I've been feeling anxious recently, which has severely affected my work performance. What should I do?

Hello!

I am the answer, Enoch. The questioner has recently been transferred to a new job, which has caused anxiety. The questioner hopes to adjust his work status and heal his anxiety about other trivial matters.

Let's look at why anxiety happens.

1. They get anxious when things don't go as planned.

The job transfer makes him anxious. He feels uncomfortable at his new workplace because he has no colleagues to chat with.

2. Eager to solve problems and used to avoiding them to relieve anxiety.

The questioner was anxious about not being able to adapt to the environment. He was eager to solve the problem but used to avoiding problems. He decided to leave his current work environment. That evening, he called the shift leader and said he would not go to work at that location.

3. When there is no escape, they will have positive associations with the environment they desire, but it is difficult to make a new decision.

After returning to her old position, the original poster felt it was easier than she expected. She had some regrets and wanted to escape her current situation. However, she felt she would be rejected if she raised the issue with her team leader. So she focused on the good things about her current situation to relieve her anxiety. She also thought the setbacks she encountered might be caused by her lack of ability. She believed she could solve the problem by changing herself. However, she remained indecisive, anxious, and unable to eliminate her anxiety.

Based on the above, here are some suggestions for the questioner:

1. Stay calm and make a reasonable decision after thinking it through.

People who are prone to anxiety tend to make hasty decisions because they are emotional and can't settle down. They often regret these decisions because they didn't think about them enough. But we can't control our surroundings, so once we've made a decision, it's difficult to change it. This makes people even more anxious.

It is important to stay calm in emergencies. You can make the best decision if you think rationally. This will help you feel calm and stop you worrying.

2. Get help from others and understand the situation.

If you don't understand something, you can ask for help.

3. Be loyal, be brave, and don't hesitate.

Once you've made a decision, stick to it. When you face problems at work, be brave and don't avoid them. Forget the past and work hard to move forward.

I hope the original poster can stop worrying.

The questioner's anxiety is evident, and I believe that reading your text a few more times will also induce a certain level of anxiety in me.

"I've been struggling with this little problem for the past two days, thinking that one place is good for work, and then another place. I want to know what the questioner uses to judge whether a place is good for work. I also want to know what good or bad means to you."

I want to know what the difference in the results is and how these results will affect me.

When no one was there to chat with, I started to feel anxious. The monitor said that he was transferring me there for my own good, saying that the work there was easier. Then, because there was no one there to chat with, I thought about it at night and told the monitor that I didn't want to work there after all.

From this passage, it's clear you know what you want and don't want, and you're capable of doing what it takes to get what you want. You can "be your own master."

I began to regret my decision the next day and felt anxious about returning to that place. I was too embarrassed to discuss my concerns with the monitor, so I was torn between wanting to go back and not wanting to.

The monitor's words must have had an effect on you, but you only realized it a little too late. What kind of thoughts did the questioner go through in the meantime? What did he weigh up internally? And why did he then feel that the monitor was right?

This morning, there was traffic congestion on the road, and I didn't direct the traffic well. I kept wondering if it was my problem (because it was the first time I dealt with that kind of thing), if I was just too stupid, and then I wanted to go back to the place where the monitor said I could work the other day.

The questioner is unconsciously proving that his initial assessment was wrong and that the monitor was right. He wants to return to his old place by not being "competent." He is, in fact, incompetent at working here. Despite knowing this is his first experience with this kind of situation, he is already prepared to be "unqualified" and unwilling to try harder to become "competent." Instead, he is thinking of "hiding" and going back to the easier place where he worked two days ago.

Given this new information, has the questioner gained any new insights about themselves?

The questioner is always "jumping around" at a superficial level. They are afraid to "stay a while" and "dig deeper" to experience more before making a decision. By "staying a while" and "digging deeper," the questioner will gain a "certain identity." Once they have it, they will never be able to get rid of it.

This "jumping around" gives the questioner more power and freedom of choice than others, without having to "take responsibility" for their choices. It also prevents others from judging their choices, whether they are right or wrong, good or bad.

Let me be clear: not choosing is also a choice, and not taking responsibility is also a kind of responsibility. The content of the choice and responsibility may differ, but the act itself is the same.

Take the anxiety about choice that the questioner is feeling right now, for example.

I am certain that my reply will help you. Best wishes!

Hello!

It's been about a month and a half since I stopped taking the anxiety medication. Lately, I've been feeling anxious again because of work. We all know that conflict is the fuel for anxiety. Being in a dilemma is always anxiety-provoking, and sometimes it has little to do with the size of the current situation.

Let's take a look at it together, and I really hope it will help you to feel less anxious.

Take a deep breath and try to see the situation from a different perspective.

1. It's been almost half a month since I stopped taking the medication for anxiety disorder, and I've started to feel a bit anxious again in the past two days because of some things at work. It's because the other day when you were directing traffic on the road, the team leader transferred you to another place, and then when you went to work there, there were only two people working, and you started to feel anxious because no one to chat with. I can imagine how you must have felt! The team leader said that transferring you there was for your own good, saying that the work there was easier, and then because there was no one to chat with there, you thought about it at night and told the team leader that you didn't want to work there anymore. I'm so sorry to hear that!

I'm wondering if it's because your anxiety has eased up a bit and you've started to wean yourself off the medication, or if you stopped taking it as prescribed?

Anyway, I'm so happy to hear that your anxiety symptoms have eased up and that you've stopped taking the medicine!

Let's go over the events that led to this point together. It's been a journey! So, we had drug withdrawal, then a problem arose when you were transferred from your original work position. You felt isolated and began to feel anxious. You made the difficult decision to stop working at that place.

2. The next day, you started to feel a bit regretful and anxious. You thought about going back to work there, but you were a bit embarrassed to tell the monitor. You really wanted to go, but you didn't want to go. You were especially torn between the two. You even had a little bit of escapist thinking. This morning, there was traffic congestion on the roads, and you didn't direct the traffic as well as you would have liked. You felt that it was your problem (because it was the first time you had dealt with that kind of thing), and you were too stupid. Then you wanted to go to work at that place again, which the monitor had mentioned the other day.

- Continuing the anxiety cycle: Regret not going to work there (anxiety) - Want to go vs. don't want to go (conflicted, avoidance) - Didn't direct traffic well (self-blame) - Want to go to work there again. It's totally normal to have these feelings! We all do.

It's totally normal to dwell on something, even if it's not that important. We all do it! But when we keep going over and over the same thing, arguing with ourselves about whether we should choose A or B, it can start to feel a bit anxiety-inducing. So, it's worth asking ourselves: is there another way to look at it? Is there a third option or direction that we haven't considered yet?

I'm wondering if there are other options besides a and b. Could there be c, d, e, f, and g?

For example, since there are reasons for you to feel pain whether you go or not, we cannot deny that this objectively exists. But at the same time, is there not a way of thinking that says, "Whether you go or not, you are still you, and you have all the goodness you deserve. This doesn't change anything. The worst that could happen is that you go or you don't go (a change in your physical position), and you don't lose anything else, right?

If you have, you can definitely discuss it with me.

3. I've been struggling with this minor problem for the past two days. Sometimes I think this place is good for work, and sometimes I think that place is good for work. Sometimes I even imagine the scene of being rejected by the monitor when I ask to be transferred to that place. How can I alleviate this situation? It has seriously affected my work at work. I'd really love some help with this!

What seems like a minor problem is actually a "stuck habit." The good news is that any habit can be changed!

You see, it's like this: for a while, you think that place is good, and then you think this place is good. Does that mean that in your heart, both places are good? If so, you'll make a profit no matter which one you choose!

"Imagination" is not real. You have to actually make the switch to know the result, right? The principle behind the dilemma is that you are afraid to make a decision, afraid of the result, and afraid to take responsibility for the result. Perhaps taking responsibility for a result is very difficult for you, and perhaps you have experienced the pain of taking responsibility in the past, which has caused you to be afraid to do so again. Please don't be afraid. Perhaps this is not the same as that, and it takes time and practice to understand something again.

Don't be afraid, my friend. We can work together.

I get the feeling you're a young, sincere, and kind person. You care about things that most people don't care about, which is great! It makes you simple and pure, like a child. Don't worry, anxiety is nothing to be scared of. You can slowly get over it if you're willing to.

And now for my closing remarks!

I wish you all the happiness in the world! If you have any more questions, please don't hesitate to contact me privately.

Good day, question asker. I am pleased to discuss your concerns regarding anxiety.

I empathize with the questioner's situation. It seems that the anxiety disorder has been resolved, which is a positive step. However, the current work-related challenges are causing the questioner to experience difficulty in making decisions and are contributing to the anxiety. I can imagine this is a challenging situation.

From the questioner's description, it seems that the source of the questioner's anxiety stems from his current expectations of his work. Is the questioner facing a conflict over the choice of work and experiencing anxiety due to having to choose between a job that is easy but does not satisfy the questioner's desire to chat with people, and a job that is busier but satisfies the questioner's desire to communicate with people?

Has the questioner identified the underlying cause of this anxiety? If they believe they are not up to the task, they will not be liked or accepted. If they do not perform well, they will not be taken seriously by their leader. They are afraid of rejection because it suggests they are not good enough. All of the questioner's views on others have caused anxiety about the future.

What are the origins of these unacceptable and inferior self-concepts?

I would like to suggest to the questioner that it is important to learn to relax. The opinion of one's leader is likely to be a significant factor in any work situation.

It is crucial to address the opinions and views of others. It may be beneficial to take a moment to reflect on your own objectives and priorities. Do these views genuinely assist you?

If the leader has any opinions, can you now complete the work at hand to the best of your ability?

The questioner requested assistance via the platform, however, due to platform limitations, we are unable to delve into the specifics of the question. Therefore, I will provide a few suggestions to address the questioner's concerns.

Anxiety is a negative expectation of an unidentified future event. Conversely, if we wish to relieve our anxiety, we should start here.

Identify strategies to enhance your sense of control over future events. Alternatively, refine your perspective by replacing negative assumptions with more constructive ones.

Please take the time to write down the worst possible outcome.

Many individuals experience significant anxiety when delivering a public presentation. The list method can be an effective tool for addressing these concerns. By writing down all the negative thoughts that are currently on your mind, you can gain a sense of perspective and objectivity. This approach allows you to view your own concerns from an external, third-party perspective. This can help you to let go of these concerns and approach the situation with a sense of calm and confidence.

At this juncture, you will recognize that the worst-case scenario is not as unfavorable as initially perceived.

If the questioner is anxious about their current work and how their leader perceives them, they can list the worst possible outcome after repeatedly changing jobs. What is the worst possible outcome, and what are the consequences that are unacceptable to oneself?

If the situation arises, can you accept it? I suggest that you list your current work content, purpose, passion, and competitiveness.

Be honest with yourself. What is the main objective of this exercise? Is it to communicate with others? If so, then list it. If you want to work more easily, you can also list that as a goal. As long as you handle these relationships well, I believe your emotions will be relieved.

Please list the issues that are causing you concern.

Please list the three most pressing issues you are currently facing, along with three potential solutions for each. The individual posing the question may also choose to focus on a specific problem and solicit assistance in resolving it.

The questioner may also address the issue in accordance with the coping plan they have devised. Once the problem has ceased to be a source of concern for the questioner, has the level of anxiety been diminished?

It is important to learn to express your anxiety and to accept yourself.

It is important to have a correct understanding of anxiety when facing it. It is a kind of instinctive defense mechanism of the human body. When people encounter certain dangerous situations, they will stimulate their own anxiety.

Once it is recognized that the onset of anxious emotions is inappropriate, it is essential to learn to express them. The individual can engage in an activity they typically enjoy, distract themselves, and focus on their usual method of releasing emotions.

If you are experiencing anxiety, you can also take steps to accept yourself. For instance, if you enjoy purchasing bags, you can purchase one for yourself at the end of the year as a reward for your efforts throughout the year, or you can go out and treat yourself to a meal you have always wanted to eat. In short, you should learn to make yourself happy.

It is important to have interests and hobbies outside of work. However, there is a key principle to bear in mind about interests and hobbies: if you are a person of mental labor, your interests should ideally be the opposite of your mental labor; conversely, if you are a manual laborer, your interests and hobbies should ideally be the opposite of your manual labor. The mind and body are unified in the human being. You cannot get used to manual labor without using your brain, nor can you use your brain without using your body. There needs to be a balance between mental and physical strength.

Should the aforementioned methods prove more onerous than anticipated, insufficiently expedient, or insufficiently tailored to the specific needs of the questioner, we advise seeking the assistance of a professional counselor. These counselors can develop a comprehensive adjustment plan based on the questioner's unique circumstances, which we believe will prove beneficial in addressing the questioner's emotional challenges.

I hope this response proves helpful to the questioner.

I am pleased to be of assistance.

Let us proceed to examine the information you have provided.

It has been approximately two and a half weeks since I ceased taking the medication for anxiety.

Furthermore, the transfer from a familiar workplace may present additional challenges.

This morning, I was on duty when I observed that the traffic flow was not optimal. This observation prompted me to consider whether my actions might have contributed to the situation.

I am still undecided as to whether I should leave my current position.

Let us now examine the means of attaining one's optimal objective.

Should one wish to cease taking medication without medical supervision, it is imperative to adhere to the advice provided by a qualified medical professional.

It is inadvisable to cease taking medication for anxiety disorders without the guidance of a medical professional. Instead, the dosage should be reduced under medical supervision and then gradually discontinued. Otherwise, a rebound effect may occur when the medication is stopped.

Should one cease taking medication in accordance with the instructions provided by a medical professional, it is advisable to continue seeking guidance from said professional. However, should one cease taking medication without the guidance of a medical professional, it is imperative to consult with a medical professional as soon as possible.

In addition, the following section will address the dilemma of the workplace.

It is imperative to allow oneself a period of respite from the incessant chatter of the mind in order to enhance one's capacity for action. One may, for instance, permit oneself five minutes to ruminate. During this interval, it is beneficial to compile a comprehensive list of reasons. Upon the conclusion of the five minutes, it is crucial to cease the process of thinking and instead make a decision. Following this, one should act upon the decision thus made.

Furthermore, it is essential to identify the root cause of the dilemma.

It is important to ascertain whether the dilemma is a result of one's personality, for instance, the tendency to deliberately create such situations, or whether it is a manifestation of an anxiety disorder. In the latter case, it is beneficial to consider one's pre-disorder state and to remind oneself that the current dilemma and anxiety are a consequence of the disease. It is important to recognise that one's current state is not a permanent condition and that recovery is a process that requires patience and a gradual approach.

Furthermore, this will enhance one's work ability.

Once work skills and abilities have been significantly enhanced and the ability to skillfully navigate various abnormal situations on the road has been achieved, anxiety levels can be significantly reduced.

If you are still unable to make a decision and are experiencing indecision between two options, it may be helpful to consider whether this dilemma can provide a solution to your problem. If it does not, it may be worthwhile to reflect on the value of the process of deliberation itself.

If the proposed solution is ineffective, it may be advisable to consider alternative options. One such option is to engage in a discussion with a friend to exchange ideas and arrive at a decision.

In offering my perspective, I hope to provide a useful lens through which you can view your own experiences.

Hello!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe learning is the greatest gift the body can receive.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling anxious, worried, confused, and helpless.

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of your work issues here, but I do have three pieces of advice for you:

First, I suggest you try to understand yourself and give yourself a little comfort.

It'll also help you feel a bit more at ease, which will give you a clearer idea of what to do next.

You said you've been off your anxiety meds for almost a month and now you're feeling a little stressed about work stuff. On the one hand, you're stressed because you don't have anyone to talk to, and the monitor put you in a new job, but then you told the monitor you've changed jobs again. On the other hand, you're not doing a great job at your current job, and you're thinking about going back to your old job, but you're worried about being rejected. This has caused you to be stressed all the time. In fact, your state is understandable, because most people will be stressed when faced with a choice and don't know which is better, especially when it comes to two jobs with similar pros and cons. What's more, you've just stopped taking medication, and there may also be side effects after stopping medication that affect your mood. So you can try to understand yourself, comfort yourself, and "see" the anxious self that is a little stressed now but temporarily doesn't know what to do. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

It's also important to allow yourself to understand and accept yourself so you can make changes in your current situation. I know it sounds a bit contradictory, but that's the truth: change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, I suggest you take a rational look at your own situation.

Rational thinking can help you understand yourself and reality better.

To do this in a rational way, you need to do the following three things:

First, remember that when you're faced with a choice, you can try weighing up the pros and cons.

In other words, you'll probably be able to figure out which job you'd prefer to do through rational thinking, so you'll know how to choose.

Second, it's important to understand that the scenario you're worried about, where the monitor will reject you, is pretty unlikely to happen. As you mentioned in your description, the monitor cares about you and has you in mind. They've deliberately assigned you an easy task, so there's no reason for them to reject you.

Third, try to see yourself as you would a colleague who's still learning and developing.

You mentioned that you struggled with directing traffic, which made you feel insecure. It's important to remember that you have the time and opportunity to learn and improve. This was your first experience with this, so it's understandable that you didn't do a perfect job. Many people make mistakes when they're facing something new, so it's crucial to recognize the power of time and not doubt yourself too much.

If you take a step back and look at the situation rationally, you might be able to work through some of the negative emotions you're feeling.

Once again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel more relaxed.

When you take a step back and look at the situation rationally, you may also know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do it.

For instance, you can take a moment to reflect on your own experience. Ask yourself: is it easier to be in a situation where you have no one to chat with, or to work on what needs to be improved at work?

If you think it'd be easier to gradually improve your work skills in your current role, you can stop talking to your team leader about changing jobs. If you think dealing with work issues now is causing you more stress, you can talk to your team leader about it. I think your team leader will probably agree, which will make you feel better.

Even if the monitor shows otherwise, you'll feel better because you've taken action. Next, you'll need to find ways to improve your work ability, and this will make you feel better because you know what you need to do next.

It's also worth looking at the positive things about yourself. We all have them, and you're no exception. From what you've said, you're a good writer, and you've come here for help, so you clearly have some good points. Once you realise this, it might help to lift your mood.

You can also ask your doctor whether stopping the medication will affect your mood. In short, you need to know that you can do something to change the situation.

Once you start taking action, you'll naturally start to feel better because taking action is often the best way to deal with negative emotions.

I hope this helps. If you want to chat further, just click "Find a coach" at the bottom and we can talk one-on-one.

Dear Question Asker,

I appreciate your perspective and recognize the challenges you're facing. Decision-making is a complex process, especially when presented with a double avoidance conflict. This occurs when two options present a combination of advantages and disadvantages, making it difficult to select the optimal choice.

I empathize with your predicament. Life presents a plethora of options, yet it is often challenging to make a decision when faced with a dilemma. This is particularly true when one option offers a combination of advantages and disadvantages, while the other presents a similar but different set of considerations.

There are two sides to every situation. Let's first examine the questioner's job options:

There are two sides to every situation. Let's first examine the questioner's job options:

It is important to clarify your true objectives.

The current position is described as "easy but with no opportunity for conversation," while the previous role may have been "slightly more complex but with the chance to interact with colleagues." It is possible that other factors may have influenced this decision.

The current position is described as "easy but with no one to chat with." The previous position may have been "slightly more complicated but with people to chat with." There may be other factors at play.

First, the questioner needs to identify their primary and secondary requirements and prioritize them. For instance, "having someone to chat with" may be the top priority, while other factors may be secondary. Then, they should opt to return to their previous role.

It would be beneficial to consider whether there are other possibilities.

It would be beneficial to consider whether there are other possibilities.

From the perspective of establishing a social connection, it is unclear whether the questioner is seeking a casual conversation or something more. If the objective is simply to chat, there are various avenues for doing so, including with friends, relatives, and colleagues. Additionally, voice and video chat options are available when schedules permit. If the intention is to address boredom and fill time, it may be beneficial to consider alternative uses of that time. For instance, pursuing a certification, reading books of interest, or engaging in physical activity could be productive and enjoyable ways to spend one's time.

In the event that a situation cannot be altered, it is possible to identify a positive course of action for oneself. It is important to note that the length of one's life is not within one's control, but the width of it is.

It is important to note that anxiety has two distinct aspects. While it is an unpleasant experience, it also serves an essential adaptive function.

It is important to note that anxiety has two distinct functions. While it is a painful experience, it also serves an important adaptive role.

Signal function

It alerts the individual to potential danger, prompting them to take appropriate action to either avoid or neutralize the threat.

Similarly, anxiety may serve as a reminder to accept a situation that was previously unpalatable or to implement changes. For instance, the issue of "someone to chat with" may also prompt the need to explore new social avenues.

It also mobilizes the body to be in a state of combat readiness.

When anxiety occurs, the organs innervated by the autonomic nervous system become excited, alertness increases, blood circulation accelerates, metabolism rises, and appropriate preparations are made to take action against danger. Therefore, the efficacy of behavior may be enhanced when anxiety is moderate.

When you are not experiencing anxiety, you may be able to cope with situations, but an appropriate level of anxiety can help you to actively explore and adapt to new things and environments.

Participate in the learning and experience accumulation process.

Engage in the process of learning and experience accumulation.

Anxiety plays an important role in helping people to anticipate potential dangers, adapt their behavior, and develop effective strategies for managing negative emotions.

Anxiety helps people improve their ability to predict danger, adjust their behavior constantly, and learn ways and strategies to deal with negative emotions.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of anxiety when confronted with a novel environment, as the questioner has recently done by changing jobs. However, this can also facilitate an adjustment in one's state and behavior, enabling the identification of beneficial and non-beneficial environments. With this adjustment, future anxiety may be reduced.

Furthermore, it is unclear whether the individual has consulted with their physician regarding the cessation of their anxiety medication. It is advisable to adhere to the physician's guidance and refrain from making unilateral decisions regarding medication.

Regarding the questions that occasionally persist in my mind:

In regard to the aforementioned points, it would be advisable to:

The questioner may wish to consider distraction methods. For example, if you are particularly stuck on

The questioner may wish to consider ways of distracting themselves. For instance, if they are experiencing difficulty in choosing between two equally appealing options and are therefore dwelling on one point, it may be helpful to take a break and engage in an alternative activity. One option could be to go out with a friend or colleague after work for a meal and a chat about recent developments, with a view to gaining new insights.

I hope my response will prove useful to the original poster. Best regards,

I hope my response will prove useful to the original poster. Best regards,

Hello. I perceive a certain degree of confusion in your description, which I will attempt to clarify.

1.

You indicated that the monitor has transferred you to a different work location due to a lack of available colleagues with whom to engage in conversation, and that you are experiencing anxiety about adapting to a new environment. A colleague of mine also encountered anxiety, and she even sought medical attention and consulted with a psychologist. She also listened to Bei Yuanyuan's self-help for anxiety, and she reported that after listening to it, she felt less anxious. You may wish to consider doing the same.

2.

It is unclear how long you have been experiencing anxiety, but it appears to be a result of a job transfer. Given your desire to continue working in your previous location, it would be beneficial to verbalize this preference. Concerning the potential for negative outcomes, the worst-case scenario would be the need to adapt once more to your previous circumstances. Adopting this perspective may help to alleviate your distress.

3.

You have indicated that it is to be expected that congestion will occur due to a lack of experience. It is not uncommon to encounter such situations, which may involve walking for an extended period before discovering that the traffic light is malfunctioning and the traffic police are directing traffic. Alternatively, congestion may result from traffic accidents being handled by the traffic police. These circumstances are not unusual and are to be expected during the adjustment period that accompanies any new experience.

4.

If one has the good fortune to have friends with whom one can converse, it is likely that one can also form friendships with individuals in this new environment. It is simply a matter of time.

I wish you the utmost success in your endeavors. It is my sincere hope that the insights I have shared will prove beneficial and inspiring.

I hope my reply is helpful.

It seems that you may have been experiencing some anxiety. It's possible that anything that doesn't go your way could potentially trigger your anxiety.

By coming to Yi Xinli, you have shown that you are ready to take an active and positive approach to solving the long-standing problem of anxiety that you have been facing. We believe that learning more on this platform will also be beneficial to the solution of your problem.

Secondly, it seems that you may be experiencing some hesitation when it comes to making your own decisions, and that you are concerned that any decision you make might not lead to the desired outcome. This could be a reflection of a general sense of insecurity, and it may also be influenced by your upbringing in your family of origin.

If I might suggest, finding the root cause of your anxiety problems could be a helpful first step.

Additionally, it's possible that you may be overthinking things. The key to success in any role is to do your best and to continuously develop your abilities. If you feel that you haven't been as effective as you'd hoped in your role, it might be helpful to reflect on ways to improve your professional skills, interpersonal relationships, and understanding.

It would be beneficial to focus on the big picture and leave the small details to others. Getting the big direction right is likely to be the most important thing.

It's also possible that you may be afraid of being rejected. When things don't go as planned, it's natural to question your abilities and feel self-critical. This can sometimes impact your ability to get things done. It's important to remember that everyone learns as they go along, and it's normal to face challenges when you're starting out in a new role. The key is to reflect on your problems after they arise and identify ways to avoid similar mistakes in the future.

I believe that with belief in yourself and hard work, you can achieve your goals.

The issues related to anxiety disorders are just a small part of a larger picture. It might be helpful to consider seeking professional psychological counseling. Anxiety can have a significant impact on our daily lives, and it's important to prioritize seeking timely counseling and healing.

I wish you the best of luck.

It is human nature to resist things we perceive as negative. This often manifests as avoidance behaviour, where we choose not to engage with the issue at hand. In the context of anxiety, this can lead to a phenomenon known as the polar bear effect.

In other words, the scientist instructed the subjects not to think about the white bear, but the subjects found themselves thinking about it with increasing frequency. This illustrates a common phenomenon among ordinary people who attempt to avoid certain behaviors: the more we try not to do something, the more likely we are to experience a correspondingly anxious mood.

Your anxiety is something you resist, which has the effect of making it seem like a more significant problem than it really is. It is worth noting that anxiety is actually a very normal emotion.

It is not necessary to reject anxiety entirely. It is possible that the changes in road traffic control, loneliness, and various regrets have exacerbated your anxiety, making you constantly hesitate. You want to change but also want to escape. Some people who want to grow up usually do not change their ways.

Instead, focus on integrating and adapting to your environment. Only those who persevere are the true survivors. You can leverage your experience as a foundation for a comprehensive assessment to determine if adjustments are necessary.

It is important to be clear about your position when making important decisions. It is advisable not to make a decision suddenly, but rather to allow yourself time to think. I recommend that you visit a medical professional, such as a psychiatrist, to discuss medication precautions and continue with psychological counseling. Best of luck!

Please advise.

Gaining insight into the soul and becoming adept at sharing are key to success. I am speaking to myself.

When confronted with a complex mental state, it is advisable to take a moment to regroup. I would like to present a narrative to help you manage your emotions.

One day, Socrates took his students to the busiest market in Athens to deliver a lesson.

After perusing the market, Socrates inquired of his students, "What have you discovered in this market?"

The students responded with enthusiasm.

The marketplace offers a vast array of products, including a plethora of delicious food, entertainment, beautiful items, and a vast selection of clothing, food, and shelter options. If not for the constraints of time, it is possible to accumulate a significant quantity of goods.

Socrates nodded in agreement.

However, I have a different perspective. In this market, I realized that there are many things in this world that I don't require.

Throughout our lives, we are often perplexed by the overwhelming array of material goods and illusions. We expend significant energy pursuing items that, upon reflection, may not align with our true needs. This can result in a gradual shift away from the pursuit of happiness.

Affirmative.

Happiness can be defined as a home, a room, a sense of calm, and kindness.

Now that the story has come to a close, I will return to the matter of your confusion. If a job transfer is compared to a home, a room, a sense of calm, and a trace of kindness, which would you say is more worthy of the word "happiness"?

Your dilemma is not solely about a specific job or work location. The underlying issue is the excessive amount of thoughts you have about work. It is important to understand that the value of a job is relative.

Work is a means to an end: it should be used as a tool to help you achieve happiness and a means to earn a living. If a person allows their work to affect and change their mood, it is not a worthwhile use of their time.

Please provide your thoughts on this matter.

It is important to learn to clear away clutter, let go of old feelings, and reduce desires.

Maintain a simple and clean lifestyle.

When your approach is straightforward and your intentions are pure, the entire landscape will appear radiant.

Everyone is an amazing, independent individual with their own unique thoughts and interests! You don't have to have exactly the same interests to gain companionship. All you have to do is open up to inner communication. If you're not ready to open your heart, that's okay! It's something you can work on over time.

It's so important to talk to your doctor about using anxiety medication. They'll be able to help you with follow-up treatment after you stop taking it. If your symptoms come back, just let them know. It can take a long time to treat psychological problems, so don't give up!

Don't suppress your thoughts! But don't be afraid to act on them either. There is a huge gap between thinking and doing, and it's time to bridge it!

There are so many options for every step, especially for patients with anxiety problems! While it can be painful, it's also an opportunity to try new things and see what works best for you. Plans are never perfect, and that's okay! You can't pursue the perfect solution, but you can pursue the best solution for you. What you fear is not how to deal with things, but the fear of an outcome you cannot accept, and the fear that you cannot do what you want.

However, if you don't do it, you'll never know the difference between thinking and doing. We shouldn't be afraid of doing a bad job. Get out there and do it! You'll make better adjustments and truly see your own shortcomings.

Running away is never the solution to a problem. No matter where you go, problems will always arise. But here's the good news: you can face your own shortcomings head-on and better reconcile with your inner self, accept your own imperfections, and work and live better!

Everyone is kind and considerate, and you can choose to accept that kindness if it aligns with your goals. Ask yourself how you face your life and work, how you deal with relationships with your colleagues, and whether you can face your innermost thoughts. You have the power to make your life and work the best they can be!

Is it the lack of company that makes you anxious when you are alone, or is it the fact that you are alone with your true thoughts, and you are excited to see your true self?

Hello, I'm Gu Yi.

Everyone feels regret about their choices. Married people feel regret about their spouses.

Not making a choice is an option, but once you choose, you can only follow the steps. It's normal to feel confused. We should learn to accept and face our emotions.

The monitor moved me to another place where only two people were working. I felt anxious because I had no one to chat with. The monitor said that moving me there was for my own good because the work was easier. I thought about it at night and told the monitor that I would rather not work there.

You've clearly seen the pros and cons of working in both places. It's just a matter of which we like better. Make a good choice, but be prepared to regret it. Choose the one you like the most. If you still can't decide, flip a coin. Work is work, after all.

Once you've made a choice, we tell ourselves to look forward, not back. It's more realistic to make the present moment happy.

Think about whether you should talk to the monitor. Think about whether they'll consider you if the monitor has a good change in the future. Respect your feelings. Be stable for now.

Best wishes.

Good day.

Throughout the incident, your thoughts and needs were clearly visible to your team leader, who respected them fully. When you expressed a desire to be transferred back to your original position, which better suited your skills, your team leader transferred you accordingly. This demonstrates that your feelings were respected and considered throughout the incident. However, you did not handle your part effectively, which caused you concern and anxiety. Initially, you felt that the work in your original position was easier. Then, you felt that you had a better relationship with your colleagues in your new position, which could have alleviated your anxiety.

In particular, one morning, I was responsible for directing traffic. The roads were congested, which is to be expected during the morning and evening rush hours in a large city. Despite this, I had already done a commendable job. It is important to recognize the positive aspects of your work and provide constructive feedback. Additionally, it is essential to identify areas for improvement, which can then be addressed in future endeavors.

Additionally, your inner anxiety may be a contributing factor. Over the past two days, you have been preoccupied with comparing the two positions, weighing their suitability, and contemplating their respective drawbacks. This has led to feelings of worry and indecision.

All work is ultimately the same. With experience, you can gain valuable insights through your own actions. You can also seek guidance from colleagues and mentors. You have access to a monitor who can provide support and advice. If you require assistance, you can express your needs and receive guidance. The key is to have confidence in your abilities.

Given that you have already elected to transfer back in accordance with your own preferences and follow your own instincts, it would be prudent to focus on maintaining a sense of calm and refrain from dwelling on the situation in the other location.

Given the circumstances, I believe it is best to make the most of it. My decision is the optimal choice for me at this time. It is not feasible to be in two places simultaneously.

The images flashing through your mind include instances where you approached the monitor to discuss matters and then requested a transfer back, which was denied. Additionally, you have received feedback and self-evaluations. Could this be due to a lack of self-confidence, indecision, or obsessive thinking? These behaviors could also result in negative self-evaluations and labels.

When these self-critical thoughts arise, it is beneficial to alter the way you speak to yourself. Instead of focusing on negative aspects, you can transform them into positive affirmations. For instance, you can say, "I'm the best," "You're the best," "You did a great job," and "I'm a valuable person." You can also address your feelings and emotions, such as "I'm fine," "I've always strived to do my best," and "What is my current state of mind?" By discussing your present feelings, thoughts, and needs in a calm, objective, and positive manner, you can maintain a constructive mindset.

Good morning,

I'm grateful to have the opportunity to offer you some guidance.

From what you've written, it seems like you have high hopes for your personal growth. You're a very dedicated person who strives for excellence. Sometimes, when you want to do something perfectly, you might worry about it, which could potentially lead to anxiety.

You mentioned that you were previously undergoing treatment for anxiety disorder and have now been off medication for half a month. Recently, due to work-related matters, you feel that your anxiety disorder may be about to relapse, which is a cause for concern.

If I may, I would like to confirm with you whether the medication for anxiety has been stopped for half a month, and whether this was done under the advice of a doctor at a top-tier hospital. Or perhaps you stopped taking the medication on your own?

I would like to suggest that you pay close attention to this. If you stop taking the medicine without consulting your doctor, I do not recommend it. It is important that we follow the doctor's advice and comply with the treatment plan for your anxiety disorder, and then plan the time for taking the medicine.

I hope you have a clear understanding regarding the withdrawal of medication.

I believe that your recent work-related experiences have led to a resurgence of anxiety. This anxiety can be divided into two categories. The first is the anxiety associated with concerns about changing jobs. This includes the fear of not performing your current role effectively and the concern that changing jobs might hinder your ability to achieve your life goals. The second is the anxiety related to the fear of symptom recurrence and the potential negative effects of stopping medication.

I believe that the above two aspects are the main causes of your anxiety disorder. With regard to the first aspect, namely the issue of changing jobs, it is important to remember that the choice of where we work is ultimately down to our own preferences. At the time in question, you opted for a role related to directing traffic, which I understand to be a field that you are passionate about.

In this role, you aspire to be an excellent traffic director, hoping to apply your skills to this position and contribute to a more efficient and smooth traffic flow.

You are a person with a strong sense of inner purpose, and you strive to do things perfectly. However, because you didn't handle the first traffic jam as well as you would have liked, you are perhaps a little hard on yourself, wondering if you are perhaps not quite as good as you thought and if you could have done it better.

I don't think it's necessary.

Could I ask how long you have been in this job? Have you recently started?

If we are just starting this position, we need time to adapt to it. Even if we have been in the position for a long time, there will still be many unexpected situations and other things that we will experience for the first time. What we can do is ensure that we are in the best state to meet every challenge. We cannot, however, guarantee that we will complete every task with perfect behavior.

Ultimately, experience is the key to everything. When we lack experience in a certain area, we do our best and then learn from our mistakes. It's perfectly okay if you don't know how to do something the first time; it's also okay if you make a mistake.

Perhaps it would be helpful to focus on making gradual improvements over time, without placing undue pressure on yourself. It's also important to recognize that making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process.

It might also be helpful to consider that your anxiety requires someone to be with you, and your monitor took good care of you by transferring you to another position. On the one hand, you may feel anxious about being transferred to another position where there is no one to chat with you. On the other hand, you may also feel disappointed with yourself for not doing things perfectly after you return.

It seems that these two reasons are the root of your anxiety. Perhaps it would be helpful to take a step back and look at these thoughts from a more objective perspective.

Perhaps you would benefit from a quiet place to relieve your anxiety symptoms through your own learning. Do you think a quiet place would be more suitable for you? Alternatively, you might decide to accept going to a place where someone will chat with you, despite the possibility of encountering unexpected situations and making mistakes due to your limited experience.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider which of these two situations you would prefer to accept.

You may be wondering, "Isn't there a state that is even more perfect?" It's a fascinating question. While there is no such thing as a perfect state, and we cannot fully determine what the standard of perfection is, we can choose the working mode that we most recognize in our current state.

Perhaps it would be helpful to choose where you really want to go, and then we can work together to make that happen.

It might be said that the brain helps us make rational judgments, while our hearts reflect what we truly love.

If I may, I would like to suggest that we move on to discussing your illness.

For your anxiety disorder, it's important to remember that many of us experience anxiety in our daily lives, but it's not typically as severe as an anxiety disorder. So, if you've reached a point where you're ready to stop taking medication, it's a sign that the symptoms that could be treated with medication have been addressed. The next step is learning to return to a normal state of life.

Regarding the anxiety caused by the problems brought about by your work, it is just an anxiety and not an anxiety disorder. Therefore, it might be helpful to consider that we should not worry about the emergence of anxiety, but rather how to resolve it.

This could be a good opportunity to reflect on how previous experiences may have shaped your current approach to managing anxiety. Just as we can gain valuable insights from medical professionals in understanding our anxiety, this process can also help us recognize patterns in our thinking that may contribute to anxiety symptoms. By gently adjusting our thoughts when we feel anxious, we can potentially enhance our overall well-being.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavors.

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Hello! I can see that you're facing a challenging situation with two job offers. It's a difficult choice to make.

If I might offer a suggestion in response to your question, it would be to first become aware of your state of mind.

In our lives, we will encounter countless choices, big and small. You consider the pros and cons before you do your work, which can sometimes lead to feelings of distress and confusion. It's important to recognize that there is often no choice that offers the best of both worlds.

In life, it is often the case that we have to face the consequences of our actions, regardless of what we do. It is natural to feel that the current situation may not be as ideal as the original one. However, when we experienced that situation at the time, we also felt that some aspects were not as good as the original one. This can lead to a sense of regret and anxiety, which can create a certain level of psychological conflict.

From what I can see, your text is full of worries about the future, which may be contributing to your tendency to think a lot. It seems that your mind is often occupied with what to do if things don't go as well as you hope in the future, how to handle challenges at work, and what to do if you find yourself back in a situation you previously felt unsure about. This kind of repetitive thinking can potentially lead to mental fatigue.

In life, whether it is a big or small matter, it is important to take responsibility for everything, do your best, follow your heart, and choose what is right for you. Even if you may choose the wrong thing, it is still important to accept your choice. No one can predict the future. I remember hearing a saying in a training class before: when we make a choice, it is actually based on our perception and feelings at that moment, which we feel is the best choice for us. So it is important to follow our choice at that moment, and even if it is wrong, we should not blame ourselves. If we find that our choice or decision was wrong, we should not wait with resentment. We must learn from it and use it as a stepping stone for a better life in the future. We should learn from our experiences, but it is important not to treat yourself with constant regret and self-blame.

If there are some problems at work, it might be helpful to avoid blaming yourself, to take a more objective look at the situation, and to try to avoid self-blame and regret. This approach might not only be more beneficial for your inner growth, but it could also help to reduce anxiety and prevent the generalization of symptoms.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what is good and what is not. It might be beneficial to re-attribute to yourself, learn to recognize yourself, follow your heart, recognize every choice you make in the moment, and tell yourself that whatever choice you make is the best, the best for that moment.

It might be helpful to consider that a negative mindset could potentially contribute to difficulties in life. If you find yourself frequently experiencing anxiety, it might be beneficial to explore ways to step out of your self-bound thinking patterns. This could lead to a more positive outlook and a brighter day ahead.

Additionally, you mentioned a tendency to seek escape, which may be driven by some underlying emotions of anxiety and confusion at work. It might be helpful to explore ways to resolve the internal psychological conflict within you.

Life is full of challenges, and there will always be some minor disappointments. If you regard those minor disappointments as an opportunity to learn and grow, you will become more open-minded.

I hope that by sharing some of my learning and practical experience, I can be of help to you.