It seems that being more successful or being afraid of failure is a matter of choice. Why are humans so afraid of failure?

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach, and I am here to help. I will fly free with you, warmly accompany you, and listen to your emotional stories with sincerity.

I'm glad to discuss this with you. People are more afraid of failure than success. Why is that? Your question made me think of another question: is it more upsetting to lose $100 or happier to find $100?

Many people choose the former.

You have also expressed your current worries and anxieties. You have clearly achieved a lot that many people cannot match: a high degree, a top university, a good job, senior management, excellent grades, and basically a life that seems to be going well. However, you still feel anxious inside, full of worry and fear.

Let's tackle this together from a psychological perspective.

There are two states of human existence: survival and living.

When you focus on the past, you see what you've lost. This leads to regret. When you focus on the future, you worry about what might happen. This causes anxiety.

When you live in a state of survival, either regretting or anxious, it's a program the brain has internalized during evolution. It gives you a better chance of survival.

You must live in the present and experience fully what is happening now.

If you want to live in the present, you have to be confident about the future. In other words, you need to feel secure.

A sense of security is a psychological need for stability and security. It is mainly manifested in a sense of certainty and a sense of control. A sense of security is the subjective feeling of whether you feel safe in the future.

Your sense of security is shaped by many factors. The psychoanalytic school asserts that a sense of security is closely tied to a person's childhood development. People's growth environments are complex, and different people have different reasons for a lack of security. However, people who lack a sense of security have one thing in common: they lack confidence in themselves!

A person with low self-esteem has insufficient self-worth and a lack of self-identity. They lack confidence in themselves and rely on external validation to prove their worth.

He needs something from the outside to fill the emptiness inside. You are more successful, but you still have worries and fears.

People with low self-esteem often try to "take control" because they feel insecure when they can't control things. This leads to feelings of fear and anxiety.

A person who feels insecure cannot fill the void of their inner lack, no matter how rich they are externally and materially. They can only rush forward involuntarily and be constantly exhausted. This is a state of existence.

You can heal your sense of safety. You can do this either through self-healing or with the help of professional psychological counseling.

You can make choices by seeing the patterns in the brain.

A Brief History of Humankind states definitively that humans are the top of the food chain because our brains allow us to plan for the future.

The evolution of the brain has allowed the weak human race to stand at the top of the food chain because humans can predict the future. In other words, the evolution of the brain has enhanced our ability to survive. However, as we enhance our ability to survive, we are gradually losing the ability to live.

Despite having escaped the horrors of war and famine and living comfortably in the city, our brains remain in survival mode.

When we work hard for survival, our future fills us with anxiety because it is full of so many uncertain factors, which gives us a sense of insecurity. This insecurity is the fundamental reason why we cannot live in the present.

The only constant in the world is change. There are just too many uncertain factors in the future. Don't waste your time worrying about the future. Live in the present.

Our brains allow us to predict the future, which enables us to avoid danger and survive safely.

There is only one thing we can do: become aware.

To be aware is to "see." Seeing gives us the right to choose, and seeing gives us freedom. When we see this pattern in our brain, we have the freedom to choose. It's simple: when we see the fruit knife on the sofa, we can choose to pick it up or leave it there.

When we really see this function of the brain, you can choose whether you want to sacrifice the present moment temporarily or forever. There is no future worth sacrificing the present.

If we are not happy in the process of living, our whole life is made up of every moment. If you spend every moment working hard for the future, you will realize that your whole life has been sacrificed for the future.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.

If you want to continue communicating, click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Good day!

As a heart exploration coach, I firmly believe that learning is the cornerstone of personal growth.

From your description, I can discern your inner doubts, confusion, concerns, and your strong desire to obtain clarity on the matter.

I will not delve into the difficulties caused by the fear of failure that many people experience. However, I will attempt to assist you in analyzing the underlying reasons for this, which you may find useful for future reference.

Firstly, many individuals are fearful of failure, which may be attributed to human nature and the tendency towards narcissism.

Human nature is narcissistic, and people feel that they are "good." Failure damages this narcissism, and people experience themselves as "bad" and "terrible." Therefore, many people are afraid of failure.

Secondly, many individuals are apprehensive about failure, which may also be attributed to an excessive focus on the opinions of others.

The desire for recognition and affirmation from others is a fundamental human need. Consequently, failure is often perceived as a lack of competence.

As you mentioned, you should be confident in your abilities, given your Bachelor's and Master's degrees from a 985 or 211 university. However, when it comes to performance reviews, you tend to experience anxiety, with concerns that the results may not be favorable. It's likely that you're worried about how your leaders, family, friends, and colleagues may perceive your performance, which could negatively impact your self-esteem.

It is, in fact, normal to experience feelings of anxiety and worry. However, if these feelings are so intense as to prevent you from functioning normally at work and in your personal life, it is advisable to take steps to adjust your state of mind.

Thirdly, there is still a significant gap between knowledge and action.

As we frequently observe, we are aware of the reasons, yet we are unable to achieve the desired outcome. This is a fundamental truth that provides an opportunity for personal and professional growth.

As you stated in your description, you are aware that failure is a necessary step on the path to success, yet you find it challenging to embrace failure.

The following three tips will assist you in dealing with failure and reducing anxiety:

First, accept the current situation.

As previously stated, many individuals are apprehensive about failure for the aforementioned reasons, and you are not exempt from this. This is understandable and normal, so it is advisable to accept your current situation.

Furthermore, it enables individuals to comprehend and accept themselves, which is the sole method of instigating change in the status quo. This may appear paradoxical, but it is, in fact, the case, as change is contingent upon the absence of change.

Secondly, it is advisable to undertake a rational assessment of your own situation.

Rational thinking allows for a better understanding of oneself and of reality.

Rational thinking requires an objective assessment of one's strengths while also viewing oneself from a developmental perspective.

As you mentioned, you have a solid educational background, which demonstrates your strong aptitude for learning. It is essential to have self-trust and confidence in your abilities. At the same time, it is important to recognize that there may be areas where you may not perform as well initially. However, you are still young, and you have the time and resources to continuously improve and refine your skills. Personal growth is a process that takes time and dedication.

It is important to note that action is an effective method for reducing inner anxiety and worry.

Action is often the best antidote to negative emotions.

It is important to recognise that nobody is perfect and that it is beneficial to identify areas for improvement, accept what is unchangeable and implement change where possible. By consciously allowing yourself to grow, you will naturally become more confident and stronger.

Additionally, examining the methods of individuals who demonstrate resilience in the face of setbacks can foster personal growth and reduce fear of failure.

Additionally, it is beneficial to consider whether the anticipated challenges will actually materialize and, if so, whether they will be insurmountable.

This kind of "imagination" may also have a positive effect on your emotional state, as it allows you to recognize that the situations you are worrying about may not actually occur. Even if they do, there is a good chance that you will be able to handle them effectively. Ultimately, it is important to understand that you have the ability to take action to improve the situation.

I hope this answers your question. If you would like to discuss further, please click on "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom of the page. I will then be happy to communicate with you directly.

Good day, host. It is my hope that my response will prove beneficial to you.

The host stated that despite his already considerable proficiency, he continues to experience trepidation in the face of failure. When confronted with semi-annual or year-end assessments, he becomes markedly anxious and fearful of an unfavorable outcome. This phenomenon is not uncommon, as many individuals exhibit similar patterns of anxiety and fear in response to evaluative situations. The question, then, is why this occurs.

In my opinion, this phenomenon is related to the formation of beliefs during the process of personal growth. The experiences of growth and development that individuals undergo shape their beliefs about assessments, which can lead to feelings of anxiety and unease about assessments or failures. Consequently, it becomes challenging for individuals to accept unfavorable outcomes, and they may also experience fear of negative results.

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One may endeavor to ascertain the limiting beliefs that underpin one's apprehension of failure. A retrospective examination of one's personal growth trajectory can facilitate a deeper understanding of one's self and the underlying reasons for one's heightened fear of failure.

In such instances, it is possible to trace the circumstances leading up to the current situation and identify the specific factors that instilled a sense of apprehension regarding unfavorable outcomes.

One may then trace back to the last time, and continue to do so all the way to when one was very young. Upon gaining insight into this, one will find the most primitive event. In that event, one failed, and perhaps developed a limiting belief: "I can't fail, because failure would be terrible..."

Upon identifying this limiting belief, one can comprehend the underlying reasons for the current fear of failure. However, it is crucial to recognize that individuals have matured and are no longer the same vulnerable children they once were. It is possible to accept failure after exerting considerable effort, and the outcome is inconsequential. Failure does not signify the end, but rather, a valuable learning opportunity. When failures are viewed in this light, they can be regarded as a form of success.

2. It is imperative to learn how to view failure and setbacks in an accurate and constructive manner.

It is possible to perceive pressure and frustration as opportunities for growth. This is a relatively unknown concept.

The scientific evidence from modern medicine indicates that when individuals perceive stressors as challenges rather than threats, the body secretes adrenaline, which enhances energy and focus on problem-solving. Conversely, when stress is viewed as a threat and believed to be destructive, cortisol levels in the body increase, suppressing the immune system and increasing vulnerability to disease.

Thus, when stress is conceptualized as a traumatic event, it has the potential to negatively impact physical health. Conversely, when stress is viewed as a challenge with the potential for growth, it does not pose a significant risk to health.

I began delivering live lectures for the first time this year. It was, I must admit, a rather daunting experience. When one encounters a situation with which one is unfamiliar, a certain sense of anxiety and trepidation is to be expected. However, as a psychologist, I am well versed in the techniques required to overcome such feelings. Firstly, I accepted my own nervousness and

This year, I began delivering live lectures for the first time. Candidly, it was a highly stressful experience, as one encounters a plethora of novel challenges when confronted with a task one has never done before. However, as a mental health professional, I was well-versed in the art of self-adjustment. Primarily, I embraced my initial feelings of nervousness and anxiety. Subsequently, I recalibrated my perception of stress. When I regarded stress as an opportunity for growth and a challenge to be overcome, I found that I was no longer so fearful. Instead, I was brimming with excitement and eager to embark upon my inaugural live broadcast.

It is therefore imperative to recognise that pressure and setbacks are not inherently damaging and should be viewed as opportunities for growth. When faced with challenges at work or in one's studies, it is crucial to maintain a sense of engagement and to avoid becoming bored or anxious when encountering setbacks.

3. It is imperative to cultivate an ability to accept oneself, to adjust one's expectations of oneself, and to focus on the process of one's efforts, rather than fixating on the final result.

Indeed, I previously shared a similar disposition. Despite the perceptions of others, I was perpetually dissatisfied with my performance and acutely fearful of underwhelming outcomes in assessments and challenges. Over time, however, through the processes of learning and maturation, I came to recognize that the initial step in transforming oneself is to embrace one's inherent identity.

It is essential to gain a comprehensive understanding of oneself, encompassing both one's strengths and weaknesses. Only when this is achieved can one truly accept oneself, thereby eliminating the fear of external criticism.

As a result of self-awareness, individuals possess a comprehensive understanding of their own characteristics and abilities. Consequently, they are better equipped to withstand external pressures, such as criticism, and maintain their confidence. It is, therefore, essential to cultivate self-acceptance, particularly in regard to one's shortcomings.

When confronted with an examination or an activity, it is natural to aspire to perform perfectly. However, this aspiration can lead to anxiety. Adjusting expectations to prioritize completion over perfection may, therefore, prove beneficial. It is only when we are in a positive state that we are able to fully utilize our abilities.

Anxiety is a natural consequence of dwelling on the outcome of an event, given that the outcome is inherently uncertain and beyond our immediate control. Conversely, adopting a mindset that prioritizes the process of hard work and maintains a natural attitude towards the outcome can significantly reduce feelings of anxiety.

If one can grasp the process of rigorous effort, invest significant effort in preparing for the content required for the assessment, and engage in repeated review and practice, the outcome will likely be satisfactory, and one will experience greater relaxation and confidence in the process.

I have passed several qualification exams in this manner, and I am confident that this approach will prove effective for you as well.

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. It is my hope that it will prove beneficial. Best regards,

Hi, I'm the place of peace of mind. We met by chance. Would you like to chat?

You've got a 985, 211 undergraduate, master's degree, and you're an executive at a large company. You're seen as a standard successful person by everyone, but when it's time for a six-month or year-end assessment, you're still anxious and afraid, right?

From what you've told me, I can see you're feeling anxious, afraid and confused. You're obviously very successful, so why are you so afraid of failure?

I'd like to ask, did you feel this way when you first started as an executive, or has it always been this way?

If it started after you became a senior executive, what are you really afraid of? Is it losing your current status, power, and high salary?

Or were you afraid that if you failed, people would stop recognizing you? That you'd become a helpless child with no sense of security or worth, unable to find a goal or direction in life?

If it's always been there, when did it start?

Was it in primary school or secondary school?

Was this something you felt even younger? What people or things did you experience at that time that made you lose confidence in others and in yourself, and lose a sense of trust and security?

It could be parents, siblings, teachers, classmates, or friends. Maybe they said or did something that made you feel insecure and lack confidence, and doubt your abilities and achievements, making you feel an uncontrollable sense of insecurity?

You've always studied hard and become the "child of other people's parents." Do you love studying, or is there also a parental or family factor involved?

I'd love to know more about your relationship with your parents growing up. How did they treat you?

Have you ever made any clear demands or expectations about your academic performance, the school you attend, your major, or your career development?

What's the response if you don't perform up to their expectations?

Did you choose your career path yourself or was it your family's decision?

Are you happy with how you're doing? Have you ever shared your thoughts and feelings about work?

Do you think this is what you really want?

Do you feel like the success you've achieved is something you deserve? Given how hard you've worked to get where you are, it's only natural to feel like you deserve it.

Or do you think your talents aren't worthy of this success? Are you feeling uneasy and unsure about this success?

If you're willing to take a step back and think about the answers to these questions, I'm not sure you'll find the solution you're looking for right away. But I can help you figure out a path forward that will clear up the confusion and lead you into a brighter future.

Ultimately, I believe that everyone's life is shaped by moments of success and failure. There are no guaranteed winners or losers.

So why are there still so many people who want to succeed and are afraid of failing? Maybe they should also think seriously about the above question.

No matter what the outcome, it's important to embrace every experience in life, as they all contribute to our growth.

Wishing you the best of luck!

Hello!

You're good at identifying problems and finding answers.

You can sense your anxiety and fear in the face of what is about to happen. You want to know why we have these emotions.

I can think of two reasons.

First, for hundreds of thousands of years, we were in a primitive state. Our strength was weak. If we failed, we would probably die or our tribe would die.

Primitive humans were afraid of failure. This fear is genetic and has been passed down for generations.

Second, when we were young, we were often told, "Do this or you'll be like this." This is intimidation. Most of us grew up under intimidation.

We think failure is terrible. We're afraid of it and believe we can't fail.

We can adjust the fear of failure through postnatal training.

Many humanistic education approaches encourage children to see failure as an opportunity to learn. Even if they fail, they are not scolded, but instead are supported as they process their emotions and find a better way to face the same situation.

It's okay to fail. It's a learning opportunity. Failure helps you understand yourself and improve.

Psychologists have also found that it's normal to feel anxious before an important event. The right amount of anxiety helps us focus, but too much will hurt us.

If you don't feel anxious when facing an assessment, don't worry. This anxiety can help you work better.

If you feel overwhelmed, you can remind yourself that failure is not scary. Or try listening to music and meditating, which can help.

I'm Haru Aoki, and I love you.

Hello, question asker. I am honored to answer your question.

#Failure = Denying yourself.

Many people are afraid of failure because they subconsciously believe that they are not good enough, that they are bad, and that they are wrong. These negative beliefs lead to negative thoughts, such as self-blame, pain, self-negation, and self-doubt.

The title says it all. Even if you think you're successful, you'll still be afraid of failure. We don't like to admit we've failed because it makes us feel like we're not good enough. We've worked hard and we don't want to negate all that. So, it's normal to be afraid.

#Rename#

Defining a problem as a problem is a surefire way to deviate from the path of change. Likewise, defining the negative side as failure is a surefire way to deviate from the path of success.

We can rename all this. The questioner said, "Failure is the mother of success." We can name failure "the mother of success." This makes it easier to accept the less successful side. It also ensures we'll always be on the road to success.

The above represents only my personal opinions, and I am confident that you will find them helpful and inspiring.

Thank you.

Fear is a natural human instinct. When we face a specific thing that is dangerous, our brain reacts in a chain reaction with our body, causing our body to release various chemicals that cause different levels of physical reactions such as panic, shortness of breath, and physical tension. At the same time, perception, memory, and thinking are all affected, resulting in a loss of rational judgment of the current situation. At the same time, fear also reminds us of the danger and prompts us to defend ourselves.

[Failure is dangerous. That's what fear of failure means].

We all know that failure is the mother of success. We must not be afraid of or worried about failure.

We may agree with this truth at a rational level, but subconsciously, past experiences have led us to form a different understanding and feeling about failure. We think it is dangerous and bad. When we feel afraid of failure, we can calm down and understand.

I want to know what failure means to me.

I am successful. I have a bachelor's and master's degree from a 985 or 211 university, I have worked for a large company since graduation, and I have reached a senior leadership position. My performance has been excellent.

The host's experience has indeed surpassed that of many people, as you said: it is still relatively successful. Along the way, have you always had high expectations of yourself?

Do you have a tendency towards perfectionism? I'm guessing the answer is yes, but you'll have to tell me.

Good day. My name is Xiaolan, and I am a family psychologist. You may also refer to me as Chenxi. I will analyze the situation using my logical thinking, with the aim of providing you with a helpful response.

I have considered your query regarding the etiology of human fear of failure. This is a fascinating topic.

I have previously considered this question and believe it can be divided into two parts.

The question thus arises as to the meaning of fear. Once this meaning has been established, the second question, namely why humans fear failure, can be addressed.

If fear were simply an undesirable trait, it would have been eliminated long ago during the evolutionary process that spanned several hundred thousand, millions, or even tens of millions of years. For instance, apes evolved into humans and lost their tails because they became a hindrance and a potential source of danger, and we eliminated them.

Fear is an emotion that has existed for a considerable length of time. It can be traced back to the earliest periods of human history, and even to the era of the dinosaurs.

It can be reasonably deduced that the most primitive fear is that of prey being hunted by a predator. When the prey manages to escape, it is likely to experience an emotion akin to fear.

It is precisely due to the presence of fear that an appropriate escape response can be generated in the presence of danger.

It is noteworthy that if a cat that has been raised in a domestic environment since infancy is placed in a cage with a mouse that has been raised in a similar setting, the cat will likely not exhibit any signs of fear or flee.

Given that tigers are not perceived as a threat, an intriguing phenomenon emerges. It can be observed that the experience of fear is not innate, but rather shaped by one's encounters and experiences.

Let us consider this matter further. It seems reasonable to posit that the majority of people are afraid of death, corpses, and blood and remains. However, if we study medicine in college, we will pass a series of tests and training, and eventually we will no longer be afraid of corpses, blood, and remains.

Furthermore, they are capable of performing medical operations with remarkable composure. This exemplifies the potential for fear and dread to be effectively mitigated through training.

The objective of this training is to modify my perception of the nature of things.

An individual who has been superstitious about the existence of ghosts since childhood, and who has subsequently trained in medicine, may find it challenging to overcome their fear of corpses. This is because they lack a comprehensive understanding of the nature of corpses, which may not necessarily be an accurate understanding, but one that is nevertheless beneficial.

From this, we can ascertain the nature of fear. It can be defined as the inability to gain a clear and accurate understanding of the nature of a given situation or object.

In conclusion, fear can be defined as an emotional response to a situation or object that could potentially cause harm, yet lacks a clear understanding of it, leading to the avoidance of such situations to protect oneself.

The essence of fear is that when an individual encounters an object or situation that they cannot assess as dangerous, they will utilize past experiences to help them avoid the emotional response generated by this object or situation.

We will subsequently examine the reasons behind the fear of failure that is prevalent among humans.

In the absence of a clear and comprehensive understanding of the nature of failure, humans tend to exhibit an emotional response characterized by avoidance behavior, which serves to protect them from potential harm.

Consequently, when individuals experience fear in response to the prospect of failure, it is essential to gain a comprehensive understanding of the nature of failure itself. This entails a nuanced and multifaceted perspective on failure, rather than a simplistic notion that failure is a prerequisite for success.

Let us ascertain the potential consequences of this failure.

Indeed, the majority of common failures are significantly less impactful than our ability to cope.

If I fail to perform adequately on this project, will my employer make me insolvent? The answer is no.

It is unlikely that the aforementioned individual would make me lose my wife and children.

It is unlikely that he would allow me to lead a mediocre life.

It is unlikely that he will suffer from illness or die as a result.

It is unlikely that the aforementioned individual will be dismissed from their position.

In the event of a career loss, would it be financially feasible to secure an alternative position?

I am of the opinion that this is not the case.

It is within the realm of possibility that he will make me forfeit my bonus.

It is therefore evident that the loss of this bonus will not result in an acute financial deficit.

It is therefore pertinent to inquire as to whether this will result in the loss of one's aspirations. It is difficult to envisage how this could be the case.

Therefore, it can be concluded that although failure may have adverse consequences, these effects are surmountable.

This is analogous to the situation in which an individual possesses 10,000 yuan and suffers a loss of 100 yuan. The emotional response to this event is not a significant concern, provided that the individual is not constrained by financial limitations.

Such an outcome is not financially catastrophic.

However, another perspective may be offered: "It is only $100. Every cloud has a silver lining."

It is typical for individuals to dwell on such matters.

However, if one is informed that losing 100 yuan will have an adverse effect on one's life, will it prevent one from purchasing the desired items?

One must consider whether the situation will make one's life more difficult. If one determines that it will not, one may gradually cease dwelling on the issue.

On occasion, individuals are unable to accept the reality of failure, instead embellishing the situation. This can result in feelings of emptiness and insecurity.

While it is true that failure is the mother of success, it is essential to determine the conditions under which this is the case. In order for failure to be the mother of success, it must not result in an impact that we are unable to bear.

If one were to lose 100 yuan each time they failed, and failed once a day, they would lose 10,000 yuan in total. This is not a cause for concern, as it is argued that failure is the mother of success.

This is an acceptable outcome.

However, if one has only 10,000 yuan and must pay 5,000 yuan for each failure, it is difficult to maintain the view that failure is the mother of success. Indeed, if anyone still holds this view, it would be reasonable to challenge them.

Therefore, the optimal approach to confronting failure and managing the associated fear is to ascertain the potential consequences of failure and evaluate one's capacity to withstand them. When such an understanding is attained, the fear of failure is effectively mitigated.

Given the three potential outcomes, the first is failure, which has minimal impact on the individual. In such a case, it is possible to continue with the status quo.

The second result is failure, which has a significant impact on us, but we are unable to cease the process because doing so would cause even greater damage. Therefore, we must persevere and continue forward, as there is no alternative.

The only recourse is to strive for the best possible outcome and accept the consequences.

The third result is failure, which has a significant impact on us, but we have the option to cease further action. At this juncture, it is necessary to perform a cost-benefit analysis, comparing the probability of failure and the impact on us with the probability of success and the impact on us, in order to determine the optimal course of action.

Ultimately, regardless of the outcome, fear is unlikely to be a significant factor, although fatigue may be a minor concern.

It is my sincere hope that you will experience an increase in happiness here. Should you require guidance, I am available to provide counsel.

It doesn't matter if you're an unknown nobody, a middle-level leader, a high-level leader, or a national leader—at the end of the day, we're all just ordinary people. We're all afraid of success and failure. Success brings more responsibility and tasks, while failure brings humiliation and a sense of unworthiness.

Let's think about how this fear of failure feels. When we were kids, our parents and teachers praised us if we did well on an exam, both verbally and physically.

There will also be some material praise. But when you get a bad grade, or you perform very badly and fail at the school sports day, it's a different story.

It seems that even though they're more successful, they're still afraid of failure.

Why are humans so afraid of failure? It seems that nobody really knows.

Most people know that failure is the mother of success.

Failure

Fear

Even though the games' slogan is "friendship first, competition second," most people, including parents and teachers, tend to believe that results are what matter most. If you don't succeed or don't get good results, you'll be seen as a failure, and your existence will be worthless and meaningless. This fear can be addictive, and everyone may be affected by such an old experience for a lifetime.

☪️☪️☪️☪️Say goodbye to the negative impact of your old experiences and face them head-on.

Failure is also something we need to learn from.

We don't have that many people watching us.

Just be yourself. The more you worry about failure, the more likely you are to fail. Our mentality can affect our performance, according to Yerkes Dodson's law. If a person is very calm, their performance won't be great because they seem disinterested. Some people seem to care a lot and are very anxious, but they still can't do their best.

Because you're so anxious, you can't let go. So we need to stay calm about success and failure. It's like we can see all the people on the street, each vehicle, and each person going their own way. What success did they have today? What failure did they have today? No one cares, because everyone is focused on their own stuff.

From what you've said, it's clear you're very good at what you do. You have a strong background in teaching and research.

You have good work experience, and your current position is pretty awesome. As a senior leader, you've been killing it, and we've gained something, often fearing the loss of it due to the endowment effect.

We've earned it. Having it all for a long time has made us take it for granted, thinking that we should be successful and not fail.

But such a thought often makes us feel very, very perfectionistic, as if we should be in control of everything. As we know, though, things change gradually, and our plans often can't keep up.

If you're still worried about failing, think about what you'd do if it actually happened. Is there anything you could do to make it less damaging?

You're worried that something bad is going to happen during the assessment. This assessment is actually very important to you.

If you can, it's best to calm yourself down.

Because you might not necessarily fail. Even if we have to face these failures one day, we should know within ourselves what we failed at. It might be some mistakes, and there might be something we haven't considered, so we should think about it next time. This is also a reminder to ourselves that none of us are perfect.

Believe it or not, you're not alone in feeling afraid. When you're facing your fears, the best thing you can do is face them head on and accept that they're there.

As a professional heart exploration coach, I suggest you read "The Willpower Trap," "The Structure," "Using the Working Day Productively," "Charisma," "The Most Important 2 Hours of Every Day," and "The Art of Clear Thinking." You'll see how success and failure affect your efficiency and flow. Best of luck to you!

ZQ?

I feel the same. I've thought about this too. I'm not as successful as you, but I'm also afraid of failure.

Let's discuss this on Yi Xinli.

I think:

Are we afraid of failure or the consequences of failure?

You really want to eat peaches. You don't want to tell anyone. You go buy peaches. It's late. The fruit store and market are closed. You can only shop online. It's raining. You'll have trouble getting the peaches. Will you be afraid? Will you be anxious?

What are your feelings?

Let's change the scenario. If you don't want to eat peaches, but a friend gathering is being held at home, and a friend of the opposite sex who you don't know very well has to eat the peaches, would you be afraid?

What are your feelings?

Your boss calls and says an important client is coming. The client likes peaches. You have to send peaches. How do you feel?

Are you afraid you can't buy peaches?

How do your feelings differ in these three scenarios?

If you don't feel any anxiety or fear in the first scenario, it means you don't have an obsessive mindset. If there is still anxiety and fear, you may be asking too much of yourself. The logic behind this is that all failures are bad, so it may be worthwhile to consider the consequences of failure. So, what about the second scenario? You probably won't be afraid or anxious because you didn't know in advance that the other person could only eat peaches, and the objective conditions were difficult to meet. It's reasonable not to be able to do it, and it has nothing to do with ability.

Anxiety often arises when our abilities don't meet our needs. Those who always strive for excellence may feel anxious. If you can't do it, your leader and customers will think less of you.

It will! You might miss a better opportunity.

I thought of all the bad things that could happen, and I got more and more nervous.

If you're feeling this way, can you summarize what we're afraid of? If not, describe your feelings.

At school, we were not allowed to fail. We could achieve it through our own efforts. It is very difficult after work. Society is diverse, as is the operation of an organization. We can only do better in one or more aspects. If we fail, we should just think of it as if we didn't get to eat the peach. In a marathon, do you care about the brand of water you drink at the halfway point?

Finally, when I'm anxious, I'll take out a piece of paper and pen and analyze it layer by layer: Am I anxious? What am I anxious about?

What does it mean to me? What are the consequences?

I can avoid serious consequences by breaking my goal down into actions.

These are my personal experiences. I'm still learning. I hope to communicate and learn from everyone. I hope to help more people who need help.

Hello, question asker.

If you're successful, you're not afraid. It's simple: you have a solid foundation, and a dead horse is still better than a dead camel.

There is no necessary link between success and fear-of-men-arises-due-to-molestation-by-a-stranger-at-the-age-of-8-15153.html" target="_blank">fear.

Everyone experiences failure-lingering-in-my-heart-what-should-i-do-4025.html" target="_blank">failure differently, and their attitude towards failure also varies. Some people become more and more fearful, while others become more and more courageous in the face of setbacks.

There are two main reasons why people fear failure. The first is negative experiences, such as insults, strict demands, mocking voices, and disappointed looks. The second is the way we define failure. From an early age, failure is associated with other concepts and given a specific meaning.

Failure means losing everything.

Even if you are very successful, you still fear failure. Possible connections include:

1. All along, it is the fear of failure that has encouraged me to succeed. I am successful because I have overcome my fear of failure.

2. The higher you stand, the harder you fall.

3. Having lived in the shadow of failure since childhood, you may succeed, but you still won't think you can succeed. You'll see success as a fluke, while failure is inevitable.

4. They will never consider themselves successful if they always compare themselves with people who are better than them.

5. Failure is painful, and I refuse to continue if there's even a chance of it happening.

6. There are many disadvantages to failure, but I have not seen any benefits from it. This makes failure a very scary prospect!

7. I have already been very successful and experienced many successful experiences, but I have had very few unsuccessful experiences. It's clear that the fewer failures you have, the less you fear them.

The more successful you are, the more you should be afraid of failure. One failure could be the end of everything.

9. People who are not easily successful are afraid of ending up with nothing the more they have.

10. The path to success is very narrow and fragile, and self-esteem is built on a single channel that is easily broken. This is why they are afraid of failure.

11. You're only successful when you achieve your desired outcome. Appearances can be deceiving. :)

Hello, I'd like to offer you a 360-degree hug if you'd like.

From your brief question, it can be seen that many people consider you a success. You have a 985 or 211 degree, work for a large company, are a senior leader, and have good performance. You also know that many people consider you a success, regardless of how you calculate it.

It seems that you are currently experiencing a heightened sense of anxiety about the possibility of failure. It's as if you're under the constant threat of failure, like the sword of Damocles, hovering over your head, poised to fall at any moment.

I hope you don't mind me asking, but I'm not sure if you've already considered this. I don't know your age, but I wonder if there's a perception that 35 is a kind of workplace dividing line. It's possible that many people face a dilemma around workplace development at that age.

I'm not sure if you're facing this same challenge.

Let's continue. You are clearly already considered a successful person, so I'm curious to understand why you're so afraid of failure.

I wonder if the six-month period and year-end assessment you mentioned are not new, and if they must have existed before. Perhaps you could tell me if you worried and felt anxious about them back then. What might have triggered your anxiety about these issues now?

On the other hand, I don't actually have concerns that you will fail, as it seems that you have been working hard for so many years to avoid it.

From a psychoanalytic perspective, success can be seen as the inverse of failure. It seems that, because we are afraid of failure, we build a kind of moat around our lives with hard work and continuous improvement, keeping failure out.

It could be said that our desire to avoid failure is what drives us to keep trying.

It seems that you are currently experiencing a heightened level of concern. This may be attributed to a sense of uncertainty about the future or a fear of risk, and it's understandable that you're unsure of how to address it.

It might be helpful to consider writing about possible failures and worst-case scenarios. For instance, if the mid-year review continues to go poorly, there is a possibility that your salary or position may be affected, or that you may even be laid off.

It might be helpful to write about the resources you currently have at your disposal, such as savings, as well as other potential sources of income.

It might be helpful to write down what kind of plan you could put in place if the worst happens, with a view to minimising the impact on your life.

Naturally, my hope is that the majority of what you document will prove to be irrelevant. However, by articulating these concerns, you can gain insight into potential challenges and strategies, rather than merely dwelling on apprehensions.

It is also possible that you may discover that things are not as bad as you thought, or that there are plans and resources available in advance.

It might be helpful to try writing about it.

I often find myself straddling two opposing viewpoints: the Buddhist perspective and a pessimistic outlook. However, I also recognize the value in embracing occasional positivity and motivation. As a counselor, I strive to spread a message of love and acceptance for the world around us.

Hello! I just wanted to say a big, big thumbs up for being such an outstanding person! I, like you, have also worked hard towards various goals without rest because new goals and new anxieties are constantly following me. Why? Well, let me discuss this with you based on my experience and understanding, and see if it is enlightening and helpful to you:

The biggest and most exciting challenge we face in life is loss. This loss begins the moment an infant is separated from its mother by the umbilical cord. The first cry of a newborn is an expression of anxiety and fear at losing the warmth of the placenta. We experience loss again and again until we grow old and lose our lives.

And every loss we experience is the beginning of a new life! Well, except for death.

Even death has a soul!

Worries are simply a state of mind that stems from a lack of control over the uncertainties in life. And they all have one thing in common: the inevitable loss. The more outstanding people are, the more they worry about losing. But here's the good news: you can overcome your worries!

So think about what you are worried about, list it in detail, help yourself sort out your thoughts, and see if it really poses a threat to you or if it is just a meaningless fear. Outstanding people devote their hearts and minds to their work and career. Just look at you! With your 985 and 211 undergraduate and master's degrees, you both worked at big companies and reached the top leadership positions after graduation. Your performance has been pretty good!

As your abilities and experience increase, you may feel that your control has increased, that you should be very confident, that you will not be bothered by a sense of incompetence, and that you should be happy. But you are still afraid of failure. This is because as you advance in your career, the scope of your responsibilities in your field of work has once again expanded, and the uncertainty has greatly increased. The joy you feel from your success is overwhelmed by more expectations, and you enter a new round of tension and anxiety. Endless pursuits lead to endless fears and worries, and the cycle repeats itself. So the more outstanding people are, the greater the pressure they feel and the more tired they become. But there is a way out!

And that is to learn to control what you can control and be relieved of what you cannot control!

— Learn to say; I allow... Virtuosity has a creed: never allow failure. Even a little bit.

You say, "I don't understand why most people, including me, are so afraid of failure. We all know that failure is the mother of success, and we can absolutely conquer our fears and worries about failure. Especially when it comes to the six-month or year-end assessment, I get very anxious and afraid of a bad result, but I know I can do it and I'm excited to see what I can achieve." These are all important genes of excellence. It is precisely the constant caution of walking on thin ice and the unremitting pursuit of perfection that has made you who you are, and I love that about you!

But if you insist on success and allow no failure over the long term, your mental state will become overstretched and you may collapse. The human mind is like a rubber band: it is most resilient when stretched. If you keep stretching it, it will snap. So, relax a little, tell yourself that you allow yourself to fail, and that failure is the mother of success. Then, why not allow a little mistake or failure? Is it possible to allow no little failure? Absolutely!

Absolutely! We pursue as few mistakes as possible, and that is success. Don't you agree?

Humans always understand the meaning of life through continuous loss—the uncertainty of gains and losses, and living in the present. I think the important thing is to do your best in the present, concentrate fully, reduce mistakes, and leave no regrets. In fact, you said that you feel more anxious every time there is an assessment. I understand that this is actually the pressure brought about by the assessment, not being willing to be behind others. But here's the good news: if we do our best in every moment, even if we are temporarily behind others, what does it matter? You can do this!

Remember, the only way to win is to be willing to lose, and I know you can do it!

The questioner, based on his personal feelings, asks:

Have you ever wondered why so many people are afraid of anxiety/how-to-emerge-from-the-shadow-of-postgraduate-entrance-exam-failure-after-investing-so-much-10014.html" target="_blank">failure?

I can see how this doubt and anxiety might be making the questioner worry. It's only natural to feel this way when we're facing something we perceive as a potential failure. It can feel like an ominous curse that affects our lives and choices.

I really hope that what I'm sharing here can help the OP think about this issue a bit and also find ways to let go of these emotions.

I really hope that what I'm sharing here can help the original poster think about this issue a bit and find ways to let go of these emotions.

Firstly, it's totally normal to feel a bit nervous about failure. It's not necessarily about whether you're actually successful, but more about having that little voice inside your head wondering if you're good enough.

There's a psychological phenomenon called the "impostor syndrome," which basically means that people often doubt their own abilities. They might even doubt that their good looks are real! They might also think that other people don't think they're as smart as they really are.

As the original poster expressed in his comment:

I really believe that I should be more successful. I have a bachelor's and master's degree from 985 and 211 universities, and after graduation, I worked in a major company and reached the position of senior leader. My performance has also been quite good.

It's clear that the questioner is very talented, but he's still feeling anxious about it. We all get nervous when things don't go as planned, and it's easy to think that our abilities aren't enough when we don't succeed.

It's only natural that when this kind of thing keeps happening, it can really shake up our sense of self-worth. It's totally understandable that we'd feel afraid and worried.

Secondly, it's important to remember that being labelled a failure can also mean being negatively evaluated and questioned by the outside world. This can have a significant impact on an individual's sense of self and their place in society.

Let's imagine for a second that the person being assessed doesn't pass the six-month or year-end assessment, or that their colleagues don't complete the same level as them. Not only will they receive a poor assessment from the assessor, but they'll also face doubt and criticism from their colleagues. It's a tough spot to be in!

And when you're facing that fear of failure, you might want to try some of these ways of dealing with it:

1. Remember, you're not alone! Lots of people feel this way, too.

The host of this section has already done so. It's so great to see that there are others out there who are also afraid of failure! This shared experience will help you understand your own state of mind and respond to challenges in a more positive way.

2. Looking at things from a longer-term perspective can really help!

It's so easy to get caught up in the present and forget that what we perceive as a failure now might not be forever.

And don't forget that it's only "unsuccessful" in the moment, or even that the whole so-called "failure" is an inevitable trial in the moment that needs to be experienced.

So, when we take a longer view of events in a more distant perspective, it helps us to see the challenges we need to deal with as just a phase of existence and an attempt. At this time, we'll look at success or failure in a more relaxed way.

I'm not probing human nature, but rather a therapist who cares about the human heart. I wish you all the best!

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

The questioner is nervous and anxious about the year-end performance review. They doubt themselves and feel confused, uncomfortable, and painful. Their performance is not bad, but they still feel anxious.

Everyone gets anxious when faced with the unknown. The questioner's anxiety is like pressure that makes them uncertain about the future.

Give the OP a boost. Why can't the OP accept his failure?

Why can't the question asker accept their failures? When did this anxiety start?

Childhood or something else?

These thoughts about failure are making the questioner feel bad. Learn to recognize and change these thoughts.

What cannot defeat the questioner will make the questioner braver.

We can't communicate in detail about the question because it was asked on a platform. I can only give the questioner advice on how to deal with negative emotions:

Find out what makes the questioner anxious.

Why do you have anxious thoughts? Some thoughts are easy to find, while others are harder.

Write down negative emotions when they arise.

Find out what makes the questioner feel anxious and figure out what causes it. For example, thinking mistakes are your own fault and seeing minor problems as serious.

The questioner is anxious about the year-end assessment, but they've done well. They should be confident, but why are they anxious? Are they worried that if their performance is surpassed, it will be difficult to find another job with similar benefits?

What's the main worry? To find a solution, you have to understand your deepest fears and worries.

Try to solve your worries.

When you know why you're anxious, try to cheer yourself up and see if you can solve the problem. If you're worried about not finding a good job because of poor performance, you could try to improve your performance.

Make more friends and connections outside of work. You can get a similar job elsewhere. Run a side business. You can maintain a comfortable lifestyle even if you are laid off.

Don't dwell on or talk about anxious emotions. Instead, say something positive. You'll get used to it.

List the worst possible outcomes.

What's the worst that can happen? What's the worst outcome you can't accept? List them and see if you have any coping strategies.

Instead of worrying about everything, make a plan for the worst. Then, when it happens, you'll know what to do. There are always more solutions than problems. Our ancestors knew this.

Pay attention to what you say.

When we're upset, we often say things like "I'm so annoyed" or "I messed up again." These words make us feel worse.

Avoid using negative words. Replace them with positive thoughts and praise. For example, replace "terrible" with "unfortunate" or "there is room for improvement."

Look for the positive.

Nothing is perfect. No matter how capable you are, you can't be perfect. Don't demand perfection from yourself. Allow yourself to have minor failures or imperfections. When you feel negative emotions, stop and think of something positive.

If you lose a game, you can learn from it.

Get help.

If the above methods don't work, seek help from a professional. Tell them about your negative emotions. You can be honest because these sessions are confidential.

Describe how these anxiety attacks make you feel, how they usually start, and how you respond. If necessary, keep communicating with these professionals until the anxiety attacks stop.

I hope this helps.

Good afternoon, host!

I can see you're a little confused, so I thought I'd share this little idea with you in the hope it might help.

I've been wondering why most of us are so afraid of failure. We all know that failure is the mother of success, but we're just afraid and worried about failure.

Sometimes, it's not because there is hope that you do something, but only when you start doing something that you may see hope. I loved what you said later, "985 and 211 undergraduates and masters, after graduation, all work in large factories, and their positions have reached senior leadership, and their performance has been quite good." It's so inspiring to hear about your success!

I know I should be doing well, but I still get nervous about failing. I get especially anxious during the six-month or year-end reviews, worrying that I won't do well.

I'm sure you've been doing great in your studies and career! I just want to encourage you to have the courage to face things head-on and the confidence to persevere.

Have you ever wondered why so many people are afraid of failure?

I think the reason for this is that the "failure" that many people (including me) fear comes from the brain's boundless imagination and overthinking. When a person is in a state of inaction, their brain becomes very active.

When your mind is running at high speed, it can be easy to get distracted by lots of different thoughts. These can sometimes make you feel a bit worried, scared or anxious. The longer your mind is running at high speed, the more these thoughts can spread.

So, I think that's why.

The "failure" we fear is just a fear and imagination created by our wonderful brains!

And there's more!

It's totally normal to feel like you're failing when you're trying your best. We all do it! The important thing is to learn to face it.

Let's face the real you!

Nobody's perfect, and there's always room for improvement. Don't ever give up!

Let's face the real world together!

It's so easy to get lost in the comforting bubble of our minds when we're facing challenges. But, this bubble can't help us in the long run. So, let's break down those imaginary walls of safety and embrace the uncomfortable things that come our way. Everything will be okay.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi, and I'm as modest and humble as ever!

Our ideas about failure-is-a-matter-of-choice-why-are-humans-so-afraid-of-failure-16860.html" target="_blank">success and failure really shape our attitudes.

We often hear that a dead camel is still bigger than a live horse, and that people tend to go where the action is. But what about those who have never been successful? And what about those who have never experienced the sense of satisfaction and the constant stream of people's envy and praise that comes with success? Perhaps it's not so obvious how we view success and failure in these cases.

As for our current situation, the achievements and successes we've made are not only material, but also the good reputation and recognition of others that have accumulated over the years. These take a long time to create, and once we lose this feeling of being surrounded by people, it can be tough to accept.

So, instead of being afraid of failing, we're just going with the flow, searching for direction, because everyone around us is working so hard, and it's only through hard work that we can gain so many wonderful things in life. It's only natural to feel afraid sometimes. People in high positions will always think that there are always troublemakers trying to harm them, and there is the saying, "Accompanying the king is like accompanying a tiger."

I'd love to offer a little advice on maintaining a balanced state of mind:

Live with an open mind, my friend. In terms of your current state of success, you are materially wealthy and spiritually content. We all have a lot on our plates these days, and it can be tough to stay centered.

So if you can suggest a normal attitude, there are so many aspects of life that are worth appreciating in addition to success!

Let's change the way we think about success and failure. Everything has two sides, and success is no exception.

To do this, we can gently break out of the mental prison that traditional thinking has given us. Then, we can gradually break down the faults in our own minds. In this way, we can better accept another concept.

We all get criticized from time to time, but it's so important to live according to our own values and be happy with that. When we do that, our hearts will be so much richer!

Wishing you all the best!

Success and failure have different outcomes.

You pursue success because you're afraid of failure.

Anxiety is not a problem in life.

Worrying shows you want something and are trying to get it.

The fear of failure is a way of avoiding disadvantages.

People want good things and to avoid bad things.

It's possible to be afraid of losing good things when you're doing well.

Some things change.

However, you can't control everything. You worry about things not lasting, or being easily replaced.

I don't think the OP's concerns are entirely unfounded.

As the ancients said, be prepared for danger.

In psychology, the harder a task is and the more stressed you are, the more you struggle.

The harder the task, the less motivation there is to do it. The easier the task, the more motivation there is to do it well.

So, you can look at it another way: Do you find things easy and do a good job? Do you feel the right emotions for the task?

Some people are afraid of success as well as failure.

The negative consequences of success are not always obvious. They can include bitterness and fatigue.

I suggest the questioner relax, do what they can, and do it right.

You can't control whether you succeed or fail. But you can control whether you do your best and work hard.

The rest shouldn't be that this is good and that is bad. You can't blame yourself.

This is a reference.

Hello, question asker! This is the first question I've wanted to answer on this platform, and I'm so happy you asked it. Your description really resonated with me. It seems like someone who seems to be very successful is afraid of failure. I think it's important to remember that a life that has gone too smoothly cannot always withstand the storms.

I really hope this expression didn't offend you.

It's totally normal to be afraid of failure. We're all just ordinary people trying our best.

Oh, come on now, you're not a god!

Of course, we all have different issues that we need to work through in our own way.

"I don't understand why most people, including me, are so afraid of failure. We all know that failure is the mother of success, but we are just afraid and worried about it." If you can succeed, who likes to fail?

Failure and success are two sides of the same coin, but there's no hard and fast rule for how we distinguish between them. It's totally normal to feel a bit nervous, but there's no need to let it get you down. Just take a moment to reflect on the situation and try not to let your emotions get the better of you.

It's only when we focus on the result itself that we can judge whether something is a success or a failure. But feeling scared and worried about things that haven't happened is a distraction from the task at hand. And that's not going to lead to a good result, is it?

"In theory, I should be relatively successful. I have a bachelor's and master's degree from 985 and 211 universities, and I have worked in large companies since graduation, rising to senior management positions and achieving good results. But I am still afraid of failure, especially when it comes to the six-month or year-end review. I get anxious and fear that the results will not be good. I want to ask everyone, why is this? Why are so many people so afraid of failure?"

Sometimes, logic just doesn't cut it when it comes to emotions. Why not give someone a hug? If someone is struggling to shake off fear and worry, it might be time to turn to others for help.

We're in this together! We have a team to support us. Assessment is not something we can do alone. It's something we do together as a group. Give it your best effort and be open to the outcome.

I'm sure you'll get great results!

I really hope this helps! ?

Insightful, sharing becomes a habit! I am addressing my own thoughts.

You are not afraid of failure, but you are driven to succeed.

For all individuals within the social structure.

Regardless of one's understanding of the concepts of success and failure.

From the moment of birth,

Everyone strives to utilize their abilities.

To demonstrate their value and gain recognition.

Otherwise, why would a newborn baby

Why would they make such a loud protest?

This is not merely a call to the world.

It is the desire for the presence of others.

It is simply a matter of fact that at that time

In the case of a newborn child

From a theoretical standpoint, it is not possible to distinguish between success and failure.

Or, what is commonly referred to as "failure."

As we mature and gain experience,

As the years pass, the rings grow.

As we mature, the concepts of success and failure become more defined.

What factors contribute to our perception of success and failure?

In my opinion, the primary factor is comparison.

In the absence of comparison, the concepts of success and failure would not exist.

It is not possible to make comparisons between individuals.

The notion that there is no such thing as good or bad, smart or dumb, or rich or poor is a fallacy.

It is due to the nature of comparison between individuals.

There are a multitude of comparisons that can be made.

As you previously stated,

Through one's own efforts, one can gain admission to a 985 or 211 university.

It is a matter of particular pride.

As we are all aware.

Not all individuals are suited to the same level of success.

Setting aside all other considerations

From the standpoint of academic achievement in isolation.

Such as a well-known university such as 985 or 211.

This is a form of success.

In comparison to the workplace

It is merely a stepping stone to success in life.

It is not a guaranteed path to success in life.

It is not a guaranteed path to success in life.

Securing admission to a renowned university

This does not necessarily guarantee a good fit in the workplace.

As the questioner stated.

Who has been able to achieve a position of prominence within the corporate hierarchy?

Such a lifestyle is the aspiration of many.

This kind of lifestyle

From the perspective of many, this is undoubtedly a successful move.

As the questioner expresses concern.

Given her experience is a textbook example of success,

What are the underlying reasons for her apprehension about failure?

A female visitor who has experienced domestic violence for an extended period of time.

She came to seek advice.

Her request is to ascertain how the current state of the relationship can be altered.

From the perspective of many of us

Both parties have reached a critical juncture in their relationship.

Divorce may be the optimal solution.

However, she never mentions divorce as an option.

When queried as to why she did not opt for a divorce,

Her response was quite moving.

"Because I'm too intimately acquainted with him, I am unable to sever our relationship."

There are numerous examples of symbiotic relationships.

There are numerous examples of symbiotic relationships.

Symbiotic relationships can result in a wide range of pairings.

For instance, consider the pairing models of control and being controlled, as well as sadism and masochism.

Once a matching model is established,

Such models tend to continue running in an inertial manner.

The individual in question has made significant progress.

It is not necessary to discuss the difficulties that have been encountered.

However, what is visible to others is still a perception of success.

These are analogous to the pairing model in a symbiotic relationship.

These processes have been occurring automatically in your life.

At times, you may even hesitate to consider the possibility of one day no longer performing the duties of your current role.

What is the next step in this process?

Is it a lack of courage or fear of having to start from scratch?

From the perspective of your current career.

You have the requisite courage and ability.

However, you have allowed yourself to become enmeshed in a relationship of inertia.

It is challenging to cease this behavior.

In conclusion,

Facing a successful business venture

This is a more distressing proposition.

In fact, it is more distressing.

The final outcome of unsuccessful efforts.

By exerting one's own efforts, an individual may potentially achieve a successful outcome.

And a successful life.

To achieve success, one must work harder.

It may also be advisable to consider ways of stabilizing your current position.

Indeed,

The outcome may be success or failure.

I do not believe that failure should be the end of a person.

They are merely a phase in one's life journey.

If circumstances change,

You have already had the opportunity to view the sights and are now looking to move on to other pursuits.

You must demonstrate the ability and courage to do so.

It is important to be assertive and say no when necessary.

In today's society,

The definition of an "iron plate bowl" has evolved.

The aforementioned "iron plate bowl"

It is not about eating in one place for the remainder of your life.

However, the ability to consume food in any location is a lifelong benefit.