Introverted and not good at communication, but now the job requires strong communication skills?

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, Coach Mo Xiaofan. I want to give the questioner a hug. Being introverted isn't a problem. It just means you need to develop more skills. Give yourself time to grow.

1. Mom and dad mean well, but their approach is arbitrary.

Most people would say the questioner has a decent job with good benefits. If they're slightly dissatisfied, they're being inconsiderate and unaware of their blessings. That makes them easy to reject.

The questioner should take the initiative to speak with their parents and explain their concerns and efforts. This will help them understand that their child is not being inconsiderate, but rather lacks the knowledge to do certain things. While their intentions are good, it's also essential to consider their own feelings.

You're speaking excessively because you haven't been understood or respected. You want to vent, but this won't solve the problem.

The questioner should talk to a friend or family member who understands them and express their concerns. If possible, they should also discuss the matter with their parents. The goal is to solve the problem.

2. You will learn to work from scratch, and you need to give yourself time.

The questioner must first learn to reconcile with themselves. Given the current work requires relatively strong communication skills and the questioner is relatively introverted, they must learn to fit in. When they communicate in their daily lives, they must take into account the feelings of the questioner and offer help.

If people have helped you, thank them. If you don't understand something, ask for advice. Learn to share. Small gifts and snacks bring people closer together.

If you hate your job, find one that suits you better. You have the right to decide what you do with your professional knowledge and skills.

The world loves you, and I love you too.

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

Once we leave school, we enter the workforce, where we have the exciting opportunity to choose a job that we are good at and like! Since most of our day is spent working, it is important to choose a job that we like in order to enjoy life.

From what the questioner has told us, it seems that his current job was arranged by his parents without asking for your opinion at all. Did the questioner dislike this job from the beginning when his parents arranged it? If not, did you express your thoughts?

From the text, it's clear that the questioner has little say at home. I'm curious if it's customary for the parents to make the decisions and if the questioner is also used to keeping quiet and accepting the arrangements they make. If this has always been the case, it's an amazing opportunity for the questioner to speak up and share their thoughts with their parents.

The strong pressure of work has caused the questioner to start feeling negative and irritable. So, they are bothered by the thoughts that sometimes come to mind, because they feel that although they would never actually do it, they have started to doubt themselves. But don't worry! There's no need to doubt yourself. You're stronger than you think.

First, follow your heart!

It's totally understandable that you feel repulsed by this job. We've all been there! When you're under the heavy pressure of a job, you have no choice but to adapt to it. Every day you feel tired and disgusted, and you even feel that this job cannot bring you any hope. You just endure day after day, until you really can't take it anymore.

I have personally experienced this, so I can understand the questioner's current level of aversion to this job. But don't worry! Since you really don't like this job, why not choose a job you want instead? Know your goals and the path forward clearly. As long as you don't regret it, just move forward!

2. Communicate with your parents

The questioner is resentful of their parents' role in arranging the job, but you're still holding on. This is a life of compromise, and you can absolutely arrange the direction you want to go first and then express your thoughts when communicating with your parents! Sometimes hurtful words are said in the moment to vent emotions, but the person listening will still be hurt. So don't say things you shouldn't just for the moment's pleasure — you've got this!

Your parents may tell you that the imagination is beautiful, but the reality is harsh. But if you don't give it a try, you'll only regret it! So the original poster should definitely try to communicate with their parents so that they can agree with and respect your decision.

Communication is so important! Don't put your grievances first, but let them feel the pressure that this job has put on you. As parents, the most important thing is that your children can live a good and happy life.

3. Let it all out!

Because of work pressure, the questioner's life has been greatly affected, but there are ways to turn this around! In addition to confiding in someone you trust about your troubles, the questioner can also go out more, take a walk, go admire the beautiful scenery around you, and let the troubles in your heart be exhaled out of your body with each breath.

Singing is a fantastic way to relieve stress and let out your anger. Sweating during exercise is another great option. You'll be amazed at how much dopamine you produce when you exercise! It'll make you feel happy! And there are so many other ways to relieve stress, like painting, dancing, yoga, etc.

It's time to find a way to relieve stress that suits you! Once you've done that, you'll be ready to deal with your emotions first, and then face the decision of whether to stay or leave this job.

I really hope my answer is helpful to the questioner! Best wishes!

Almost all work requires communication. This can help people get things done more easily. You feel like you're an introvert who isn't good at communicating, but your work requires you to be able to charm everyone.

This is upsetting. We need to explore why we're in this situation. Your parents and you have different personalities. You didn't choose your job.

Everyone else is chatting, but you can't join. You feel miserable. Your parents never ask for your opinion.

This is also embarrassing and painful. You cannot be too independent because independence requires freedom. Your current work pressure should also be high.

Many people are forced to do things against their will. You don't need to despair. Your family is not your ruler. It's your time now, and you still need to make your own decisions. As a professional heart coach, I recommend that you take the original family trauma test to see if you are willing to become independent and allow yourself to consider your future plans.

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