Mental exhaustion requires modesty and concealing one's abilities. Telling friends the core can guide me.

The following suggestions are designed to assist you in addressing the challenges associated with mental depletion and self-recovery:

1. **Self-acceptance**: Initially, accept your current situation and recognize that everyone has their own unique trajectory and pace of growth. Avoid self-criticism for your current position.

2. Prioritize your own needs and objectives in your pursuit of self-recovery. Establish transparent, measurable personal goals and work towards them.

3. **Communicate moderately**: When sharing your core plans and goals with colleagues, you can choose to be moderately open without disclosing all the details. This can reduce your psychological pressure while also protecting your privacy.

4. **Learn to relax**: Identify methods of relaxation, such as meditation, yoga, or walking, to help you calm your anxiety and focus your mind.

5. Time Management: Organize your time effectively to ensure sufficient time for self-recovery, learning, and maintaining connections with friends and family.

6. **Boundary setting**: Learn to set boundaries and be clear about your comfort zone in interpersonal relationships. When you need to focus on yourself, you can politely inform others that you require some time alone.

7. **Self-development**: View the experience as an opportunity for professional growth. Enhance your skills and confidence by reading, studying, or attending workshops.

8. Professional Help: If you find it challenging to manage these issues, we recommend seeking guidance from a counselor. They can provide professional support and guidance.

9. **Be patient**: Please note that change takes time. We therefore ask you to be patient and to believe that your efforts will lead to positive change.

10. **Focus on progress:** Concentrate on your progress in the recovery process and acknowledge every minor accomplishment. This will help you maintain motivation and confidence.

It is important to remember that every individual's recovery process is unique and will require time and effort. By following the aforementioned suggestions, you can gradually identify a recovery path that is tailored to your needs while also maintaining healthy relationships with others.

I will analyze and suggest solutions for your four main issues.

Wild thoughts after sharing secrets with friends:

When we share our thoughts with someone close to us, we often expect them to understand and support us. But when they don't, we feel uneasy.

First, accept your feelings. Second, talk to your friend and tell her what you need.

You can also get help from a counselor.

Anxiety can come after you share your thoughts with others.

Anxiety can come from worrying about your choices and how your friends will react. You can relax by breathing deeply, meditating, or doing yoga.

It is also important to have a positive self-image and believe you can handle different situations. Talking to friends and sharing your feelings can also help.

3. About finding your true self:

Finding your true self takes time. First, figure out what you value and what you're interested in. Then, find a lifestyle that suits you.

Second, set small goals and work on self-discipline and concentration. Learn to ignore distractions and temptations to focus on yourself.

Finally, be open to new ideas and learn from your mistakes.

Focusing on yourself and others can be hard to balance.

Focusing on yourself and others is not opposite. You need good relationships with others while focusing on yourself.

To balance the two, focus on yourself during certain periods, such as studying, creating, or thinking. During these periods, don't focus on relationships.

Other times, focus on interacting with others. Learn to maintain an appropriate distance so you can meet your needs without disturbing others.

Your distress involves self-awareness, emotional management, and interpersonal relationships. Be patient and open-minded as you explore solutions that suit you.

You might also want to see a counselor.

Hello! I don't know your innermost thoughts, but I can feel your inner turmoil. I can tell you one thing for sure: no matter what the future holds, you must not give up on yourself, and you must not give up on learning! Learning is a process of constantly adding value to yourself. It will give you more options and more confidence when faced with choices.

I totally get it. I know how it feels to be confused and anxious about the future. I've been there, spending every day in self-doubt and self-negation. It's a tough spot to be in, feeling like life has lost its direction and you don't know where to go. But you're not alone. I see you, constantly reflecting on yourself and examining yourself, slowly but surely finding your own path forward. And as you do, you're becoming more and more confident and determined. Keep going!

Embrace the pressure! Meet it head on and overcome it. This is growth. Being soft with others is because you are a kind and warm person. This is a great thing! But if you keep doing this, it is tantamount to giving up on yourself, thus hurting the people who really care about you.

I don't know if you can move out of the place where you live separately, but if you can, go for it! If not, don't leave her. This is a very bold and risky idea, but if you can muster the courage to take this step, you will not have similar problems in the future.

If you can't find a sense of focus, try focusing on your breathing. You'll be amazed at how your chest rises and falls with each breath! Finally, focus your attention on your mind and recall the past steps of what you are about to do. This is a great way to exercise your ability to concentrate.

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, host! I'm so honored to answer your question. The table describes a 22-year-old woman who needs to bide her time because she's going through a rough patch. She's been consumed by her own core, and it's been tough for her to feel its vitality.

I'm not afraid to tell my parents that I want to continue studying. I'm not lacking in energy to face the challenges of life. I just need to take my time and keep learning, to be myself.

After a while, your roommates started to wonder if you were focusing on your studies enough. You were sleeping and playing games every day, which they thought was a bit decadent. In your opinion, though, this was your own way of enjoying your freedom.

You were feeling the pressure from your roommate, and you eventually told her your plan step by step. You're not sure how this will affect her, but you're hoping for the best!

It's totally normal to feel a bit confused and anxious when you tell the people you care about the most important things. It's a lot to take in!

You try to find ways to calm your restlessness, but it's not easy. You feel that finding that comfortable self is the most important thing right now.

You see yourself as a gentle soul who cares deeply about those around you and is fearful of causing them pain or distress.

You also mentioned in the information that when managers are fully focused on themselves, they will have a stern expression and don't want to be disturbed. If you force yourself to be distracted and focus on interpersonal relationships, it will be difficult for you to focus on finding your own sense of self. I can see how that could be challenging!

From this information, it seems like you're going through a lot. It's clear that you're struggling with some serious internal conflict, which is totally understandable. It's also evident that you have a strong sense of self-worth and believe you have the power to solve any problem that comes your way. It's natural to have these beliefs, but it's also important to recognize that they can sometimes lead to a lack of empathy for others. It's like you're creating these powerful imaginary enemies for yourself and then imagining yourself defeating them again and again. This can be a way of completing your imagination about your sense of value. It's not wrong to have a strong sense of self-worth, but it's important to be aware of how it can affect your relationships with others.

It's totally okay to focus on yourself and be your own person! But, if you hurt others or even if you've hurt people around you, people might think you're just trying to make yourself look better. If you've hurt others, most people will, out of instinct for self-preservation, take issue with you.

It's okay, we all have a lot on our minds sometimes! The fact that other people and roommates have not objected to your actions and thoughts shows that you have too much inner drama.

I can see that the three questions you've asked are really about your excessive narcissism and your overestimation of yourself. It would be really helpful for you to admit that you are mediocre and not perfect.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to support you. Your kind of thinking, which achieves a sense of self-worth and existence through narcissism, is greatly reduced. Through some real but imperfect efforts, you can prove that you are gradually becoming stronger.

I'm so happy to have a date in 1983! The world and I love you!

Good day, my name is Zeyu.

In response to the original poster's inquiries, we will address each one in turn according to the serial number.

The original poster elected to adopt a strategy of biding one's time and preserving one's strength in order to allow for change and growth due to mental depletion. The ultimate goal is to restore the core and re-perceive its vitality. Notifying a colleague of the core will produce changes that are beyond our control. This is because you and she are two independent individuals. This independence includes differences in perception and thinking. Regarding the original poster's random thoughts, the original intention was to worry about the other person and also fear that we would affect the other person's judgment and decision-making. However, change itself cannot be accomplished through a short exchange. If it were really that easy, many problems might not exist.

Regarding the second point, the most direct way to alleviate this anxiety is to have an open and honest conversation with the other person. There may be a discrepancy between our perceptions and theirs, and what they perceive may not align with who we truly are. The objective of our communication is to clarify any misunderstandings and gain a deeper understanding of the other person, which allows us to see ourselves and each other in a different light. If we require further explanation of our ideas and plans, we can discuss them during the conversation.

If we categorize these matters, we can divide them into two parts: my matters and your matters. My matters include our motives and needs, and the part that involves the other person needs to be separated out. The person who can make the final decision is the other person. Even if our intentions are good, in reality, no matter how much we think about it, the other person may not be able to feel it. It is important to recognize that our needs may not be the other person's needs. Therefore, a productive approach is to prioritize self-care and then engage in other activities when we have the energy.

Finally, we can attempt to prioritize tasks and objectives, then proceed at our own pace. If there is a discrepancy in the importance of tasks, we can utilize the elimination method to identify the most critical one.

Hello!

At 22, you've had 6 or 7 years of mental depletion. If you went to school, you've been living a difficult life since junior high. Hugs!

You also said:

I work part-time to earn money for studying. I have some savings, and I can earn more if I need to.

You can work part-time and save money. You are capable of supporting yourself. You are the best!

After years of mental depletion, you still work part-time and save money. You've said you've been depleting your energy and can't feel your vitality. So you've chosen to study and find that focused self. I appreciate your courage in making this choice.

You said you want to study, but I'm confused. Do you mean you want to study at home, not at school?

If you were at school, you wouldn't be able to sleep and play games every day. Is it just to find yourself with focus? You just want to rent a room and study exclusively, but this studying is contradictory to sleeping and playing games every day. Then what is the learning you want to find?

I don't understand the relationship.

I don't understand your relationship. I'm mentally exhausted too. I thought this might help you find yourself, but then I thought there might be a better way. It's hard to picture your situation.

But I know that no matter how hard I think, it doesn't reveal your true state. It's only my thoughts. I can only help you if I can talk to you or read what you've written. This is like your current state. You've had internal conflict from telling your friends your core, and you can't focus on being yourself like you did the other day.

Instead of worrying about this, talk to a friend. You can explain your side of things. You know your friend well, so you can tell if they're affected.

You think doing this will distract you from your relationships. I think it's better than letting your thoughts run wild. If you can't stop thinking about her and moving isn't an option, talk to a friend. Then you can decide what to do next.

It doesn't matter if you talk to your friends or not. What matters is that you talk from the bottom of your heart. The three problems you want to solve can be attributed to one problem: you have a plan for yourself, which is to focus on finding yourself. You think sleeping and playing games is quiet and comfortable. Give yourself some time to do this. Set a time limit. After setting a time limit, where can you go?

If you think about it this way, the three problems will be solved at once.

Thank you for your invitation. I want to help you solve your current problem and make your life easier. I think it would be better for you to set a time to relax, as you have done now. If you want to go further, you can also make a plan.

If you can earn money, save, and earn more after paying off your debts, you can solve your problems and improve your life.

You can do it! The world and I love you!

Hello, my child! I'm so excited to answer your question and help you in any way I can.

It's totally normal to have random thoughts and anxieties from time to time. But here's the thing: if you dwell on them or get too caught up in them, they'll drain your energy. And we don't want that! So, here's a simple trick to help you stay in control: recognize that thoughts and ideas are not who you are. When you can see that, you'll be amazed at how much better you feel! You'll be the master of your own thoughts and you'll have the power to choose and adjust them. And you'll feel in control! Here's another cool thing: being yourself and having good relationships with others are not at odds with each other. It's all about knowing when to be yourself and when to focus on relationships. And here's the golden rule: be yourself when you're alone and play your role well in relationships. This will help you achieve a kind of balance that will make you feel great!

I've got some great advice for you!

Now, let's dive into the first and second questions! The key to unlocking our potential is understanding our relationship with chaotic thoughts.

As I just said, it is perfectly normal for us to have all kinds of crazy thoughts and disturbing thoughts. When we have a lot of these thoughts, we need to realize that these crazy thoughts are just thoughts, not facts. We don't have to agree with them or get entangled in them, but just let them flow naturally. Just tell yourself, "I see, I have such a thought: ... Yes, you just temporarily had such a thought, and this thought is not you. When you can allow it to flow, after a while, it will disappear. At the same time, you can also use some methods to help yourself replace negative thoughts with positive ones.

Here's an amazing exercise that will help you shift your mindset! When you catch yourself having a negative thought, embrace it fully. Then, symbolize that thought as a concrete object, like a hard stone that's scorching hot to the touch. Now, imagine throwing that stone as far away as you can, and feel the rush! When you no longer have that thought, how does it feel? Fantastic, right? Now, let's switch gears and imagine a positive thought. Imagine your actions making your friend understand and know you better. Picture your friend having the ability to take responsibility for herself. What would it be like to have a symbol for that thought? How about a sparkling sapphire? Put that gem right in your brain and feel it! When you have that positive thought, what's your state and feeling?

Do this exercise often to help you with cognitive disassociation and reshape positive thinking patterns! This way, we can avoid being trapped by chaotic thoughts. You can also persist in mindfulness meditation to improve your awareness and improve brain function. This will help you achieve a more stable state!

2. For the third and fourth questions, we get to learn how to separate issues and understand when to be ourselves and when to value relationships! You will feel more relaxed.

From your description, it seems that you feel if your friend has a negative impact on her because of what you said or your actions, in the relationship, you will pay too much attention to others and worry about them... So, in fact, you yourself will be more stressed in the relationship because you are taking on a lot of other people's parts. But in reality, what each of us can control is very limited. We have no way to control the actions and thoughts of others, let alone take responsibility for them. This is because there are only three things in the world—your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. The reason we are troubled is because we do not control our own affairs, but worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven. But here's the good news! You have the power to change your situation. You can choose to focus on your own affairs and take responsibility for your own actions. This will free you from worrying about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven. You will feel more in control of your life and less stressed in your relationship.

It's so important to remember that other people's emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are their own issues. You cannot control them, nor do you need to take responsibility for them. And you certainly don't need to take responsibility for them either! The reason why she is now emotionally troubled and has a certain pattern is due to the combined influence of her own genetic makeup, upbringing, family environment, educational background, etc. If she does not want to change, then it is very difficult for you to change her. But you can absolutely focus on your own life and your own happiness!

This means that each of us is only responsible for ourselves. We can guarantee that we will not judge, attack, or accuse the other person. The choice is theirs! What we can do is express ourselves and support them in their choice. You also need to take responsibility for your own topics. For example, whether or not you want to live apart from your friend is a choice you can make for yourself. If you choose to live apart, then you get to move things, prepare your words, comfort your friend, and miss her! If you choose not to live apart, then you also get to bear the corresponding consequences, such as continuing with the current lifestyle.

There's no right or wrong choice. Everyone makes different choices, and that's a good thing! What matters is to see what kind of result you are more willing to bear, and then make that choice. That's taking responsibility for your own problems, and it's a great way to live!

You say, "When I forcefully distract my attention to other people, it is difficult for me to find the feeling of focusing on myself again, which is also my current problem."

Absolutely! I've been there too. For a while, I was so eager to be myself that I felt a bit out of sorts in relationships. I wanted to be myself, but it felt like I also had to take care of the relationship. But then, I finally realized that being yourself and maintaining good relationships are not mutually exclusive. What we need to do is differentiate between when we're being ourselves and when we're focusing on relationships. The key is to be yourself when you're alone and to play your role well in relationships. You'll feel so much more comfortable!

I remember when I first started out, I was so excited to take on the role of a counselor everywhere I went! I quickly learned that I felt uncomfortable in many relationships. When I got along with my husband, children, in-laws, and other family and friends in the role of a counselor, there would be role conflicts. I realized that in my relationships with them, I am not a counselor, I am just a wife, mother, daughter-in-law, daughter, sister, and friend. I learned that we only need to do a good job of each corresponding role in each relationship. Instead of insisting on being ourselves in the relationship, we can reap the benefits of harmonious interpersonal relationships! These relationships will have a supportive and nourishing effect on us. When we are alone, we can be ourselves, be that comfortable you, which is also a way to empower yourself!

When you nourish and support yourself, whether you're alone or in a relationship, something amazing happens: your inner self becomes more fulfilled and relaxed, reaching a state of balance and harmony!

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Hello, I'm Evan, a Transactional Analysis counselor.

From the questioner's description, it is clear that they are experiencing self-doubt and inner unease. When we make decisions, especially significant ones, and do not have sufficient support from within, we are more likely to experience internal conflict or self-doubt.

From the questioner's description, it is clear that they are confused and under pressure. Let me be clear: the questioner is not alone in facing these problems.

We all face similar dilemmas and challenges in life. At every stage of life, everyone has doubts and confusion about their current lives and wonders what they want and where they should go.

Knowing what kind of life you want is crucial. You should even think about whether, when you are old and look back on your life, you will have lived the life you wanted to live.

The author mentions four problems in the text. We will not discuss the author's problems in depth, but we will give suggestions for each of the four main problems mentioned by the author.

Let's talk about rumination.

Unreasonable thoughts often stem from inner anxiety and uncertainty about the future. You can reduce these thoughts by focusing your mind through meditation or relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, yoga, or simply sitting with your eyes closed.

These methods will help you clear your mind and reduce anxiety and worry. In addition, keeping a diary is an excellent way to organize your thoughts and record your inner thoughts and feelings, which will help you better understand yourself.

The second issue is becoming restless.

The questioner's unease is likely caused by a lack of internal support, which leads to an over-attention to external circumstances. It's also possible that the feeling of unease is caused by concerns about other people's perceptions and reactions. The questioner can adjust their mindset, accept and believe that the decisions they are making are the right ones, even if others don't understand or worry.

Try some relaxing activities, such as yoga, walking, or reading. These activities will help you relax and reduce anxiety.

The questioner should also find things that bring a sense of security and satisfaction, such as chatting with friends and participating in hobbies, which can help relieve anxiety.

You will find that comfortable self.

Many people want to find themselves and their true selves during the course of their lives. This is a process that requires time and effort. The questioner must pay more attention to their inner needs, understand their preferences and interests, and try some self-exploration activities. These include traveling, joining interest groups or learning new skills. The questioner should also try to incorporate these elements into their daily lives.

These activities will help you better understand yourself and find your interests and passions. It is also crucial to maintain a positive mindset and optimistic mood.

Set yourself small goals and achieve them gradually. This will make you feel more accomplished and confident. Everyone's growth and change is a gradual process. Everyone is like a flower, with their own blooming season. Don't rush for results.

Managing interpersonal relationships is a challenge, but it is possible.

Handling interpersonal relationships while focusing on oneself is challenging. If you want to ensure you focus on certain aspects of your relationships, set boundaries.

Set aside time and space for self-improvement. During these periods, focus on yourself, not on others.

The questioner should also communicate with friends and family to let them understand their needs and schedule. This will gain their understanding and support.

You must believe that you have the ability to overcome any difficulties you encounter. Maintain a positive attitude and keep trying, and you will find your own sense of ease and balance.

If you need further help and support, you should seek professional psychological counseling or guidance. Everyone has their own rhythm and lifestyle, and you must find a way that suits you.

You should absolutely change and ask for help.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

I recommend the following books:

"Principles" is a must-read for anyone looking to gain insight on how to achieve success. Ray Dalio, a renowned investor and business leader, shares his experiences and principles in this book, which is a must-read for anyone looking to gain insight on how to achieve success.

"Meditations" is a philosophical work by the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius, which records his personal reflections and life wisdom. It will help the questioner find inner peace and strength in the process of thinking about life and self-improvement.

"Please Stop Unproductive Efforts" is the definitive guide to effort. It outlines the optimal approach to discovering talent, improving abilities, choosing a platform, and returning to yourself. It provides practical methods and tools to help you find the right direction of effort and make your efforts fruitful.

"Learning to Ask Questions" is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to hone their critical thinking skills. It provides clear, practical guidance on how to express, think, judge, and solve problems in a rational, logical, and reasoned manner.

I totally get where you're coming from. It's really tough to face up to your inner struggles and confusion. So, I've put together a few suggestions for the questions you've asked:

I know it can be tough to face your inner struggles and confusion, but I'm here to help! For those random thoughts that pop up in your mind, I suggest trying some relaxation and meditation methods to relieve anxiety and restlessness. Through meditation, you can calm your thoughts and find inner balance and peace.

When you're feeling uneasy or anxious, it's good to find ways to relax. Try exercising, reading, or chatting with friends. Find something that works for you and helps you feel better.

It's a journey, not a destination. You'll gradually find your true self by exploring your interests and trying new things.

When it comes to relationships, try to be as open and communicative as you can. It's always a good idea to tell your friends about your feelings and confusions, and work with them to find solutions to problems. At the same time, remember to give yourself some privacy and time to maintain inner peace and focus.

Above all, believe in yourself! Even when things get tough, keep going with courage and the knowledge that you can find a way through and create a brighter future.