Is it a matter of unwillingness to pay, or is it something else?

Good day, question asker!

From what I can gather from reading your problem description twice, it seems there may be a lovely, somewhat lost soul hidden between the lines.

Your title may seem incomplete, but it is likely that you are aware that it represents many possibilities.

Fortunately, you have not denied yourself, but are expressing your confusion about yourself with an attitude of self-exploration. You even considered the possibility that it may be a "lack of internal drive."

I believe this may be the case. It's possible that we haven't yet begun to tap into our inner drive to make life flourish.

First of all, it might be helpful to accept yourself as you are. Whether it's work or life, "a mess" can often be the catalyst for growth and change. Otherwise, it's possible that you might have raised this topic as a way of exploring these ideas further.

You are on a journey of self-discovery. As you learn more about yourself and embrace your true self, you will find your own rhythm and motivation, and life and work will gradually fall into place.

If I might offer my thoughts on the question of whether you are willing to pay or not, I would say that:

I believe that following your heart and accepting reality at the same time is the best approach. When your heart wants to do something, you will undoubtedly be willing to pay the price. When you have to do something, you will also be willing to pay the price. When you do the current thing well and don't think about it, there will be no problem.

I hope this has been helpful. Thank you for your question.

Hello!

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I read the post carefully and I could tell that the poster is confused about his own behavior and doesn't know how to adjust himself. I also noticed that he's brave for expressing his confusion and seeking help on the platform. I'm sure that will help him understand himself better and adjust himself.

I'd love to share my observations and thoughts in the post, which I hope will help you view yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. Take some time to explore why you are the way you are.

It's clear from the post that the poster is struggling with a sense of meaninglessness in both their work and life. It's so sad to see that this has caused them to encounter some problems in both their personal and professional lives.

So next, I'd love to explore with you, the original poster, why you are the way you are. I wish I could give you more information to answer your question, but I don't have all the details.

I've also found some other interesting associations. There's a term on the internet that says the term "empty heart disease" was coined by a university professor. It seems to apply to many college students, because before the college entrance exam, their parents encouraged them to study hard so they could get into a good university.

Once they get to university, they've basically completed their parents' mission for them and lost their parents' encouragement. It's a bit of a shock to the system!

They're not sure what they like anymore, and they're not sure what's meaningful. It's like their hearts are empty.

So, for you, the original poster, you can also look back on your own growth experience and see what caused you to behave in this way. This is often related to our upbringing, and it's totally normal!

Take it from me, I know procrastinators! Some people put things off because their parents made all the decisions for them when they were growing up.

And this is a kind of control from a certain perspective, so he uses procrastination to fight back and express his dissatisfaction. But sometimes he may even enjoy this a bit, because if everything is arranged, he doesn't have to waste brain cells thinking about it.

Sometimes, there are a few contradictions here and there.

2. Have fun and try new things!

So for now, we can try new things and find things we enjoy and feel are meaningful. The original poster knows that he sometimes needs a little encouragement to get going.

However, this is driven by external forces, rather than our inner desire to take action.

Often, once we find what we like, we'll naturally want to take action. For example, if we find someone we like, most people will naturally want to pursue and get closer to that person, right? So, for now, we can try to experience new things and do new things!

I truly believe that trying new experiences can help us find things we love and things that truly matter to us. When we find these things, our motivation will naturally follow!

3. Treat yourself! Do things you love.

In your post, you mentioned that you feel like you have no motivation in life or at work. It's totally normal to feel this way! Often, it's because the things we have to do aren't what we like to do.

Or, we might feel like we're forced to do it. In that case, we may procrastinate and not want to do it.

We totally get it. The feeling of doing something you don't like is really tough.

We all do it! We try to avoid feeling bad, and that can lead us to expend energy. Sometimes, our protective mechanism kicks in, and we procrastinate.

But sometimes in reality we have to do these things, and this conflict really causes us a lot of internal conflict. It can be so hard! But what if we really have to do these things in reality?

The good news is that we can still nourish ourselves by doing the things we like. And these things we like don't necessarily have to be meaningful. As long as they are the things we like and will generate that sense of flow, they will nourish our vitality.

I really hope these will be helpful and inspiring for you! I'm a mindfulness coach, Zeng Chen.

If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication. I'm here to help you explore and grow, and I'm always here for you!

Hello, I'm Yaya Tree, and I totally get you! I share your enjoyment of this dilemma. When I was a child, whether it was in school or in life, my motivation for doing things basically followed my parents' wishes.

For example, when I was going to school, I was really excited to study because I wanted to please my parents and teachers. They were so encouraging, and I was eager to do well on the exams to show them how much I appreciated their support. The same goes for doing housework or other things in life. I was always eager to do a good job and complete tasks to the best of my abilities. My parents and family members were so encouraging, and I was excited to do things for them because I loved them so much.

I'd love to know if the OP also spent his childhood in such an environment!

If we don't cultivate our curiosity and sense of exploration about the world from an early age, we will lack internal motivation. In other words, our motivation in life will be driven more by the outside world. But here's the good news! When someone pushes you, you will do something, and when no one pushes you, you will find the motivation to keep going on your own!

In this state of relying on others to push you, your heart is closed, and there is always a sense of involuntariness. But don't worry! This is something you can change.

In fact, this is what dependency is like. In a state of dependency, you feel that you have no initiative, but that's OK! It is difficult to leave it, but you can do it!

It's the same with our dependence on external motivation. You long for someone to give you a push to get you moving! And while you may not like the feeling of being pushed along without initiative, you'll be amazed at how much you can achieve when you put your mind to it.

This is a paradox, and it's a fascinating one!

But here's the good news! When we embrace our passion for the world, feel alive at heart, and embrace exploration and curiosity, we become unstoppable. Even if someone gives us a push, we're ready to go the distance. It's like a car with an engine that's ready to race!

So the key to this problem is to find our own enthusiasm and curiosity about the world! Once we do that, we can push ourselves to do amazing things.

So, how do you find your curiosity about the world and truly cultivate your internal drive?

We absolutely have to start with small things and find the things in life that really make us happy and glad to do them!

No matter how small the thing is, we should pay attention to it! Let me give you an example:

I absolutely love watching some of my favorite TV dramas and applying the psychology we've learned! It's such a fulfilling interest for me, so I make sure to pay attention to it and cultivate it as much as I can. I'll find that the flame of interest and curiosity will gradually grow bigger and bigger as I nurture it. I've already written hundreds of Q&As and articles, and this is my internal drive!

It's important to remember that internal drive is not innate. It's something that we can all cultivate! When you feel curious and passionate about something, don't destroy it. Instead, observe it and observe yourself doing it. You'll soon discover what you like and what you're really willing to work for!

The process of pursuing your internal drive is not a one-off. It is full of twists and turns, but it is also very worthwhile!

So, are you ready to try and observe what you really like? Are you ready to start exploring it today?