Internet industry professionals, unsure of what they truly desire, feeling lost without a goal?

Hello, question asker!

I read your post and I can see you're feeling a bit nervous and confused about the future. I'm here to support you!

You learned the ropes and made your way into IT as a developer seven or eight years ago, and it had nothing to do with your major. You've stuck with it and kept up with the industry's needs. You've worked hard and shown what you're capable of. You've paid your dues and have a lot to be proud of. I admire your persistence and your perseverance, and I'm here to give you a big thumbs up!

Maybe it's because you've planned for this from the start that you're ready to handle challenges when they come up. I don't know what you've gone through in the past two years that's made you feel the job's tough, but I can see you're prepared for the future, which is a great sign for your future to keep getting better.

I know you're in pain and facing a tough decision right now. It's better to do this now than to wait until you're in too much pain to handle it and have no choice but to give up. But there's no other way out, and you haven't tried hard in other areas. The medicine is much better. Compared to the day when you'll have to work overtime, your body is strong today, and your mood is relatively relaxed. So, although you're a little anxious now, don't treat it as a big deal.

At the end of the day, we can still adapt to this job. We can still do it through our own efforts, and our bodies can still handle it. I estimate that if we keep at it for 45 years, we should be fine. So there's no need to panic. Oh, that high blood pressure you mentioned may be hereditary. As long as we keep taking medicine and pay attention to our physical conditioning for work, don't ask him to do his best, just keep up.

Then, think about what you want to do next. I think you're almost 30 now, right? If you started working seven or eight years ago, it's probably not easy to take the postgraduate entrance exam, no matter what you want to do. The format of the exam has changed a lot recently, and the scores are getting higher and higher. I don't know why, but halfway through, you realize that you've chosen the wrong major for the exam. My idea is that if you really want to do a certain major for the exam, you can put in a lot of effort, but you have to be determined to do everything. I've tried hard and failed, and I don't need to be in this mood.

Why do I say that? Because I think our health is the most important thing. We should put in less effort and keep up with our current work. If we put in a little effort, wouldn't it be more energy-efficient to focus on this aspect? I know the development industry isn't great for older people, and I know it's not easy. It depends on your own specific situation and your own preferences!

I just think that after working in this field for 7 or 8 years, it may not be easy to change professions or industries, so I have this suggestion. You can just listen to it if you want.

I'm just saying, from a health standpoint, it's probably better to slowly move forward in your current position. That way, you can reduce other anxieties, like whether you should take the postgraduate entrance exam.

Why not look for another job? If you get distracted again, if you get lost, if you get anxious, I think that if you don't know how to control your emotions, it would be better to focus on your major again, because being undistracted may save you energy.

I really hope you can find your future and a great job that suits you. To make this happen sooner rather than later, and to save time and effort, if your financial situation allows, why not find a reliable career counselor? You could also contact old classmates and friends and mobilize resources from all sides. You never know, one of those resources might just come in handy.

This is the information age. Sometimes, a piece of information can be really useful. Try to stay calm, focus on what's useful, and believe that if you're attentive, you'll find a path that's right for you.

You have the ability, the potential, and the ability to actively seek change. As long as you can manage your emotions, the future will be bright for you.

I love you, world!

Good morning, host.

I can sense that I'm currently experiencing a period of low mood, stress, and a sense of being unable to cope with the demands of my work. I'm also afraid of being eliminated from my role. I feel anxious and confused about the future, and I'm also very fearful. I'm also a little worried and doubtful about my own choices. It's understandable that you may not have been happy in the past few years, but you have now discovered the problem and want to solve it, which is a great first step.

Perhaps we can analyze it together and, if possible, help you find a way forward.

1. Could I inquire as to what has caused you sadness?

"I entered the IT industry seven or eight years ago, initially because the threshold was low and the salary prospects were good." Perhaps in the first few years, you worked hard and gave a lot of effort, improving your professional knowledge and skill level and keeping up with industry demands. At that time, you probably still had a lot of drive at work and believed it was very fulfilling.

However, I must admit that I am not particularly interested in technology, and as a result, I rarely feel a sense of accomplishment. For the past few years, I have been focused on simply maintaining my current salary, which has led me to work and study in a way that may not have been the most optimal. Gradually, I began to feel the pressure from work intensifying. Initially, my expectations for my salary also became somewhat blurred, and I found myself going to work simply for the salary.

It is possible that from this point on, your mood began to sink, and some emotions were suppressed, slowly settling in your mind.

Over time, you may feel less able to cope with the demands of your work and lack motivation to do anything. At the same time, you feel that your age has brought some challenges. "I feel that my memory and energy are not as good as before, and I have high blood pressure and need to take medicine every day." You wonder if this may be genetic or due to your nervousness. You may feel that this job is very stressful and difficult to handle.

As this kind of low, negative mood slowly developed and settled, she began to doubt herself. She wondered if she was unable to handle the high-intensity work of the industry and felt pessimistic about her future. Even choosing to take the postgraduate entrance exam now made her doubt whether she had chosen the wrong major again.

From the above analysis, we can gain insight into how pressure or emotions, when initially experienced, have the potential to gradually settle deep within the heart. It's akin to an apple that begins with a seemingly insignificant black spot, which, if left unchecked, can gradually expand in size.

It is worth noting that emotions have the potential to influence our well-being. When negative emotions are not addressed, they can contribute to the development of other negative feelings, similar to how a black spot can affect the heart. In more severe cases, they can even impact our physical health, such as causing sleep disturbances or loss of appetite.

If you find yourself feeling unhappy, it might be helpful to try doing something that makes you happy. Perhaps you could try eating something you enjoy, or doing something that makes you feel good. It can be beneficial to focus on your own happiness, as this can help you to make better choices and judgments.

2. Could I perhaps inquire as to which choice might be the most appropriate?

You may now be facing a dilemma. You may be wondering whether continuing to work in the IT industry will leave you behind, or whether choosing a different major for postgraduate studies will lead to success.

Could I perhaps inquire as to which might be the more appropriate choice?

It is important to remember that the future is not always predictable. Each choice we make in the present can only reveal the outcome in the present. The future will only become clear when it is time for it to do so. This lack of predictability can sometimes cause confusion, worry, and fear of failure.

When I first chose to work in the IT industry, I did so for a number of reasons, including the fact that the entry barrier was relatively low and that the salary prospects were good. Having stuck with it for seven or eight years, I feel that I have achieved a certain level of stability in my career.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what your goal is in choosing a career and what you expect to gain from it.

It's a bit like falling in love. When you first set out, you have a clear idea of what you want. You might have thought you wanted to find someone with double eyelids, but when you met someone for a date, you realised they had single eyelids. However, there were other things you liked about them, so you decided to give the relationship a try. Eventually, though, you realised you wanted to be with someone with double eyelids, so you told your partner that you liked girls with double eyelids.

I hope this example helps illustrate that the right choice is the one that matches your true needs.

If you follow your heart and work hard, you may find that you become what you want to be.

3. How might you empower yourself?

It appears that the work in recent years may have placed you under a considerable amount of pressure. The IT industry can often be demanding, with frequent overtime and irregular rest periods. As a result, you may currently feel somewhat powerless and lack confidence in yourself.

It might be helpful to look for resources around you and consider how you can leverage them to support your growth and development.

For example, you might find it helpful to connect with industry leaders, explore meditation, engage in exercise, and read. The most important thing is to embrace change and to recognize that you can be different from who you were in the past. You can start making these changes now.

I believe that once you have adjusted your state of mind and clarified your inner needs, you will find that things will work out for the best.

Hello!

Host:

I read the post and it seems like the poster is confused and anxious. But I also noticed that the poster has been brave in expressing his distress and seeking help, which will help him understand himself better and adjust.

Next, I'll share some observations and thoughts from the post that might help the poster gain a better understanding of themselves.

1. First, work through your emotions, then tackle the practical stuff.

From your post, I can see you're feeling the pressure at work and worried about being eliminated. At the same time, you're also feeling anxious about your future.

I totally get where you're coming from. If I were in your shoes, I'd be feeling the same way.

As an observer, I've noticed you're eager to find an answer to your career and a way out.

I get the feeling you've been like this for a while. Have you felt better after thinking so urgently about change and finding an outlet? I get the sense that the host seems to be even more anxious.

This reminds me of people who can't sleep. The more they try to sleep, the less they can. So, can we think about this differently?

First, don't push yourself. Take care of your emotions instead.

Because when our hearts are wrapped up in emotions, we never get the results we're looking for. But when we calm our emotions, we can face our difficulties more calmly.

2. Learn some simple exercises to help you relax.

From the post, you can tell that the poster is feeling anxious and afraid. So, how can we calm these emotions within ourselves?

We can relieve our emotions through mindfulness and relaxation exercises. Often, when our emotions arise, our bodies will also have some corresponding reactions.

For instance, when you're feeling anxious, you often notice discomfort in your heart area. At that moment, if you're aware of your body's discomfort, you can focus on that area and spend some time with your emotions.

Take a moment to acknowledge the feeling, then focus on your breathing and relax any tense areas. This often helps to ease the emotion.

I also find that I can relieve my anxiety by having a conversation with it. I ask myself why I'm feeling anxious, what the message is that it's sending me, and what the likely outcome will be.

3. Give it a try!

In the post, the person writing it seems pretty confused. They don't know what they like or what they're good at. They feel like they're not doing well at their job and are under a lot of competitive pressure.

There are some challenges in this situation, but we can still take action.

For instance, you could try out more jobs, get in touch with more employers, and learn more about what you want from a career.

From these experiences, find what you like about yourself. If you don't expand your experiences and just stay within your original perception, will you be able to find a breakthrough?

I think the original poster might also be worried that although the current job is a bit stressful, the salary is still okay. What if you try this job and it's gone, and you haven't found your dream career?

Ultimately, you get out what you put in. Switching jobs is a good way to avoid starvation.

If you don't like your current job and don't want to make any changes, but you think you can suddenly find your passion, I think that's a bit unrealistic.

4. Look at the resources around you.

The host can also look at these resources around them to see which ones they can use to help us gain access to more information and help us find our passion. For example, if they have good resources around friends and family, they can use them.

You have savings now, so you can definitely find a professional career planner.

We can make the most of these opportunities. It's not just about what we like, but also about seizing the moment.

I hope these ideas have been helpful and inspiring for you. I'm Zeng Chen, a certified psychosynthesis coach.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I try to be modest and consistent.

From what you've shared, it seems like you're feeling a bit helpless and confused.

For the average person, a speck of dust from the times can feel like a mountain.

The IT industry is a high-paying industry that has emerged with the development of society, and it has attracted many people of insight to choose this industry. There are also many ordinary people who, like the questioner, are purely looking for a living. Similarly, the advantages of this industry make most people eager to try it. However, the long-term high-intensity pressure and the rapid iteration speed have made the advantages and disadvantages of practitioners in this industry increasingly obvious.

As a developer, you may have experienced a range of emotional events that are difficult to comprehend for those without a similar background. Now, facing reality, you may be questioning your path and feeling uncertain about your future. It's natural to have these feelings at times. Every step you take in life is an opportunity to learn and grow.

It is also worth noting that people often find a direction that suits them through a process of continuous trial and error. Fortunately, we are still in a position to do so.

In this era, there will be a steady stream of occupations that we have heard of or have not heard of. What is stable and good today may not necessarily be so in the future. In light of the many uncertainties of the future, it would be wise to continuously improve our comprehensive strength, be able to face more challenges, and be able to handle more work.

I am confident that with your exceptional self-learning abilities, you will be able to succeed.

How might one adjust their state?

First, it would be helpful to understand what causes our anxiety. In today's world, the rise of short videos has also led to the emergence of individuals who sell anxiety and create fear. Every industry has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. Over time, all industries will likely face criticism from those within the field. If you feel strongly about it, it might be worth considering the next direction carefully.

If you are guided, you may wish to consider starting from your own heart and looking at your own industry dialectically.

Depending on your current situation, it might be helpful to distinguish between work and life. In a high-paying industry, you could potentially obtain a better financial foundation through your own efforts, which might improve your quality of life and give you more choices.

It would be beneficial to learn to find a sense of accomplishment at work and a sense of pleasure in life. It might be helpful to develop your ability to be alone and entertain yourself.

In facing life, we are all beginners. Having made a choice, there is a possibility of right and wrong. The past is already in the past, so there is no need to dwell on it. With regard to the future, we can plan within our abilities or adjust on the basis of the present.

Ultimately, it depends on what kind of life you like or hope for. As long as you are happy and willing, that's all that matters.

I wish you the best.

Hello, question asker!

I understand your feelings and state of mind. I can see the questioner's anxiety, confusion, and panic. However, people of all ages have their own worries, and the questioner needs not worry too much. Let's take a look together.

I am confident that I can overcome these challenges.

"Since it is not my major, I entered the industry with almost zero foundation. I have been learning as I go, which has taken a lot of energy, and I am now keeping up with industry needs."

First of all, I want to praise the topic master for his learning ability. It is undeniably challenging to learn while doing it if you are not in the same field. And he has been engaged in this for 7 or 8 years, which is a testament to his remarkable dedication.

First of all, I want to praise the host for his learning ability. It is not easy to learn while doing it in a non-major field. He has been engaged in this for 7 or 8 years, which is remarkable in itself!

I am not a technology enthusiast, and I do not often feel a sense of accomplishment when I solve problems.

This is something that needs to be confirmed. It's possible that they're not really uninterested, but just suffering from temporary burnout. If that's the case, they should consider adjusting their state. If they are genuinely uninterested, it's important to first identify their strengths and interests. This will help them maintain enthusiasm and determination.

"I've never had a long-term career plan, and I don't know what I want."

"I've never had a long-term career plan, and I don't know what I want."

The truth is, most people don't have long-term career plans. The original poster has now realized this, and it's not too late.

The truth is, most people don't have long-term career plans. The original poster has realized this, and it's not too late.

You need to stop and think about what you really want: a family, a career, to earn more money, to stay healthy, or to achieve a certain balance.

You can stop and think about what you want. Is it family, career, making more money, staying healthy, or achieving a state of balance?

Next, you need to try out different fields and chat with friends from different industries to find your true interests. With time and trial and error, you will discover your areas of interest and expertise. Of course, you can also seek help from a professional career planner to clarify.

"As I get older, my competitiveness may have declined. I feel that my memory and energy are not as good as before. It's likely due to genetics and nervousness. I have high blood pressure and take medication every day."

As we age, our physical functions inevitably decline, and we also experience changes in our ideologies.

As we age, our physical functions inevitably decline, and we also experience changes in our ideologies.

You can redefine success. For example, you used to think having a house, a car, a loving partner, and a successful career was success. Now you know that having a healthy body is success.

You can redefine success. For example, you used to think having a house, a car, a loving partner, and a successful career was success. Now, you know having a healthy body is success.

I realized halfway through my postgraduate studies that I had chosen the wrong major.

"I realized halfway through my postgraduate studies that I had made a mistake in choosing my major."

You need to figure out why you want to take the postgraduate entrance exam. Is there a particular major or university you like? Is it to improve your qualifications? Or are you just blindly joining the army of postgraduate entrance exam candidates to escape work?

The questioner's plan to take the postgraduate entrance exam is unsystematic and somewhat blind. First, figure out why you want to take the exam. Is there a particular major or university you like? Is it to improve your qualifications? Or are you just blindly joining the army of postgraduate entrance exam candidates to escape work?

The questioner's plan to take the postgraduate entrance exam is unsystematic and blind. First, figure out why you want to take the exam. Is there a major or university you like? Do you want to upgrade your qualifications? Or are you just joining the army of postgraduate entrance exam takers to escape work?

However, it must be acknowledged that the competitive pressure of postgraduate entrance exams is also increasing. It is crucial to be prepared for failure and to plan for subsequent development.

There are two crucial steps to changing the status quo. Cultivate more interests and hobbies and try more things. Learn to relax, accept the present with equanimity, reduce the psychological burden, and then find a way to make changes.

There are two crucial steps to changing the status quo. First, cultivate more interests and hobbies and try more things. Second, learn to relax, accept the present with equanimity, reduce the psychological burden, and then find ways to make changes.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the original poster. Best wishes!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, your coach Fei Yun. Thanks so much for sharing your story with me. I can really relate to how you're feeling right now. I understand your distress, confusion, hopelessness, and helplessness.

It's totally normal to feel this way! You don't have a clear goal or plan for your career choice. You chose it "indecisively" and stuck with it "indecisively." It's okay, we've all been there! You haven't found the motivation to move forward at work, nor have you experienced a sense of value and accomplishment.

This state of mind can really take a toll on us, physically and mentally. It can cause self-doubt and self-negation, which can even affect our physical health.

Hug from a distance! There are always more than three solutions to everything. Let's take a look at the problem together, my friend.

?1. About career choice

Let's dive in and see what we can do to help!

It's totally normal to feel confused when it comes to choosing a career. Many of us have heard the advice to "love what you choose" or "choose what you love," but it can still be tricky to know what that looks like in practice.

We all want to be able to "make a living doing what you love." So let's take a look at whether there are any criteria for career choice.

Let's hear a story first, shall we?

Let's hear a story first, shall we?

I think we can all agree that everyone is different. What works for one person might not work for another. That's why it's so important to find what you love and then go for it!

An eagle that was mistakenly raised among chickens was discovered by a talent scout. With his training and encouragement, one day the eagle finally soared on the cliffs. The chickens looked up at the sky and asked, "Are you an eagle that was mistakenly raised among chickens?"

A fox saw a business opportunity and opened a training course with a friendly smile: "How will you know if you're not an eagle if you don't try?"

A whole bunch of chickens showed up for the training course, which was held on the edge of a cliff. The trainer gave them a pep talk and then they jumped off the cliff and became lunch for the fox.

This story is a gentle reminder that no matter how good a method is, it's not going to be suitable for everyone.

"Going to work is like visiting the grave," and most people will put "ability" first. We've all been there!

Ability is all about how much time and energy you put in.

Interest: We all have those times when we just can't continue.

As we all know, interest is related to ability. And as we also know, as the difficulty increases, the ability doesn't always match, and interest can sometimes decrease. But as the ability adapts, interest often increases!

It's so important to choose a career that's right for you, but sometimes it can be tricky to know what that is. We all have different interests and abilities, and sometimes these can lead to fatigue and boredom. So, what should we look for instead?

God sends everyone to this world with a unique mission.

Talent is a person's natural aptitude, that wonderful gift that they possess from the moment they are born.

A natural gift or a natural passion for something or an area.

So, when you're looking for a job, it's not your abilities or interests that should be your focus. It's your talent!

I really think you should read "Success for Every Personality"! It's got some great advice in there about how to find your talent.

I know it can be tricky to find your talent, but I'm here to help! If you meet the following three criteria, it's your talent:

I know it can be tricky to find your talent, but I'm here to help! If you meet the following three criteria, it's your talent:

It's so easy! You don't even have to work hard at it to excel.

2. Focus: You'll be so engrossed in the task at hand that you'll forget all about time!

3. Self-empowerment: You're tireless, even if you're physically tired, but you're full of energy!

?

2. About self-confidence

? 2. About self-confidence

Self-confidence is all about having faith in yourself and in the future. There's no need to prove yourself through things that don't really matter.

Confidence is all about having faith in yourself as a person and having trust in the future. There's no need to prove yourself through things that are tangible.

For example, I'm really good at painting, but I'm not so great at singing. I'm not going to deny myself because I can't sing. I'm not going to doubt myself because of this, and I'm still going to have full confidence in myself.

For example, I'm really good at painting, but I'm not so great at singing. I'm not going to deny myself because I can't sing. I'm not going to doubt myself because of that, and I'm going to stay confident in myself.

Self-confidence is all about believing in yourself and your abilities. It's having that deep conviction that you can do something well or achieve your goals.

Confidence is all about having a good feeling about yourself and your abilities. It's about having a strong belief in your own strength and knowing that you can do something well or achieve your goals.

There are two main types of self-confidence that people often talk about. One is self-confidence based on something you've done. In this case, the so-called self-confidence is a bit of a misnomer. It's not really confidence at all, but a false confidence and a manifestation of an inferiority complex. This is because you lack confidence in yourself as a person.

The other kind is confidence in the person, which doesn't depend on anything external as a standard. It comes from the heart, is unconditional, and is a subjective belief in oneself. This kind of confidence is true confidence.

The more confident a person is, the more peaceful they will be. They don't need anything from the outside world to prove themselves; they believe in themselves and respect others. It's the same for a confident person as it is for a rich person—they don't need to prove anything to anyone!

? Seeing gives you choices, and choices give you freedom. When you combine the above, you can see your "pattern," regain your confidence, be the present you, and allow yourself to have happiness and joy.

I really hope the above is helpful to you, and I love you and the world so much! ??

I really hope this has been helpful for you. And I just want to say that I love you, and I love the world too! ?

If you'd like to keep chatting, just click 'Find a coach' in the top right or bottom of the page. I'd love to keep talking and growing with you one-on-one!

It is evident that you are currently experiencing a state of confusion and uncertainty. You appear to have reservations about the work you have been engaged in for approximately eight years. You perceive that you may not be particularly well-suited to this line of work. You feel that you are losing sight of your professional objectives and are uncertain about your future career direction.

As an Internet technology developer, you previously perceived your salary to have potential for growth. You are not a professional, but you have also experienced and overcome numerous challenges. You are the only individual who is aware of the difficulties you have encountered. You have persisted this long, but you do not intend to continue in this direction indefinitely.

It is possible that you are concerned about being left behind by the times or that you are gradually becoming uncomfortable with your own feelings. As time progresses, you will be able to discern your true state. It is becoming increasingly common for individuals in the workplace to be younger and younger, gaining ground in life at a faster and faster pace.

Your memory and energy levels have declined, your blood pressure is elevated, you are markedly pessimistic, and you are uncertain about your postgraduate studies. Many individuals in my social circle exhibit similar symptoms, struggling to identify their strengths and career paths.

Subsequently, time gradually elapses, and a considerable portion of one's youth is squandered, leading to feelings of silent regret. Additionally, there is a concern that one may not be able to perform the duties of the job satisfactorily over an extended period. In such a scenario, it is advisable to seek counsel from a trusted friend.

It would be advisable to ascertain whether they are able to offer any advice with regard to your career. In addition, you may wish to consider consulting a coach or a psychological counselor in order to gain insight into your recent feelings. It is important to recognize that periods of confusion are a natural part of the process of career development. However, it is crucial to maintain a sense of direction and resilience in the face of these challenges. One potential avenue for support is to take a career personality test, which can provide insight into your professional experience and skills. It may also be beneficial to seek a one-on-one interpretation session.

Please provide the appropriate response to the question.