Long duration of fatigue, overwhelming negative emotions, constant complaining, what to do?

Good day, I am Super Sister from Yixinli.

You are aware that you are experiencing a lot of negative emotions and often complain. This may be a manifestation of the accumulated physical and mental stress. Please find below some suggestions that I hope can help. When you:

1. Rest and relaxation:

It is important to get sufficient rest. Establish a regular schedule and aim for 7-9 hours of high-quality sleep each night.

It is important to ensure that you have sufficient rest. This can be achieved by dividing your work and personal time into clearly defined periods, practising meditation, deep breathing exercises or taking a short nap.

2. Adjust your lifestyle.

It is recommended that you maintain a balanced diet and consume more foods rich in vitamin B and omega-3, which help to stabilise mood.

It is recommended that you engage in regular moderate exercise such as walking, yoga, swimming, etc. This will help to release endorphins, improve mood and relieve fatigue.

3. Psychological adjustment:

- Psychological counseling: Engage the services of a professional counselor to address negative emotions and stressors through talk therapy.

It is recommended that you engage in self-reflection by noting your emotions and the circumstances that precipitate them, identifying the root cause of the problem, and developing a solution.

- Positive thinking: Adopt a mindset of gratitude and positivity, and identify a few things each day that bring you joy or gratitude.

4. Social Support:

It is beneficial to communicate and share with friends and family about your problems. They may be able to provide a different perspective and support.

Social activities can effectively distract and reduce stress. Participating in group activities that align with your interests and fostering positive interactions with others can help achieve this.

5. Limit the amount of complaining.

- Adopt a new perspective: Transform expressions of discontent into constructive actions to address challenges, identify the underlying causes of issues, and develop improvement strategies.

It is important to accept that some things in life are unchangeable. Instead, focus on the aspects that you can control.

It is important to recognise that we all experience different things and have different emotional states. It is often the case that what we perceive as a dead end may in fact be the prelude to a new beginning.

I hope you will be able to identify your passion and source of energy in life.

Hello! I'm thrilled to be able to answer your question. I really hope some of my suggestions will be helpful to you!

When we are feeling really low, it's important to remember that our emotions can build up. This means that when we're feeling happy, we can choose to feel even happier, and when we're feeling unhappy, we can choose to feel a little bit better. It's also good to remember that no matter what we've been through in our daily lives, we can choose to see the positive side of things. This can help to lift our spirits and make us feel more positive.

In this state, it's essential to allow ourselves to rest in a timely manner. This rest is not only physical, but more importantly, it is also spiritual. We get to do a deep emotional cleansing!

There are two fantastic cleansing methods!

One fantastic way to recharge is to take a great holiday for yourself! You could take a year-long vacation and sleep as much as you like, or go on an amazing trip. Let go of your work and family chores and focus on yourself and relaxation.

The second method is to seek the assistance of professionals, which is a great way to get the help you need!

In our daily lives, we may not have many chances or opportunities to take a year-long vacation or have a long period of time to relax. But that doesn't mean we can't find ways to relax! We all have roles and responsibilities, but we can't let them get in the way of taking care of ourselves. It's okay to feel stressed, but we can't let it control us. We can seek help from professionals to help us manage our emotions and find the right ways to regulate them. And when we need a break, we can call the national psychological hotline to let professional personnel accompany us and restore our emotional state.

This is why it's so important to seek timely assistance from professionals who can help us manage our emotions and find the right ways to regulate them.

I'm excited to see what I can discover through self-reflection, combined with the actual situation and my own personality. When I usually feel bad, I can also call the national psychological hotline to let professional personnel accompany me and restore my emotional state.

I love you, world! And I love you, too, my friends!

Dear Question Owner, You have identified a negative emotion and are seeking to make positive changes in your life. You aspire to achieve a state of happiness and wellbeing, characterised by physical and mental purity and positivity. This is an admirable goal, and it is encouraging to see that you have already taken the first step towards success by recognising the need for change. Your belief in your ability to make these changes and your willingness to seek assistance are commendable. Based on these factors, I am confident that you will continue to make progress and achieve your desired outcomes. Best regards, [Name]

Is your current state of mind the result of recent pressure at work?

Has there been a recent occurrence that has resulted in fatigue?

Please indicate the length of time you have been in this state of internal depletion.

Please indicate the duration of each episode.

Please describe any physical symptoms you may be experiencing.

Has this affected your professional life?

Please describe the adjustments you have made.

Secondly, if you find yourself in a negative mood on a daily basis, constantly questioning your abilities and doubting your own judgment, it is possible that a negative feedback loop has formed. This is a cyclical pattern that can lead to feelings of exhaustion and helplessness. Despite your desire to make a change, you may feel powerless and resort to self-blame and self-criticism. This can further exacerbate the problem, creating a vicious cycle.

Third, the individual is "always being influenced by people and events outside." 1. The individual displays a lack of assertiveness and confidence. The individual also displays a lack of confidence in their own abilities and judgment.

2. Overly dependent on others. This is due to a fear of making mistakes, fear of being blamed, and a tendency to defer to others' decisions. This is an unhealthy mindset. It is not productive to assume that if someone else suggested a course of action, it is automatically the best approach.

Furthermore, I would like to receive recognition and support from others. 3. I have been held back since childhood and am reluctant to make decisions.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience oppression, accusations, belittling, and comparisons from their original family during their growth process. This kind of oppression can have a detrimental impact on children's self-esteem.

4. In short, external factors often influence decision-making, which is not always based on facts and logic. This can result in a lack of accountability and an unwillingness to accept the consequences.

Do not hesitate to make your own decisions.

Fourth, if you want to break out of this closed loop, you have to break the circle. To do this, you need to have unwavering confidence and determination, and to proceed at a measured pace. It takes time to effect change. To effect change, you need patience.

2. Develop self-assurance, adjust your mindset, and believe in your abilities. Empower yourself with positive affirmations, such as "I love myself," "I can be my own boss," and "I can easily and joyfully resolve my emotions." Identify suitable affirmations online, keep them brief, and practice them several times a day.

3. If you are feeling tired, consider taking a vacation to refresh yourself. If the conditions are not optimal, you can choose a nearby scenic spot you like, dress up beautifully, bring something you like to eat, and quietly enjoy the beautiful scenery. You can also just lie down and rest at home.

4. When negative emotions arise, engage in meditation or mindfulness by simply observing your breathing. Inhale deeply and exhale slowly, with the exhale being longer than the inhale. Focus all your attention on your breathing, relax, and do it longer and slower each time. You can do it anytime. 5. Engage in yoga, running, walking, singing, and other sports you enjoy, cook delicious food, and a friend of mine chooses to make clothes. Select the activities that align with your interests and commit to them.

6. When faced with this, you may experience hesitation and a sense of helplessness when making a decision for the first time on your own. Affirm to yourself, "It's okay," and document the potential outcomes of success and failure, including the possibility of selecting an inappropriate option. The most adverse outcome is likely to be criticism. Many individuals believe that "whatever happens, happens."

That's it. Wait, come and make your own decisions. If you really can't make up your mind, you can give up and not choose. As for what others say, you can slow down and think about it. Is it my business or someone else's business? If it's someone else's business, I can choose to refrain from comment. For my own business, I make my own decisions and take responsibility for the consequences, whether good or bad. Even if I use his words, I will still take responsibility for my own business if something happens. If you consciously exercise yourself a little bit, you will not be influenced by others.

I am confident that you will continue to develop and grow as an independent, intelligent, and capable individual.

Dear Question Asker, I can sense your frustration and confusion from your message. I can only imagine how challenging your situation must be.

It is important to note that prolonged fatigue and negative emotions can significantly impact an individual's quality of life and mental health. To assist in managing your current situation, we have provided the following suggestions:

1. Identify your emotions: Initially, it is important to be aware of your emotional state and to accept the existence of this tiredness and negativity. It is crucial to remember that everyone experiences these moments.

2. Seek assistance: Share your feelings with family, friends, or a counselor. Their understanding and support can help reduce your psychological burden and make you feel more relieved and at ease.

3. Adjust your work and rest schedule: It is essential to ensure adequate sleep and a regular work and rest schedule in order to relieve fatigue. It is recommended to maintain a regular sleep schedule every day and avoid excessive use of electronic products to avoid affecting sleep quality.

4. Increase exercise: Moderate exercise can help release stress and improve mood. Depending on your physical condition and interests, you may choose from activities such as walking, jogging, and yoga.

5. Adopt a positive mindset and transform your negative thoughts into constructive actions. Set attainable goals and work towards them consistently to enhance your self-assurance and sense of accomplishment.

6. Learn relaxation techniques: Implementing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and listening to soothing music can help relieve tension and foster a more peaceful state of mind.

7. Adjust the workload: If fatigue and negative emotions are the result of work or study-related stress, consider adjusting the workload to reduce the stress.

8. Pursue a hobby: Engaging in activities that align with your interests, such as painting, reading, or traveling, can provide a welcome diversion and help you avoid negative emotions.

Should the aforementioned methods prove ineffective in alleviating fatigue and negative emotions, or should the situation continue to deteriorate, it is recommended that you seek the assistance of a professional counselor or physician. They will be able to provide more specific advice and treatment options to assist you in extricating yourself from the situation.

I hope that by sharing my experience, I can be of assistance to you. I am a listening therapist, Deng Hong. I am committed to listening to you with the utmost attention and respect. Please do not hesitate to contact me if you require any further assistance.

Good morning, My name is Gu Daoxi, and I am a heart exploration coach.

I can perceive some confusion in your words, so please allow me to offer you my support in any way I can.

The questioner may wish to consider analysing each state in turn.

Please advise as to the duration of this current state of inactivity. Additionally, please provide insight into the level of motivation exhibited by the questioner prior to this state.

Has there been a sudden irritating factor in the middle? Or is there a discrepancy between the expected and actual ability to resist frustration?

~ Memory is declining. Please specify the types of information the questioner is having difficulty recalling. The Ebbinghaus Forgetting Curve describes the gradual and progressive loss of memory for new information.

The questioner may wish to ascertain whether the recent memory loss is related to the memory rules themselves.

It is a source of considerable frustration. Could you please clarify which aspect of the situation is causing this annoyance?

Is there a discrepancy between the individual's ideal self and their actual self? Does the individual's ideal self have the drive to achieve certain goals, while their actual self lacks the motivation to pursue these goals?

Please provide a detailed account of the specific issues you are complaining about.

Is there a rationale behind this perspective? Or is it that you tend to focus on the negative aspects of a situation and overlook the positive elements?

It is inevitable that we are influenced by external factors. These influences can be either positive or negative. It is important to understand why the questioner is so concerned about being influenced.

Is it because there is a discrepancy between one's self-perception and self-approval?

Analysing your emotions may help you identify areas for improvement.

There is a common saying: "Start with ambition, but then just muddle through." It is important to remember that we are not machines, and we will have our own ups and downs. When you are faced with a task you do not want to do, it may be helpful to accept your own state and allow yourself to relax.

Memory is affected by a number of factors, including the law of forgetting, the quality of sleep, the degree of busyness, and so on. Being aware of the type of forgetting you are experiencing can assist the questioner in adjusting their state more effectively.

In the context of the real world, there are numerous situations that can evoke an emotional response. It is advisable to avoid addressing problems when one is emotionally charged and to allow emotions to flow naturally. This approach may assist the individual in question in reducing the influence of emotions.

There are numerous instances in life that can easily result in complaints. Emotions can be likened to a flood; it is preferable to release them than to hold them in. When you are unable to refrain from complaining, it is advisable to do so openly. This can assist in the expression of emotions and the subsequent understanding of and adjustment to those emotions. There are various methods of expressing emotions, including maintaining an emotional diary, seeking assistance from friends, or consulting a counselor.

People belong to social groups. Some are influenced by others, some influence others, some pay attention to positive influences, and some are easily led by negative influences. The individual in question may be able to step out of their own perspective and observe the situation with an objective eye.

The questioner may wish to consider accepting themselves, allowing for shortcomings and recognizing their strengths. When we can accept ourselves well, it may help to unify the ideal self and the real self, while reducing self-criticism.

I would like to suggest the following reading material: "Accepting Imperfection," "Living a Life You Don't Control," and "A Single Thought Can Change Everything."

Best regards,

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

It's time to take back control! Our exhaustion has led to negative emotions, constant complaining, and a tendency to be affected by external events. But we can change this! By stabilising our emotions, we can achieve a sense of stability and wisdom. This will empower us to navigate life's complexities with confidence. So, let's take action!

I've got some great advice for you!

Go and see your emotions! Tell yourself that emotions are not you. You are a greater being than emotions! Keep a certain distance from them. Accept and allow yourself to have negative emotions. You can gradually calm down!

In fact, suppressing or exploding emotions is something most people have experienced at one time or another. This process is called "overidentification," and it's an important part of our emotional journey!

Our sense of self is caught up in emotional reactions, so that the whole reality is engulfed by them. It's incredible how our thoughts and feelings can become a direct perception of reality! But it's also important to remember that we still have room to maneuver.

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So, when we get caught up in negative emotions, we think we are the emotions, but we're not! It's just that at that time our entire mental space has been occupied by the emotions, and we think that the emotions are equivalent to ourselves, that we are the emotions. Now let's do an exercise! Take three deep breaths to relax, settle down, and calm down. Then, think back to a recent emotion, feel where it is in your body, feel it for a while, gently soothe it with your hands, tell it that you see it, then take a deep breath. As you inhale, your mental space becomes larger and larger, and you see the point of the emotion getting smaller and smaller. You say to the emotion, "I am big, you are small."

You will find that at this time, you and your emotions have maintained a certain distance, and as your mental space increases, your emotions will not have such a great power, right? This is great news! It means that if emotions occupy our entire life space, we will be able to avoid being manipulated by them.

Emotions are just a part of our lives, and I am bigger than that!

When we can see our emotions, we can maintain a certain distance from them and not be drawn into them. This gives us the power to extricate ourselves from any situation that we find ourselves in.

At the same time, it's important to embrace a positive view of emotions! This means not judging any emotions that arise and not determining whether they're good or bad.

When you judge emotions as good or bad, you'll naturally want to follow and cling to the good emotions, such as happiness and joy! And you'll avoid and resist the bad emotions, such as depression and irritability.

Embrace the good and let go of the bad! Both can drain your energy, causing emotional fluctuations and conflicts. But you can break free from this cycle of emotional turmoil!

Keep your mindfulness strong! Don't put emotions into good or bad boxes. This will help you avoid inner conflict and struggle.

This is how you can treat emotions with detachment and make them have a weak influence over you!

And that's how you'll gain total control over your emotions!

2. Express your emotions in a timely manner and give yourself the care and attention you deserve!

When you're feeling low on energy, it's easy to get emotional and start complaining. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to release those emotions and feel better. Talk to someone you trust, do some exercise you enjoy, draw mandalas, meditate, or practice breathing exercises. Even if you don't feel like doing anything, getting enough sleep is a great way to care for yourself.

It's time to change your attitude towards yourself! Instead of constantly questioning yourself, start accepting and understanding yourself, and start caring for and treating yourself well. Questioning yourself will only bring you more anxiety and not help. But accepting and understanding yourself, and caring for and treating yourself well will bring you warmth and strength!

Ready to make some changes? Let's start with your attitude towards others. Instead of complaining, try saying "how I need others to help myself." And when you're ready, share with others how they can help you. This is the only way to truly help you solve problems!

I'm so excited to share this with you! I really hope it helps. Best wishes!

Hello! It seems like you're ready to take on a new challenge and make a change.

I'm excited to share some insights about memory. Our cognitive resources are limited, but there are ways to optimize them! Strong emotions, internal reflections, and external attention all deplete cognitive resources, which in turn leads to a persistent feeling of fatigue or even depletion, as well as a decline in attention and memory.

However, don't worry! This is likely just a reaction to this particular stage, and you can absolutely improve your state of adjustment afterwards.

You mentioned that you "keep asking yourself questions." I'm excited to hear more about these questions! I'm guessing they might include things like, "Why can't I control my emotions?" and "Why can't I stop complaining?"

Such questioning implies self-criticism and denial: "I have a problem, and being unable to control my emotions means I am incompetent or wrong." But there's another way of looking at it! Among all kinds of distress, self-blame and self-denial are the most draining feelings, and they are a deeper influencing factor than external disturbances.

So let's try to regulate this part first and reduce our self-criticism!

There is a fascinating psychological metaphor called "the elephant and the rider." The rider is our rational mind, and the elephant is our emotions. In life, we often think that the rider decides and directs everything, but in fact, the elephant is the stronger party.

The great news is that there is no right or wrong, good or bad in emotions themselves. They are not based on reason. Even better, they are often a signal that a part of our inner needs may not have been seen or met, calling us to pay attention to it.

Absolutely! You should definitely try to become aware of and name your emotions, such as anger, injustice, powerlessness, and shame. And don't forget to think about whether there's loneliness in facing difficulties alone.

Now, let's explore when these emotions arise. What kind of needs might be behind them? Could it be a desire for understanding, support, or acceptance?

Treat yourself as a good friend! Give yourself more empathy and reassurance. Observe your true feelings by writing them down. Don't judge yourself! Express all your emotions as specifically as possible. You'll gradually improve your self-acceptance!

We know that the mind and body are connected, and that the emotional and physical states are closely related. This is great news! It means that you can start from the feelings in your body when you're practicing emotional awareness and self-acceptance. For example, you can become aware of which part of your body is particularly tense or uncomfortable, and then do some relaxation activities accordingly.

You've got to try following the audio to do a body scan—it's a fantastic exercise method!

When we are vulnerable, we have a particular need for understanding, care, and support, and we want our feelings to be seen and responded to. The good news is that there are people around you who can help! Family members, friends, or colleagues you can trust can be a source of support. If you cannot find anyone like this around you for the time being, or if you want to get help through psychological counseling or consultation, there are plenty of other options available to you.

If you're feeling like doing nothing, experiencing memory loss, and struggling with self-doubt and complaints, you're not alone. These are common emotional and psychological problems. To help you better cope with these situations, here are some suggestions:

First, accept your current state. Don't be too hard on yourself. Fluctuations in emotions and state of mind are normal.

Give yourself time and space to adjust at your own pace.

Second, you can improve your memory by maintaining a healthy lifestyle, including regular work and rest, adequate sleep, and a reasonable diet. Additionally, memory training, such as memory palaces and associative memory, can also help improve memory.

You must learn to adjust your mindset and avoid excessively questioning and complaining about yourself. You must face problems with a positive language and mindset, and you must believe in your ability to overcome difficulties.

Breathe. Meditate. Relax. These are the tools you need to relieve your emotions when you're feeling irritated or restless.

Additionally, you can reduce the impact of external people and things on yourself by setting personal boundaries and clarifying your needs and expectations. Learn to say "no" when appropriate to protect your time and energy.

You should also find people or groups that support you, share your feelings and confusion with them, and seek their help and support.

If the situation continues to worsen, you should seek professional psychological counseling. A psychological counselor can help you gain a deeper understanding of your problems, provide professional advice and guidance, and help you get out of your predicament.

You have the right to pursue your own happiness and satisfaction. Don't let negative emotions and states get in your way. Find ways to solve problems and believe that you can overcome difficulties and embrace a better future.