In high school, if two girls and a guy sit together, one of the girls will always be left out. Maybe I'm just being sensitive.

Hello, question asker! I'm Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I'm so honored to answer your question on Yi Xinli.

I totally get it. It can be really frustrating when your classmates ignore you. It's possible that they're closer and have more in common.

You can be a quiet listener and occasionally interject your own point of view. When your classmates realize that you are listening to them attentively, they'll feel respected, and you'll be helping them feel heard.

I really hope they will be willing to talk to you about something later!

I really think this is a great way to win friends!

I've got a few other ideas to help you out!

1. Focus your main energy on your studies, my dear!

☀️ The most important thing in the three years of high school is learning, so don't worry too much about making friends.

It's also important to make friends, but right now your main focus should be your studies. Your future depends on your studies, and friends will come when the time is right.

2. Try to spend some time every day chatting with your deskmate.

☀️If you want to chat with your classmates more, why not spend a little time talking to them every day? It's a great way to relieve the boredom of studying!

☀️You can have a great time chatting with them about all the interesting things going on in their lives and studies. Show them how much you care and help them out when they need it. Who knows, they might just find you a really nice person and be willing to hang out with you!

3. And remember, friendships aren't limited to just those at your desk!

☀️ In the busy life of high school, it's so important to have friends to share our happiness and worry with.

☀️If you really can't get along with your classmate, don't worry! Talk to other students! There are so many great people in your class, so don't limit your circle of friends.

☀️There are so many classmates in a class! If you don't get along with one, no problem. You can always talk to the next one. And if you look hard enough, you'll find friends who share your interests and personality.

4. And don't be afraid to enjoy your own company!

☀️Every outstanding person has experienced loneliness at some point. It's totally normal! Set yourself a college entrance exam goal!

Have you thought about what university you'll attend, what major you'll choose, and what career you'll pursue?

☀️When you have a clear goal in mind, it's so much easier to create a clear study plan. And you'll find that you don't care whether your classmate pays attention to you!

☀️You will listen carefully every day, study hard, and work hard with classmates who love to learn or have good academic performance!

☀️I truly believe that as long as you are willing to take action, God will not let down anyone who works hard.

I really hope my answer is helpful for you!

I wish you all the best! ?

Everyone is a beacon, whether they're asking questions or answering them! Through words, we can illuminate the hearts of more people, and this is our shared energy.

Hello, dear child! I am a heart exploration coach who can really understand how you feel because I had a similar experience when I was a student.

In college, the three of us were from the same hometown and were good friends in the same dormitory. I often saw the two of them eating lunch and going to class and after class together. I would then unconsciously "withdraw" as if I were a "third party" and superfluous, but it was so exciting to see them!

When there are no such thoughts, it is also possible to naturally form the "Three Musketeers." I was thrilled to discover that sometimes it was also me and one of the two forming a new "alliance," gradually letting go of my own "sensitivity" and inferiority.

I've got two points to mention to you here!

? 1. Low self-esteem: It's something we've all experienced to a greater or lesser extent.

Humans are social animals and products of their environment—and it's a wonderful thing!

If everyone is "alone," they won't feel lonely or uncomfortable. But when some people are "in pairs" and others are "alone," it creates a wonderful contrast! When people are not used to being alone, they feel lonely.

Because everyone needs the strength of life, including a sense of worth, a sense of existence, and a sense of security. And when we feel isolated, it undermines our sense of security. But when we feel connected, it gives us a sense of worth, existence, and security!

It's totally normal to feel a bit left out when the other two people chat and speak more often, and behave in an overly intimate/close manner. It's only natural to feel a bit uncomfortable and have a sense of being isolated in those moments.

They long to be seen and noticed! And we think that being seen and noticed is the only way to feel respected and accepted, and to have a sense of existence and worth.

But the amazing thing is that the strength of these lives does not only come from the outside, but mainly from within. "Inner abundance leads to outer abundance." When we place our hopes for the fulfillment of our needs on others or the outside world, there will always be the pain of "not getting what we want." But here's the good news: these will temporarily satisfy our needs, but once they are taken away, we will fall into the abyss of despair. And then we get to start over!

And the best part is that when you turn outward, you're actually turning inward! You focus on your own learning and growth, maintain a connection with yourself, and thus with the outside world, other people, and the entire world.

?2.?Choice: The great thing is, we can choose freely whether we want to be in a duo or a trio!

For example, I can choose to integrate myself into the lives of two good friends, or to connect with one of them. I can be active and take control of my life!

Loneliness is a fascinating feeling of isolation or alienation from other people or society. It is an individual experience, but it is also a form of self-withdrawal and disconnection, a form of escape.

If I feel like "I'm the unnecessary third person" or if you feel like "I'm bothering others," it's a kind of escape. As a result, self-doubt and self-negation arise. But don't worry! This is something we can easily overcome.

It's time to banish those restrictive beliefs! "Is it because I'm not good enough?" is a mindset that will hold you back. You deserve to feel good about yourself, so let's start affirming ourselves in everything!

Everything has two sides! A person who knows how to be alone will not feel restricted. He does not need to isolate himself; he connects with others. A lonely person feels no connection with others, so he is lonely at heart. But there's a way out of that!

Take back your power! Tell yourself, "I actively chose to be alone, and I have the right to choose," and experience the enjoyable state of being alone.

I really hope the above has provided you with a new perspective, with more choices, and that you love the world and me right back! ?

If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'd love to keep chatting with you one-on-one and see how we can grow together!

My name is Gu Yi, and I am always humble and open-minded.

It is important to understand the character traits associated with our age group.

Mathematics teaches us that triangles are stable structures. However, in interpersonal relationships, triangles present unique challenges. There is always one person who is excluded from the relationship, and one person whose self-awareness may be limited.

During our school years, we were all aware that the primary objective of attending school was to learn. However, as we mature, we are susceptible to the influence of external emotions, and our perspectives evolve in response to the prevailing social climate. It is not uncommon to experience sensitivity and engage in intrapersonal reflection.

In a situation with three people, it is inevitable that one will feel left out. This is not a reflection of one's worth or personality, but rather a fundamental aspect of human relationships. It is essential to embrace a more open and courageous approach in acknowledging this reality.

It is important to accept yourself.

Adolescence is a unique period of personal growth and development. During this time, individuals experience a rich inner drama, which contributes to a sensitive character. This is not necessarily a sign of immaturity, but rather a natural manifestation of adolescence, characterised by a love for the world and a longing for human connection.

Accepting oneself is not merely a matter of reassuring oneself that one is fine. It is about accepting, understanding, and recognizing one's current situation. It is also about continuously developing oneself and becoming more tolerant and understanding.

In a love triangle, differing personalities and concerns result in varying discussion topics and degrees of intimacy. It is essential to understand your own feelings and navigate the situation appropriately. Every relationship has its unique dynamics.

Best regards,