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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm thrilled to see that you've asked for help. I'm excited to share some tips that I hope will be useful for you.
A friend can help you meet certain needs in ways that are more satisfying than going to school. This is because you have expressed your inner desire to be satisfied in other, better ways, but they have been ignored. This means there is an opportunity to meet and respond to your needs in a more positive way!
It's important to remember that unmet needs don't just disappear when they're not responded to. They actually become even more intense! When they can't be met in an appropriate way, they often try to get our attention in an extreme way, like harming ourselves or others.
You can do so much to help! Give him your company, let him feel your understanding, acceptance, and trust. Make him feel safe with you, and he'll open up to you and express what his inner needs are that he wants to satisfy in this way. You can guide him to find better ways to respond and satisfy his inner needs as long as he needs it!
For example, he can directly express his needs to family and friends around him. This is a great way to let them know how he wants to be treated, especially when he has been hurt by the words or actions of others. He can also honestly and courageously express his true feelings at that moment.
You can help him explore some of his passions and strengths, and find ways to distract himself by doing the things he likes and is good at!
I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Center. The world and I love you!
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This sounds like a cry for help and not just attentionseeking behavior. She might be going through a really tough time, and showing her scars could be her way of expressing how much pain she's in. We should take this seriously and try to get her the support she needs, like talking to a counselor or a mental health professional.
It's important to approach her with compassion and understanding. Maybe we can gently encourage her to talk about what she's feeling instead of focusing on the selfharm. Listening without judgment could make a big difference for her.
We should also consider informing someone who can provide professional help, like a school counselor or a trusted teacher. They have the resources and training to handle such situations properly and can ensure she gets the assistance she needs.
Her actions may indicate that she feels powerless and is trying to regain control in any way she can. By offering her a safe space to express her feelings, we might help her find healthier ways to cope with her emotions. It's crucial to show her that there are people who care and want to support her.
If she feels that getting her phone back or staying home from school will solve her problems, it shows how desperate she is for some form of relief. We need to address the underlying issues rather than just the surfacelevel requests. Encouraging open communication with her family might be a step in the right direction.