Jealousy is intense, constantly comparing myself with others. What should I do?

Hello, questioner!

Let me be clear: jealousy is a normal emotion. It happens to everyone. At its root, jealousy is caused by overemphasizing the good things that other people do or have. This makes it difficult to see the good things and advantages you have.

Comparing yourself with others is a good way to motivate yourself to improve. But if you compare yourself with others without thinking, you'll overestimate what others have achieved and ignore the good things you have, as well as the growth and valuable experiences you have gained.

Ease the feeling of jealousy by allowing yourself time to reflect on your own merits, good things, proud experiences, gains, growth, and happiness. Compare yourself more with your past self and recognize your progress. It's okay if you can't congratulate others right now. Allow yourself time to process, and acknowledge that your first reaction may still be jealousy or discomfort.

We take our time and we get used to recognizing and seeing the valuable things we have that others may not have.

I'm glad you want to focus on yourself. That's the first step towards change. You need to see your own uniqueness and learn to appreciate the radiance that is unique to you!

Hello, questioner.

Jealousy makes you feel pressure and compares you to others. When you're not as good as others, you feel resentment and pain. Why aren't you as good as others? Why didn't you do a good job?

You don't really like yourself.

If others are better than you, it's because you set the bar too low.

When you fail, you hate yourself. You think other people are annoying.

Everyone has their own strengths. If you compare yourself to others, you'll feel tired. Some people run fast, dress well, are successful at work, or handle family relationships well.

Comparing your weaknesses to others' strengths is tiring.

Others are better than us and can teach us.

Some environments are competitive, while others are not. When you play games, the goal is fun, not winning. It's okay to lose.

The goal is to live a better life. Comparisons will make you unhappy.

Did you grow up with demanding parents who expected the best from you? They praised you when you won, but criticized you when you lost. As a child, you believed you had to win to gain recognition.

When you know these beliefs, you can change. You can be less perfect and make mistakes.

Come on!

Hello, my dear friend. I see that you are always comparing yourself to others. It's hard to recognize the achievements of others, even if your boyfriend surpasses you in some ways. I know you feel jealous and consumed by internal conflict, but you don't want this for yourself either. These emotions are something you can't control. You are constantly struggling with yourself, and I can feel your confusion and helplessness.

It's so easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, isn't it? We know it's not a good thing to do, but we just can't help it! It can leave us feeling jealous and guilty at the same time, which can make things even more confusing for us.

It's true that jealousy is a natural emotion that starts as early as our infancy. It's something that the weak among us automatically release when facing the strong. Everyone has this emotion to a greater or lesser extent. It's interesting to see how some people's jealousy leads them to commit destructive acts, while others transform jealousy into positive energy and envy. It seems that the more deprived people were in their early years, the more jealousy they will have.

We all need to feel good about ourselves, and our self-esteem and self-reliance are often shaped by the love and support we receive from our caregivers. If we felt ignored, suppressed, or blamed by our parents when we were young, it can leave us feeling like we're not good enough. This can make it tough to feel good about ourselves. The more we feel like we're not good enough, the more uneasy we'll feel about the outside world. And the more uneasy we feel, the more we'll want what others have but don't have. This can lead to feelings of jealousy. In fact, jealousy is a result of feeling inferior and insecure.

It's so easy to lose sight of your own value when you're constantly comparing yourself to others. We've all been there!

You know, it's so easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, but it's really important to focus on our own strengths and accept ourselves just as we are. We all have something special about us that makes us unique, and that's what makes us special! It's also good to remember that life is full of ups and downs, and that's totally normal. As long as we believe in ourselves and know that we're worthy of love, we can face whatever life throws our way with confidence.

I really hope this helps!

Hello! I'm happy to help.

I understand. Comparing yourself to others can be painful.

When we see someone else is better than us, we feel jealous. This is normal.

Jealousy may come from feeling insecure about our self-worth. After comparing, we tend to be more critical of ourselves because we're afraid we're not good enough.

We often compare ourselves to others. But if we do this too much, we lose sight of who we really are.

Our value depends on our own growth and progress. Focus on your strengths and achievements.

How can we get out of this dilemma?

First, accept yourself. We all have strengths and weaknesses, but that doesn't stop us becoming unique and valuable.

Second, change your thinking. Sometimes envy can make you want to become like or surpass someone, which is a good thing.

When we see others succeed, we should learn from them and keep moving forward.

Focus on what you love. It'll help you pay less attention to other people and be less jealous.

Try new things, find your interests, and make your life better.

We are all unique. Believe in yourself. Follow your own path. You will reap the rewards of a wonderful life!

I love you, world!

Hello!

Reading your words, I can see that you tend to compare yourself with others easily, which gives rise to feelings of jealousy. I understand that you want to improve yourself and compete with others, and I think that's great!

In fact, everyone has this kind of mentality, and it's a great one! We don't compare ourselves to strangers, but to the people around us. This is because we feel that the people around us are similar to us, so if they can be good, why can't I be good? So we will feel jealous and competitive when comparing ourselves to people who are better than us. This is a normal phenomenon, and it's something we can all work on together!

When faced with this kind of problem, it's important to understand the emotion of jealousy, no matter who we are jealous of. If we don't make good use of it, it may also become an obstacle to our success. But there's another way! We can turn jealousy into our motivation to compare ourselves with others vertically, rather than comparing the degree of excellence between the two. You can compare yourself with him, where he is good at and where he has improved, and then get closer to him and learn from him. Who knows—one day you might become just as good as him!

Overall, you still have the exciting opportunity to learn to deal with some of your emotions, whether it's jealousy or the hope that you can become better. You can adjust yourself, not be affected by emotions, turn emotions into motivation, work harder and keep improving, and believe that you will have an excellent day too!

Wishing you the best!