My attention can't help but be drawn to my boyfriend. How can I get rid of it?

My dear, it can be really tough to find the perfect marriage partner. From what you've told me, it seems like you feel like the other person doesn't care about you that much, and you're also not sure if your relationship is going to work out. You're feeling torn between sticking it out or lowering your expectations. Let's work through this together and see if we can figure it out!

1. If you met your spouse through a matchmaking service, you already know the basic family situation, but it's always a good idea to get to know each other better in terms of personality and character.

2. What kind of marriage do you want? Marriage and love are often two different things, so when you think your relationship is bad, you might be confusing your marriage partner with your romantic partner.

Some folks might say, "Isn't that the same thing?" But it's not always the case. A great romantic partner might not be the best fit for marriage, and a good marriage doesn't always start with love.

Some people are lucky enough to have happy marriages for the rest of their lives. For her, it's not about love, but about family affection. I think it's important to figure out what you want. Do you want a romantic partner, or do you want a marriage partner?

3. I think it would be really helpful for you both to have an honest conversation about this and try to understand each other's perspectives. Whether you see it as indifference or a bad relationship, it's important to remember that you're in this together. If you both feel the relationship is bad, it might be time to rethink things. Getting married and starting a family and spending your lives together is a huge step, and it's natural to have different expectations. While material conditions are important, they're not the only thing that determines a happy marriage.

So, if you communicate and you just have different opinions about one thing, then adjust together. For example, on Valentine's Day, he may think that it's enough to spend the day together and give each other a present. Some men may even think that there is nothing to celebrate on this holiday.

But that doesn't stop him from being a wonderful, responsible man in marriage!

4. Once you've sorted out what you want in a relationship and what you want in marriage, distinguished the two, understood your differences, and considered the possibility of adjustment, you'll be ready to make your own decision. I truly hope you find happiness and that I've been able to help in some way.

Hello!

From your words, I can sense a certain uncertainty in the face of your newly established love. It seems that you are paying attention to the other person, but it appears that you haven't received the response you were hoping for. Rationally, you feel that the other person is your ideal partner, but you also seem to feel a certain discomfort with your attention to the other person. It's understandable that you're unsure of what to do.

From my perspective, it seems as though you may be experiencing some uncertainty in your approach to love.

Love is a beautiful thing, and human love has commonalities. The love theory proposed by American psychologist Sternberg believes that love consists of three basic components: passion, intimacy, and commitment.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider your current situation from these three perspectives.

First of all, there is passion, the sexual component of love, and an emotional fascination. I believe you were able to establish a relationship, and he is still attractive to you, isn't he?

It's natural to focus on your boyfriend when you're first starting to love someone. It's a beautiful thing. It's likely that your boyfriend feels the same way and thinks of you from time to time. However, you say you feel bad about it. Why is that?

Could it be that you're still getting to know this kind of emotion, and it's making you feel a bit uncertain about how it'll affect you?

The second is intimacy, which refers to the warm experience that can be aroused in a romantic relationship. You mentioned that you feel that the care the other person gives you is not quite enough, which suggests that this sense of intimacy may not yet be fully established.

It might be helpful to remember that intimacy takes time to cultivate. It can be beneficial to express your needs directly, as men and women often have different perspectives and may not always understand subtle expressions. Given that you've just established a relationship, it's important to work together to build intimacy.

Once more, commitment can be defined as a decision, expectation, or guarantee to maintain a relationship. External conditions, such as work, family, income, education, and so on, can also be considered within the scope of commitment.

Perhaps the ideal marriage partner the other person is currently encountering would be best described as this.

Given the lack of specificity in your situation and the possibility that the above analysis may not be entirely comprehensive or applicable, I encourage you to reflect on your own feelings and consider whether this approach resonates with you. I hope that the above analysis can serve as a starting point for your own reflection and analysis, allowing you to gain a deeper understanding of your heart's desire and make a decision that aligns with your personal values.