My child got hurt. I'm not a very good mother, am I? I'm afraid I can't protect him.

Hello, I'm Yijia Peng, a student. Let me give you a hug. Let's communicate with each other.

After your child was hurt, you checked his wound right away, gave him a hug and some TLC, and he accepted your care and kept on with his daily exercise routine afterwards. This also shows how close you and your child are.

Later on in the question, you say that you're afraid of this dangerous world and that you don't feel like a good mother. But from what you said above about your love for your child, you are a good mother.

It's natural to feel self-blame and doubt your ability to do a good job when you have a strong attachment with your child. It's normal to want to provide them with immediate care, but we're all imperfect, and we'll make mistakes. We'll also hurt our children sometimes because we're not paying attention. We'll blame ourselves, but it's important to remember that being a parent is a learning process. You're not a perfect parent, but you're doing a 60-point parent. If your child is hurt and you're not around, and you realize it after a while, just give your child love and care again. Let your child know that although you're late, you love her.

Try to be more accepting of yourself. Accept that there are things you haven't done well, and don't be too hard on yourself.

One day, your child will leave your protection to seek a better world, and at that time, they may have to face separation anxiety. So, you might as well accept yourself more and pay more attention to your feelings. When your heart is strong, your child will grow up better. You can also communicate more with your child and listen to their inner feelings.

You can also talk to your child about how you're feeling, and they might have a different perspective.

I hope these suggestions are helpful. Best wishes!

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to inquire about the possibility of providing additional support to the original poster. Kind regards, [Name]

My name is Kelly Shui.

[My child was injured. I am unsure if I am an appropriate caregiver, and I am concerned about my ability to protect him.]

After reviewing the original poster's message, it is evident that you have a strong bond with your child and a genuine desire to provide them with the best care. However, I empathize with your feelings of helplessness.

[Regarding growth]

The original poster's text also demonstrates a warm and caring approach.

After dinner, the mother read a book to her child on the sofa. After a period of time, the mother indicated that she was tired and desired to rest.

I would like to inquire as to whether there is another family member who can assist with the continued education of the children when the mother is fatigued after a demanding day and desires rest.

Furthermore, I am curious as to how she would prioritize self-care amidst her demanding schedule.

It may be helpful to consider asking another family member to assist with childcare or household tasks.

I have also experienced this process myself. At that time, I basically assumed responsibility for the children's care, reasoning that my husband had a more challenging role because he had to go to work, and that I should take on more.

It has been demonstrated that maternal strength is not as robust as commonly assumed. Post-partum, mothers require care and support, whether from their families or from themselves.

I would like to share a story with you.

My colleague, a designer, opted to remain at home to care for her child following the birth. During this period, her mother-in-law and husband both expressed the view that she was of no value. As a result, she developed a number of grievances and was accustomed to being blamed and criticized by her family for her role in caring for her child.

Subsequently, another associate of ours espoused the view that mothers who remain at home to care for their children are highly commendable. However, if they engage the services of an au pair or other individual to attend to the children, they would be required to offer a competitive remuneration package.

She advised her best friend and mother-in-law to discuss with her husband the possibility of her continuing to work while he assumed responsibility for childcare, including hiring an au pair.

At this juncture, her mother-in-law and husband recognized the value of their wife and understood that an aunt could never fully replace a mother. Consequently, they ceased making disparaging remarks about her.

My friend's approach also evolved. She attended classes for two days a week, and in the evenings, she either requested her husband's or her mother-in-law's assistance with childcare.

During her absence, her husband gained a deeper appreciation for the challenges associated with child-rearing.

This case study demonstrates the necessity for both the husband and wife to be involved in raising children within the family unit.

The growth of parents represents the most valuable gift for their children. The arrival of children also provides an opportunity for new parents to learn how to adapt their interactions within the family unit.

[Self-care]

It is understandable to experience a degree of distress when you see your child after a loud noise and observe a bump and a few drops of blood. Have you recovered from your ordeal?

At this juncture, I would like to inquire as to whether there were other individuals present in the family at the time.

Please advise if anyone came to offer their support at the earliest opportunity.

Furthermore, I commend you for promptly addressing the wound in a composed manner and for maintaining discretion in front of your child. You demonstrated careful treatment of the wound and attentive observation of his condition.

Furthermore, your child is less distressed by the injury, and you have completed and adhered to your daily exercise regimen.

We also recognize the significant contributions of mothers. Despite the challenges, we are all ordinary individuals. When we admire and appreciate our children, it is also important to recognize and accept our own fears and acknowledge that mothers are often concerned about the dangers in the world and the potential for harm to their children.

It is important to note that these emotions are normal. When a child is hurt, it can also trigger feelings of "weakness" in oneself. In times of uncertainty, in times of illness, and in the world of nature, it is crucial to recognize that we are all individuals facing similar challenges, including those related to birth, aging, sickness, and death.

It is also an opportune time to examine your own feelings and needs, and to identify the underlying emotions that are causing you to feel afraid.

If everyone believes they are a good mother, I believe that would be unusual.

As new mothers, it is natural to experience feelings of inadequacy when confronted with our own limitations. However, this can also serve as a catalyst for personal growth, self-discovery, and the opportunity to evolve alongside our children.

At each stage of the process, it is important to identify the issue and accept the situation. It is essential to recognize that being a "good mother" is not a fixed attribute and that it is acceptable to make mistakes and to have limitations in one's abilities. At this juncture, it is valuable to reflect on these aspects.

Please identify which family members you would like to invite to provide assistance.

Should you require further assistance, please do not hesitate to inquire further via this platform.

We recommend the following books: "The Power of Self-Care," "Fearless Anxiety," "You Are Your Child's Best Family," and "The World Is Worth Living In."

It's possible that the questioner may be experiencing feelings of suffocation, guilt, self-blame, and fear. It's understandable if the questioner feels that she could have taken better care of and protected the child, leading to the child's injury. It's natural to have these feelings and thoughts when we believe that our actions may have caused harm to our children. However, if the questioner can take a moment to calm down and think carefully, she may realize that things are not as she thinks.

First of all, it is important to remember that children, especially boys, have a natural inclination towards play and exploration. This is not something that can be easily influenced by personal will. It is not that parents do not want their children to move around; it is simply part of their nature and part of their growth as they explore and learn about the world.

If you move around quickly, you may accidentally bump into things from time to time. It is normal for children to get hurt and bleed a little, and only after they have experienced it themselves will they realize that it is dangerous. However, there is one thing that I believe the questioner should consider: when the questioner suppresses their inner anxiety, worry, and fear when the child is hurt, it may hinder the child's understanding of this kind of behavior.

It would be beneficial for the parent to remain calm and stable in order to reassure the child that although it may hurt a little, it is not dangerous and that it can be done again in the future. This aspect may require some reflection and attention from the parent.

Secondly, as the questioner mentioned, the questioner feels tired and needs to rest before letting the child play on his own. It's important to note that the questioner did not intentionally neglect the child's needs, and the child bumping his head was simply an unfortunate accident. Therefore, it's understandable if the questioner feels a bit guilty or blames herself. The fact that the questioner can take the child to read a book shows that the questioner is very attentive when taking the child out and is a good mother who is doing her best!

Perhaps the most appropriate way to protect children is not for parents to be by their children's sides at all times, fully engaged in looking after them. This approach may not only make the children feel bad, but also tire the parents out over time. It may be more beneficial to teach children to be able to identify and avoid risks. With a sense of risk in their minds, children will know what not to do, what will happen if they do, and what harm it will bring to themselves. Even if parents are not around to look after them, children will be able to learn to take care of and protect themselves.

It would be helpful for the questioner to understand that their inner fear and the child's future are two separate things, and to keep them separate. It's important to remember that the two things cannot be linked together. It's not necessarily the case that if the questioner is afraid now, the child will or will not be able to protect itself in the future. How the parents teach the child and the child's own development in the future will play a role in this.

Everyone has a self-protection mechanism inside that protects their body and mind. It will kick in when they encounter certain dangers. For example, when walking on the street and seeing a car speeding towards you on the opposite side of the road, you will instinctively dodge to the side without thinking. This is the self-protection mechanism at work. At the same time, it might be helpful for the question asker to be aware of their inner fear and self-blame for their strict demands for perfection. This is also an issue that could benefit from the question asker's attention.

It might be helpful to consider finding a counselor to work through some of the emotional issues you're facing. This could make it easier to take care of the children. These are just my personal opinions, but I hope they're useful for you to think about.

Good day.

Given the age of the child in question, the bond between mother and child is particularly strong. The mother's words reflect her deep concern for her child.

Mothers are distressed when their children are hurt, even if the injury is minor. Children are a mother's primary focus, and it is natural to feel distress when they are hurt.

As a fellow mother, I can empathize with the feelings of guilt that mothers experience when their children are hurt.

You feel particularly responsible for the child's injury. Given your love for your child, this is an understandable reaction.

I extend my support and encouragement to you from a distance, with the hope that you can draw strength from it.

As mothers, our primary objective is to ensure our children grow up safe and healthy. However, we are not superhuman and are subject to the same limitations as any other individual.

It is not possible to guarantee the safety of children at all times. It is important to recognise that nobody is perfect and that there will be occasions when it is not possible to do everything that could be done to protect a child.

When you heard a loud noise and your child was crying hysterically, you were undoubtedly concerned. You maintained your composure and did not display any panic.

If you had reacted with panic, your child would have been frightened. Your ability to remain calm has taught your child to do the same in emergencies.

The wound was treated effectively, and it was determined that apart from a minor superficial injury, there were no further issues. The child's condition was found to be satisfactory. The child expressed a desire for daily exercise, which the mother supported.

You have done an excellent job. You are undoubtedly an 80-point mother.

If we were to adopt a strategy of complete protection for our children, would they be able to develop a sense of security and autonomy? The answer is clearly no. They would lack the awareness of safety that is essential for navigating the world.

No amount of education can replace a personal experience. This instance will provide him with the opportunity to learn that continuing to jump on the sofa may result in contact with the wooden handrail.

In the future, should you jump, what steps should you take to ensure your safety? Avoid unsafe behaviors and so on, so that you can develop a sense of safety.

This is how a sense of human security is cultivated gradually.

After a busy day, you are understandably fatigued. In that exhausted state, you want to protect your child, but your body is so tired that it can no longer follow instructions and cannot continue to pay full attention.

Please do not continue to blame yourself. The incident was not your fault.

You have handled the situation extremely well, and I admire your ability to respond effectively in a challenging situation. You are a highly competent mother, but being overly accommodating could potentially lead to the child becoming overly dependent on you, which might not be beneficial in the long run.

Furthermore, you have also demonstrated effective techniques for addressing minor skin injuries and maintaining composure in emergency situations.

Please do not blame yourself or experience negative emotions. You are an effective mother, and you have already demonstrated this. It is also important to prioritize self-care and self-love, as this enables you to provide the best possible care for your child.

It is important to prioritize self-care to ensure you have the necessary energy to provide for your child. It is not realistic to expect to be a perfect mother. Having one parent who is overly protective can hinder a child's growth and development.

An 80-point mother is an optimal level of care.

The world and I appreciate your contributions, and I encourage you to embrace self-love.

If a mother is considered a bad mother if her child gets hurt, then no child in the world has never been hurt, so there are no good mothers? This argument is clearly flawed.

Mothers naturally love their children and always want to give them the most comprehensive protection, so it seems that every injury is always their fault. In fact, this is also true. Children cannot protect themselves completely, so self-blame and guilt are inevitable.

Injuries are an inevitable or even necessary occurrence. The question is how to deal with them and how to distinguish between them. It is not realistic to assume that they can be completely prevented, nor is it helpful to fear the dangerous world.

A stay-at-home mother cannot protect her child 24 hours a day. Accidents happen when you least expect them, like when you answer the phone, reach for something, or even for a split second when your attention is diverted.

It is important to distinguish between types of danger, such as falling over when learning to walk or getting a hand caught in something when doing crafts. These are the price children must pay as they grow and learn, and there is no need to fear them. Parents cannot be close at hand to protect their children at all times, and their energy is limited. They must pay more attention to the observation and prevention of serious consequences and injuries, and some minor possible injuries are inevitable and need to be tolerated. Children must learn to establish their own world view and develop an intuitive, instinctive sense of danger and judgment. This ability is irreplaceable by maternal love.

If you protect your child too much, they will inevitably lack the ability to protect themselves.

Let's be real, if you're letting your kid walk on a tiled floor while learning to walk and giving them sharp scissors while doing arts and crafts, you might be going a bit too far. Unless you can handle the sight of a bleeding hand or a broken head,

Furthermore, parents must ensure their children do not run in the street or climb on balconies without protection. If an accident occurs, it is simply not an acceptable risk for parents to take. Parents must therefore be aware of potential dangers and take appropriate measures to prevent them. This requires clear and detailed communication with children about the risks they face. Failure to do so is negligence and a failure as parents.

Therefore, parents cannot be completely protected from injury. The responsibility of parents is not to ensure the complete safety of their children. It is to prevent them from being injured in the process of growing up in a way that neither they nor their parents can bear. As for the specific standards and extent, there are no strict regulations. It all depends on the parents' individual definitions.

You have every right to feel heartbroken and to blame yourself. However, you are not a bad mother. That is an unfair and unhelpful way of thinking. Children are learning and growing up in a dangerous world. Parents don't need to remove every obstacle from their path. They just need to be careful to remind them and prevent them from walking to the edge of a cliff.

I wish you happiness.

Great job, topic author! Be grateful for the experience.

After reading your description, I can sense your inner panic, fear, worry, and these concerns. I'm here to support you. Let's talk about this together.

1. Seeing your emotions

You said your child hit his head on the wooden armrest of the sofa. You held him and checked his wound, which was still bleeding a bit. You were scared. After he fell asleep, you were still scared. As a mother, I've been there. You'll panic, be afraid, be nervous, and even feel some self-blame. You'll have other worries, too. These are all normal reactions to this sudden event.

Take note of these emotions and the thoughts and concerns behind them. Write them down and you'll see that thoughts aren't always facts and don't have to happen.

These thoughts can really take over your mind and make you feel insecure, which can make you feel scared.

When you recognize these emotions, you can create some distance between yourself and them. This helps them lose their power over you.

2. Accept the facts.

The child has already hit it, and you can see a few drops of blood, so you must be very distressed. You're also probably worrying about hitting your child's head, and you may have heard some reports of children being seriously injured. When you're observing your child's condition, your heart is initially full of fear, and all kinds of worries and fears will make a lot of bad thoughts come up, making you more and more afraid, right?

It's important to accept that it has happened. We can't undo what's done, but we can focus on what we can do now to make sure it doesn't happen again. Instead of worrying about what might happen in the future, we should focus on the present and take action. For example, we should disinfect the wound and keep a close eye on the child's condition.

You can also let your child talk about how he feels about the incident, or give him more comfort and companionship, so that he feels less insecure after this kind of shocking event.

You did a great job of keeping your cool in the face of a challenging situation. It's important to take care of yourself, even when you're feeling overwhelmed. You can also talk to your child about the situation. Let them know that there are some risks associated with their behavior and that you're concerned about their safety.

It's possible that children will become more cautious in the future.

3. Being a Qualified Mother

It's not that if we don't keep our kids safe, we're bad mothers. But we can't predict what'll happen to them, and we can't protect them from everything.

It's inevitable that we'll all make mistakes as parents. The key is to not try to protect our kids from every single risk.

Instead, we need to teach our kids how to spot danger, steer clear of it, reduce the risk of harm if they do get into trouble, and deal with it, respond to it, and resolve it when it happens. This is what a mother should teach her children, and these methods of education also require children to gradually learn through experience and draw lessons.

As the saying goes, "you learn from your mistakes." This is exactly what happens. We don't like to admit it, but these unexpected events seem to have only bad consequences. In fact, these minor shocking events help us to be more vigilant, help us to learn from our experiences, and help us to grow.

Don't be too hard on yourself to be a perfect mother. We just need to be a competent, 60-point mother. After all, we can protect our children for a while and take care of them for a while, but we can't take care of them for the rest of their lives. They need to walk their own paths in the future, identify risks on their own, learn from their own experiences, and learn to protect themselves.

I hope this helps. Best of luck!

You are a great mother. You have gone through a lot to have your child. This shows that you are the best mother.

We should be calm when children get hurt. They will experience many collisions along the way.

We feel sad when our children get hurt, but we have to trust them and believe they will grow up strong. Worrying is a curse, but trusting our children makes them strong.

Our bodies are designed to heal. When children are young, their qi and blood are abundant, so they can heal quickly. The palms of our hands have healing properties. The first thing to do when you get hurt is to cover the injured area with your hands.

When you have pain, you cover it with your hand. That's the right thing to do.

Saliva is similar to blood. You can use it to treat wounds.

If a child is hurt, don't make a fuss. Comfort them, listen to them, and help them heal. After they calm down, tell them it's okay and the wound will heal.

Don't do dangerous things in the future. When they grow up, they can climb in these places. Don't do dangerous things in places they can't climb because falling hurts.

Often, we treat our children like gods. How can a child deserve such care?

He has not contributed to society, so he does not deserve such treatment. Overindulging children is not love; it is wasting their blessings.

I hope you can accept yourself. Why do you put yourself down?

Your greatest identity is yourself. As long as you eat well and sleep well, you are responsible for yourself.

Just be in the moment.

Enjoy the taste of the rice. When you take care of yourself, you can take care of others.

Do the things you like. You can raise children and pursue your interests.

Dear Landlord, I hope this message finds you well. I came across your description and empathize with your current state of mind. I sincerely hope that my input will be of some assistance to you. Best regards, [Your name]

As parents, our objective is to ensure our children grow up healthy and free from illness. To this end, we exercise great care when taking care of our children.

There is a concern that the child may bump into something.

As you outlined in the article, the child was engaged in play and jumping around, which resulted in an unintentional fall.

When we observe a child in a state of distress, we experience a complex emotional response, oscillating between feelings of self-reproach and regret.

I am left to question why I allowed my child to bump into something while I was in a position of responsibility for their care.

As a result, they are all distressed, blaming themselves for not doing things better.

It is important to note that accidents are an inevitable part of childhood.

The objective is to avoid injury during the next play session.

It is not always necessary to provide a detailed explanation. However, as a mother, it is important to guide the child and identify which actions are dangerous and which should be avoided.

It is often necessary for parents to take their children with them when identifying potential dangers and inappropriate behavior.

This is the scope of responsibilities for a qualified parent.

Please consider the following points.