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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'll give you a big, warm hug from afar first!
You can feel your boyfriend's attitude, which makes you feel neglected, unloved, inconsiderate, and misunderstood. But you can also feel his attitude when he's being considerate, loving, and thoughtful!
From your description, it's clear that it's not your boyfriend's words or actions that hurt you. It's the emotional experience you have when you interpret his words and actions that makes you feel uncomfortable. What do you think?
When your boyfriend doesn't respond to your needs and expectations, you have the power to take control! You can express your feelings and expectations in a clear and confident way. This will ensure that your needs are met and that your boyfriend feels a sense of accomplishment. He'll be motivated to continue meeting your needs because he'll feel needed, affirmed, and encouraged.
Now, here's an exciting challenge for you! Try to be aware of what you are afraid of and what you are worried about behind your choice to suppress and hide your true inner needs and feelings. For example, what does it mean to you to be afraid of being rejected, of being disliked, of being rejected?
It means that you are unloved, and you cannot accept such a self. But here's the good news! When you are not aware of this part, you will unintentionally project the emotions of not accepting your inner self onto your boyfriend, thinking that he will not accept such a self either.
So, it's really important for you to try to learn to accept yourself better and cultivate self-confidence! You can do this by making a list of your self-acceptance strengths. This will help you to see both your shortcomings and your many bright spots and advantages. And there's another way to cultivate self-confidence: keep a gratitude journal! This will help you to feel a greater sense of self-worth.
I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!
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I can't help but feel a bit let down. I had hoped for some traditional treats for the festival, and instead got something entirely different. It's not that beef jerky is bad, but it just wasn't what I was expecting or wanting.
It's frustrating when communication doesn't go as planned. I specifically asked for certain items, yet they weren't brought. I guess there were misunderstandings, and now I'm left feeling disappointed and too tired to even address it properly.
Sometimes expectations create a heavy cloud over everything. My heart sank when he showed up with corn instead of the meat zongzi I wanted. It's hard to enjoy the moment when things don't align with what you've envisioned. Now here we are, in our own little worlds, barely interacting.
Why is it so difficult to convey simple requests? He seems oblivious to my disappointment. Instead of discussing it, we're both distracted by our phones. I wonder if he realizes how I feel. This silence between us feels like an unspoken acknowledgment of a disconnect.
Feeling so drained, all I wanted was a thoughtful gesture for the holiday. The mismatched gifts only emphasized the gap in our understanding. Sitting here, crying silently, I wish we could have bridged that gap somehow, but instead, we ended up drifting further apart.