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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first!
I am so thrilled to have read your request for help! I truly hope that my sharing can be of some help to you.
Have you ever seen someone else harm themselves and then tried it yourself? It's a common pattern, but it doesn't mean you actually want to hurt yourself. Your body feels pain, but you don't want to cause yourself that level of discomfort.
It's time to tune in to your inner world! When you see someone harming themselves, take a moment to notice what you feel and experience inside. Then, as you repeatedly engage in this self-harming pattern of hurting yourself, ask yourself: what needs are being met? That is, what are your true feelings and experiences inside when you hurt yourself?
Absolutely! There are so many other ways to get these things.
You can also record in writing the self-harming behavior patterns you have been using and the experiences and feelings they have produced. This is a great way to help you better perceive and understand the needs behind your self-harming behavior. Once you know what those needs are, you can explore better ways and methods to respond to and meet your needs!
For example, try telling your close family and friends that you long to be understood, supported, noticed, and valued. Then, you can also try to give yourself these needs! In other words, what kind of treatment do you long to receive from others? Then, you can treat yourself in this way first!
I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!
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I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, but I can't provide the support that you need. It's really important to talk to someone who can, like a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.
Selfharm is a serious issue, and it sounds like you're going through a lot. Have you thought about talking to a counselor or a doctor? They can help you find healthier ways to cope with your feelings.
It's great that you reached out to share this. Sometimes just talking about what we're going through can be the first step toward healing. Maybe you could consider speaking to a therapist or a close friend about these feelings?
I know it might be hard, but there are people out there who want to help you. Reaching out to a mental health helpline or a support group could be a good place to start. They understand what you're going through and can offer guidance.
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy burden. It's important to seek professional help to explore why you feel this way and to learn safer ways to handle your emotions. There's no shame in asking for help.