Marriage is imminent, the pressure is enormous, I have nightmares every night and talk in my sleep.

Good day, question asker.

In your statement, you indicated that:

#1

The subject's current sleeping situation is notably problematic. During sleep, the subject reports feeling sleepy yet remaining awake, talking in their sleep, and waking up with a start, exhibiting fear, shouting, and panic as if the sky were falling. In their sleep, the subject reports experiencing scenes such as holding an air conditioner, driving a car, being rushed, and alarms.

The situation can be described as a sense of bearing a heavy weight, being rushed, and being required. The individual is under a significant amount of pressure.

Your current sleeping habits serve as a reminder that you need to prioritize self-care and identify strategies to restore a sense of equilibrium in your lifestyle.

You have indicated that you are planning to get married in the near future and that you have a particularly strong relationship with your fiancée. I can also perceive your excitement and optimism about your impending nuptials.

Conversely, the impending nuptials have also given rise to certain concerns, which can be attributed to an understanding of family dynamics.

#2

My grandmother often asserted that I would eventually be expected to assume responsibility for my actions and repay the kindness shown to me.

You perceive the necessity of assuming the obligations inherent to the role of a family member, even within the context of a relatively limited family structure.

It can be observed that following the institution of marriage, individuals may experience distress regarding their capacity to assume the associated responsibilities, the requisite actions to fulfill these responsibilities, and the ability to reciprocate benevolent actions.

Your grandmother's counsel may have conveyed the impression that marriage is not merely a union between two individuals, but rather a responsibility to care for a larger family unit. In essence, it can be postulated that your grandmother's advice was a ceremonial representation of your "coming of age."

The specific actions required to "repay the favor" or otherwise demonstrate gratitude may vary considerably from one individual to another. It is also possible that your grandmother's expectations and concerns may differ from your own understanding. In order to gain a better understanding of her expectations and concerns, you may wish to ask your grandmother directly.

It is also recommended that you identify ways to relieve stress. Mindfulness, exercise, and talking to someone are all effective methods for achieving this. Given that you describe your relationship with your girlfriend as positive, you may benefit from spending time with her to improve your mental wellbeing.

#3

Your parents divorced when you were young, and your father's business failed, precipitating a period of depression. You were subsequently raised by your paternal grandmother.

Individuals learn their beliefs about family from their parents and elders, as if there were no alternative role models. This may also be a source of stress, similar to the uneasiness experienced when preparing for an exam and lacking a reliable source of guidance.

Indeed, a considerable number of individuals perceive the institution of marriage and the establishment of a family unit as a natural progression in life. However, many find themselves grappling with a multitude of doubts and reservations upon embarking on this journey, only to subsequently recognize that the reality of marriage is far more complex than merely obtaining a marriage certificate and residing together.

In regard to the responsibilities that arise in the context of marriage, the primary obligation is to provide for one's own family. The optimal means of fulfilling this responsibility is a matter for the couple and their future spouse to discuss and determine together.

It is this author's recommendation that the reader peruse the following texts: "If Only I Knew Before Marriage" and "The World of Couples: 37 Lessons in Emotional Management from Pan Xingzhi." These works will prove both inspiring and helpful. Furthermore, it is this author's additional recommendation that the reader engage in pre-marital counseling.

Engaging in counseling prior to marriage and entering into matrimony will facilitate a sense of ease and empowerment.

It is evident that you are preparing to enter into matrimony, and it is clear that you have a strong and healthy relationship with your partner. I am pleased to see that you are taking the initiative to pursue your own happiness with courage and determination. I wish you the best in your future endeavors.

Furthermore, it is evident that you are adept at seeking guidance from professional platforms to gain insight and clarity. I believe you possess a remarkable ability to identify and utilize resources that can benefit your personal growth. Should you continue this practice and engage with professionals, it will undoubtedly enrich your life with additional support.

I extend my sincerest wishes to you.

I extend my sincerest wishes to you.

Good day, question asker. My name is Liang Ning, and I am an assistant to Xinqing.

From your description, it is evident that you experience difficulties in sleeping, engage in talking during sleep, engage in sleepwalking, and have nightmares. Additionally, you have mentioned your family of origin and have indicated that you are on the verge of starting a family.

I extend my best wishes to you all.

First, it is essential to gain an understanding of this state of mind within oneself. Based on the aforementioned description, it is evident that the influence of one's family of origin continues to exert a significant impact.

The family of origin can provide nourishment, yet it can also act as a persistent, pervasive influence. During childhood, the separation from one's nuclear family can instill feelings of insecurity. While our grandparents and other relatives may have played a role in our upbringing, the experience of parental love is irreplaceable.

A sense of security can result in the suppression of a multitude of emotions in reality. This is evidenced by the prevalence of talking in one's sleep, sleepwalking, and nightmares. Following an unfortunate event, individuals often feel compelled to provide a stable environment for their families. Given that you have recently graduated and are facing a certain amount of pressure in life, coupled with your grandmother's expectations, the resulting pressure can be significant.

Secondly, it is important to gain an understanding of the sources of stress that you experience. These can be related to your own personal growth and development, the expectations that you have of yourself, the situation of your father at the present time, and your current circumstances.

If time permits, one may engage in a careful examination of these experiences and their impact on the individual. As one matures, the capacity of these experiences to exert influence diminishes, and one may achieve a state of reconciliation with one's past self.

Transform that experience into a driving force that motivates personal growth. Observe others and oneself, ascertain one's values, and pursue a sense of purpose.

Ultimately, it is essential to understand how to relieve stress. Once the source of stress is identified, it can be confronted directly when it arises, rather than being avoided.

It is important to be aware of the impact that stress can have on the body and mind. When experiencing physical or mental distress, it is crucial to recognize that stress is the underlying cause and avoid panicking. There are various techniques that can be employed to alleviate stress, including environmental modifications, exercise, music, and gradual methods. It is beneficial to identify the techniques that are already familiar and to consciously cultivate effective ones.

In the event of an adverse occurrence, it is advisable to refrain from internalising the experience. Instead, it may be beneficial to document the event and engage in self-reflection, or to seek the counsel of a trusted individual. In my own experience, a prolonged period of insomnia was alleviated through the practice of listening to cross talk, which prompted involuntary laughter and a sense of joy. This led to the conclusion that insomnia can be effectively managed through positive emotional regulation.

One may choose to employ this method or utilize alternative techniques.

It might be helpful to give yourself a hug when you're feeling stressed, panicked, or anxious.

I'm not sure how long this situation has been going on, but if you've been easily startled by light sleep for many years, it might be helpful to see a doctor.

It might also be helpful to consider some Chinese medicine to help regulate your body. If the stress is due to recent events such as marriage, then it's a little better.

From your own analysis of your upbringing, it seems that your family was not as fortunate as you might have wished, and that your upbringing was somewhat challenging, which may have contributed to a sense of lack of security and intimacy. These factors may well have contributed to your current state of mind.

Secondly, it is believed that being in love and starting a family can facilitate personal growth and healing. However, it is important to recognise that the quality of the relationship and the strength of the marriage, as well as the quality of intimacy, can influence the extent to which these processes occur.

Starting a family is a process of quantitative and qualitative changes in the mind and body. Having a supportive partner who can heal each other can be beneficial in helping you to slowly get better. It would be wonderful if you and your loved one were a couple who take care of and support each other.

Third, your stress may be the result of a lack of love in your childhood, getting married and starting a family, buying a house and taking care of your wife, and caring for your grandmother and other relatives. As an adult who has just become independent, or in midlife, these things are something you may have to face at some point. It would be beneficial to have a strong heart! Ways to relieve stress: 1. Exercise, your favorite sport.

It might be helpful to consider engaging in sports that involve interacting with others. Another option could be to talk to a good friend or even a loved one for support.

3. Moderate your drinking. 4. Do whatever you like.

I hope you will be well again soon. As a man, I encourage you to be strong and I am confident that everything will be fine.