In the past three years, I've felt quite crazy and out of control. What should I do?

Hello, my name is Qingxiang, and I'd love to have a chat with you.

From what you've told me, it seems like you sometimes feel like you're holding back your emotions in your daily life. I can also sense that there are times when you feel like you want to let off some steam by yelling or doing something a bit wild. It's like you're having a great time and looking happy, but then when you calm down, you feel like the happiness isn't really from the bottom of your heart.

From what you said, I can clearly see that you are aware of yourself. You can notice the difference in your emotions, you can vaguely detect your unhappiness when you are happy, and you can also perceive the subtle sensations in your body. I can see that you have your own opinions, and I can also see that you have your own speculations, so I know you are very torn about your current situation. I can see that you feel that the situation is hard to bear, and I can also see that sometimes you do things that are excessive, not knowing if it is to make you feel better.

I totally get it. I don't know all the details of your situation, and I don't know what to say. But I'd love to share some thoughts based on what I do know.

1) I just wanted to say a few words about puberty.

You brought up the topic of puberty, which I think is a great idea! I'd love to take a moment to chat about how the brain develops during this time. The human brain can be thought of as having two main parts: an emotional brain and a rational brain. During puberty, our bodies are going through a lot of changes, including a surge in hormones. This can make the emotional brain really active, while the rational brain takes a little longer to develop, usually reaching its full potential around age 18.

I can see that this situation has led to more uncontrollable emotions during adolescence, and there are often drastic changes.

I totally get it. It's totally normal for your emotions to cause some situations. I can feel that you usually adopt some methods to suppress your emotions. To be honest, suppressing emotions is not a very good method. I suggest that you can adopt other methods to vent your emotions.

For example, you could find a place where no one is around and let out a little shout, or go to the playground during recess and run around a little, or buy a few small toys to vent your emotions by squeezing and throwing them hard. Or you could try something else, like a gentle way to let off steam.

2) It's important to remember that there's a difference between how we express ourselves on the inside and how we show up in the world.

After reading your description, I was so touched that I realized I've been feeling the same way for a long time.

My life experiences and the way my parents treated me made me very self-conscious. Many of my classmates at school also did things I didn't like, so I slowly stopped paying attention to my own feelings and started focusing on other people's smiling faces. I did everything I could to please others.

It might become a habit over time, and even when I'm with really good friends, I can laugh and cry with them. It's true that sometimes I suddenly feel that this is not what I want, that this is not what I really feel inside.

It's totally okay to want to change this! There are ways to do it, and they start with small things. You'll find your own way, I'm sure!

I'm going to give you a simple example to help you understand and learn this method. Let's say you're eating at home and you've already eaten enough, but there's still a little left. Someone says, "You eat this piece," and you can try to say, "I can't eat anymore, I can put it in the refrigerator," instead of ignoring your own emotions and accepting other people's suggestions.

3) After reading your long description of the situation, I found that I can't really describe my feelings. To put it simply, they are "precise words, clear descriptions, and punctuation marks in perfect order." I don't know what to say about the words of recognition, but I have read the words sent by many people, and they are far from your words, which shows that you are more serious in your approach to things.

This is really special and deserves to be recognized!

I can see that you're asking for help through the Yi Xinli platform, and it's so inspiring to see your confidence and courage to change the situation! I truly believe that these efforts will bring positive changes to your life.

I remember there was a text called "Born in Hardship, Die in Comfort." There is this sentence in the article:

So, Heaven gives us big responsibilities, and it does this by making us stronger, teaching us resilience, and helping us to grow. It tests us in different ways, and it's through these challenges that we learn and develop.

I know it can be tough when you feel like you can't change the things around you. But I truly believe that all of this will make you stronger!

Hi, I'm Qingxiang! I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and suggestions in the hope that they might be helpful to you.

I love you, world! And I love you, too!