It's so annoying. I have to retake the exam next year. I don't want to go, what should I do?

Hello question asker!

I'm Sunny Dolphin Floaty, a counselor.

?‍♂️Why do you only remember how uncomfortable you are? You don't want to do anything, and you don't do anything.

Don't lie down. You'll want to do more and won't want to go to the toilet. Your limbs may deteriorate.

Lying in bed without sleep is harmful.

If you don't exercise, your body can't get blood where it needs it, and your endocrine system doesn't work right. You feel weak and tired, and have aching limbs. Do you understand?

?‍♂️Have you been doing this for a long time? The more you don't exercise, the more anxious and depressed you become.

Your lifestyle will also make medicine less effective. Do you understand?

If you're tired but can't sleep, it's because your mental and physical energy are out of sync. You can't sleep when you're mentally tired. Only physical tiredness makes it easier to fall asleep. Do you need to adjust your lifestyle?

If you haven't exercised in a while, even a short walk can make you tired. But it will help you sleep. Do you want to try it?

?‍♂️When you get used to exercising, you'll find it's second nature and anxiety and depression will disappear. This first step is difficult, but I believe you can do it.

?‍♂️All children are criticized by teachers. If you think the teacher is right, correct yourself; if you think the teacher is wrong, argue for yourself. Are you afraid of getting along with your teacher?

?‍♂️We need time to change. Let's take the first step: go to bed early, get up early, and exercise.

I hope this helps. I love you.

Hello, I'm Wang Li, a counselor. I understand your current mood and worries. You were criticized in junior high, you're anxious, you avoid teachers and classmates, and you'll repeat next year. You also have a fear of studying.

Here are three ways to change your situation.

1. Build your resilience. Your depression was caused by your teacher's criticism. To improve, you need to build your resilience, improve your ability to withstand setbacks, and improve your confidence in the face of setbacks.

Has the teacher's criticism made you doubt yourself? What are your other strengths?

What are your other strengths?

As you gain confidence, you'll be able to face challenges, even if your teacher rejects you.

2. Improve your social skills. You seem to be a bit shy at school.

You're shy around strangers. Listen to your classmates and start talking about things you have in common.

You can also start a relationship with classmates and strangers through your favorite hobbies. Overcome your fear and start communicating with people.

3. Set goals, choose a path, and develop a passion for learning. You're only 15, and if you don't study, you can't do anything else.

Start with your favorite subject and set a small, achievable goal. Once you achieve it, move on to the next subject.

I hope my answer helps. Love,

Dear child, I can see that you are troubled by your current situation. You have not yet completely recovered from your symptoms, and you have to choose to go to school for the future. However, you are filled with resistance towards school, teachers, and learning. This is really quite difficult, and it must be especially torturous, right? You can do this. Hugs to you~

You've decided to go to school because you think that if you don't, you'll have no future. You're worried you'll end up begging for food.

You are someone who can think about the long term and are quite visionary. You know the benefits of learning for a person, and I commend you for this.

My child, your current state is at odds with your "ideal self." Your ideal self is urging you to pull yourself together, consider your long-term needs, attend school and study hard, and interact with others. However, your "real self" is in conflict, as reality is far from ideal. You feel miserable, overwhelmed by the number of people, the demands of school, and the challenges of studying. Attending school evokes a sense of despair.

Dear one, you need to understand this: your ideal self and your real self are fighting.

You need to prioritize because both "I"s are you, and both need your attention.

Choose the order of the benefits over the disadvantages. "Ideal Me" is more demanding and a challenge to "Real Me."

But they are one big and one small, and I will only reach my ideal self by transcending my reality. I will only fulfill my ideal self's demands if I take care of my realistic self's needs first.

My dear child, you must learn to face your feelings and deeply feel your needs in the present. If you need to stay at home to feel stable, then accept that you cannot go to school yet.

You must accept the present if you want a future. Don't rush things. The more you rush, the more likely you are to make mistakes.

Stay home, adjust your steps and state of mind to suit your situation, and then try accessing online classes a little at a time to get back into the learning groove. You're not the only one learning at home, so just adjust to your own state of mind.

You should communicate with your parents about your feelings and thoughts. If necessary, you can seek active treatment and psychological counseling to help you recover.

You've got this! The world and I love you!