Is it from the bottom of her heart that Mom praises her daughter, or is it just to make me happy? I'm really worried and restless.

It is not possible to remain young and beautiful indefinitely, but it is possible to maintain confidence throughout one's life.

In your description, you are comparing two situations that are more or less the same. Since you agree with your mother that you look better with makeup than without, then your mother's opinion should be consistent in both situations. Whether your mother's opinion of you is one of concern or affirmation, and whether other people share the same opinion, is a different matter.

Each of us has our own set of strengths and weaknesses. This definition may be based on our own self-perception or that of others. However, both the positive and negative aspects are inherent to our identity. When facing personal shortcomings, the most effective approach is to embrace a holistic self-acceptance.

If you have reservations about your own efforts, any affirmation from others will be met with skepticism.

It is inevitable that we will encounter a wide range of individuals throughout our lives. It is, however, unfeasible to satisfy everyone. The purpose of our lives does not lie in this. We do not live our lives for the approval of others, but rather for our own personal growth and development. It is, therefore, crucial to align your actions with your values and recognise your efforts. Otherwise, your progress may not align with your expectations.

It would be beneficial to communicate with your mother in a clear and assertive manner to convey the significance of this matter and request her assistance in achieving your goal. I believe your mother is aware of your genuine intentions and will provide you with the necessary support.

Hello, question asker! First of all, I'd like to give you a big, warm hug!

I'm thrilled to share my personal opinion on your question!

First, regarding the problem that you think your mother is just saying that to comfort you, I think there are two solutions:

1. Go right ahead and ask your mother directly whether she thinks you are good-looking from the bottom of her heart, and listen to her answer!

2. Think about it from another perspective. If your mother was trying to coax you into saying that, why didn't she do it before? Why didn't she say you looked good before?

So what my mother is saying now should be the truth, don't you think?

Secondly, I'd love to share my views on the question of appearance that has been troubling you.

I'm so excited to tell you my views on this! I don't think looks matter at all. What do you think?

So, what do you get if you look good? Well, you get to eat!

Absolutely! People will pay you more if you look good. You'll definitely get a good job if you look good.

Guess what! You can't rely on your looks to get you a date.

Looking good is a great way to make a good first impression! But when it comes to getting along with others, interacting with people, or being in a relationship, people don't just look at faces. And you can't live on looks alone.

I'd love to know what you think!

2. What is important? To summarize in a common phrase, I absolutely believe that inner beauty is true beauty!

We don't need to pay too much attention to superficial things. We should focus on the beauty of the soul and spiritual abundance instead! Let's strive for that with all our might!

I really hope my answer will enlighten you!

I really hope all goes well for you! I love you and I love the world!

Hello, I can tell you're anxious, worried, and confused.

You think you're ugly, so you dress up and get compliments.

A careless remark from your mother at home can hurt you.

At home, you also adjust yourself, and your mother starts to praise you.

But you doubt whether your mother really thinks you're beautiful or is just saying that to make you happy.

This makes you feel confused and upset.

I understand. It's natural to love beauty and want everyone to feel beautiful.

The root is within.

If you feel beautiful, you won't mind what others say. If you don't have confidence, you won't trust what others say.

If you feel bad about your appearance, putting on makeup can make you feel better. When your classmates praise you, you will believe them.

When you're at home with no makeup on, you feel inferior. So when your mother says there's a big difference, you agree. But when she praises you for being pretty, you doubt it.

You don't believe you're beautiful.

Accept yourself.

If you're not beautiful, that's the real you. Beauty is less important than authenticity.

There is no standard of beauty. Find the part of yourself that shines. When you feel worthy and beautiful, you won't care what others think.

When you let others judge you, you lose yourself.

Appreciate yourself and your life will be easier.

There's more than one kind of beauty. Confidence is one of the most attractive. I hope you love yourself and that confident, hardworking girls have their own radiance.

Best wishes!

Good afternoon. I extend my warmest regards to you in the form of a 360-degree hug.

I believe that when someone offers praise, it is best not to dwell on whether they truly mean it or not. Instead, it is more beneficial to accept it with grace.

If a classmate tells you that you are pretty, it would be best to accept their compliment and thank them for it.

If you're not wearing any makeup, your mother may praise you for being pretty. It might be helpful to accept this.

Even if someone is just trying to cheer you up, they've still offered you praise. It might be helpful to accept this with an open mind.

At the same time, it would be helpful to be a little self-aware. Being self-aware does not mean that you should belittle yourself. It does mean, however, that you should accept yourself, perhaps imperfectly, but accept yourself nonetheless, and be able to view yourself more objectively.

For instance, if you tend to be somewhat self-conscious about your appearance, it's likely that this is a reflection of your current aesthetic preferences. Could this be true?

It might not be the case, though. This is just something you've observed.

In any case, this is your perception of yourself, and you may still feel a little inferior.

Perhaps you believe your mother is simply trying to make you happy. If she says something you can accept, would you also be able to accept her saying you're not pretty?

It might not be the case, though.

My daughter often says that she has the most beautiful mother in the world. I believe I have some self-awareness.

In any case, the child is happy to say that she thinks her mother is the most beautiful. I also think she is the cutest little child in the world.

I'm sure we can all agree that my daughter is not the most beautiful or loveliest little girl in the world, right?

I wonder if there is a standard for this. As a mother, I think she is very cute because she was born to me, has my blood, and I love her, which is enough.

At school, some kids say unkind things about her, calling her stupid. I always tell her that in her mother's eyes, she is the most adorable, but in other mothers' eyes, their children are the most adorable.

Perhaps it would be helpful to focus less on what other people say and more on the facts.

It's possible that she doesn't fully comprehend these words. Nevertheless, I have faith in her. In her mother's eyes, she is one of a kind.

You didn't mention what your thoughts were on your classmates' praise, but it seems like you might have some reservations about your mother's praise. Do you feel like you don't deserve it?

Or perhaps you don't have any concerns about your mother? I'm not sure how your relationship with your mother is currently.

It is challenging to make a judgment call in this situation.

I would gently suggest that it is not necessary to avoid caring about appearance. Women do care about their appearance, and I am no exception. I do not concern myself with other people's opinions, but I do like to present myself in a tidy and neat manner. It is a courtesy to oneself and others, and it is also a resource.

It is worth noting that appearance can be a positive attribute. It is important to avoid labeling others as shallow, as this is a natural aspect of human behavior. Instead, we should strive to navigate these tendencies in a constructive manner, rather than engaging in opposition or resistance.

If I might offer a suggestion, it would be to accept the advice, regardless of whether your mother offers it sincerely or simply to make you happy. Afterward, it would be appropriate to express your gratitude.

While it's important to maintain a sense of humor, it's also crucial to recognize the distinction between what's real and what's not.

It is perfectly acceptable to care about your appearance and to dress yourself up. However, it is important to understand why you are doing so.

I hope everyone wears makeup to make themselves feel a little more comfortable, rather than to cater to other people's aesthetics or opinions.

I am often both Buddhist and pessimistic, and I try to be an occasionally positive and motivated counselor. I love the world and I love you.

Good day, landlord. I came across your question and thought it might be helpful to share a few ideas for your consideration.

If I might make a suggestion, perhaps we could talk a little more about knots?

In just a few words, at least three issues have been mentioned.

1. Appearance-related inferiority complex

2. The mother's attitude and feedback

3. Inattentiveness caused by emotions

It's like a chain reaction that's causing you some concern. Perhaps you could consider which aspect you'd like to focus on first.

Could you please explain how it forms?

Let's consider the formation of low self-esteem in more detail. It's worth noting that low self-esteem is not something that is innate; rather, it is often the result of a complex interplay of factors.

It is fair to acknowledge that everyone benefits from some external feedback to reflect on their own performance. Learning and personal growth often depend on this kind of feedback.

It could be said that the foundation for self-confidence or low self-esteem begins with the physical and psychological experiences of childhood, which are inextricably linked to interactions with parents and the objective conditions of the family. We often look to our parents as a kind of mirror, reflecting and even shaping the early prototype of our self-image and self-perception.

It could be said that the initial self is not the ultimate true self, and it is even less an independent self. It is often influenced by the outside world and dependent on the evaluation of others, largely because there is no real separation from one's parents on the conscious level.

As we transition into adolescence and adulthood, we naturally begin to form our own social circles, which provides us with a broader range of perspectives and opportunities to reflect on our evolving self-images and evaluations.

As we gradually establish our own unique outlook on life, values, and personality development, we gradually become more independent individuals.

How might we go about accepting ourselves?

Acceptance is a process that requires a great deal of self-exploration and self-knowledge. It is something that can be learned with time and experience.

Acceptance is a process that requires a great deal of self-exploration and self-knowledge. It is something that can be learned with time and experience.

It would be beneficial to develop different aspects of yourself in various areas of life, including work, study, travel, making friends, relationships, and even entertainment. Having enriching experiences can help to enhance your beauty in a more confident and three-dimensional way.

Learning to love yourself is a lifelong journey. Ultimately, it is through living the life you create that you can gain a sense of self-worth.

I am optimistic about the future and hope that you will enjoy a life that is both abundant and confident!

I am optimistic about your future, and I hope you will enjoy a life filled with prosperity and self-assurance.

Hello, host! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

Did you know something really interesting? It's called the psychological projection effect. It basically means that we project our own feelings, will, and characteristics onto others and assume they feel the same way about us. So, if we don't like the way we look, we think that other people don't like the way we look either.

Many folks think that we'll only like the way we look when others like it. But the truth is, if we don't like ourselves, it'll be tough for us to feel loved by others.

It's also important to remember that no matter what we're like or how beautiful and charming we are, there will always be people who like us and people who don't. We're all different, and we all see things differently.

So, if we always try to change ourselves to please other people, we might not gain inner beauty because other people's standards can change. But if you can accept and love yourself, you'll feel better and better, and others will feel your special charm and style too!

I'd love to share some advice with you:

How can we best handle other people's opinions, including our mothers'?

How can we treat other people's comments in a kind and respectful way?

We're all different, and each of us has our own way of seeing things.

When others meet our evaluation standards, we like, recognize, and support them. When they don't meet our standards, we might not feel so good about them.

It's only natural that when we meet someone else's expectations, they'll approve of us. But when we don't quite meet those expectations, it's only human to feel disapproved of.

So, you'll find that whether the other person approves of you or not is not really important to you, but rather whether you match his evaluation criteria. But, we can't control the thoughts and actions of others, and we can't possibly match everyone's evaluation criteria every time.

Life is tough for everyone, and we all have different wants and different positions. There's no need to practice self-improvement according to other people's standards or to force others to conform to your own standards. There's no need to seek others' understanding and approval in everything.

So, there's absolutely no need to sacrifice yourself to gain or maintain the approval of others. It's not like you need to be liked by everyone, because there will always be people who like you and people who don't. What matters is that you can accept yourself, liked or not.

We don't live to satisfy other people's expectations. It's so important to remember that! If we keep seeking approval from others and caring about what they think, we will end up living other people's lives. And if we want to be liked too much, we will live our lives according to other people's expectations and lose our true selves. This will cause you trouble because it is not the life you really want.

It's time to take back the right to judge yourself! You can treat yourself as someone else and evaluate yourself comprehensively, objectively, and truthfully. This way, you'll know yourself better and be able to recognize yourself. You'll also know what you want, and at this point, the opinions of others will become less important.

When you care less about what others think and live your true self, you'll find that your relationships will improve! Those "bad relationships" that you've earned through appeasing others and suppressing your own needs will no longer bother you.

You've got this! Practice self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance is the foundation of self-confidence and self-change. It's so important to feel worthy and good about yourself! When we don't feel good about ourselves, it can lead to some not-so-great experiences, like anxiety, depression, OCD, and personality disorders.

Self-acceptance is all about having a positive attitude towards yourself and your characteristics. It's about being happy with who you are and where you are in life, and not being proud of your strengths or feeling inferior about your weaknesses. And the great thing is, self-acceptance is a right that every human being is born with.

You are already accepted just as you are! You don't need to have outstanding merits, achievements, or changes that others hope for to be accepted.

According to psychologist Abraham Maslow, a healthy person should be able to accept their own nature and that of other people without being upset or complaining about it. It's like someone not complaining about why water is wet or why rocks are hard. We can live well with our own inadequacies and flaws.

Knowing yourself is so important! It means understanding your position in life, what you need and want, and what you can and can't do.

It's so important to be able to accept ourselves, even when we see our own imperfections. It's okay to feel a little frustrated, but it's also important to believe that we can continue to improve and grow.

Accepting yourself is all about appreciating what you have, respecting yourself and others, seeing the differences between you and others in a positive way, and understanding that your life is a wonderful, unique miracle. Even if you don't get a lot of praise from others, you can still love and accept yourself.

When you make a mistake, it's okay! We all do it. It just means that one thing or one action is wrong, but it doesn't mean that your entire being is bad. You allow yourself to make mistakes, and seeing mistakes is also part of life. Mistakes are bridges that help you grow.

Accepting yourself is all about embracing all the wonderful things that life has to offer. It's about being open-minded and not letting anything get in the way of your journey. It's about being neither too subjective nor too bigoted, neither too arrogant nor too humble.

As the wonderful Romain Rolland once said, "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after knowing its truth."

And then, we also need to love ourselves after seeing ourselves clearly.

Have you ever wondered how we can achieve self-acceptance?

It's totally normal to have trouble accepting ourselves. We all have insecurities and flaws, and we've all experienced rejection and criticism at some point in our lives. These experiences can leave a mark on our hearts, making it difficult to love ourselves fully. When we encounter challenges or see our shortcomings, it's natural for a voice in our hearts to pop up, rejecting and criticizing ourselves.

So, self-acceptance takes time and practice. It took me a while to get to where I am now, and I still have a way to go. But, from my own experience, the more we accept ourselves, the more confident we will become, the more motivated we will be to change, and our state will continue to improve.

So, think of self-acceptance as a skill you can practice every day. It's something you can learn and grow in!

I'm so excited to share with you five ways to cultivate self-acceptance, as revealed by a clinical psychologist!

1. Set the goal of self-acceptance within yourself.

"Self-acceptance begins with intention," says psychologist Geoffrey Sumber. "It is so important that we set a goal for ourselves, to transform a world of blame, doubt, and shame into one of inclusion, acceptance, and trust." This idea acknowledges that self-loathing does not lead to a satisfying life.

Sambur said, "If I set the goal that a life of self-acceptance is much better than a life of self-hatred, then I will start a chain reaction within me to adapt to a peaceful life."

2. Record your strengths!

Write down one of your strengths every day, affirm your value, and see your strengths. You'll be amazed at what you discover! And playing to your strengths will give you more confidence than correcting your weaknesses.

Because in today's society, we can make up for our shortcomings through cooperation, and our strengths will show the world what makes you special.

3. Don't be afraid to ask for help from those you love!

Spend time with people who make you feel comfortable, who accept you unconditionally, support you, and love you. Build a supportive relationship with them. It will make you feel more stable, peaceful, and joyful!

4. Talk to your best self.

Just picture this: you're interacting with your best self. Your best self is right there with you, looking out from your body and giving you advice on what to do next.

This visual separation is a great way to give yourself a little space from your current self, or what we sometimes call the "suffering self." It allows you to connect with your inner wisdom and use it to help you heal.

This exercise is a great way to learn how to be the best parents we can be and show ourselves lots of love and compassion. You can spend a few minutes meditating and doing this exercise whenever you need a little guidance or some self-comfort.

5. Go ahead and act as if you already are what you want to be!

If you don't believe you are a valuable person, then first give yourself some love and hold onto that belief. Only when we can unconditionally accept ourselves can we finally forgive our mistakes and give up the need for approval from others.

We all make mistakes, and so do others. But our identity is not defined by our mistakes.

When something is missing within us, we look for it outside. If we cannot accept ourselves, we will crave acceptance from others. But, everything outside is unstable. So, it's really important to seek inwardly to gain stable acceptance. When we have achieved self-acceptance, we will not care so much about the approval and evaluation of others. This will help us gain true inner freedom!

It's a common misconception that how we look affects how we feel. In reality, there's no direct link between our appearance and our sense of well-being.

It's just that society places a lot of emphasis on girls needing to be slim and beautiful. This can make some girls feel as if all their problems in life will be solved if they just look good.

But when they actually get to the workplace or get married, they realize that this belief is wrong. We all encounter things that we don't like and have problems to solve in the workplace and marriage.

Even celebrities with beautiful faces can suffer from betrayal in relationships, unfair competition in the workplace, and marital strife just like us ordinary folks.

The people who really matter in life, the people who really have an impact on you, won't care so much about your appearance. And what can really sustain a relationship is never appearance, but something deeper.

There are so many more worthwhile things in life than pursuing a pretty appearance. We all know that focusing on our appearance is difficult for us to change, and that can prevent us from realizing our own value. I really hope we can all let go of our obsession with appearance, learn to love ourselves, appreciate ourselves, and accept ourselves. We should not only learn to accept our strengths, but also learn to accept our imperfections.

I really hope you all can be free from the troubles caused by appearance anxiety, and that you can strive to pursue an attitude of healthy beauty. It would also be great if you could find a balance between beauty, happiness, and health.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, questioner! It's clear you feel uncomfortable because you have an inferiority complex about your appearance and have been told off by your mother before.

Later, after various changes, your mother starts to praise you for being beautiful, but you are not happy and worry that your mother is just saying that to make you feel better. This kind of thinking bothers you and makes you feel uneasy. Let me give you a warm hug first.

You know your mother loves you, but you worry that her praise isn't genuine.

But what about before? When your mother was hinting at the difference between your natural and your made-up appearance, she loved you then, didn't she?

These thoughts are not sustainable. You care about your lack of confidence in your appearance.

This thinking is your real enemy. It makes you think nonsense, causes these emotions, and affects your daily life.

First, we can be sure that your mother meant it when she said you were pretty. You are prettier now. Then, accept your appearance as it is now. It is good, beautiful, and a unique part of you.

Your worries will disappear.

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