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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm so happy you asked for help. I'm here to support you in any way I can.
From what you've told me, it's clear you care about your girlfriend and love her deeply. I can see you're trying your best to give her the care and attention she needs, but it seems like she's rejecting you, resenting you, and breaking up with you because you're unable to give her the sense of security she wants. I can understand why you feel guilty, blame yourself, and feel aggrieved because you're not being understood. You've done your best, and I can see you really want to know what sense of security your girlfriend really craves.
It's clear from what you've said that you feel a bit inferior in this relationship. It seems like you're trying to cover up your feelings of inadequacy by caring for and paying attention to your girlfriend. It's important to remember that your girlfriend needs to feel loved and cared for, too. It's not about what you want to give, but what she needs.
It's so important to remember that the meaning of communication lies in the response of the other person. When it seems like everything you give is not accepted, it can be really tough. But it's a great idea to try to be aware and reflect on whether you are giving what the other person really needs. At this time, you can also try to sincerely and bravely tell the other person the true feelings in your heart at this moment, and ask the other person to directly tell you what she really wants.
It's also really important for you to try to learn to accept yourself better and develop self-confidence. When you can be fully committed from the inside out, when you firmly believe that you are good enough and that you deserve to be treated well by yourself and others, you'll be able to be true to yourself in relationships and express your needs sincerely.
Hi, I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Pavilion. I just wanted to say that I love you all and I love the world too!
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I understand how you're feeling. It's tough when someone we care about leaves us. Maybe it's time to focus on yourself and build that sense of security within. You can't control how others feel, but you can work on becoming the best version of yourself.
It sounds like you really cared for her and tried your best. Sometimes people need different things at different times in their lives. Try to take this experience as a learning opportunity and remember that your worth isn't defined by anyone else's opinion.
You've been through a lot and it's okay to feel hurt and lost right now. Healing takes time, and it's important to be patient with yourself. Consider talking to a friend or a professional who can offer support during this difficult period.
It's clear you were devoted and protective. But sometimes what people seek goes beyond physical safety. Emotional support and maturity play a big role too. Use this time to reflect and grow, so you can offer even more in future relationships.
Missing someone is natural after a breakup. The intensity of these feelings will likely lessen over time. In the meantime, try engaging in activities that bring you joy or peace. Building a fulfilling life for yourself can also help heal your heart.