Lack of security in renting or switching apartments, resulting in decreased sleep quality. How can one adjust?

Hello, I'm Si Jin Ya.

I share the same confusion as the landlord. I also have difficulty sleeping in the rented house. The quality of my sleep is worse than at home due to a lack of security and other reasons.

I have spent a long time seeking solutions to this problem, and I am confident that my experience will help you.

1. Treat the rented house as your other home.

Renting a place is about giving yourself a home in another area. This home may not be as comfortable as your own, and it may only be temporarily yours, but it is also your temporary territory.

When choosing a place to live, make it as comfortable as possible for yourself. Decorate it with familiar objects from home to make it feel more welcoming. Accept its existence from the bottom of your heart and treat it as your home. Only then will you feel comfortable.

2. Develop a relationship with your rental property.

I am someone who finds it difficult to adapt to new environments, but I am determined to overcome this challenge.

When I arrive in a new environment, I make a point of spending time getting to know it, seeing what functions it has, and adding what I need to make me feel comfortable.

Get to know your new environment. Spend time there. Make it your home. At night, you won't feel repelled.

I am confident that my experience will be of benefit to you.

Best regards,

You wake up from nightmares easily. You lack security. I'm Jia Jia.

It doesn't matter if you rent, share, or live alone. The real reason is that you lack security and have nowhere to place your sensitive, suspicious, and kind soul. You sleep well at home because you have your parents or a familiar environment, which gives you security and allows you to relax.

Many people have these habits, which is normal.

If you often have insomnia and nightmares, there must be similar plot points in your dreams. For example, do you dream that someone is chasing you?

Or is it going to harm you? Or have you met someone or something you don't want to see?

Learn to identify your problems, needs, and solutions.

Third, if you are a woman, do you need more love and companionship? If you are a man, have you experienced violence or other things?

This is all possible, but it's hard to know for sure with so little information.

The most important thing is to discover and adjust it yourself. Exercise, socialize, distract yourself, soak your feet, meditate.

Make your environment comfortable.

I hope you get better. Stay strong.

Zonghao: A young man (ID: qingnianJIA2020), looking forward to talking with you.

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Hello, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner may be feeling a bit insecure because he has entered an unfamiliar environment. It's natural to feel a little uneasy when we're in an environment that we're not familiar with.

I would like to offer the questioner a gesture of encouragement and support, with the hope of providing a sense of strength and security.

It is worth noting that a lack of security (self-doubt, lack of confidence) can have a significant impact on a person's behavior. Having a clear understanding of one's own and others' insecurities can be highly beneficial, not just in relationships but also in one's overall life experience.

In light of the questioner's inquiry, I would like to offer some suggestions on how to recognize a lack of security.

It might be helpful to take a moment to analyze what you're feeling afraid of.

If the questioner is able to face their emotions, they may wish to consider analysing what they are afraid of. It could be helpful to rewrite the negative emotions in a positive and realistic way.

It might be helpful to ask yourself about negative thoughts. For example, you could ask yourself, "Do I feel that I am surrounded by unfamiliar people and feel insecure?"

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask yourself, "Is there danger in not knowing your surroundings well enough?" It seems likely that the questioner is not in danger.

If you feel unfamiliar with your surroundings and insecure, it might be helpful to take some time to get to know them better. Identifying what you fear and dealing with it in a constructive way could also be beneficial.

It might be helpful to avoid dwelling on negative scenarios.

It might be helpful to consider why the questioner feels fear in an unfamiliar place. Is it possible that they are imagining things that worry them? These thoughts could be taking the questioner's feelings to a less constructive place. It might be beneficial to try to stop these thoughts and work towards a more realistic perspective.

It is often the case that we cannot predict what will happen. Even if we try to predict, we may inadvertently paint the worst scenario, which is not necessarily in line with reality and could cause unnecessary anxiety.

It might be helpful to remember that you have the ability to change these exaggerated thoughts. For example, if you feel that renting a house is not safe enough, it's worth asking yourself whether this is the only way you think, or whether it's a view shared by everyone in that district.

If not, might your imagination be too one-sided?

It would be beneficial to pay attention to the external situation.

It might be helpful for the questioner to identify situations that make them feel insecure. These could include a heated argument, the sound of something falling to the ground, the sound of other people talking, or some other loud noise.

It might be helpful to consider whether these situations are causing the questioner to feel pressure or embarrassment. If so, it could be beneficial to use visualization techniques to calm the mind.

It might be helpful to imagine yourself in a relaxed state of mind, observing and enjoying things as they are in a carefree and happy way. If these situations make the questioner feel uncomfortable, it might be best to avoid them as much as possible. You could do something you enjoy, or go for a walk, and then enter the relevant situation after your emotions have calmed down.

It might be beneficial to consider incorporating some form of exercise into your routine after dinner.

After dinner, you might consider doing some light exercise. There is no need to exercise to a certain extent, but at least a half-hour walk is fine. The Dietary Guidelines for Chinese Residents recommend that everyone do at least 1,000 steps of exercise every day, so you may wish to use exercise to keep your body active.

If you rest after dinner, you may find that you have more energy when it is time to relax and go to sleep at night. The evening is a great time for a walk, which can help to reduce stress and keep you in sync with your body's biological clock. If you feel lonely, you might like to consider finding a friend to keep you company.

It is not advisable to force yourself to sleep.

If you are unable to sleep at night while lying in bed, it may be helpful to avoid forcing yourself to sleep. While following a regular routine can be beneficial, it is important to allow yourself the space to adjust to your body's natural rhythms.

Instead of tossing and turning in bed, perhaps you could try getting up and doing something relaxing, such as reading a book or listening to light music. In short, do whatever you find relaxing. When you start to feel tired, you might like to try going back to sleep.

In psychology, there is a phenomenon that suggests the more you force yourself to do something, the less likely you are to succeed. It may therefore be helpful to avoid forcing yourself to go to sleep.

If you're having trouble sleeping, it might be helpful to take your mind off things. However, it's probably best to avoid activities that attract your attention and cause excitement, such as watching short videos, playing computer games, or binge-watching TV series. From a biological point of view, these activities with bright lights are not conducive to falling asleep.

It might be helpful to find psychological assistance.

It is possible that the questioner's feelings of insecurity are affecting their ability to sleep. If this is the case, it might be helpful to seek the advice of a professional psychologist or other practitioner. These individuals can assist the questioner in addressing their negative emotions in a constructive manner. Before consulting, it might be beneficial for the questioner to research the reputation of these professionals to ensure they are a good fit.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner.

I hope my answer provides some assistance to the questioner.

Hello there!

It's totally normal to experience a change in sleep quality when you move to a new environment. It's often related to our living habits and a lack of security. The good news is that you can take steps to improve your sleep quality! You can start by regulating your habits to adapt to your new environment and pay attention to regulating restless emotions.

When I saw the title, "Deja vu," I thought of myself in the past, when I also slept well. But whenever I traveled for business or pleasure, no matter how comfortable the room was, I still had trouble falling asleep. And when I woke up, I felt dizzy and unable to concentrate because I hadn't entered a deep sleep. I felt half as productive as I could be, which was really frustrating! But then I consciously adjusted my sleep to calm my nerves, and by sharing my emotions with friends, I was able to relieve my physical and mental sensitivity and anxiety. Things got better, and I'm so grateful for that!

So, I'd love to know more about the situation of the questioner. Why do they feel unable to sleep? I think part of the reason may be that forcing yourself to sleep is not unrelated. It seems like the body and mind haven't yet adapted to the new environment. It's like the mind has a "must sleep" command that forces itself, which intensifies tension and anxiety and prevents the mind from entering a relaxed state. As a result, sleep is impaired.

I've got a couple of tips that might help you get your sleep rhythm back on track and enjoy better quality sleep.

1. Why not try Morita therapy to help you feel more relaxed and at ease before bedtime?

Once you've made sure the door is locked and your home is safe, you can relax and go to sleep at your own natural rhythm. When your mind is ready to wind down, focus on the present. Don't dwell on past worries or stress about the future. Let your body and mind unwind.

Once you've double-checked that the door is locked and you've taken care of any safety concerns, you can let go of your natural sleep rhythm and get ready for bed. When your mind starts to tell you it's time to sleep, focus on the present moment. Don't think about past troubles or worry about future events. Just let your body and mind return to the present moment. Do whatever you need to do right now. If you're struggling with this, don't worry. You can record and summarize the problems, organize your anxious thoughts, and then get ready for bed when you're ready. At this point, there's no more reason to keep thinking about it, so let your nerves slow down. The idea behind Morita therapy is to follow the natural flow of things and do what needs to be done. This helps your attention return to real life, which relieves the brain's compulsive mechanism. When your body is ready, it can find its own ways of adapting and reconciling, which allows sleep to return to a natural state.

2. Try to make some adjustments to your daily routine to help your body keep a regular sleep rhythm, even if you're living a healthy lifestyle.

It's so important to have a normal routine if you want to get a good night's sleep! It all starts with regular sleeping and eating habits. When you give your body the fuel it needs by going to bed at a decent hour and eating well, it'll find its own natural rhythm and sleep like a baby!

And there are other things you can do before bed to help you relax. You can listen to some relaxing music, or listen to FM that helps you sleep. You can set a shutdown time, drink a cup of warm milk, and do other things to help your body relax. Making preparations before bed can really help.

Finally, the questioner can also do what the previous individual shared, such as confiding their worries to friends, etc., to relieve their inner burden and relax themselves. As long as we do a good job preparing before going to bed, our body will gradually adapt to the new environment.

Wishing you the best of luck!

Hello, host! I'm smiling.

After reading your description, I understand your question better. I want you to know that I'm here for you.

From your description, it's clear that you feel insecure and lack trust because of the rental situation. You can't relax when you sleep in a rental house, so you wake up easily. You're afraid of something bad happening. It's reflected in your sleep.

Landlord, you can be aware of the development of your own problems, which is also a very good thing for you at the moment. Therefore, landlord, relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Putting too much pressure on yourself will make you feel negative and you won't be able to get out of it in a short period of time.

You rent because you're afraid of something bad happening. You're easily startled when you sleep. You feel relaxed and at ease when you sleep at home. That's why it doesn't help to share a place with friends.

I have also summarized some methods to help you alleviate the current situation, and I am confident they will help you to some extent.

(1) Use relaxation techniques like deep breathing and meditation to relieve your stress.

(2) Accept your current emotions. Resisting them only makes them worse.

(3) Talk to a friend you trust about your thoughts and feelings. This will help you to feel better.

(4) Distract yourself. Do something that interests you. Don't get too caught up in the same thing and get stuck.

(5) Give yourself more positive self-suggestions to help the current you.

The world and I love you!

Best wishes!

Greetings. I extend to you a comprehensive embrace encompassing all directions.

From your brief question, it can be seen that you sleep pretty well at home. However, when you live in rented accommodation, even if you share it with other people, you are easily startled, have more dreams, and get more tired the longer you sleep. In short, the quality of your sleep is very poor, and you are seeking advice on how to improve it.

It is important to note that my analysis is based on theoretical considerations and does not necessarily reflect your personal circumstances.

The home is the location that evokes the greatest sense of comfort and familiarity for all individuals. It provides a sense of security, acceptance from parents, and a predictable environment. In essence, the home offers a sense of safety and relaxation.

This also gives rise to a further issue. There may be a reluctance to leave the family home, a subconscious desire to avoid the prospect of living independently and facing the challenges of adult life. However, there are often specific ages or circumstances that necessitate leaving home and establishing one's own residence. This can give rise to internal conflict.

On the one hand, the subject is aware of the necessity of leaving the family home; on the other hand, however, there is a subconscious reluctance to do so. This can result in the emergence of symptoms that make the process of leaving the family home painful, as evidenced by the subject's difficulty sleeping after leaving home. This is likely a symptom that the subconscious has developed in order to replace the subject's resistance to leaving the family home.

The reason is likely due to an underlying sense of unpreparedness or apprehension regarding one's ability to navigate the complexities of life outside the familial structure.

An additional possibility is that if one leaves the family home, an adverse event may occur for the family unit. This phenomenon is most prevalent among children whose parents have a poor relationship.

Some parents with a poor relationship may make concessions for the sake of their children, such as refraining from arguing in front of them or postponing divorce until their children are older. In summary, children serve as the primary factor maintaining the tenuous stability of these families. Should they leave home, children may also be responsible for facilitating the dissolution of the family unit, whether through their influence or otherwise.

At this juncture, children may also manifest symptoms that impede the process of leaving home, which will capture the attention of their parents. By addressing these issues and providing assistance, couples can reestablish a sense of connection and stability.

In such families, children often find themselves in a position of both victimization and agency.

It is not possible to provide a definitive answer based on the information available, but it would be beneficial to consider the following questions.

Firstly, if one is content with the decision to reside in a rented apartment, it is pertinent to consider what factors could potentially lead to dissatisfaction.

Secondly, it is important to consider how your family will react if you experience difficulties sleeping in your rented accommodation. What will their attitude be?

One must also consider the potential actions of others in such a situation.

In conclusion, it is essential to examine the symptoms of poor sleep in rented accommodation and identify the beneficial functions. Subsequently, it is vital to ascertain the underlying reasons.

Additionally, it may be beneficial to consult with a counselor.

As a counselor, I recognize that my outlook is often pessimistic, yet I also recognize the value in maintaining a positive outlook. I believe that the world is a beautiful place, and I encourage my clients to embrace this belief.

Hello, question asker.

If I may, I would like to offer you a hug. It can be challenging to sleep well in a rented room. It's understandable that you might not trust the environment, which can make you feel self-protective and on guard. You may be afraid of being hurt or subconsciously feel abandoned, so you might be protecting yourself and find it difficult to sleep peacefully. In this situation, we can try the following methods to gradually improve our sleep:

1. It might be helpful to arrange the room in a way that creates a relatively familiar environment and a safe atmosphere. If it's not too much trouble, we could try taking some familiar items from home that give us a sense of security and putting them in the rental room, such as pillows, cushions, and dolls.

You might also consider using the same laundry detergent and air fresheners at home to help create a familiar, comforting scent. Decorating the room in a way that is both safe and comfortable can help you gradually relax.

2. It may be helpful to be aware of your inner self and to engage in a dialogue with your inner child. It might be beneficial to identify what causes you to feel fearful and insecure, and to engage in a dialogue with your inner self. You could imagine that you can see the insecure child inside you, ask her/him what she/he wants, give her/him comfort and care, and tell her/him that you are grateful for her/his reminder, but that you are already capable of taking care of yourself and protecting yourself from harm.

If you have experienced hurt in a previous relationship, you may wish to consider trying to accept what happened, let go of the past, and devote yourself to an intimate relationship.

3. You might find it helpful to try a variety of sleep aids to find the one that works for you. You could consider trying to meditate and relax for 10-20 minutes every day (if you can't stick to it at first, you could start with 5 minutes).

You might also consider listening to hypnotic music on music software, such as white noise. You may find it helpful to purchase tools such as steam eye masks to help you relax.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. I wish you well in your journey towards inner peace and tranquility.