Just graduated, had a harmonious internship, but grandma asked my dad to persuade me not to work, and I was in a dilemma.

Good evening. I extend my best regards to you.

From your inquiry, it appears that you previously held a position outside the home and had a positive work relationship. You returned home to care for your grandmother when she became ill, and now you wish to resume your career, but your father and grandmother are opposed to this decision.

What are your personal considerations? You have indicated that if you do not go to work, you will have difficulty communicating with the company.

You did not indicate whether you would be willing to decline your father and grandmother's requests if you were to accept a position.

Is it accurate to conclude that your preference is to remain at home rather than return to work?

You have expressed concern about how to proceed with the company.

If this is the only issue, it is relatively straightforward. Simply inform the company that your father and grandmother do not want you to work so far away from home and that they would prefer you to remain close to them and secure a permanent position.

This is a straightforward reason for the company to accept. There are numerous similar cases.

In particular, for women, their families typically encourage them to remain close, pursue employment in the civil service, marry someone similar, and establish a stable lifestyle.

Therefore, there is no need to concern yourself with how you will inform the company.

You may wish to consider what kind of life you would like to lead. This will undoubtedly be a challenging decision.

If you leave your hometown, you will have to accept the disappointment and dissatisfaction of your father and grandmother. What if you are unable to succeed or perform below expectations? Would you be able to return home?

If you choose to remain in your current position, you may have a clear view of the end goal, but in the long term, you may experience disappointment and resentment towards your family.

Regardless of the decision you make, there will be advantages and disadvantages.

It is a challenging decision, but one that must be made. There is no need to rush, as you have recently graduated.

It is important to understand that you are ultimately responsible for your own life.

I am a Buddhist and a pessimist, but I also consider myself an occasionally positive counselor. I believe in the value of the world and of human potential.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I can see your confusion and helplessness, but I am here to help.

From your description, it's clear that your father doesn't want you to stay home and wants you to have your own thing to do. You're also willing to return to your previous internship where you had a good relationship with your colleagues. This shows that Grandma is capable of taking care of herself to a certain extent and can live independently without your care. She may emotionally long for your company and care, but in real life, she is capable of living independently.

You'd rather go back to your internship and get a good job than stay home to take care of your grandmother. You need to figure out what you're afraid of and what you're hesitating about because you think your grandmother will tell your father not to let you leave home.

You need to understand that your grandmother is not going to say that you are not filial.

You need to understand Grandma's psychological need for you to stay by her side. Accept that she has this need and express your understanding of it. You are willing to do your best to respond to and satisfy her needs, but you also expect Grandma to give you some understanding, support, and respect. You want to do something you really love. What you do won't have a big impact on spending time with Grandma. For example, you can teach Grandma how to use WeChat video. Promise to visit her once a week and call her every day so that she knows you haven't distanced yourself from her in your heart because of the distance. She will still have an important place in your heart and remain your favorite grandma.

When she feels that you attach enough importance to her, she won't need to keep her distance from you excessively to control you. I think this is the solution.

I am Lily, the little Q&A Museum listener. The world and I love you.