Is anxiety or depression causing this fear of being rejected when visiting clients?

Hello.

Many people are afraid of rejection, but this has nothing to do with anxiety disorders or depression. As social animals, humans are wired to avoid rejection. In primitive society, being rejected and excluded from the group could mean that you need to survive alone, and under those conditions, surviving alone could be directly equated with death. Everyone has the desire to survive, and being rejected could mean that it is not conducive to survival. This is why many people are afraid of rejection.

This is a collective subconscious, something that comes with being born, not a disease.

However, the fear of rejection can be quite disturbing, especially if you work in sales. Follow these tips to reduce your fear of rejection.

The consequences of being rejected are not as terrible as you think.

When a customer rejects you during a visit, you just lost a customer. It's that simple. You've been in sales for 10 years, and a rejection will not get you fired. Even if you lose your job, you're not going to starve in this well-off Chinese society.

Think about it again. If a girl rejects you, the worst that can happen is that you can't continue with her smoothly, but it doesn't mean that other girls will also reject you. It's just that the two of you may not be a good match, and you can still go ahead and pursue other girls.

Refusing your request does not mean rejecting you.

I am certain that you or someone close to you has received a call from one of these salespeople. Most people immediately hang up or say "no thanks" after the first few sentences.

This is not a reflection on the caller, but simply a lack of need for the product. For example, some salespeople may call students to ask if they need a house.

Similarly, if you visit a client and they reject you, it's not because of any problem with your abilities or because they don't like you. It's simply because they don't need the product or it may not be a good fit for them. It's a simple mismatch between the client and the product, not that the client has a problem with you and won't buy from you.

The same goes for girls. When a girl rejects you, it's not because she dislikes you or thinks you have flaws. It's because she doesn't think you're a good match.

For example, it may be that you are older than she is and she may prefer someone younger. That doesn't mean you are not good enough.

Rejection is often not because others are negative towards you, but simply because it doesn't fit. It's like going shoe shopping. You like a pair of shoes, they're good quality, but you wear a size 38 and only have a size 39 in stock. You don't have a choice but to pass on the shoes.

It's not the shoes' problem; it's just because they don't fit. Don't lose confidence just because you were rejected. It has nothing to do with you.

I hope my answer has been helpful. I wish you the best.

Hello, it's great to hear your story. From what you've told me, I can tell you're an experienced salesperson.

I've put together a few suggestions that I hope will be helpful for you.

First of all, in more than ten years of sales work, I've seen a lot of rejection, and the department has calculated it in the hundreds. But you've been able to persevere for ten years, which shows you have good persistence.

But I think the customers you need to develop for your work aren't that loyal, so they're not going to buy from you again. So if that's the case, I'd suggest switching to a position in channels, agents, or wholesalers. That way, as long as you treat your customers well, they'll keep buying from you. You just need to keep up good relationships with your old customers while developing some new ones, and your performance will stabilize.

Second, anxiety disorder requires expert certification. Let's not label ourselves. Even people without anxiety disorder have various anxieties in life. We're not special, just ordinary people.

If you're anxious about something, it probably means you don't have enough experience dealing with it. You might not know what to do or how to do it best, so it's a good idea to brush up on your knowledge. For instance, you could look into why you were rejected in sales, ask your colleagues for their reasons for success, brush up on product knowledge, improve your professionalism, and change the impact of your personal sales.

Third, it's not uncommon for girls to reject you. Being rejected at the beginning is better than being lied to and then told it's not working out. It gives you hope and then despair. So, thank those outspoken girls, but you can't give up just yet. First, you need to figure out why you were rejected. If it's a real personal flaw, go fix it. If it's the girl's wrong values, just let her go.

There's always something better on the horizon!

I hope your business does well, that you find a way to overcome the difficulties you're facing, and that you find your soulmate soon. Here's a saying I think you'll find helpful: if you have sunshine in your heart, the world is warm; if you have darkness in your heart, the ground is full of filth.

Believe in yourself. You're always the best and most special. Protect your soul from the influence of others!