May I ask, in a poor family atmosphere, how can I give myself enough security?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
I found that the lack of a sense of security gradually began to develop from the other person's lack of understanding and recognition of oneself in an intimate relationship. Later, it became more and more serious, leading to mutual love and killing, repeating over and over again. May I ask, in such a bad family atmosphere, how can I give myself enough security?
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Comments
I understand how deeply unsettling it can be when you feel misunderstood in a relationship. To build your own security, try focusing on selflove and establishing a support network outside of this relationship that can affirm your worth and provide comfort.
It's heartbreaking to see love turn into something painful. In finding security, consider working on personal growth and independence. Therapy might also offer tools to help you feel safer and more valued within yourself.
Feeling secure starts from within. Despite the challenging environment, nurturing your inner strength through hobbies, selfcare, and possibly counseling can create a buffer against external negativity and bolster your sense of self.
The cycle of love and hurt is exhausting. To regain a sense of safety, investing time in activities that bring you joy and peace can be crucial. Also, communicating your needs clearly to those around you may help garner the understanding and support you deserve.