It's a bit like sweet trouble, and it's like one-sided love. How do you view this kind of emotion?

Hello!

You are right to bring up the topic of spiritual infidelity, which is indeed a sensitive and complicated issue.

I'd like to share some thoughts with you that you can use as a reference.

Emotional infidelity is when you're attracted to someone outside of your marriage and form a mental obsession or emotional investment. This is a betrayal of your partner, even if there's no physical infidelity.

Based on your description, it's clear that you haven't reached the level of "mentally addicted or emotionally involved." You're only attracted to him and have a strong fondness for him. You said, "Sometimes I do feel more curious about him and want to have more contact with him." And, "It's a bit like sweet trouble, and a bit like I'm in a one-sided relationship."

There are many reasons for infidelity.

For example, you will likely develop a strong attachment and emotional connection with another man because you share similar values and interests.

It's also possible that you've become psychologically addicted because another man gives you emotional satisfaction or an intimate connection in some way.

You have a strong sense of awareness and a clear sense of boundaries. You know the coach doesn't have any thoughts about his female students, and you know nothing will happen between you. I am certain you will not develop strong attachments or emotional connections or psychological addiction for the time being.

You have not yet reached the level of spiritual infidelity. However, being attracted to the opposite sex and having strong feelings for them can also cause harm if not dealt with properly.

If you don't address it, it will ultimately violate the trust and loyalty of your relationship with your boyfriend.

Long-term attraction and strong feelings for the opposite sex are a form of emotional and spiritual infidelity. They ultimately lead to a gap or even a distance in the relationship between your boyfriend and you, and damage the trust relationship.

You must take the following positive measures in the face of the current situation and circumstances:

First, communicate honestly.

Be honest about your actions and strengthen mutual trust through practical actions and continuous efforts.

For example, you can and should express your attraction to and fondness for the opposite sex in an honest and appropriate way at the right time.

This includes pledging future loyalty, respecting your boyfriend's feelings, and providing transparent communication.

The only way to establish a healthier communication model is for the two parties in a relationship to face their own words and deeds honestly, communicate openly and honestly with each other, and explain their feelings and thoughts.

Second, reconnect with each other.

You should let your boyfriend know about your actions and daily activities if you can.

For example, they should share social media accounts, open up their phones and emails, and so on.

This will help couples strengthen their bond of intimacy and trust and inject new vitality and motivation into their relationship.

You can also build a new connection by engaging in new activities together, strengthening daily communication, and setting new goals together.

Seek help from society.

If you want to get out of this quickly, you need to seek more social help as soon as possible. This is the only way forward.

Seek help from a psychologist. Rely on the guidance and support of a professional to deal with the crisis of trust.

Seeking help from boyfriends, other family members, and friends would be embarrassing. Instead, you should seek help from a counselor. This will help you rebuild a healthy couple relationship quickly.

A counselor will provide you with the professional, specific, and personalized guidance and support you need to understand each other's feelings and find a solution to the problem.

You must be patient and give each other time.

As a man, you may experience pain, confusion, and hesitation during the process of honest communication. However, you must believe that the problem will eventually be resolved.

You must be patient and willing to persevere until trust is rebuilt and strengthened.

This means that both partners must be patient and willing to face each other's emotional reactions.

Rebuilding and strengthening trust in a relationship is a process that requires time and patience.

I'm confident this will be helpful.

Hello, questioner. I'm great.

You've fallen in love. It's normal. Everyone appreciates beauty!

First of all, it's important to understand that it's only natural to appreciate beautiful people or things. Your coach is sunny and lovely, patient in teaching, and it's completely understandable that you have a good impression of him. This good impression is like admiring a beautiful painting or listening to a touching song—it makes people feel happy and adds color to their lives.

The term "spiritual infidelity" is a bit harsh. You haven't betrayed your boyfriend. You've just had some subtle feelings.

This feeling does not mean you don't love your boyfriend or want to leave him. It's probably just a brief episode that makes you appreciate your relationship with your boyfriend even more.

Dealing with these feelings is simple: be honest with yourself. Take a moment to calm down and think about where your feelings for the coach come from. Do they just come from some external qualities that attract you?

Has this feeling of affection affected your relationship with your boyfriend?

If this feeling is only temporary and has not affected your relationship with your boyfriend, then you should focus your attention back on spending time with your boyfriend, think more about the good things about him, and do more things to strengthen your relationship. At the same time, you can also turn your feelings for the coach into a driving force, so that you can work harder at learning to swim and strive to achieve better results.

If you find that your feelings for your coach have gone beyond the normal range and are affecting your relationship with your boyfriend, you need to take a step back and think about what you want. This is something you can work through, but it is important to remember that this should just be a minor incident.

Take care of your relationships and cherish the people and things around you. That way, you'll be happy for a long time.

Hello, I'm Coach Fly of Heart Exploration. I want to tell you that it's not about appreciation, it's about blossoming.

We all love beauty, don't we? And when I say "beauty," I don't just mean good looks and body shape. I also mean all the other things that make you beautiful, like your happy mood and your wonderful imagination.

1. Have you ever binge-watched a drama because you like one of the actors?

I remember during the pandemic, I suddenly came across the young actor Xu Kai, and I went crazy, binge-watching the dramas he starred in. I was swept away by the plot, feeling as if I had transformed into a character in the drama and felt Xu Kai's heartbeat. It was such a wonderful experience!

For a while, it felt like my heart was reawakening, as if I were falling in love all over again. Even my husband noticed my excitement and laughed, saying, "Your appreciation of young, fresh talent is just like our appreciation of beautiful women, but it's just appreciation."

I'm not sure I understand what he means.

After following Xu Kai, I started following Luo Yunxi and Bai Lu again because of their partner Bai Lu. I really admire these young streaming stars, and I admire them again and again. When I calm down and think about it, I just can't help but admire them!

Their acting skills are there, but they are not the main thing. Compared to the big names in "Joy of Life," their acting skills are truly admirable. Eventually, I found the answer: it turns out that it all started with their good looks!

So, my appreciation for them was like a flash in the pan. After I finished watching their dramas, my appreciation came to an abrupt end.

Your feelings about the coach: young = energetic, swimming coach = fit, smiling, dimples = makes you want to approach, friendly, responsible, teaches you individually = gets extra attention, special care, especially if he praises you for learning well, which further increases your sense of worth and achievement, continuing to add points. It's so great to see how much you love your coach! He's young, energetic, fit, and has a lovely smile. You're right, he's very friendly and takes a lot of care of you. It's so nice to have someone who takes the time to teach you individually and praise you for your hard work. It's no wonder you love him so much!

I hope you don't mind me asking, but is this wonderful accumulation of feelings satisfying your pursuit of beauty? He is such a lovely person, and the beautiful feelings he brings you give you a sense of satisfaction and worth that you don't get from your boyfriend.

2. Appreciation is a great way to start liking someone, but it doesn't necessarily lead to love.

"One of life's most beautiful compensations is that when you sincerely help others, you also help yourself." Just as you appreciate your young coach, you see his sunny, lovely, affable, and responsible side, and you feel his enthusiasm and friendliness.

In your interactions, there is actually an appreciation for each other. His praise for you is a wonderful thing, and your favorable impression of him is also a great appreciation.

Appreciating and being appreciated is a wonderful source of energy in any relationship. The person who appreciates you should have a joyful heart, a benevolent heart, and a kind heart that seeks to do good for others. That's why we say learning to appreciate is a virtue!

Everything in the world comes from the heart, and the world looks different in different people's eyes. And you know what? More appreciation means more beauty!

People who appreciate others can see the beauty of life in a whole new way!

Since he knows your boyfriend too, you can absolutely invite him to be your mutual friend! You might even get to expand your circle of friends by introducing him to your bestie.

As you spend more time together, you'll get to know each other better and understand the real reasons and feelings behind that appreciation.

I really hope this helps you out! I love you all so much, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

If you'd like to keep chatting, just click on "Heart Exploration Service" on my personal homepage. I'd love to grow together with you through one-on-one communication!

Good day, my name is Tongyan.

You recently acquired the ability to swim, and it seems that you have developed a different kind of feeling for your swimming instructor. The instructor has a handsome appearance, a charming smile, a responsible attitude, and offers praise. This kind of feeling makes you feel comfortable and curious, and you unconsciously want to get close to him.

However, your current relationship status may be influencing your feelings. It's understandable that you're questioning whether it's appropriate to feel this way, given that you have a boyfriend you've been in love with for four years and have a good relationship with.

It appears that the mutual understanding and compatibility you share with your boyfriend has led to a heightened sense of surprise regarding your feelings towards someone of the opposite sex. An inner voice is prompting you to question whether you can truly be falling for this personal trainer.

At the same time, your common sense tells you that this will not result in any tangible outcome. This kind of emotion brings a different kind of experience, and this experience makes you feel both comfortable and a little uneasy.

It appears that if others have a comparable experience, you may not be as concerned about your own emotions. Conversely, if others do not have the same experience, how would you respond?

From my personal experience, it is not uncommon for individuals to have fantasies and daydreams when they are first in love.

It is particularly common for girls who meet handsome and radiant people to have fantasies about such individuals. These fantasies may result from a lack of experience in this area of personal growth. Meeting such a person can stimulate one's desire.

This kind of fondness may have compensated for your lack in this area to some extent. In particular, when someone offers praise, we tend to view them through a positive lens, idealizing them to a certain extent.

His appearance may present new possibilities, with the potential for both positive and negative outcomes.

Perhaps you can follow this emotion and identify the needs his appearance satisfies on a fantasy level. At the same time, try to make this need conscious, and then this emotion and experience will help us discover another side of ourselves that has not been encountered before.

Furthermore, this awareness of our emotions and needs can also help us maintain our boundaries, allowing us to release and imagine our emotions within a permitted range.

Additionally, this exercise can be used to gain insight into your needs and expectations in your intimate relationship with your partner.

Additionally, it would be beneficial to discuss with your boyfriend how these needs and expectations can be met through interaction in your intimate relationship.

It is possible that such emotions may serve as a catalyst for the strengthening of your relationship with your boyfriend, prompting you to explore your relationship in greater depth.

Best regards,