher. This pattern has persisted for an extended period."

(1) It is reasonable to conclude that the pressure of studying in the third year of high school is understandable. There is evidence that suggests that crying can release emotions and relieve study pressure. This is not a negative phenomenon. It is recommended that one allow oneself to cry it out, and that one's mood will slowly return to calm after crying.

(2) The questioner is concerned that they may not be able to attend university. Does this imply that they will be unable to do so?

One must consider whether the questioner's assertion that they will not gain admission to the university is a realistic one.

Firstly, it is not yet possible to ascertain whether the candidate will be admitted to the university, as the examination has yet to take place. Secondly, the examination is a future event, the outcome of which cannot be predicted at this time.

Thirdly, there is a concern and apprehension about future events, but this is distinct from the issue of not gaining admission to the university. These feelings are simply a part of the emotional state of the individual in question.

The questioner thus posed the question anew: "Am I truly not going to gain admission to the university?" The answer, it might be said, is an emphatic "No!"

(3) When the questioner observes a teacher who demonstrates a preference for a classmate who exhibits superior academic performance, they experience a sense of disappointment and begin to ruminate. They lose focus and have been in this state for an extended period. What are the thoughts that occupy the questioner's mind when the teacher's attention is directed towards other students?

Do you feel as though you have encountered these individuals previously? To what extent is the relationship between the inquirer and their parents characterized by positive or negative dynamics?

From childhood to adulthood, did the questioner's parents provide the questioner with positive care? Did they frequently encourage and reassure the questioner?

Furthermore, the questioner exhibits a lack of engagement in the classroom, failing to raise his head or pay attention. Has the teacher ever expressed concern about the questioner's lack of attention and the potential underlying issues? How did the questioner respond to the teacher's inquiry?

The questioner's sentiments are understandable. It is not uncommon for a teacher-student dynamic to exhibit a projection, whereby the teacher is unconsciously perceived as a parent figure, particularly a nurturing one, and the student seeks attention and emotional reassurance from her. Is this the case?

What modifications could be made to facilitate a more comfortable learning environment for both the instructor and the student?

In the classroom, it is important to pay attention and concentrate on the lesson. When the teacher notices that you are engaged and attentive, it will positively impact her perception of you. As you demonstrate progress and improvement, she will be pleased. Over time, she may begin to commend your efforts in class. When you receive praise and affirmation from the teacher, it will likely lead to a sense of satisfaction and happiness.

If one were to simply attempt the proposed solution, it is likely that it would prove effective.

2. "We're all more or less at the same level, and I just can't stand her. If she were really outstanding, someone not on the same level as me, I would be convinced, and I wouldn't be jealous. However, I find it challenging to interact with individuals who are at a similar level as me. Why? Although when I become frustrated, I often find myself expressing negative sentiments towards these individuals, I must maintain a composed exterior, attempting to conceal my unease, nervousness, and apprehension, and avoiding any outward display of my inner turmoil."

What is the topic of discontent? Is it the classmates' ability to garner the teacher's attention? When the teacher demonstrates interest in them, do you perceive that the teacher holds them in high regard, while you are overlooked? Is this the underlying sentiment?

However, it is not possible to convey one's thoughts to others, and thus one is forced to express them internally, which can cause discomfort. This creates a state of constant internal conflict.

It would be beneficial to consider the situation from a different perspective. Why would the teacher care about them?

From the teacher's perspective, it is important to note that teachers do not deliberately prioritize any particular student. Rather, they are responsible for ensuring that all students have the opportunity to master the knowledge and skills they are expected to learn. This may involve providing guidance and support to students who are struggling to grasp certain concepts. Based on the description provided, it is evident that this teacher is highly regarded by the student in question. The student's desire to seek the teacher's attention and receive their guidance is a testament to the teacher's effectiveness in fostering a supportive learning environment. In general, teachers strive to ensure that all their students have the opportunity to learn effectively, particularly those who may require additional support. They are committed to providing the necessary assistance and guidance to help students succeed.

This is the instructor's perspective.

Should the questioner's academic performance exceed that of their classmates, they may also assist their classmates. When classmates experience difficulties with their studies, the questioner can provide answers and, in doing so, receive positive encouragement and support from the teacher.

This approach will garner the teacher's attention in a positive manner. Should the questioner have any further inquiries, they may proactively seek counsel from the teacher and students with commendable academic records. Additionally, they can foster more frequent interactions with the teacher and their classmates.

One may choose to reinforce positive emotions.

3. "In my second year of high school, I was not afflicted by this condition. However, in my third year, I was plagued by the fear of performing poorly on the examination. Consequently, I scratched my arm with my fingernails, resulting in a visible bruise. Despite my reluctance, I was compelled to act. I was unable to control my anxiety, and I was driven to the point of wanting to abandon the task altogether. What should I do?"

In the event of a similar occurrence in the future, it is recommended that you refrain from picking your fingernails. Instead, engage in self-affirmation by repeating positive statements about your abilities. Allocate sufficient time for this process, and maintain a sense of confidence in your ability to succeed. Additionally, incorporating physical activity, such as running, into your routine after school can be beneficial in managing anxiety.

I wish you the utmost success.