Is it possible for a man and a woman to get to know each other or fall in love without paying attention to each other's appearance?

It is not feasible to accept this assertion.

One might inquire as to the identity of the individual in question and whether a sufficient level of familiarity exists. In the absence of direct observation of the face or other physical characteristics, and without the capacity for x-ray vision, what other means of assessment might be available?

However, if there is an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of the individual, the rejection cannot be attributed solely to their appearance. Appearance is undoubtedly a factor in an individual's perception, and initial rejection does not necessarily indicate a lack of interest.

If, after having the opportunity to present additional aspects and information about oneself, one is still unable to establish a connection, it is more probable that the lack of attraction is not solely based on appearance.

To illustrate, if one is initially indifferent to a woman's appearance, but subsequently discovers that she is understanding, considerate, gentle, generous, cheerful, or simply wealthy, or that she has a powerful father, this may be sufficient to override one's initial impression and lead to a change of preference.

There is a factor that is sufficient to override one's initial assessment of a person's appearance and to elicit a positive response.

In this case, appearance is not a determining factor. Conversely, if she rejects you, it is because she does not demonstrate the qualities you desire, not because she is not physically attractive.

If there is a way to circumvent an indifferent appearance, it is not a matter of merely closing one's eyes and turning off the lights. Rather, it is a matter of discerning the qualities that are attractive and captivating about the individual in question. In other words, it is about identifying the aspects of the person that are appealing and engaging, and focusing on those aspects rather than the person's appearance.

Naturally, if one does not even consider engaging in further discourse, let alone attempt to ascertain additional information, then it is evident that the initial impression is sufficient to form a conclusion.

I wish you the best of luck in your shopping endeavors.

After being rejected on another blind date, I conducted an analysis to identify the root cause. Through my own assessment and subsequent reflection, I determined that my appearance was the primary factor that led to the unsuccessful outcome.

In light of your uncertainty, we hope that the following information will provide some insight and assist you in navigating the current challenges.

First, to ascertain whether appearance is the underlying cause of rejection on a blind date, it is advisable to consult with the individual who facilitated the introduction. They may be able to provide insight into the other person's previous experiences with blind dates.

It is not uncommon to experience frustration and self-doubt when rejected on a blind date. However, understanding the reason for rejection can provide a sense of control and peace of mind, even if the reason is challenging to change.

However, if you are seeking to make a breakthrough in the situation of blind dates, it is possible that simple attribution will have its limitations. If possible, you can learn about the preferences of the few blind date partners who rejected you from the introductions you met in your past blind date experiences.

Once the situation has been more comprehensively and objectively understood from the perspective of others, existing conclusions can be verified or refuted.

The objective is to gain insight into the aspects of one's personality or physical appearance that are less appealing to the majority of the opposite sex when seeking a long-term relationship. This understanding can facilitate necessary adjustments and better prepare individuals for future relationships.

If it is indeed determined to be an external factor, then in addition to modifying one's facial features through plastic surgery or makeup, enhancing one's temperament is also a viable method for improving one's overall appearance.

2. It is important to recognize that beauty is universally appreciated, and there is no need to be overly concerned with one's appearance. However, it is essential to be aware of one's personal presentation.

2. "Everyone loves beauty." There is no need to exert control over your concern for appearance, but it is important to be aware that

The five senses are always engaged in anticipation and joy in response to pleasurable stimuli. This is an instinct that has evolved over the course of human biological evolution, and it cannot be controlled and does not need to be.

However, when interacting with any person or thing, there are many other factors influencing one's choice and judgment, in addition to their appearance. Therefore, it is also particularly important to be aware of the meaning of appearance to the individual.

For example, some individuals believe that marriage is only possible with a partner who is attractive, as this is a way to maintain self-esteem. Conversely, some individuals prioritize compatibility over appearance, viewing eye contact as a crucial indicator of connection. Others seek to differentiate themselves from popular norms and may not be attracted to conventionally attractive partners. It is essential to recognize the role of appearance in your own self-perception and to understand the significance others place on it.

3. There are many factors that contribute to the realization of a goal. Identify your primary objective and make the optimal decision for your needs.

A blind date is a method of establishing a close relationship. In a close relationship, factors such as the other person's appearance, family background, and character are also considered important.

It is irrelevant whether these parts are valued as right or wrong, good or bad. The crucial factor is whether the two sides match just right. If they do, she has exactly what you need, and you have exactly what she wants. In such a case, the two of you are more likely to succeed.

A deeper understanding of your expectations and desires will help you feel more at ease when facing such a situation on your next blind date.

It is my hope that the above information will prove useful to you.

As a psychologist, my focus is not on exploring human nature but on understanding the human heart. I wish you well.

My name is Gu Yi. I am a modest and humble individual with a consistent approach to business.

Is there a way to bypass the outside world?

The beginning of a relationship is based on certain circumstances. Two individuals must be attracted to each other due to some factors and then proceed to interact. During this process, some individuals do not prioritize appearances. Most of these individuals rely on spiritual nourishment, but this is relatively rare. Ultimately, spiritual things will externalize and give people a sense of beauty, which is what attracts people.

First impressions are crucial, and our appearance is often our first point of contact with others. It reflects our personal style, our standards of quality, and even our habits. It's essential to present ourselves in a way that aligns with our values and aspirations.

As the adage goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." It is therefore evident that our comprehension of beauty is subjective. For instance, while the majority of individuals may perceive a tall person with double eyelids as aesthetically pleasing, there will invariably be those who find a short person with single eyelids attractive. Consequently, there are no absolute standards of beauty.

I would like to offer some advice:

If the interior is not exceptional, then modifications to the exterior may be necessary. The fact that you and your blind date were unable to proceed to the interior and ended up outside cannot be taken to indicate that the exterior is of paramount importance, but it did at least become an obstacle to further communication.

As a general rule, people tend to pursue ordinary, stable, and down-to-earth days. However, there is a common desire for a little more light and color in one's life. This allows for a more comfortable and happy existence, with a sense of anticipation.

Visual stimuli can influence our perception of the outside world, which is why it is important to present ourselves in a positive and appealing manner.

An individual with inner richness will not appear unappealing on the outside. Just as an individual with knowledge and culture is naturally graceful, there is no need to overemphasize these attributes. However, possessing talent within will foster a positive disposition and a pleasant demeanor, which will, in turn, be reflected in one's appearance over time.

It is recommended that young people first focus on their outward appearance and then address their inner self. This approach has proven to be highly effective.

I wish you the best of luck and extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, question asker! I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am thrilled to answer your question on Yi Xinli!

I read your description carefully and I can see exactly what you mean. It's so common for both parties to look at each other's appearance first during a blind date. You don't want to place so much emphasis on the feelings brought on by appearance, but you can't control this mentality, so you're very troubled.

I have some great suggestions for you!

?1. Everyone loves beauty!

☀️Most people will feel a sincere affection for beautiful people or things. This is only natural, so you don't need to worry about it.

I once watched a TV show where the staff put photos of people with different appearances in front of babies, and the babies kept staring at the photos of the beautiful people!

Absolutely! It's perfectly normal for you to like beautiful girls. At the same time, you can dress yourself up clean and tidy before the blind date to give the other person a fresh and good impression, which will help the blind date succeed!

?2. Inner beauty is more important!

In fact, in a blind date, someone with a good inner character is more popular than someone who is simply good-looking.

☀️If someone only looks at your appearance on a blind date, it shows that this person is very superficial. But don't worry! There are plenty of other people out there who are interested in more than just your looks. You'll find the right person for you in no time!

If you're together against your will, it'll be tough to find happiness. But don't worry! There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

☀️So, you have to fall in love with someone who values your inner self. That is the most amazing, wonderful, incredible feeling in the world! It is true love!

3. Adjust your mindset and respond rationally. You've got this!

☀️Don't worry about how your appearance affects the outcome of a blind date! Different people have different preferences. I believe that by constantly learning about relationships, you will definitely meet someone who truly loves you (and doesn't care about your appearance) – it's as simple as that!

☀️ Absolutely! You can meet a great match as long as you have confidence in yourself.

4. When you meet a girl you like, wow her with your thoughtfulness!

☀️As girls get older, more and more of them stop looking at handsome, sunny guys. But don't worry! Although such guys are very attractive to girls, most of them are immature and unstable.

☀️Guess what! Girls want more than just a handsome and sunny appearance. They want a warm man who can shelter them from the wind and rain. And when it comes to love, we value the exchange of hearts more. So, if you want to reap a happy and fulfilling love, you've got to have true hearts for each other!

☀️If you meet a girl you like, seize the chance to show her how much you care! Be considerate and attentive, and show her your deep love. You never know—she might just fall head over heels for you!

Best of luck!

I really hope my answer is helpful to you!

I really hope your blind date goes well and that you find your soulmate soon!

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Hello, questioner! I'm Jia Ao, and I'm here to help.

I saw your post and I'm so sorry you're going through this. It can be really tough when things don't go as planned on a blind date. I can relate because I've been there too! It's so hard to know what to do when you feel like your appearance might be the reason a date didn't work out. I know you mentioned you recently had a date where you felt like your hair loss, acne marks, and glasses might have been a factor in the woman's decision. It's so hard to ignore our insecurities, isn't it? I can relate to that feeling of wanting to look away from someone's appearance, but feeling like you can't. It's a tough spot to be in. I'm here to support you and help you figure out if there's a way to form a bond with someone despite their appearance.

This is such an interesting question! As the old saying goes, "Everyone loves beauty." This is true no matter the time or place, especially when it comes to blind dates. Two people who don't know each other can't help but look for a feeling that makes their heart flutter based on their first impression, right?

I'd love to know your thoughts on this: can you ignore the appearance of both parties when men and women are on a blind date?

Just chat with you:

1. [Listen to your heart]

I'm happy to answer your question! When a man and a woman meet for the first time, a good appearance can definitely leave a great first impression on the other person. Appearance is still very important, and it's also hard to ignore. Handsome men and beautiful women are definitely very eye-catching!

When you go on a blind date, it's still a good idea to pay a little attention to your appearance. Most people like beautiful people and things, nice clothes, beautiful scenery, etc. It's also important to choose a partner, after all! The feeling of excitement when you meet directly determines whether your blind date goes well. If you feel right, you can get to know each other slowly in the later stages and just go with your heart.

2. [Lower your psychological expectations]

If you're someone who values the inner spirit and doesn't judge people by appearances, you might as well try to continue the relationship and get to know each other slowly. After all, marriage is a big step! While appearance is important, it's not the only thing that matters. It's good to look at things in a balanced way.

If you have this attitude, you shouldn't worry too much about the other person's appearance right away. Try to lower your expectations and be yourself when you meet her. Don't reject her just because of her appearance. Get to know her better and see if you click.

3. [Take a deep breath and look at the problem rationally and calmly]

As a girl, I'm sure I know better than you that what girls look for most in a partner is: 1. a good character and a positive outlook on life; 2. a guy who can make their heart flutter; 3. the main point is to find a good relationship, not just a handsome guy. Judging from this, when choosing a suitable partner, it's clear that appearance is not everything. Character and feelings are what matter most. Do you think that appearance is completely ignored? Not really. A good appearance still scores you bonus points and can improve the success rate of a blind date. Is that just looking at the other person's appearance?

Oh, that's definitely not the case! At least in the end, you were attracted to the other person's soul, weren't you?

I hope this helps! After analyzing all this, do you feel clearer? Appearance is only appearance after all. A rich inner spirit is more attractive. What can be improved can be improved a little. Dressing up and not being sloppy is the best. If there is no way to change, just go with the flow. Don't try to force it. I hope you can solve your doubts soon, and I wish you all the best!

I really hope my answer helps! Sending you lots of love ??

Hello.

It's a simple fact that beautiful things are always appreciated by others. This is also the reason why "handsome men and pretty women" always get more attention and favor. When a man and a woman get together, they first get to know each other from the outside, and then get to know each other's character. Getting to know each other better means getting a broader understanding of whether their three outlooks are in line with each other.

Men and women can ignore each other's appearance when they are dating.

This question is false. It depends on the attitude of the person involved, which is subjective.

Most people will misunderstand and elevate "external conditions" to a higher standard, thinking that it is difficult to satisfy the other person and even that dressing up is an act of pleasing the other person. If the other person agrees with the importance of external conditions, they may mistakenly think that the other person is superficial. This is inherently contradictory logical thinking. As explained earlier, "the love of beauty" is something that everyone has, and this beauty lies in appreciation and a feeling of happiness.

It is evident that the desire to be surrounded by beautiful physical objects is not an undesirable trait. It is a natural human desire. However, this pursuit must not harm others or oneself. For instance, constantly undergoing plastic surgery for beauty or having a hidden illness that can only be cured by "beautiful" means is unacceptable. The advent of technological beauty has opened the door for those who feel inferior and are disappointed in life to find an optional item to enhance their lives. It is not the gateway to Pandora's Box.

If you find that the other person is particularly affected by external conditions, you must handle it.

I'm the man, and I recently went on a blind date that was rejected. The other person refused to disclose the reason, but I know it was because of my appearance. I have hair loss, many acne marks on my face, and I wear glasses. Is there a way to bypass the appearance factor? Also, I found that part of the reason I feel no emotion towards the woman also comes from appearance.

The original poster's true feelings may be affected by encountering a partner with unexpected external conditions. How should they deal with their emotions, and how should they handle the relationship with the other party?

First, you need to understand that external conditions don't affect or hinder the establishment of a relationship between two people. At least, they don't account for the entire percentage. The problem with not being able to establish a relationship is that you're not attracted to the person's characteristics. External conditions will only have the greatest impact during the initial meeting. As the relationship develops, both parties will pay more attention to the other person's charisma, that is, the individual's personality, values, approach to things, and family background, etc. When you're attracted to some unique qualities of the other person and the two of you can maintain a stable relationship, you'll encounter and discover the shortcomings of the other person and try to tolerate them.

It is a mistake to think that once a relationship is established, the two parties will immediately be able to accept each other. In fact, they need to undergo a process of continuous adjustment and gradually accept each other's conditions.

Second, give each other the utmost respect and understanding. It is a fact that nine out of ten women cannot ignore the physical appearance of the opposite sex when they first meet. This is because women pay more attention to neatness and appearance than men. What women want is to be fully respected and valued by the other person, and this is not vanity.

If you're not worried about what you look like, make sure you dress the part. A blind date is an important occasion, so you should dress cleanly, neatly, and appropriately. This will give you a chance to open up and talk further. If you don't care about external conditions, you'll probably be left alone. If you can't attract her, she'll probably turn away, thinking that "words don't match, half a sentence is too much."

Finally, improve your self-confidence and work hard to manage yourself. In today's world, especially among modern young people, there is a greater focus on appearance than ever before. This is because they want to have a more refined life and a higher quality of beauty. If you can't always dress up, you can still express sincerity in the process of blind dates and present the best of yourself. When the two of you can really accept each other in the process of deepening your understanding, you can also raise the issue of dressing up, which you are not good at, and make appropriate requests for tolerance.

Don't worry about your appearance. Focus on managing yourself better. Open your mind to help and improve yourself.

Best wishes!

Hello!

I'm a heart exploration coach, and I believe learning is the key to success.

From what you've said, I can tell you're struggling with some doubts, confusion, and a strong desire to change the status quo.

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of your struggles with getting past appearances and having feelings for the other person. Instead, I'll give you some advice to think about:

First, I suggest you try to accept that you can't ignore the impact of appearance on yourself for now.

It's a fact that when men and women meet or fall in love, the first thing they look at is appearance.

Simply put, people who are good-looking have an edge when it comes to dating because everyone wants to look their best. This is normal and understandable.

Most importantly, if you can accept this situation, it will make it easier to make changes. It might seem strange, but this is how it works: you have to accept things as they are if you want to make changes.

Secondly, I suggest you try to view this matter in a logical way.

A rational perspective helps you understand yourself and reality better.

To do this in a rational way, you need to understand two things:

First, it's important to understand that appearance affects how you feel, and that's a fact. However, it takes more than appearance to create a favorable impression.

So, our first impression of someone may be based on their appearance, but after getting to know them, it's not just about that anymore. You also need to see how they behave, how they speak, whether you can get along, whether your worldviews are aligned, whether you have common topics of conversation, and so on.

Understanding this may also help you to know how to bypass appearances and feel something. It means paying more attention to the state of the girl you're chatting with. Do you notice that the way she speaks makes you feel comfortable? Do you agree with what she says?

This is actually related to your criteria for choosing a spouse.

Second, remember that you can change the status quo.

When you take the initiative and put in the work, you'll likely see a change in your mindset. This can open the door to a relationship. It's important to view yourself with a growth mindset and recognize the power of your abilities and time.

Once again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you take a step back and think about the situation rationally, you may also know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do it.

For instance, you can ask yourself what your priorities are when choosing a partner. This means figuring out what matters most to you, what's second, what's third, and what doesn't matter. Once you have some clear, reasonable priorities for choosing a partner, you might feel less torn and distressed because you'll know that what matters most to you may not be appearance.

You can also tell yourself that when you're influenced by appearance, "I always pay attention to girls' appearance, and the other person may also only focus on my appearance. But my appearance isn't that outstanding, so it'll be tough to find the right girl." After you've hinted at yourself like this a few times, you might also be able to see things beyond appearance and find things about the other person that you appreciate. This might also help you find the right partner.

You can also remind yourself from time to time that, even though you don't think you're particularly attractive, you have other qualities that are worth being loved and appreciated. When you stop focusing only on your appearance, you may also stop focusing only on a girl's appearance, and in turn discover the other qualities of the other person and be willing to get along with her.

Of course, if you're only attracted to women based on their appearance, that's okay. In this case, your dating standard is to value appearance the most, and you just need to accept the status quo for the time being, because the other person may also have the same dating standard as you.

I hope this helps. If you want to talk more, just click "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom, and I'll be happy to chat with you one-on-one.

The questioner asked, "Is it possible for men and women who meet for the first time and fall in love to ignore each other's appearances?" The answer is yes! Here are some conditions that could make this possible:

Even though they don't know each other, they've probably heard a lot about each other and are attracted to a certain quality. For example, a hero from the war years.

Even though they don't know each other, both sides know exactly what they want, and the other party is able to satisfy their "most wanted." For example, they want to find someone who is rich and doesn't care about anything else.

As their relationship progresses, the two parties will get to know each other through shared experiences and interactions. They'll gradually become closer and more natural with each other, and eventually, it'll just happen naturally. Think of an office romance or an inseparable childhood sweetheart.

These are the three things that come to mind. In these three situations, although appearance is "outside" and visible to the eye, the "mind" ignores it. Both parties see a certain characteristic they want and a certain experience they feel.

If you're dating someone you don't know well, it can be hard to judge whether they're right for you. You can't see what's inside someone's head, so you have to rely on what you can see. For example, appearance.

I really hope my reply helps!

I believe the questioner is correct in thinking that the anxiety/how-can-i-live-normally-with-this-obsession-and-return-to-the-present-moment-13626.html" target="_blank">present is good. I am grateful to have met you.

From reading your description, I can sense your anxiety and feelings of inferiority regarding your appearance. I have experienced similar emotions in the past and would be happy to share some thoughts with you.

In the case of blind dates, both parties have an equal opportunity to get to know each other, so first impressions, especially appearances, do play a role. Men are more visually oriented and often gravitate towards girls who exude a certain physical appeal.

In today's world, where the influence of internet celebrities and the pursuit of physical beauty are prevalent, it's understandable that appearance plays a significant role in the outcome of a blind date.

While it is often said that in marriage, whether you look good or not is not that important, many people's requirements are just average. As long as they look passable, what is more important is the other person's character, abilities, and other aspects. These aspects need to be slowly seen and understood by each other over time. Given the relatively short time frame of a blind date, and in the fast-paced present, it is important to make a good first impression, as there may not be a second chance.

In light of the growing disparity in the number of men and women, it is becoming increasingly challenging for men to compete with the enhanced appearance of women, regardless of the amount of makeup they wear.

I believe that the above are real problems, but I do not think it is accurate to say that unattractive men have no chance of getting married and having children. As the saying goes, "a person with knowledge and culture is naturally attractive."

If a person is truly talented and high-energy inside, it is likely that women will be willing to approach them, and their appearance may not be as important to them. This is something that could be cultivated more often.

It would be beneficial to take some time to see, perceive, and reconcile yourself with appearance anxiety. It might be helpful to try to perceive why you are so concerned about your appearance, where the anxiety comes from, and how you can reconcile with this feeling. Perhaps with inner peace and reconciliation with this feeling, your appearance will also change as a result.

It is often said that the body and mind are one, and that "appearance comes from the heart." It may be helpful to consider that when the inside has changed, the outside will naturally follow.

At the same time, the appearance of the external world may be seen as a projection of one's own mind. If we wish for the external world to change, it may be helpful to consider cultivating our inner heart. This is the same principle as Yang Ming's saying, "There is nothing outside the mind."

I hope things go well for you!

Good morning, My name is [Name] and I am the place of peace of mind.

I am grateful for your invitation.

You believe that being rejected on another blind date is related to your appearance, and simultaneously, it is challenging for you to refrain from considering the appearance of the woman. It appears that your perception of appearance is becoming a significant obstacle on the path to marriage.

Please provide your thoughts on this matter.

Is appearance a significant factor? If I assert that appearance is not a primary consideration, we should examine the underlying essence and recognize that an individual's inner qualities are of paramount importance.

As I draft this, I anticipate your disapproving demeanor, possibly accompanied by a significant eye roll.

It is not possible to ascertain the inner self of another person at first glance. It is evident that first impressions are formed based on appearance, as evidenced by the words used to describe a beautiful face. It is therefore clear that appearance plays an important role in a blind date.

It is important to understand that while a good appearance may attract people at first glance, it is not a reliable indicator of long-term compatibility.

In the description, you indicated that you feel rejected on blind dates and that appearance plays a significant role. You also mentioned hair loss, acne marks, and glasses.

I'm unsure if you intended to convey that this is merely your personal opinion and not an objective fact.

If you are unable to test the reality with the woman in question, it is worth considering the views of your parents, relatives and friends. The perception of your appearance is likely to be the most important factor.

In addition to appearance, what other effects has this had on your dating life?

In the workplace or in everyday interactions?

Have you already determined that the reason the blind date was unsuccessful is due to your appearance? If you possessed thick black hair, a smooth face, and did not wear glasses, the outcome would undoubtedly be different.

However, it would be prudent to ascertain whether this is indeed the case.

Let us consider the possibility that your perception of yourself is, at least in part, a self-imposed limitation. Could there be underlying concerns about relationships, or even the possibility of intimacy?

Do you have the internal belief that you are unlovable and undeserving of affection?

It is as though, prior to the blind date, you had already sentenced yourself to failure. Since your mindset is that failure is inevitable, the other person simply goes along with it to meet your expectations.

If this is indeed the case, at what point did this perception originate?

It might be helpful to consider how your parents treated you when you were a child. Did they demonstrate unconditional love for you?

In the description, it was determined that one of the reasons for the lack of feelings towards women was also due to appearance. It was found that a woman's appearance does affect feelings. This statement is quite broad in scope.

Please describe the type of girl you would be attracted to and the specific criteria you would use to evaluate her.

Additionally, what physical characteristics do you find to be inconsequential in a potential partner? For instance, would you consider factors such as height, weight, body type, skin tone, or facial features?

Please provide a list of specific criteria.

Please describe the significance you ascribe to a woman's appearance. Is it solely for aesthetic pleasure, or do you believe there are underlying psychological needs that it fulfills?

If you are willing, you can take a moment to calm down, be true to your true self, and search deep within your heart for the answer.

You are the most knowledgeable about your own issues. You are the only one with the most experience and knowledge of the problems, and you are the only one who is directly involved, with the most real and relevant feelings. That is why you have the right to speak.

We all appreciate beauty and long for it, but there is not just one definition of beauty. I will not be discussing the moral sentimentality of spiritual beauty.

However, the majority of people are ordinary individuals with ordinary appearances. When we are willing to discard labels that have no practical significance, we will see a broader, more diverse, and more inclusive world.

If we are willing to invest the time and energy we would normally spend on appearances in developing our inner selves, expanding our potential, improving our skills, boosting our self-confidence, and strengthening our inner strength, we will discover that "poetry and knowledge within" will naturally bring out the radiance within. This will allow us to find her after searching thousands of times among a crowd. When we look back, she will be there in the place where the lights are faint.

"A good-looking body is common, but an interesting soul is rare." This is not intended to be a consolation, but rather a fact.

If you are experiencing difficulty in developing confidence in your appearance within a relatively short timeframe, I would suggest focusing on cultivating an engaging and interesting personality. I believe this approach will yield positive results.

I am unsure if my reply will be of any assistance to you, but I look forward to hearing from you.

I hope you will soon find the right person for you.

I am the individual in question, and I recently experienced another rejection from a blind date. Although the other person refused to disclose the reason for the rejection, I believe that my appearance may have been a significant factor. I have hair loss, numerous acne marks on my face, and I wear glasses. Is there a way to circumvent the appearance factor?

First, many of the body's reactions are not under conscious control. In fact, it's often the case that a reaction has already occurred before the conscious mind even has a chance to come up with an explanation! To give a very simple example, if someone pokes you in the eye with a finger, a careful analysis will reveal that before your consciousness reacts and realizes that it is a finger, your eyelid will already have closed. Then, an "explanation" will appear: someone is going to poke me with a finger (to protect my eye), so I have to close my eyelid.

Second, many conscious conclusions are an ex post facto "fit" explanation, that is, a logical judgment of cause and effect based on the combination of all the reactions that occur. For example, we've all heard about the suspension bridge effect: when walking on a suspension bridge, your heartbeat accelerates and your adrenaline soars due to fear. It's a similar reaction to seeing a beautiful girl. So when you get off the suspension bridge, your heartbeat and adrenaline, which have accelerated due to fear, have not yet returned. When you see a girl, your brain will "interpret" that you like her!

So, if you try to control your instinctive reaction with your conscious mind, it's basically impossible. But don't worry! What you can control is how you interpret the situation. Different interpretations will affect the subsequent reaction. So, what your conscious mind can influence can be said to be only a "derived" reaction. And the reason you feel that you cannot overcome the influence of appearance on feelings is because those influences come from the "meta-reaction" before your conscious mind.

Dear questioner, I am confident that my reply will help and support you.

You can bravely announce the confusion you encounter on the platform, praise yourself, think you are bald, have acne, and wear glasses, feeling that this is the reason the other person rejects you. You hope to enter a relationship, constantly reflecting on your appearance requirements for the other person. You are protecting yourself and giving yourself an excuse. Do you agree?

Give yourself a suitable reason to escape. I'll ask you a question: do you accept your own imperfections? Do you approve of yourself?

You must be able to point out your strengths even when you fail.

You may be concerned about your appearance, but you are not accepting yourself or rejecting yourself. How can someone who rejects themselves be liked by others? A person who truly loves themselves exudes confidence from the core of their being and shows it. This is not a failed experience for you. Think about what is really holding you back.

Listen to your inner voice. He will tell you.

Appearance is just the icing on the cake. It can be changed with the continuous improvement of one's inner self. As the saying goes, "The heart is the wellspring of appearance." When your inner self is full of strength, it will show on the outside. When interacting with a woman, what do others care about more? Then you can go further together.

When we are internally abundant, we can influence others. Many people are confused by superficial things and will lose more than they gain. Focus on what matters. Affirm yourself. Discover yourself. Create a beautiful life for yourself. Believe that whatever you want will come to you.

You're going to be just fine.

It's pretty much impossible not to look at someone's face during a blind date, but there are a few exceptions...

The questioner probably wants the blind date to not give a lot of weight to appearance, and to be fair, they are also trying to ignore the woman's appearance, but they can't. We all have our own idea of what "good-looking" means, and there's no objective measurement of it.

It's only natural to want the best for your partner. We all like to feel beautiful and attractive, and it's no different when it comes to our partners.

♥ Instead of dwelling on these things, it's better to try to change. Very often, "being well-matched" is still very useful. If you are the same kind of person, your partner will basically be at the same level as you. If the difference is too great, there's basically no point in wasting time.

♥ #Face yourself# We all have our own unique beauty, and it's important to embrace it. Hair loss, acne marks, and wearing glasses are all very common in today's society, but we still need to take responsibility for ourselves. There's a lot of "technology" out there, but many products are still very effective. Try to dress up a little. First impressions are not always right, but they are the key to deciding whether or not to meet again. Appearance represents our attitude towards life and can also reflect many problems.

♥ #Emphasize your strengths and avoid your weaknesses, be true to yourself# The first impression effect is important, but it is not unbreakable. As the conversation deepens, personal qualities such as eloquence, cultivation, and how one deals with others will allow the other person to make a more accurate judgment. No relationship is built overnight. As long as both parties are willing to further develop the relationship, there will be a process of continuous adjustment.

♥ #Reconcile with yourself# It's totally normal to have doubts after a failure. We all have them! I hope the questioner can become a gentle and powerful person.

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

The questioner confidently shared his own blind date experience, highlighting the importance of appearance in first impressions. Despite the other person's refusal, the questioner was certain that his appearance played a significant role.

First impressions are crucial when meeting someone new. It's challenging for the questioner to ignore appearance unless they encounter someone who prioritizes inner qualities and finds common ground in conversation. In such cases, there's potential to connect on a deeper level.

Everyone pursues different things, but for two people on a blind date, appearances matter. They'll get to know you through prolonged contact. If your appearance isn't outstanding, they'll still be attracted by other advantages and confidence.

Change your image.

The original poster said that he has hair loss, acne marks on his face, wears glasses, and doesn't like to dress up. If he also has a lack of interest in grooming, he'll undoubtedly give a bad first impression on a blind date. Everyone loves beauty, and if we just take the time to tidy ourselves up a bit, we can also score extra points for ourselves.

If hair loss is not a serious issue, you should visit a hair salon that specializes in hairstyling and have them create a more vibrant and energetic hairstyle for you. A person's hairstyle is also a crucial aspect to consider.

For glasses, you should consider wearing contact lenses or switching to thin-rimmed glasses. Avoid wearing glasses with too conspicuous frames, like the silver-rimmed and rose-gold-rimmed ones that have been popular in the past two years. They make people look more gentle and young, and you can also wear more casual clothes.

A small change can make a big impact. It can influence how others perceive you and help you stand out. It can also make a difference in how you come across as clean and tidy.

Find common ground.

If you don't have anything in common, you'll feel awkward. Before the blind date, find out what the other person likes and what their hobbies are. Then you'll have plenty of topics to talk about.

Ask yourself what questions you can ask and how you can answer them. Focus on communicating with the other person. If you don't make a good impression at first, start a conversation and win them over.

When the woman is willing to continue contact, it means she's attracted to you and has a favorable impression.

I have been on a blind date before and have been rejected on the basis of appearance. I understand better than most that if you want to stand a better chance of continuing to get along, you need to first understand the other person's criteria for choosing a spouse. If the differences are too great, there is basically no point in wasting time.

Accept yourself.

Don't lose confidence in yourself just because a blind date failed. Find the reason from the failure and solve it. Appearance is always changing. If you can't develop a favorable impression just because of appearance, then such a relationship is unstable.

When we can accept ourselves no matter what and not be easily affected by other people's comments, we realize that perfection is unattainable. It's impossible to please everyone. Discovering more of your own strengths will make you confident. Your confidence will radiate charm even without you realizing it.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes.

From the description, I can tell the questioner is distressed. It's clear he has no feelings for the woman because of her appearance. He wants to ignore it, but he's struggling. He knows appearance is important, but he's hoping there's a way around it. I can see the questioner's desire to change. He needs to change what he can, accept what he can't, and his wish will come true!

Value first impressions.

You can easily improve hair loss, acne marks, glasses, and more with time. Make an effort to improve your overall appearance. Being neat and tidy is polite and shows you take responsibility for yourself. Your first impression matters.

The "first impression effect" in social psychology is a fact. The first impression that both parties have of each other affects subsequent interactions. This is the effect of "preconceived notions." These first impressions are not always correct, but they are vivid and strong. They determine the course of the interaction between the two parties. It is important to make a good impression when you first meet someone. The first impression effect only works on people you have little contact with. After you have had more contact, you will be more likely to be influenced by the recent effect. However, in a blind date, the first impression is important. Pay attention to your overall appearance to gain a crucial advantage for yourself. This will help you gain the upper hand and reduce the chances of the lovebirds slipping away.

I agree that what's inside is more important than appearance. But we're visual creatures, and we like beautiful things. People who look good have more opportunities, and this is their advantage. But there are two sides to everything, so there's no need to be anxious. A good-looking person's life will also be full of thorns, and pretty girls will complain that they can't find someone who truly loves them.

Discover your personal strengths.

You are the best version of yourself, so there is no need to envy others.

If you lack outstanding physical features, you can still succeed. Recharge your batteries through your strengths or interests, strive to become more specialized, and develop a personal advantage. Think about what positive character traits you have, such as optimism, compassion, and vitality. If you are a good talker, you can strengthen your sense of humor and become an interesting person.

You may also excel in sports, social skills, creativity, and more.

If you don't know your strengths, ask yourself these questions: What do you do naturally or easily? What do you hate or find most difficult to do?

Beauty belongs to the confident, opportunity to the pioneers, and miracles to the persistent. Know your strengths and live your life to the fullest!

A clean and tidy appearance is the first impression. From there, you can attract a girl's attention with interesting qualities or strengths, find common ground, and bypass the appearance trap that has been a minefield. It's not easy, but it's worth trying. If you work hard to improve yourself and create your own attractiveness, I wish you the best of luck!

This is my opinion, and I stand by it.

You will find peace and contentment.