Is there anything wrong with expressing your emotions? I shouldn't be intolerant of myself, right?

Hello, host!

I'm Li Xuan, a psychological counselor, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

I'm thrilled to see your confusion, and I admire your courage for sharing!

Internships in hospitals are also quite tough. After measuring your blood pressure, you give the results to your teacher, who says, "What the hell?" Well, of course you'll be angry, you'll be sad. But you'll also be learning how to handle these situations with confidence and poise!

However, I feel that I am not being recognized. But at the same time, I have a question. What exactly does the teacher mean? I'm excited to find out!

Oh, I'm so curious! Do you think the teacher said your handwriting was bad? Could it have meant something else?

☘️ Talking to classmates about your problems often results in being rejected and sometimes even criticized. This does happen sometimes. But don't worry! They are not taking care of your emotions.

You are so focused on the matter at hand that you feel aggrieved. The more you talk, the angrier you get because you haven't released your emotions.

? I have done nothing wrong in talking about my emotions like this, right? You are absolutely right! There is nothing wrong with trying to express your thoughts.

I didn't criticize the teacher, I just expressed my feelings to my classmates. I did nothing wrong, did I? You did not criticize the teacher, you just described what happened and how you felt. So you are a person of principle!

Absolutely! I can express my feelings, whether to the person concerned or to other people. There is no right or wrong answer to this question. It depends on the person and whether it is appropriate.

This one is really fun because you get to determine the answer through your own observations and considerations. There's no standard answer, so you can really let your creativity shine!

Absolutely! We must accept ourselves before we can accept others.

I really hope I can provide you with a different perspective!

I'll always be here for you!

I'm sure you'll get out of this difficult situation soon!

Hello! I'm Yan Shiqi, and I'm so happy to have this chance to answer your question.

From what I've read, I can tell you as an outsider:

It's totally okay to share your feelings and emotions!

You should accept yourself, no matter which side you are on. You're great just the way you are!

But you know what? The other person is also right if they don't respond or don't respond as you expect.

At the end of the day, everyone has the right to live their life as they see fit.

So, the real question is not whether you should express it or accept it. It's to whom you express it.

Your true best friends and close friends will totally understand your emotions and feelings and respond in the way you need them to.

And some folks at work might think you're being a bit too pretentious.

There are so many things in life and at work that we could all do with a bit of advice on! The best thing for the questioner to do is not to doubt themselves, but to learn to look at things from another perspective.

It can be really confusing for the person right in the middle of it, but someone on the outside can see things more clearly.

However, it's totally normal for newcomers to the workplace to go through this growing period.

They might not notice your great work or focus on the little things you could improve on.

It's so important to relax, learn to regulate our emotions, and let go of our expectations of "colleague" relationships.

That's just how it is! We all have different focuses and perceptions.

I really hope this helps!

Dear questioner,

I can see how you felt when you saw your teacher's reaction to you this afternoon. You were just doing your job, measuring the blood pressure of the patients in the ward and handing it to the teacher, but it seems like you got a bit of a rough deal. It's not easy to feel good about your work when someone doesn't recognize it, especially when they're your teacher. I can imagine how you felt when you went to express your emotions to your roommates and they didn't accept you or even criticized you. It's sad when people don't understand how you feel.

You did great! After your teacher criticized you, you didn't get angry or gossip about him. You just shared your feelings with your classmates. You did the right thing. Everyone has the right to express their feelings, whether to the person involved or to other people. And accepting yourself is a great choice!

It's totally normal to feel anxious when you're not sure if you're being accepted. But when you're struggling with this feeling, it can be hard to see things clearly. It's possible that your classmates' anxiety and criticism were caused by your energy being tied up in this way.

Let's look at this together and see if there's a way to make sense of it. When your teacher says something that doesn't make sense, is it possible that he's not in a good mood today and he's projecting his anxiety and anger onto you as a defense mechanism?

It's totally normal to project your own anxiety and unease onto others so that you'll feel better. But in this case, you don't have the option to rebel against the teacher because they're an authority figure.

So you took on the anxiety that the teacher was projecting onto you and used words like "aggrieved" and "angry." If you were your usual, rational self, you wouldn't have used words like "aggrieved" and "angry" because it's possible that the teacher was right in her assessment and your handwriting was indeed a bit sloppy. When a person can rationally evaluate themselves, they won't use words like "aggrieved" and "angry." They'll think that the teacher is right in her criticism and that this is an area in which they can improve.

This defense mechanism is called sublimation, and it can effectively relieve your anxiety and is very positive. However, the anxiety projected onto you by the authoritative teacher is a lot for you to handle, digest, or transform, so you project this anxiety onto your roommate.

I can see that this hasn't worked out so well.

So you've already taken the first step in the right direction, which is to accept your emotions. When the teacher commented on you like that, you didn't feel inferior, but instead accepted your sad emotions.

If you take the following steps, you'll be able to save your precious energy and use it to upgrade yourself instead!

Every day, we're faced with all kinds of things that come from inside us and from the world around us. Some of these things can make it hard for us to function normally. Some are good for us, like feeling excited or happy after we do something well. Some are bad for us, like hearing bad news, losing someone we love, or feeling anxious. When we get too much of these things, we call it stress. It seems like your teacher's criticism was a kind of stress for you, so you did what you could to handle all these things.

I can tell you're not happy with your teacher's feedback. It's totally normal to feel upset when we don't get what we want. It's a natural human response. But, it's important to recognize that your emotions and thoughts are valid, even if they feel unacceptable. It's okay to feel angry or frustrated. It's how we process our feelings. But, it's also important to understand that our emotions don't always align with reality. Sometimes, we need to adjust our expectations to align with reality. It's clear that you're struggling with this. It's okay to feel this way. We all go through it. But, it's also important to recognize that your emotions and thoughts are valid, even if they feel unacceptable.

If you're feeling angry with your teacher or friend, it's totally normal! One way to keep your friendship and other relationships strong is to try to understand why the other person is acting the way they are. Let's look at two common ways of reacting to difficult situations.

When Ms. A handed in her work data, the teacher gave her some constructive feedback. Ms. A was a bit taken aback and felt a bit aggrieved and angry because she thought the teacher's assessment was incorrect.

When Ms. B handed in her work data to the teacher, the teacher commented that it was nonsense! Ms. B took the work data sheet and looked at it. She did find that her handwriting was a bit sloppy, which could easily lead to misinterpretation.

She thought that the teacher was being a bit strict with her because she had high expectations of herself, so she filled out the data sheet again and handed it to the teacher, and was really happy to get praise from the teacher.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with accepting your emotions. In fact, it's a great thing to do! But if you can take a step forward with more wisdom and explore more, you'll be more affirmed and welcomed by those around you.

I really hope my answer helps you out, and I wish you all the best in life!

I empathize with your frustration and sense of helplessness as I read your confession. There is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings. The process of learning psychology also teaches people to express their emotions. However, it is possible that others may not provide the feedback you expect or share your sentiments. This is not uncommon. As long as you express yourself without causing harm, it is acceptable. I support you in this endeavor.

1. This afternoon, you took the blood pressure of the patients in the ward and handed it to the teacher. When you did, the teacher said, "What the hell?" You were very displeased.

You followed the appropriate procedure and submitted the assignment to the instructor. However, you were subsequently informed that your handwriting was unsatisfactory. I empathize with your situation.

Learning to express one's emotions is a long-term process. It is not uncommon for individuals to find this challenging, so it is important not to take it personally.

The teacher may have been in a hurry and not intended any harm, or perhaps you were a bit careless when handing things over and he felt you were being rude. You can consider whether there is room for improvement and, if so, make the necessary changes.

It may be helpful to recall the importance of presenting items to a superior with both hands as a gesture of respect.

2. You expressed your frustration to your colleagues with whom you completed your internship. You stated, "The instructor made a remark about you today. He said your handwriting is not up to standard. I find that assessment to be inaccurate and it has caused me to feel aggrieved and angry."

As a result, you may feel like you are not being accepted. In the past, when you expressed your feelings to your roommates in a similar manner, they did not accept you and even criticized you.

You did not act improperly in expressing your emotions.

You did nothing wrong. You are highly adept at articulating your emotions, which not only allows you to release some of that emotional pressure but also demonstrates your ability to express yourself effectively. You did a commendable job.

It is worth noting that for a considerable period of time, many individuals have been conditioned to refrain from openly expressing their emotions. They may be accustomed to this approach and may perceive your expression of feelings as pretentious or erroneous. However, this is a matter that concerns them alone.

This is not your concern.

There is, in fact, a method to expressing emotions. It is sometimes necessary to select the appropriate recipient. Expressing them to the first person encountered may lead to the unintended consequence of creating a negative impression.

It is possible to express your feelings, whether to the person involved or to someone else. It is important to be tolerant of yourself.

It would be advisable to remember that the people you are interning with and the people in your dormitory are not accustomed to your manner of expressing emotions. It would therefore be prudent to refrain from doing so in their presence and to seek an alternative audience. This could be a family member, for example, who will be able to listen to you and understand you.

Please refer to the above for further information. Thank you.

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a counselor who uses images to help people.

After being criticized by the teacher, you feel angry, especially when the criticism is dismissive and mocking.

Your feelings are accurate and true.

Should we express our emotions?

Of course, you need to express your emotions. But it seems like you want to be recognized.

It would be good if your classmates and roommates felt your anger.

They couldn't empathize with you. It seemed like they were taking the teacher's side.

You felt angrier and asked, "Am I doing the right thing?"

They doubt themselves.

How can you express your emotions more accurately?

You seem to have read books on nonviolent communication.

The book says we should talk about facts, express emotions, look at needs, and make requests.

The essence of communication is loving yourself.

What can we do when we hear something we don't like?

Option 1: I'm to blame. I didn't do a good job. I feel guilty. I hate myself.

I'm angry because the other person accused me. I want to fight back.

I feel sad. I need trust and acceptance.

Option 4: Be aware of others' feelings and needs. The teacher is angry because he needs support at work.

Our feelings come from ourselves, so we can change the words we use to express them.

and recognize the link between feelings and the self by expressing them as "I feel... because I..."

I was angry when my teacher criticized me today because I value measuring blood pressure, but my teacher only saw that my handwriting was bad.

To get your classmates and roommates to understand and respond positively, you may need to be more direct.

Is it true the teacher said my handwriting is not good? Can it be improved?

I think these basic skills can be improved.

You'll like your results too.

Best wishes!

Hello, dear host! I'm smiling!

After reading your description, I totally get what you're asking, so I'm sending you a big hug in the fourth dimension!

From what you've told me, it seems like the person you're expressing your emotions to might not be the best fit. It's totally normal to feel doubt and question whether you should express your emotions, especially when it feels like they're not being accepted.

It's totally normal to find people like this in life. They might not be able to really understand negative thoughts and feelings, so they try to avoid them at first. But this can make the person who's confiding in them feel frustrated and rejected. So over time, they might not express themselves much, because they'd rather bear it themselves than talk about it. This can make them feel worse.

I've also put together a few tips and tricks to help you out of this pickle. I really hope they help! ?

(1) Take your time and don't put too much pressure on yourself. You've already identified your current problems, so you're already on the right track to solving them!

(2) When you want to talk, it's really important to find the right listener. It's not good to talk to someone who will negate you. You need to be accepted, not rejected by others.

(3) When you're feeling down or stressed, it's totally normal! Try releasing your emotions or pressure through sports, music, diaries, chatting, etc. instead of holding them in.

(4) Try to distract yourself, rather than letting yourself stay in self-doubting situations for too long. Find situations that make you happy instead!

(5) I'd also like to suggest two books I've found really helpful: The Courage to be Disliked and The Courage to be Happy. I think you'll enjoy them if you get a chance to read them. They've really opened my eyes!

I love you, world! ?

Wishing you all the best! ?

If I may make a suggestion, dear angels,

Hello, I'm Teacher Hou from Yi Xinli. Let's take a look at what's going on together and see if we can find a way forward.

I see that you have a few questions.

1. Could I ask whether it is correct to express your emotions?

It is important to remember that everyone is entitled to express their emotions. Your description of the situation, "The teacher said something about me today, saying that my handwriting is not good-looking and saying something about it~I feel aggrieved and angry," is clear and understandable.

Perhaps it would be helpful to describe the incident clearly and express your feelings. For example, you might say, "I feel aggrieved and angry." In my view, you have expressed your emotions correctly, rather than letting them get the better of you.

2. You may have the impression that your roommates do not accept you.

When you express your feelings like this, it can sometimes be misinterpreted as criticism of the teacher and even of them personally. This can lead to a sense of being unaccepted. It's understandable that this can be a difficult situation for everyone involved.

Perhaps they have also experienced situations where their teachers have offered criticism. How should they respond in such instances?

(1) It might be helpful to allow others to have their own attitudes. It's important to remember that we can only control ourselves. It's okay to have our own thoughts and accept ourselves.

It is also important to be open to different perspectives and to accept that others may have a different point of view. Instead of immediately dismissing someone else's opinion, it can be helpful to acknowledge that there are varying interpretations and to respect that.

It is important to remember that allowing for differences is not about agreeing with everyone all the time. It is about being able to disagree with roommates or even close friends in a way that is respectful and constructive.

(2) Consider alternative interpretations of criticism

It seems that the teacher is expressing his disapproval when he says, "What the hell?" and his expression is not very friendly, which makes you feel a bit aggrieved and even a little angry. This is understandable, as no one likes to be "scolded" by others. So if you look at it from another perspective, the teacher's words are a bit harsh and not very friendly. From the perspective of promoting your progress, he is giving you a request, which implies that you should write your characters better. And this request is good for your personal development.

I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on this.

I'm curious to know how you responded to the teacher at that moment. Did you remain silent?

Did you perhaps simply respond with "oh"?

Perhaps you could try something like this: "Well, teacher, you're right, my handwriting is not very neat, and I will try to be more careful in the future. Thank you, teacher."

How does it feel to say that? The teacher can see your attitude, and if he has any further questions, he may be willing to guide you. Perhaps he will also pay attention to the way he gives reminders.

I hope this is helpful to you!

I hope you find success at work and progress every day!

I will be in touch regarding Yixinli.

Everyone can help others by sharing their thoughts.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan. I feel you're hurt inside because the instructor's comment made you feel worthless. You're angry and have told your classmates about it.

You did the right thing. Let's look at the problem.

1. There is no such thing as the truth.

Healthcare workers are under a lot of pressure. It's a technical job, but it's also a service job. They have to take care of patients and their families, and sometimes they have to suppress their own feelings.

You did your duty and took your blood pressure. You handed it over to your instructor, who said, "What the hell?" You thought she was rejecting you.

Is there another way to look at it? Maybe the teacher is going through menopause. Or maybe she just had an argument with someone.

Are you more angry than others? Is criticizing and blaming just a "pattern" for her?

We don't know why she said that, and it doesn't matter. You are not defined by her.

Self-worth is how you see yourself, not how others see you.

We care about what others think because we're unsure of our own value. It's like an antique: we can only have it appraised. If we don't know our own value, we're influenced by others, which damages our value.

?2. Take responsibility for yourself.

People need praise and recognition from others to feel good about themselves. But if these things are taken away, they will feel bad again.

You need to accept yourself. If not now, then when?

True self-confidence means having confidence in yourself and accepting yourself.

If you have a fault, correct it. If not, learn from it. Take responsibility for your own life.

I hope this helps. I love you.

Click "Find a coach" to continue communicating. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Hello.

You feel that the teacher's comments are unfair, and your classmates' reactions are not fair to you.

The hedgehog, with her gentle but firm nature, is naturally understood by those who know her.

The questioner used "对吗?" five times.

Calm down. Otherwise, no matter how the people and events in the story change, they will enter an absolutist channel, which is "right?"

If you feel a desperate need for external approval, you are destroying your own vitality.

People do need recognition. I won't argue with anyone who says they want enough recognition. But if all the recognition comes from the outside, where does that leave us?

You need to ask yourself whether you have been abandoned by yourself or if you are so tightly bound by yourself that you can no longer see yourself through the narrow gap.

If there are 10 people today, and 9 approve and 1 disapproves, self-attack may occur, generating resentment. There's no question that demanding absolute conformity puts pressure on oneself and also generates pressure in the relationship.

The teacher's judgments are influenced by their own background and upbringing, which can introduce bias. The emotions and time spent on these judgments are absorbed by the teacher's past. Apart from establishing authority, this approach does not benefit the judgment of value or the teacher's own growth.

The meaning of "Just do it" in the questioner's life and learning environment is clear: I will go to study and research, calmly process the data, and expect and believe that I can calmly deal with my emotions and the emotions of the patient and the patient's family. I will impress my teachers and classmates.

Traditional etiquette has always valued reputation, but to truly reach the realm of pursuit, you must not be burdened by it.

You have to accept yourself, but you also have to be self-aware and analytical. You have to look at things from a broad perspective.

Every coin has two sides: the front and the back. The same is true of characteristics. They can have a positive or negative impact.

This is why there is the idiom of "playing to one's strengths and avoiding one's weaknesses." It's a strategy that's been used since ancient times.

As times change, it's clear that people are growing further apart. But we can also see that direct expression elevates the meaning of communication.

A teacher is confident in their abilities and has the tolerance to accept others. If what the teacher says is a bit much, the student can give the teacher some advice on teaching and learning together: "The Master said, 'When walking along with three others, I will certainly find a teacher among them. What the teacher just said might have been intended to guide me, but I feel sad and a bit hurt,'" so that the tension in the communication becomes flexible, and then talk about communication and collaboration.

Students may naturally reject the idea of discussing their tutors. This is because they have their own judgments first, and some stereotypes exist. It is not easy to soften the defenses of others on your own.

It may seem simple, but being gentle but firm requires a certain amount of accumulated experience and wisdom. It will come naturally in the future.

Read the article with the keywords "Yu Wenwen like Ruyi." You'll find it online. Observe the gentleness and firmness in the real hedgehog.