It is very stressful to go from being a staff member to a manager. What should I do about my inferiority complex and anxiety?

You're facing a tough situation. You're new to the job, you don't have support, and you're under a lot of pressure. It's not easy!

It's not easy to solve all your problems at once. Can we take it slow and make small changes?

I'm more concerned about you. Do you see the child inside you who doubts himself and seeks understanding? Would you accept him if he were crying in front of you?

If you were his friend, could you hug him and make him feel better?

When you feel better, think about the problems we have to deal with and ask yourself if you can really handle them. How did you become manager at 33?

How did you do it? You should have worked hard and overcome difficulties to survive.

What are your strengths? We can figure that out.

If you're not ready for the new position, you can learn from the internet, books, and people around you. If you try hard to explore, you should also have some ideas and resources of your own.

If you're still not at ease, think about the worst that could happen. What are the chances?

How should we deal with it if it happens? What can we do to stop it?

Write down your worries and analyses on paper.

Uncertainty is often the worst. Finding more certainty helps ease anxiety.

Everything will get better!

This is an erroneous assumption.

I empathize with your experience. When there is a significant disparity in rank, it is natural to feel pressure, inferiority, and anxiety. The first step is to acknowledge these feelings and recognize the need for growth. When one transitions abruptly from an executive role to a management position with no predecessor to guide, there is undoubtedly a gap in ability. This is an objective reality, and it is not exclusive to you but is a common challenge faced by many.

Once the source of the problem has been identified, it can be resolved. Following a period of depression, a friend offered the following advice: since the gap in abilities has been acknowledged, it is essential to address it in a timely manner.

In the event of a professional problem, it is possible to search Baidu, WeChat official account articles, forums, etc., ask your seniors questions, conduct necessary professional exchanges, and continuously improve your professional abilities (it is important to be careful not to disclose company secrets). Secondly, communication management skills. Thirdly, for communication, it is recommended that you watch the show "Qixia" and some courses from Huang Zhizhong's team. It must be acknowledged that some of the methods they provide are very practical and sufficient to deal with some of our communication problems in the workplace. Indeed, there are also many teachers who share communication and management methods in their WeChat official account articles, and it would be beneficial to pay more attention to similar types of sharing in your daily life. Of course, it is also possible to read books. Reading is one of the cheapest ways to improve one's abilities. Reading more books by communication and management teachers can make our daily work more effective with the right communication and management methods.

I would now like to offer some constructive criticism. It is not uncommon in the workplace for individuals to be subjected to scapegoating, framing, and discreditation by various parties. While sensitivity is understandable, it is crucial to maintain one's personal integrity and not allow external opinions to influence one's self-perception.

In the absence of any impact on the leadership's trust in one's abilities, it is imperative to identify opportunities to showcase one's capabilities. This will effectively discredit the slanderous claims made by insignificant individuals. It is crucial to remain undeterred by such external influences and maintain composure.

It is, in fact, challenging to entirely eliminate the possibility of errors in the workplace. It is essential to recognize the importance of not repeating the same mistake twice and to proactively address and reflect on any missteps. Additionally, it is beneficial to engage in periodic summarization and reflection in the workplace. This approach enables the collection of pertinent experiences and arguments, which can effectively minimize the likelihood of missteps.

It is therefore recommended that the individual concerned should take a deep breath, calm down and organise their thoughts in order to move on.

Workplace stress is something everyone encounters. It's a matter of adjusting and adapting, and achieving and maintaining a balance.

However, you are currently experiencing an imbalance. This is caused by your doubts about whether your abilities match your job responsibilities and the conflict between your emotions and the recognition you receive from others. These are your main conflicts, but there are undoubtedly others.

You must clearly sort out the four curves at this point.

Your expectations of career development are as follows:

Your expectations for career development are shaped before and after joining the workplace, marking the beginning of redefining yourself in this environment. These expectations evolve and shift over time, not remaining fixed.

This is because before entering the workplace, you imagined that it would be a place where you could fully realize your value. But once you are actually there, you realize that your expectations and dreams of the workplace have become increasingly aligned with the actual work, and no longer represent the vision you had in the beginning.

You will encounter difficulties in the workplace.

There is a significant discrepancy between your expectations when entering the workplace and the reality of the situation. This discrepancy increases as you become more deeply invested in your work.

The company is expected to thrive and grow endlessly, which inevitably leads to an increase in personal workload and a larger span of responsibility.

Furthermore, you must tackle any issues that arise in the workplace independently. In doing so, you are bound by the constraints of your personal resources, including time, energy, and experience.

You must always be true to yourself and challenge yourself.

Your bottom line is:

Your bottom line must be established within your own sphere of perception. If you exceed it, it will seriously threaten your physical and mental health and career development.

This bottom line applies only to your current career choice. Examples include income, ability, mental health, personal space, and socializing.

Furthermore, you must determine multiple bottom lines based on your actual situation.

The high line of objective reality is:

Objective reality refers to the facts that objectively exist at a certain stage. Your current situation and the opinions of others are both examples of objective reality.

The objective reality I'm talking about here is about the conflicts between your abilities and your job responsibilities, the market prospects of the company and the individual, and your sacrifices and gains. You can also include the macroeconomic environment as a high line of objective reality, but it has to be closely related to you.

A volcanic eruption is obviously not a high-level objective reality because it is not closely related to your interests or your workplace.

Once you have a clear understanding of these four lines:

If you exceed the high line or fall below the low line, your career plan will become seriously unbalanced. At this point, you must choose to change your environment or temporarily leave your current workplace.

Your state of balance—a dynamic yet sustainable state—is the intersection of development expectations and difficulties.

In the workplace, you must be determined and true to yourself. There are bound to be good reasons for doing anything, and there are pros and cons to everything. You need to be fully aware of your strengths and do your best.

Anxiety and self-doubt will only consume your time, energy, and willpower and will not benefit you in any way.

You must be fully aware of your strengths, based on the reality of the situation, and do your best. Don't regret it.

Best regards!

This answer is an outline or description of the main direction. If you're confused, continue the discussion.

You're doing great! You're a fantastic person.

Good morning. I am Coke, the listening coach. I can see that you have a problem. I can feel that although you are in the position of a manager and have the ability to do the job, your subconscious mind is sending a signal that you are not in the position of a manager.

Insufficient cultivation of the inner manager identity results in inner turmoil and uncertainty when faced with external challenges, such as discrediting or questioning of abilities. This can also lead to a sense of inadequacy in other areas of life, such as financial responsibilities.

The solution is to

1. Perform a cost-benefit analysis. Your current position is that of a manager, and you are a manager.

The fact that you are a manager is not up for debate. As long as you are in this role, you are a manager.

2. Begin developing your managerial skills. Use your authority to assign tasks effectively and identify individuals with the expertise to support you.

As the adage goes, "It takes a village to raise a child." You are the manager, and you require the support of those reporting to you to fulfill your role effectively.

3. Take action every day to leverage your authority. Do one thing a day to become more comfortable with the benefits that come with your role, so that you can stay motivated to continue learning and developing as a manager.

4. Model and exceed expectations. Observe the attire and communication styles of other managers and emulate them. Model several individuals.

Once you have become accustomed to your new role, you should begin to replace your previous identity with your new one.

5. Relax. Don't feel overwhelmed. We are all actors in this process. It's acceptable to be a manager today and not tomorrow. At least you'll have the experience of being a manager at Unit X on your resume.

That is my response. It is beneficial if it is helpful, even more so if it is inspiring, and acceptable if it is of no use.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

You will feel the deep anxiety, unease, panic, and lack of confidence within you when faced with a new environment after a sudden promotion. You will long to be accepted, affirmed, understood, encouraged, and supported.

It's normal to feel anxious and unsure when you're facing a new environment. We all crave certainty, security, and worth, and this often leads to a desire to perform better, be accepted, affirmed, encouraged, and supported. So, embrace your unease, anxiety, and uncertainty when facing a new position and new colleagues after promotion.

Your promotion is the result of your hard work being collectively recognized and affirmed. This shows that you are fully capable of handling your new job.

You feel panic, unease, and lack of confidence because you have an internal inferiority complex and lack self-confidence. You have never been aware of this part of yourself. When faced with a new job, your anxiety and unease are caused by your internal discomfort. This makes you reflect and realize your inferiority complex, lack of self-confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself.

You need to learn to accept yourself, build self-confidence, and enhance your sense of self-worth. Let go of your obsession with and expectations for perfection. Allow yourself to have areas in your new position where you may not be doing well enough. Work hard to improve yourself and learn more from your seniors.

I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.

Good morning. I extend to you a 360-degree hug.

Firstly, I would like to congratulate you on your ability to change jobs across a wide range of roles, from staff to management level, at the age of 33. This is a highly transferable skill that not everyone is able to develop.

Furthermore, there is the phenomenon of "35-year-old discrimination" in the workplace, which has led to the emergence of terms such as the "35-year-old crisis" and the "35-year-old dilemma." These terms suggest that individuals in the workplace may face challenges such as layoffs or a lack of rehire opportunities at the age of 35. However, you have demonstrated the ability to successfully transition to a new industry, obtain a promotion, and change jobs at the age of 33. This illustrates your resilience and potential to contribute value in different roles.

This demonstrates your strengths, potential, and the value you can bring to the company in the future. Ultimately, the boss will not invest in someone who cannot bring value to the table. Unless, of course, you possess an acting personality and have managed to fool the boss with your acting talent.

It is likely that you possess abilities and values that you are not currently aware of.

It is important to recognise that the situation you are facing is genuine. One contributing factor may be that you are relatively inexperienced in this role, which can lead to errors.

Another potential reason may be a sense of unworthiness or impostor syndrome, whereby an individual feels they are in a position of fraudulence and may subconsciously attempt to sabotage themselves to the point of experiencing physical symptoms that indicate a need to escape. This is something you have mentioned you are experiencing.

What can be done to resolve this situation? I will provide an overview of my initial, perhaps immature, thoughts on the matter for your reference.

First, acknowledge that you are experiencing the urge to escape and that this is manifesting in physical symptoms.

In short, it means that I acknowledge the existence of certain issues.

Secondly, once an issue has been accepted, the next step is to take action.

It is imperative that we take action. We cannot simply accept the situation and allow it to persist. We must take initiative and address the issue head-on.

For instance, if you are not proficient in your work, you may wish to consider reading books on the subject to improve your skills. If you do not have access to a mentor, you could look into online resources. It is acceptable to invest in training courses.

Given your current level of proficiency and the resulting issues, it would be beneficial to invest time and effort into developing your skills.

In conclusion, it is important to acknowledge the need for a slower pace and to accept the appropriate level of anxiety.

Regardless of the method you employ to enhance your performance, it will take time. It is not feasible to expect immediate improvement.

My recommendation is to proceed with caution, particularly during this period.

As an alternative, you may wish to consider setting a time limit for yourself, for example, how long you are allowed to remain in a state of anxiety.

Additionally, you may wish to set a fixed time for yourself each day. For instance, you could allow yourself half an hour each day to address any concerns you may have. This could include worries, fears, feelings of inferiority, and anxiety. You can then work through these issues during this time, before returning to your usual activities.

Furthermore, incorporating physical activity into your routine can be beneficial. Options include running, boxing, playing ball, and other forms of exercise. It is important to note that the key is to get moving.

Dopamine production during exercise has been shown to reduce anxiety levels.

Additionally, you may wish to consult with a counselor. From the perspective of the life cycle theory, 33 years of age is also considered a turning point in life, and we will encounter many difficulties.

Let the counselor assist you in analysis, observation, and healing.

As a counselor, I often find myself balancing Buddhist principles with a natural pessimism. However, I also recognize the value in maintaining a positive outlook and motivating others. I genuinely care about the world and its people.