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My anxiety has extended to my sex life; how can I relax?

1. Anxiety management 2. Mindfulness meditation 3. Present moment living 4. Sexual health issues 5. Psychological pressure
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My anxiety has extended to my sex life; how can I relax? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

Every morning when I wake up, the first thought in my mind is how to stop thinking and coexist peacefully with anxiety and fear. While driving today, I suddenly wondered how to stop thinking and live in the present. Suddenly, I felt I was constantly thinking about how to live in the present, and I panicked, fearing I couldn't get out of it. After meeting my girlfriend, whether it was chatting or eating, I was in a state of panic, unsure of how to live well. When we returned to the hotel and had sex, I asked myself another question: Can I not even grasp the present in sexual activity, which should be a relaxing and enjoyable experience? During the process, my mind was filled with fear, and I finished quickly, starting and ending prematurely, which affected my premature ejaculation. Later, I adjusted my mindset and told myself to relax and let nature and instinct take over, trying again. But this time, my mind was still preoccupied, anxious, and my attention was on adjusting my mindset, resulting in premature ejaculation again. Now, I feel an immense psychological pressure; whenever something is happening, I have thoughts of adjustment and fear. What should I do? How can this pressure be on this part? It's destroyed my life; I can't even relax.

Erasmus Erasmus A total of 9212 people have been helped

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to inquire about a matter that requires your attention. Best regards, [Your name]

A sense of being overwhelmed by unmanageable thoughts, which leads to anxiety.

This anxiety has also resulted in panic attacks and sexual dysfunction.

This ultimately results in heightened anxiety levels.

I am unaware of your age. This state of mind, where the brain is unable to cease thinking,

Please advise as to the duration of this state of anxiety.

Please also indicate whether this has affected your work and sleep patterns.

From your overview of the material, it appears that the current anxiety is caused by

Two opposing forces, a compulsion and an opposite compulsion,

In summary, two opposing forces are at work, pulling in opposite directions.

This will only serve to exacerbate the situation.

What is the best way to break the pattern?

From the perspective of cognitive behavioral therapy,

First, you need to develop your ability to recognize and process emotions. When an idea arises,

Identify which thoughts may be influencing your emotions.

Please describe the emotional fluctuations in question.

Please describe the physical manifestations.

Which automatic thoughts should be identified as unreasonable beliefs? Are they based on unfounded assumptions or an overestimation of potential risks?

Through the use of substitution, debate, and cognitive reconstruction.

From a therapeutic perspective, psychoanalysis offers a valuable approach.

It would be advisable to consider consulting with a psychoanalyst, engaging in free association, or presenting your dreams to the analyst. By collecting subconscious material, you can gain insight into the factors in your early experiences that have contributed to your current situation. Please note that this process may require a significant investment of time.

This is referred to as "repairing the passageway."

It is essential to seek a psychiatric evaluation to determine if obsessive-compulsive disorder is a potential diagnosis. If so, consider pharmacological treatment in line with the recommended guidelines and then explore psychotherapy options.

The above analysis and suggestions are for reference only. Should you require further assistance, please do not hesitate to send a private message.

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Chang Davis Industrious people are the builders of the future.

I understand how overwhelming and distressing this all must feel for you. It seems like the more you try to control your thoughts, the more they spiral. Maybe acknowledging that it's okay to have these feelings without needing to fix them right away could help. Just letting those thoughts be there without judgment might ease the pressure you're putting on yourself.

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Joanne Thomas A teacher's understanding of students' needs is the foundation of effective teaching.

Sometimes when we're caught up in our heads like this, grounding techniques can be helpful. Try focusing on your senses what you can see, hear, touch, smell, and taste. This can pull you back into the present moment without having to force it. With practice, it might become easier to stay present during intimate moments with your girlfriend too.

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Kit Anderson Time is a tapestry of hopes and fears, intertwined.

It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden of selfcriticism and fear. Perhaps reaching out to a mental health professional could provide some relief. They can offer strategies tailored to your situation that might help you manage anxiety and enjoy life and relationships more fully. Therapy can be a safe space to explore these issues without judgment.

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