My child is about to be a senior in high school, and since the second semester of his sophomore year, he has become less and less interested in his studies. What should I do?

Hello, question asker!

It's totally normal for parents to feel anxious about their child's lack of interest in studying as they enter their senior year of high school. The first thing to remember is not to label your child. It's so important to avoid thinking things like, "Is there something wrong with him?" When we approach our child's problems with such thoughts, it can really hold us back.

I'm not sure how you define "being interested in learning." Does he usually finish his homework on time?

Does he always do his homework and read books? If so, why is he so interested in playing with his phone and watching TV?

I'm wondering if there's something on his phone or TV that he finds interesting. Have you ever thought about what he watches on his phone or TV?

I'd love to know why he's interested in these things!

From what you've told me, it seems that after watching some news online during the second semester of elementary school, you became worried that someone might poison him, and that outside food isn't safe. I think it might be that you're protecting him a bit too much, but that's totally normal!

There's really nothing complicated in his world, and the sudden exposure to these things has had a huge impact on him. His previous perceptions have been impacted, poor guy!

It's so great to see that he's doing better now! It just goes to show that with a little bit of parental persuasion, his cognition is being re-established, which is really wonderful.

It's possible that he's not uninterested in learning, but rather has a lot on his mind right now. It's totally normal for kids to be interested in different things at different times. The internet is a great way to learn about new things, and he's probably just eager to learn more.

It's so important for parents to understand what their child is curious about. If we can satisfy their curiosity, they'll be more interested in learning again.

Have you ever thought about how curious children are about the world around them? They're always exploring and asking questions, and it's not really a form of independent learning.

He'll be starting his third year of high school soon, and it's a big step! Both school and family see this as an important time in his life, which can naturally lead to some stress.

He's under a lot of pressure at school, and playing with his phone and watching TV at home might be his way of releasing some of that stress. How much do you know about your child's schoolwork?

And there are so many other things to think about too, like how he gets along with his classmates and what he thinks of the substitute teacher. There are lots of different things that can affect how interested a child is in learning.

I'm just wondering if there's another situation where you might not have paid enough attention to your child. Could be that he's using this method to attract the attention of his parents?

In a nutshell, we just need to figure out what's really going on with our little one.

I really hope my answer is helpful!

I just wanted to say congratulations!

Hello, question owner. From what you've said, it seems like you're really concerned about your child's learning and mental health. He's about to start his senior year of high school, which is a big transition. But it seems like he's not at all focused on his studies, which is causing you a lot of worry.

My child is about to enter his third year of high school, and his grades are average. Since the second semester of his second year, he has been worried about someone poisoning his food after reading the news online, and he is worried about the hygiene of food outside. After repeated persuasion and guidance from his parents, he has improved somewhat, but recently I feel that he has no interest in studying. He tries every means to play with his phone and watch TV. During the holidays, he can't even finish his homework on time. What should parents do? Has my child developed psychological problems?

(1) Has the child experienced any unsafe events during his upbringing? Or did he lack parental companionship during his early childhood?

Or maybe you don't have as much time to take care of him because you're busy at work? It might help to take a moment to think about it and slowly understand your child's current behavior and what his needs are.

I think that will be more effective than your persuasion. For example, if the child is worried about being poisoned, it's probably because they lack security. It might also be that it's triggered some emotional feelings from the past. After all, you're the one asking for help, not the child himself. So you need to observe the child's behavior and needs more. If the parent listens to him quietly and understands his feelings, and if he needs it, the parent can silently accompany him. I think this is what he needs.

(2) Lately, my kid has lost interest in studying. He plays with his phone, watches TV, and doesn't do his homework. It seems like your child has transferred his previous insecurity to studying. The root of the conflict hasn't been resolved, and he's also very confused. It's like transferring previous concerns to watching mobile phones and watching TV. Then, when faced with studying, he can escape first. We need to see if the child feels that the pressure of senior year is too great and that he can't bear it. Does he need to rely on external forces to slow down a bit?

Or is the child just not ready to face it? Given the limited information, I can only offer some food for thought. How you communicate with your child is key.

(3) Parents need to know what their boundaries are and what they need to do, and what their kids need to do. Parents should just do their part as parents, and let their kids take back some of the control, especially when it comes to learning. Maybe the kid just needs a break? Parents need to adjust their mindset and let go, allowing their kids to find their own way.

When he has a clear goal and isn't trying to live up to his parents' expectations, he'll do better.

(4) If the host's communication with the child isn't working, it's a good idea for the host to find a professional counselor to talk with the child one-on-one. That'll be more effective.

(5) If possible, parents can encourage their children to exercise more, go for a run, and take a step back to slow down their thinking processes.

I hope this helps!

Hello!

Feel your anxiety, your worries, and the panic that comes with them. It's totally normal!

First, parents have the amazing opportunity to shape their children's thinking patterns as they grow up.

It's so important to be careful about the thoughts we have. Especially the thought, "Is there something wrong with my child?" We need to slow down and think about whether this kind of thinking is fair to our children.

He's on the brink of entering his senior year of high school, which is an amazing milestone! While it's true that studying can be challenging, it's also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Instead of spending every waking moment glued to their mobile phone or TV, it's time to embrace the joy of learning. Homework can be completed in a fun and engaging way, and it's an excellent chance to develop time management skills.

This makes you think, "Wow, he's really exploring his interests!" It's totally normal for kids to want to relax sometimes. And it's great that he's doing something he enjoys! It's also interesting to consider why other kids who are doing well in school work hard and get good exam results.

You used the expression "do everything you can," as if you had a judge inside you, ready to support him in his journey.

Now, let's try to transfer this image to praying. If you strike a bell with a small amount of force, it will ring, but the sound will be relatively light. Strike it with a lot of force, and the sound will resound!

And don't forget to distinguish between the two!

Children feel the strength of the person exerting the force, but they have difficulty expressing their feelings. For example, they may talk to you about how stressed they are and feel that they owe you their wholehearted attention and care. That is why they create some movement that goes against your wishes and expectations—it's their way of seeking attention and care!

In physics, there is a force and an opposing force. Either there is a war of words (with the effect of resounding throughout the four directions mentioned above) – this will definitely make you feel how he has become like this, disobedient and with a grumpier temper; or he will learn to release the force in other directions. Either way, there are so many possibilities!

Your child is not "having psychological problems." It's time to break away from your old way of thinking! He needs to breathe, and he needs to have his own independence. When you support his decisions, he will feel respected as a human being!

Please be careful: Don't mention your concerns about "mental problems" to your friends or neighbors. It's so important to be aware of how our words can affect others. Once a biased definition is spread, it can harm your child more than you can imagine. Let's be mindful of how we speak!

It's time to expand your own circle of communication!

In the movie "A Few Good Men," the amazing Mrs. Anne takes care of the incredible Michael, who is about to turn 18, and discovers that he has a strong talent for playing rugby. This is a huge advantage for him to attend a well-known university while receiving a scholarship!

However, Ms. Annie, her husband, and the tutor they found for Michael all came from the University of Mississippi. When Michael was finally invited by several well-known universities and chose the University of Mississippi, the investigating team accused Ms. Annie of suspected manipulation of Michael.

At last, Mrs. Annie realized that she just needed to be open and honest about her college preferences in advance. This way, Michael could make the best, most informed choice possible, and everything would be clear.

It's your decision. It's your life. This sentence is so meaningful! Later, the misunderstanding between family members was also resolved, and Michael went to the University of Mississippi happily, winning the scholarship that symbolized his honor.

2. He is looking for opportunities to grow, and you can help him find them!

You have a firm grasp on your child's life outside your field of vision, which is great!

From your own perspective, there must be so much more to you than just your role as a mother (such as the incredible selflessness of mothers that is often mentioned in traditional culture).

A woman's flexibility and bravery in dealing with the outside world are absolutely amazing!

If you are willing to listen to your child and keep listening, you will be amazed at how wonderful he is! He may even surpass your generation, but that doesn't mean he doesn't know how to be grateful.

Children have a spirit, and the world is their oyster! In the family, the sea and the sky are the hearts of the mother and father.

Don't compare yourself with others. You've got this! Being overly concerned about saving face means you're not allowing failure.

But here's the good news: facing setbacks head-on is the only way to grow!

Children have taught their mothers a lesson, and their mothers are learning to face setbacks head-on, ushering in growth and aesthetic evolution!

They will surpass your generation for a very good reason! They have a relatively outstanding ability to awaken themselves and are more accepting of different opinions. And they have the ability to face setbacks at a more appropriate age!

May you forgive each other and embrace each other with love!

Hello!

Host:

I am Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I have read the post carefully, and I can feel from the content your worries about your child and your own anxiety.

I'm so excited to see you actively seeking help on the platform! This is a great way to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your child, which will help you make the best possible adjustments.

Now for the fun part! I'm going to share my observations and thoughts from the post, which I think will really help you see the situation in a whole new light.

1. Learn to listen!

In the post, the poster mentioned their child, feeling that the child has recently lost interest in learning and is doing everything they can to play with their phone and watch TV. During the holidays, they cannot complete their homework on time.

I totally get why the host is worried about her child. It's so important for parents to be involved in their kids' education!

So, let's dive in and see what we can do!

Then I think the host should definitely try to listen to the child, remain curious about the child, and respect the child as an independent individual. It would be so great for the host to explore what's going on with the child and what kind of thoughts they have!

The absolute best way to do this is to befriend your child and listen to them as a friend. This way, you are on the same level and your communication will be so much more effective!

Your child's education is related to your relationship with them. If your relationship is bad, your child is unlikely to listen to you, no matter what you say. It's like when a couple argues – can they listen and do as they're told? But here's the good news! You can work on your relationship with your child to improve your chances of getting them to listen to you.

It could be that it's more about confrontation. By listening to your child as a friend, you can gain a deeper understanding of your child's inner world!

2. Delve into your emotions!

The poster mentioned that recently, her child has shown a lack of interest in learning. This is something we can all relate to! It's so important to keep our kids engaged and interested in schoolwork. We can all agree that it's not easy to stay motivated when you're not interested in something. The poster also mentioned that her child struggles to finish his homework on time, even when he's at home during the holidays. This is something we can all relate to! We've all been there. It's not easy to stay focused when you're not interested in something.

So, let's dive in and explore together why we have these emotions!

On the one hand, they are worried about their children, but I think there may be other reasons. Here, I would love to discuss with you, the original poster, what it means to you that your child seems to be less interested in learning recently and can't finish their homework in time.

And that brings us to the big question: Why do they ask this question? Well, it's because many parents, as soon as they see that their children can't finish their homework in time and are not studying hard anymore,

They are just so eager for their children to succeed! They want them to get into a good university and find a good job. Some parents even feel that if their children don't study hard, it means that they haven't done a good enough job as parents, that they are worthless, and so on.

It's so important to remember that their anxiety might be putting unnecessary pressure on their children's studies.

It's important to remember that children are incredible learners. They often take on some of the pressure and anxiety that parents feel, which can make things a bit challenging for them. But it's also a time of great growth and opportunity for them to develop resilience and coping skills. When parents feel anxious, it's natural for children to feel it too. But when the pressure and anxiety are too great and exceed the student's ability to bear, this is when they may use other methods to relieve emotional stress. It's a chance for them to explore different ways of managing their emotions and developing their own unique coping strategies.

So, the original poster should take a good look at themselves and ask: are their emotions simply due to worry about their child? Or is it something else? If it is something else, then we also need to learn to adjust our emotions at this time, and if we can calm our minds, then we will also be helping our child learn!

3. Communication

We mentioned listening above, and it's a great place to start! Communication actually starts with listening, but we also need methods and techniques when communicating with our children. It has been observed in the post that your child is going through puberty, which is an exciting time! Children at this stage often have very distinctive characteristics. They will have their own opinions and ways of thinking, which is a great opportunity to learn more about them. So at this time, when communicating, we may have to give the child more respect, which is a wonderful way to show our love and appreciation for them!

And remember, even if the child's opinion is different from yours, don't completely deny them! Because denial may make communication ineffective or impossible to continue.

Children in this age group absolutely need to be respected! So when communicating, you may want to use some more appropriate communication methods, such as the communication skills in Nonviolent Communication.

I really think this will be of great help to you! I hope that this will be of some help and inspiration to you. If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one communication and exchange.

The year before senior year is a time for intense revision. It's worrying when you lose interest in learning at this time.

Your child has two main problems: safety concerns and a lack of interest in learning. The parents are worried that their child may have psychological problems.

First, there are concerns about safety. Are they just thoughts, or are there real dangers?

He worries about food poisoning and unsanitary food because of the news. Are these worries necessary? Have there been any unsafe incidents in real life that have caused him to worry?

How much do these worries affect daily life?

We can only know if these worries are necessary by looking at the situation. If they're affecting your life, you can get a professional diagnosis.

Ask your child why he's losing interest in learning.

Has he always been uninterested in learning, or has he suddenly become so in third grade?

Why is he uninterested in learning? Is it because high school is too fast for him?

He can't find a goal for his studies. He feels he's learned everything he needs to know and it's boring. Why practice? He also thinks about what he's learning and how it will help him in the future.

They think they can get a good job without studying.

We can help children who don't like learning by giving them space to express themselves and accept them. This will help them understand the value of learning and find reasons to study.

Let your child learn on their own.

If you see your child not studying, just watching TV and playing games, and start criticizing and educating them, it will only cause resentment. A senior high school student can already manage and plan their own studies. We only need to guide them so that they can learn proactively.

If you try to control a high school student too much, they will rebel and won't learn well.

Listen, understand, and guide.

Hello, my name is Xiaolan, but you can also call me Chenxi. I will analyze your situation and offer suggestions in my own way, with the hope of being of help to you.

From what you've shared, it seems like you might be a bit overprotective of your child.

It is natural to want to protect and care for your child, but this all-round protection and care may inadvertently cause your child to lack a sense of value.

Perhaps it could be said that your behavior has shaped him into a somewhat parasitic relationship.

From your description, it seems that you don't have many demands on your child. It's admirable that you hope he can study hard, get into a good university, and then get a good job in the future so that he can marry a wife.

In order to ensure he can continue living a carefree life in the future, a great deal of forward planning has already been done.

Do your best to provide him with the best service and help you can. However, if you give too much without asking for a corresponding reward or if you don't give him corresponding responsibilities, it might lead to a lack of motivation, a sense of responsibility, and a sense of worth.

It could be said that these actions are, in fact, communicating that everything done for him is to keep him alive. It may be the case that the core of all his values is simply to keep himself alive.

Or perhaps it would be more accurate to say that he is striving to live a comfortable life.

At this time, it seems that studying might not align with his core value system.

Perhaps it could be said that hard work is bound to be hard, and that his core value has already been formed, which is to live comfortably for himself. This may go against the definition of comfortable. It is possible that he will refuse to work hard and that he will refuse to make himself uncomfortable.

I would like to suggest that a person's value system, or the core of a person's value, is often shaped by their parents. When a person is not given a value system or core of value by their parents in their daily lives, they may seek to be given it by society.

In your case, you are fortunate to be in a position of relative wealth. It's understandable that your child's value system and core values are to live a comfortable life. Given these circumstances, it's not surprising that he may not be inclined to study hard or plan for the future.

With regard to future comfort and future life, he does not appear to have a particularly practical outlook. It seems that at this time, if someone is by your side saying that if you don't do scientific research or work hard now, ten years later, China will lag behind and will be attacked by Western powers, it is not necessarily easy to respond.

And they don't necessarily require you to work hard. How would you feel if you heard that?

You may have the impression that this person is a bit eccentric.

Perhaps because we did not experience that era, we did not feel the impact of being invaded by Western powers as keenly as others might have. Our greatest concern is that if we do not work hard, we may face difficulties in the future. Similarly, we hope that our children will work hard to avoid any similar difficulties.

It would seem that our generation of young people has not suffered or experienced any disadvantages. Indeed, if you were to tell them about the hardships and disadvantages they may face in the future, they would likely be unable to imagine it.

It's likely that in your generation, when you were hungry, you didn't have access to the same food options as we do today. In that context, it's understandable that everyone had a sense of mission: I want to eat well, I want to work hard, I want to work hard, I want to eat well, I want to let my family eat well. However, in this era, in our generation, it seems that children don't have the same sense of mission.

He has never experienced hardship or adversity, and therefore cannot fully comprehend the depth of suffering. In our era, we had the responsibility of developing and feeding our growing population. We had a strong sense of purpose and mission. In this era, it is crucial to instill this same sense of purpose and mission in the younger generation.

Rather than adding the mission of 20 years ago to our generation, it would be beneficial to clearly define the meaning of your hard work. The meaning of your hard work is no longer solely defined by the notion that if you don't work hard, you will suffer in the future and live a very poor and impoverished life.

If we do not work hard, we may find ourselves lacking the freedom we desire in the future. What are the greatest concerns of the children of our generation?

It could be said that, without freedom, what we are actually pursuing most at this time is freedom. It may be more effective to tell him that if he doesn't work hard, he will lose his freedom than to tell him that if he doesn't work hard, he will have a hard time in the future.

However, this is merely an individual value system. It would be beneficial to establish a value system for society and the country as well. If we establish a value system that belongs to the individual, it is possible that your future achievements may be 60 or 70 points.

If you would like your child to become a talented individual with a score of 90 or above, it would be beneficial to instill in them the value system of the country and society.

This society and this country could really benefit from your talents. In addition to their talents, top performers often have a sense of responsibility and mission for society and country.

In any field, you will find a truly top talent who will have this realization: this society cannot do without you, this country cannot do without you, and what I do can change China, change this society, and change all of humanity. It is a question worth asking whether ordinary people are really unable to shoulder a sense of responsibility and mission like this.

I respectfully disagree. However, during the early days of the People's Republic of China, when we were watching the war, everyone had this sense of mission, so everyone was fearless and willing to sacrifice their lives. The rise and fall of the country is the responsibility of every man.

It is said that our current living environment is peaceful and comfortable, and that it may not require too many people to sacrifice their lives. When we are unable to sacrifice our lives, it can be challenging to embrace a sense of sacrifice and glory.

In light of these circumstances, it is understandable that we might prioritize our personal values, particularly in terms of how we envision our own lives and the lives of our loved ones. However, it is also important to recognize that even in times of peace and comfort, there are still opportunities for meaningful and valuable actions.

I believe that we can achieve a harmonious, happy, and glorious China if we work together. Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone could live a good life and live in a country full of glory?

This kind of pride is not about claiming that we are the best in the world. It is not about arrogance or conceit.

It appears to suggest that there is a kind of "I am a good Chinese person" mentality. I will help every Chinese person become good.

Over the course of 5,000 years, Chinese history has instilled a profound sense of pride within us. However, in the aftermath of the challenges we faced during the period of foreign invasion, we experienced a period of rapid growth, which, in some instances, may have led to a slight disregard for our sense of pride.

I have always believed that our Chinese nation was victorious in the era when the great powers invaded China, which is a matter of great pride. Although it is a heavy burden, it is a matter of great pride for the Chinese nation.

He is extremely proud of this because, at that time, our economy and everything else were extremely backward. Despite this, the spirit and unity of the Chinese people did not give up, and ultimately we won.

Throughout the history of the world, it would be interesting to know how many countries and peoples have been able to triumph despite such huge differences. The inner flame still burns brightly.

The victory of the Chinese nation is not simply a victory of weapons or an economic victory. It is a victory of the Chinese nation.

However, over time, we have gradually shifted away from this sense of pride and instead focused on pursuing rapid development. This is not necessarily a bad thing, as different periods call for different approaches.

In our current era of peace, it is perhaps even more important to maintain a sense of pride. Without it, a nation may find it challenging to develop rapidly in times of peace, potentially leading to a gradual stagnation.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my hope that we can all pay attention to the pride that is part of our identity and to the sense of responsibility and value that is deep in our souls for society and our country. I believe that by doing so, we can become outstanding Chinese people.

Hello, question asker!

I see a young teenager running towards his ideal, with his parents nearby, cheering for him. He's fallen and can't run anymore, but he'll get up and try again!

Anxious parents have tried many ways, and now they're ready to try something new! Thank you for coming here and for trusting us.

The changes in your child began with worries about poisoning and unsanitary food. On the one hand, there is anxiety; on the other, there is fear. But don't worry! Your child needs to be seen, healed, and empowered. If the anxiety and fear involved are deeply suppressed, and even parents cannot perceive them, they may not be resolved through persuasion and explanation. But that's where professional help and empowerment come in!

If you compare your child to a Ferrari, and it can't run anymore, you have the power to make it run again! It's time to service your child and get them back on the road. Servicing is a technical job, and it's not just a matter of knocking on the car a few times to make it better. You need to check the fuel system, the power system, the power supply system, etc. Once you've fixed the car and refueled it, it'll be running as good as new!

That's why it's so important for us to understand the child's true potential so we can help them to achieve it!

Your child is about to enter their third year of high school and enter a very important stage of life. I can understand the heart of a parent who wants their child to succeed—and succeed they will!

Anxiety can arise from expectations and worries about your child's future, but you're not alone! All parents feel the same way, and you're in good company.

You have come here to seek help, which is a powerful and proactive parent, and I applaud you! Please also remember that your own anxiety may be contagious and affect your child, but you can help them through it.

A child's development is a wonderful journey that involves all aspects of the family, school, and society. To ensure your child is ready to soar in their senior year, it is recommended that you seek professional help in a timely manner.

One Psychology, World, and I love you!

I extend my sincerest regards to you in the form of a 360-degree embrace.

Parents desire their children to flourish and accomplish remarkable feats. When their children reach their senior year of high school, the majority of domestic responsibilities are superseded by the urgency of their college entrance exams. During this period, parents endeavor to provide their children with logistical assistance while also refraining from major decisions that could potentially impact their emotional well-being, such as the addition of a second child, the deterioration of a marital relationship, the illness of a family member, the loss of employment, and so forth.

In conclusion, the child's situation is optimal, and the key to success is simply to study diligently.

Nevertheless, children do not exist in isolation and are still affected by external factors. In your question, you only referenced the situation of your child and did not mention any other potential influences. It would be beneficial to understand whether there have been any significant events in your child's life that could have contributed to this situation.

Alternatively, parents may be attempting to conceal the issue, while the child is striving to feign ignorance. Nevertheless, children are inherently communicative, and they may manifest their perspectives through subtle indications.

It should be noted that the aforementioned negative points are merely speculations based on the numerous cases observed, heard about, or personally encountered.

In response to your inquiry, I am uncertain as to the precise meaning of the phrase "what to do." Does it pertain to the actions of the child, or to those of the parent?

Psychological theory posits that the decision to learn and the manner in which learning occurs are matters that pertain exclusively to the child. The child is thus tasked with navigating these issues independently.

Parents may experience a range of emotions and feelings of helplessness when it comes to their children's academic performance. These are issues that parents must navigate on their own.

The adage "mind your own business" is often disregarded when it comes to the affairs of others. However, for parents, it is often challenging to refrain from concern about their children's academic performance, particularly for high school students in their third year.

Despite the recognition that learning is a child's own responsibility, parents are often inclined to intervene. This is understandable, given that the college entrance exam will, to some extent, become a pivotal point in the child's life.

It is beneficial to note that the college entrance exam is still far away, as the summer vacation period is still in effect. It is recommended that a suggestion be considered.

First and foremost, it is imperative to communicate with your child in an honest and forthright manner. Explain your concerns to your child in a manner that demonstrates your understanding of their situation, based on your own experiences.

It is possible to inform the child that she is at liberty to disregard the advice given, but it is hoped that she will appreciate the underlying concerns, which are based on the parent's own experience of life. It may also be helpful to explain that the parent may feel that they are being excessively demanding and overreacting.

However, this is simply the reality of society.

It is important to note that parents should not demand that their children adhere to their every command. Rather, they should engage in open and honest communication with their children, sharing their thoughts, concerns, and expectations.

Subsequently, a mutually acceptable plan should be discussed with the child.

For example, a time limit should be set for studying each day, as well as for watching television and using the telephone.

Subsequently, it is imperative to adhere to the established plan. The designated period can be set for a week. During this period, it is crucial to extend unconditional trust to your child and refrain from intervening, even in instances where they do not adhere to the plan. After a week has elapsed, it is essential to convene again and conduct a comprehensive review of the situation.

One might suggest that a trial period of a week might prove beneficial. During this period, parents can address their own concerns and emotions, while their children focus on their studies.

Observe the outcome.

It is also possible to arrange for your child to speak with a counselor.

As a counselor, I recognize that my outlook is often pessimistic and occasionally optimistic. I hold a genuine affection for the world and its inhabitants.

Hello!

I'm thrilled to meet you and explore your confusion together! I'm eager to see if we can break this deadlock and find a solution.

I can see you're a little confused and concerned, and I'm right there with you! Your child is about to enter his senior year of high school and has reached an important turning point in his life. It's a great time for him to take on new challenges and explore new opportunities.

Let's take a look!

First, the child saw the news online and is always worried that someone will poison him and that the food outside is not hygienic. This reminds me of something really funny that happened to me.

When I was in junior high school, I was so excited to tell my classmates that I was brave and that they couldn't watch Sadako, but I could! So one weekend night, I finally watched it, starting at 11 pm.

For the whole of the following month and a half, I was afraid to go to the toilet at night for fear that Sadako would pop up from the toilet! I finally recovered, and now I think about it, it's really quite funny! I wonder where in the world Sadako is!

It may be that the visual stimulus was too strong at the time, but your child is already thinking along similar lines, which is great!

It's incredible how seeing the horrific poisoning scenes on the news or the disgusting gutter oil or takeaway processing videos creates a strong visual stimulus, leading to the belief that all outside food is unclean. But the real situation is not like this, which is great!

But you can't blame him for this! Everyone reacts in the same way. It's a normal reaction, a protective mechanism that helps us survive. It's not wrong, and you should be glad that he has this ability. You can deal with this situation in so many ways! Take him to look at model shops that are hygienically produced, or impart some knowledge about hygiene, spend more time with him, etc.

Now, let's talk about your child's studies. It's almost the third year of high school, and during the summer vacation, he doesn't do any homework and spends every day trying to find ways to look at his phone. You feel very anxious when you see this, but there's so much potential here!

I think it may be because the child, facing the upcoming life of his third year of high school, is feeling very anxious and wants to relieve this anxiety by playing with his phone and watching TV. Let's try asking the child how he feels about the upcoming life of his third year of high school and the college entrance exam, whether he feels nervous, and that his mother will stand by his side!

This is a great way to show your child that you understand him and help him think about what senior year means to him. Just as the great Yu diverted the floods, you can guide your child's anxious and nervous emotions out, let them speak, and then accompany him as he faces them.

I'm thrilled to tell you that running and exercise are both excellent for this!

I really hope my answer is helpful to you! Thanks so much for taking the time to read it.

Hello, question asker! From your description, I can see that you're really concerned about your child and his psychological state.

At first, the child was worried that someone would poison him, but after repeated persuasion, the situation eased. Now, he is faced with the constant temptation to check his phone, and he can't finish his homework in time – but that's OK!

Now, let's take a look at the environment that the child is about to face!

He has just entered his third year of high school and is starting the final year of preparation for the college entrance exam. This change is definitely stressful for the child, but it's also an exciting time!

When faced with pressure, children tend to withdraw. They feel that the food outside is not safe, that someone might poison it. But there's no need to worry! The safest place is right at home.

Once they've been persuaded to improve, they start again in a new way, playing with their phones or watching TV. They're just not wanting to study, but that's OK!

So, how should we respond to our child's withdrawal?

First, show your child you understand how they're feeling. It's so important to empathize with them and understand their stress. And don't forget to empathize with your child's withdrawal, too!

Be sure to encourage your child when they take the initiative to learn. Don't discourage or negate their efforts. Gradually, let your child focus on the present and stop worrying about academic pressure.

All we have to do is encourage hard work and not worry about the future. Let's give the child the chance to enjoy the third year of high school without stressing about it!

Second, if your child wants to watch their mobile phone or TV to relieve stress, it is totally okay to satisfy their needs! This is a way of relaxation that they have chosen for themselves, and we can accept it.

It's so important to let the child learn to manage his time, but then he should definitely go to rest after a few episodes of TV. After the break, it's time to arrange study time!

It's time to learn how to rest and relax!

Third, it's time to get creative! Guide your child to develop new ways to relax and gradually replace the way of looking at the phone. We can go for a walk, play ball, scribble, etc.

Fourth, you can help your child learn to manage their time! You can even help them make a daily study plan!

Be sure to support your child if they want to rest more. It's also a great idea to review the plan once a week and gradually increase the study time!

Finally, seek the child's opinion and you can choose to see a psychologist if you think it would help!

If the child refuses, the parents should accept it positively and not criticize or pressure the child. This is your chance to show your child how much you love and respect them!

And the best part is, the child can also improve through changes and adjustments in the parents!

Best of luck! You've got this!

Hello, host. I am honored to answer your question. Your description perfectly captures a prospective high school junior who is tired of school and procrastinates, and cannot even complete his usual homework on time.

He saw the news and was worried that someone would poison it. At the time, the specific content of the news broadcast was unclear. Do you remember this? It's important to determine whether the news has been discussed.

Describe the frustration caused by the child's lackluster academic performance.

How long has the child been showing these symptoms? Is it because he is about to enter his senior year of high school?

You have already strengthened your control over him in his studies and life. The child resists your control by procrastinating because he wants to prove his own value. I am certain that the child's dislike of studying is not a problem of ability or interest. It is a problem in your relationship. As the child is about to enter his third year of high school, you have projected your anxiety onto him. He has felt your anxiety and used measures such as procrastination and dislike of studying to counter this anxiety.

The third year of high school is very stressful. Parents who project their own anxiety onto their children cause them to suffer more physical and mental stress, which affects their learning efficiency and grades. Parents must serve their children well and be good advisors to them, not supervisors.

If a child develops a sense of victimization, they must realize that they are encountering some trouble in real life that they cannot solve on their own. Parents must understand their child's true thoughts and help them solve the problems and troubles in real life, so that they can focus all their energy on their studies. This kind of learning effect will be twice as good.

Parents must focus on helping their children improve their learning efficiency. They should avoid projecting their own stress and emotions onto their children, as this will only drain the children's energy. I am Happy to Have You 1983. The World and I Love You!

Hello, the questioner. It's normal for children to lose motivation to learn at this time. However, it's clear that your child is addicted to mobile games and doesn't want to study. There have also been psychological problems in the past. I am Little Anemone Floater, a psychological counselor intern, and I will help you analyze the current situation of your child.

— My child is about to enter his senior year of high school.

—After watching the news, I was convinced that I would be poisoned and that the food was not hygienic.

—After being persuaded by his parents, he showed some improvement, but he quickly lost motivation to study.

—He's trying to find ways to play with his phone and watch TV instead of studying.

—He can't finish his homework even on vacation, and I've tried everything to get him to do it.

I'm at a loss as to what to do, and I'm deeply concerned about my child's mental health.

?‍♂️Your child is preparing to enter their third year of high school, and they have been paying more attention to their studies for a semester. Has this started since the national double reduction policy began? Your child may have physically matured, but they have not yet matured mentally. They may not understand the true meaning of the national double reduction policy. Have an honest and open discussion with them about the significance of the double reduction.

?‍♂️He was once worried about being poisoned and that food outside wasn't hygienic. What kind of news was he watching? What made that news report like that? Have you talked to your child about it?

Tell me what you said to persuade him to change for the better. If you find that your child lacks motivation to learn, at what level do you talk to them? Is it parent-child, friends, parents, or relatives?

The main thing is that the matter is still in the child's mind and has not been completely resolved. You need to communicate with the child in depth to find out what he is afraid of. Talk to the child as an equal, with a gentle attitude, and you will get better results.

?‍♂️Playing with the phone and watching TV a lot means not studying. Observe your child's mental state when they're not watching TV or playing with the phone. Ask your child how they plan to graduate from high school. Do they want to take the easier early admissions route or try to get good grades and go to a good university? Have you had these kinds of conversations? If your child plans to take the early admissions route, they just need to have a good talk and get their schoolwork done.

He can't finish his homework even during the holidays. You've tried to persuade him, but it's no use. Is that true? Talk to your child. Find out if he doesn't want to study from the bottom of his heart, or if it's because of the influence of the news last time, or if it's because of something irreparable that happened to a classmate because of studying at school. Does your child usually communicate with you?

You need to decide whether you have the final say. This is the late adolescent stage, when people are relatively mature psychologically. It is not impossible that they have their own plans for life. You must have a good talk.

?‍♂️I don't know what to do. I'm worried about my child's mental health. If your child is unwilling to talk to you, suggest they talk to a counselor. It seems from your description that your child's psychological problems are not affecting their normal life at the moment, and they should have their own plans. No matter what, it is best to be cautious. After seeking your child's consent, find a counselor to talk to.

I am confident that you will resolve your confusion soon. Ixinyi, the world and I love you.

Good day, question asker. I am Enoch, your answerer.

From the information provided, it appears that the child in question is facing two significant challenges:

Firstly, exposure to the internet may result in exposure to negative content, which may cause the child to develop a heightened sense of empathy and generalization. This may result in the child worrying that they will experience the same thing as others, that is, being poisoned by others. From this perspective, the child's emotional state is highly sensitive, and when they see tragic events, they may experience distress and even delusions of persecution.

From another perspective, the child's internet use has reached the point where it is affecting his studies. It is therefore important to monitor the amount of time he spends online. Early teenage romance, internet addiction and suicide are the three typical factors that endanger the physical and mental development of young people. It is therefore important for the questioner, as a parent, to pay close attention to these factors.

Due to the potential for internet addiction to impair one's willpower, individuals may gradually lose the ability to perform essential life and learning skills.

To conclude, the child in question is likely to exhibit sensitivity and vulnerability when confronted with setbacks. He frequently lacks the capacity to overcome challenges and adapt effectively to his environment, instead retreating and responding to external stimuli passively. It is recommended that the questioner consider pursuing professional psychological counseling for the child at the earliest opportunity. This could facilitate the development of a more constructive and optimistic approach to learning and life in general. The child is still in a period of significant growth and development, and if a fixed pattern of coping with life is established, it may prove more challenging to alter this in the future. It is therefore important for the questioner to facilitate positive change for the child, in order to avoid potential difficulties in their future lives.

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Parents should endeavor to maintain composure outwardly while remaining vigilant inwardly. It is crucial for parents to remain calm, avoid excessive blame, and strive to instill confidence in their children. Additionally, parents should deliberately create opportunities for their children to recognize the significance of the college entrance examination from a personal perspective.

As the college entrance exam approaches, my child's grades are average to above average. However, there is a possibility of regression, as the current state is not ideal. In addition, homework is not completed on time. These phenomena require that we identify the cause. We can inquire of the teacher, classmates, or, when the child is in a better state, we can inquire in an equal and friendly manner. Only by identifying the cause can we prescribe the appropriate intervention. If the academic workload is too heavy and it is difficult to understand personally, then change the learning method, or form a study group and study together with a partner. A good atmosphere can influence each other; if it is simply playing or being obsessed with games, then some necessary intervention is needed. Summer camps, traveling, joining suitable interest clubs... These methods all involve distracting the child's attention and guiding them to realize the real world outside of games, and trying to establish boundaries between games and the real world.

The phenomenon of children engaging in gaming and neglecting their homework is becoming increasingly prevalent. It is insufficient to merely request that children refrain from gaming or discredit it; a more effective approach is necessary.

In conclusion, the implementation of positive reinforcement in the classroom, or what is commonly referred to as game-based learning, is akin to a hundred-meter hurdle in the field of education. Furthermore, the proliferation of the gaming industry has extended beyond mere entertainment, permeating various facets of life.

Consequently, parents should facilitate rather than impede their children's preferred activities, namely, elucidating the reasons why it is not advisable for them to engage in these activities at this time and delineating the implications of the gaokao screening on their future prospects.

It is not uncommon for parents to feel that they have conveyed a great deal to their children, yet in reality, their interactions have primarily involved discussions about emotions and directives rather than factual information. Given the differences in their life experiences, it is understandable that children may find it challenging to empathize with or fully comprehend the implications of a single examination on their future relationships.

Consequently, if parents are genuinely interested in fostering resilience in their children, it is imperative that they facilitate first-hand experiences that challenge them to confront harsh realities. Such experiences, when coupled with guidance and support, can instill a sense of determination and resilience. It is often recommended that parents accompany their children to diverse settings, including bus stops, train stations, and airport terminals, to observe the nuances of different crowds. They can also take them to hotels and star-rated hotels, as well as private gardens, to gain insight into the nuances of wealth. Visiting factories, university campuses, and the central business district (CBD) can also be beneficial, as they offer exposure to various professional and social environments.

Adolescents are in a state of rapid physical and mental change, which makes them susceptible to extremism and doubt. Their psychological factors are unstable, but they are not as prone to illness. Therefore, parents should relax, treat them with an ordinary heart, and guide them at the appropriate time. Just as the surging Yellow River may seem menacing, if parents can remain calm and persevere in their companionship, the river will flow smoothly into the sea.

Hello, parent!

Your child is currently a prospective senior in high school with middle to upper grades. "Since the second semester of his sophomore year, after reading the news online, he has always been worried that someone will poison him and that the food outside is not hygienic." Regarding this situation, you have patiently and successfully persuaded your child, and the situation has eased somewhat. It can be seen that you are still quite concerned and caring about your child, and you're doing a great job of supporting him!

As a prospective senior in high school, your child may seem to have lost interest in learning. But don't worry! This is a normal part of the journey to graduation. As a parent, you might be feeling anxious about seeing your child in this situation. After all, the college entrance exam is an important opportunity in your child's life. Have you discussed your child's current learning status and performance?

It could be that they're avoiding study pressure or it could be for other reasons.

It's a great idea for parents to look for a professional psychological counselor to provide one-on-one counseling for their child. This is a wonderful way to check in on the child's mental health and see how they're doing.

As a parent, you can listen more to what your child has to say. Does he use the phone and watch TV too much? You can also share other ways to relieve stress with your child, such as going out for sports, meditating to relax, and communicating with peers. Encourage your child to plan well for their studies and arrange their time well between study, leisure, and entertainment every day. Respect each other's choices!

It's also a great idea to ask your child what kind of career they want to pursue in the future, which majors and universities they are more interested in, and at this stage, they can set a challenging but suitable college entrance exam goal. If your child feels that the pressure of studying is relatively high, you can let them relax to their heart's content within a prescribed period of time. Then, at a time point agreed upon by you, you can let them resume a reasonable study and rest schedule.

As a parent, you have the amazing opportunity to be a source of comfort and support for your child. By relaxing, communicating, and interacting with your child in a patient and understanding manner, you can help them feel at ease and listen to their true thoughts. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I can tell you are a great parent who can quickly spot your child's issues and jump in to help. I have to give you a big thumbs up!

The third year of high school is an exciting time for kids and adults alike! It's a big step towards independence and a chance to explore new interests. While it can also be a challenging time for families, it's also a time for celebration and looking forward to the future. During the summer vacation, kids may feel the pressure to keep up with their studies, and parents may have concerns about their child's progress. However, this is also a time for kids to relax, recharge, and prepare for the exciting journey ahead.

Are you worried that your child may have psychological problems? I can understand how you feel and I can also appreciate the anxiety you are feeling. But speaking from my own experience, if it were my child, I would just face the fact that they are currently not interested in their studies and want to spend as much time as possible playing computer games or on their mobile phone, and they can't even finish their homework on time. This is totally normal! It's a phase that most kids go through.

So, why do I say this? Well, it's finally the holidays, and your child really wants to relax for a while. So I think it's normal for your child to behave this way. Of course, you have to pay attention to a degree and not indulge in it. I don't think you need to worry too much about this, because you pay a lot of attention to your child and you are also very perceptive. So I think you can handle the situation when your child plays computer games or on the phone and procrastinates on his homework.

I'm excited to talk more about your child's situation. As you mentioned earlier, your child has heard negative information, and in the future, he may react in certain ways. If you find that your child has not been affected in that way at all, then I think you can let your mind rest. In this way, we can focus on guiding your child to slowly step away from the computer, TV, and mobile phone.

After all, the child is already so big, and I think he has his own limits. We don't need to push the child too much. Instead, we can find ways to engage him in other activities that he'll love, like going for a walk or doing something that interests him. If he's not in the mood to do his homework, we can do something that interests him instead. This will give him a chance to relax and enjoy himself, which will help him feel more motivated to complete his homework when he's ready.

It's a wild ride being a parent of a high school senior! When my eldest was in his senior year, he was always at the bottom of the class, and he never got above fifth place. But I was there for him every step of the way, even hiring a teacher online to chat with him. I also actively communicated with him and his teachers. In a word, the third year of high school is not easy for either the child or the parents, but it's also an amazing journey!

Absolutely! If family conditions permit, you can also find a professional counselor to accompany you through this stage of senior year. This will make our hearts more at ease as we move forward!

But then again, the master leads you in, and the rest is up to the individual. The great thing is, we still have so much to learn! It's a wonderful opportunity to discover a path that suits our children and our family, and to watch them grow together.

I know you'll be able to accompany your child through the senior year with ease, and next year you'll be able to send your child to the university of their dreams!

Absorb as much as you can from other people! The world is your oyster, and I love you!

Parents, this child is actually quite good! Some children just hit whatever the teacher points at, and if the teacher doesn't point, they can't hit anything. Maybe this child is just like that. There are also some children who hit whatever the teacher points at, and at the same time, I have a higher goal.

It's time for our third-year high schoolers to set their sights on the next big goal and give it their all! Some might say, "I don't have a specific school in mind, but I know I'll do great."

What goals should a child like you set? The child said that based on my current grades, I can get into an undergraduate program, and based on my current grades, I can go to a 211 university. I'd love to tell the child that there is still a year to go, but we'll have to wait and see!

Hey there! Just wanted to check in and see how you're doing with your studies. With the college entrance exam coming up in a few months, I know you've got your work cut out for you. How are you planning to make the most of this time?

Next, you can use the one-point principle to help her set goals. The one-point principle is a great way to make sure that every exam and every second of homework is one point better than before, so the pressure is not too great. But how many exams are there before the college entrance exam? Let the child do the math and see how many more exams there are!

The child may say, "Oh, that's not possible. I've already surpassed Project 985, and I've surpassed Peking University and Tsinghua University. When you stand at a high place, all the fruit below you is within reach. You can pick whichever fruit you like. Your height is below the lowest fruit, and you can reach the lowest fruit with your hand. If you go lower, you can't even reach the lowest fruit."

It's only natural to admire those who are at the top of the ladder. After all, they've worked hard to get there! The fruit at the top of the apple tree is the sweetest because it has been exposed to plenty of sunlight, so it has a higher sugar content. The further down you go, the less sugar it has because it doesn't receive as much sunlight and nutrients.

If your child's height exceeds that of the fruit, then all the fruit below is yours, and you can pick whichever you want!

Another great way to learn is by looking at role models. What kind of person does he most want to be? For example, if I were the child of a farmer, I would want to be like Grandpa Yuan Longping, who has made such a great contribution to Chinese agriculture. Then, you can go learn about the qualities of Grandpa Yuan Longping. If you want to make a great contribution to agriculture in the future, do you know which agricultural school is the best in our country?

Have you ever wondered which country has the best agriculture school in the world? The great news is that as long as you have ideas, you can broaden your horizons! So, from now on, how are you going to study? I really hope I can help you!

Some children are awakened by dreams, while others are awakened by alarms. Children who are awakened by dreams are full of energy and get things done! Children who are awakened by alarms usually press the alarms and go back to sleep for a while. At this time, the internal drive comes from the guidance of dreams, so that they can see their dreams, their goals, and the value of their goals!

All parents should accept their little ones just as they are and then support them to reach for the stars!

I really hope my approach is helpful to you, and I wish you the very best!

Good day, My name is Xing Ying, a listener on the Yixinli platform and a national-level 3 psychological counselor.

As the parent of a high school student, I empathize with your current emotional state. On the one hand, you are concerned about your child's academic performance and future prospects. On the other hand, you are also worried about your child's health. However, you are hesitant to express these concerns to your child, fearing that they might affect your child's performance. When your child exhibits unfavorable behaviors, you are compelled to conceal your anxiety and reassure your child. As a parent, you are subjected to significant pressure from various sources, which can be challenging to navigate.

Since the second semester of his sophomore year, he has exhibited persistent concerns about potential poisoning and the hygiene of food items consumed outside the home. Through persistent guidance and persuasion from his parents, he has demonstrated notable improvement.

The child's generalized fear is manifested as anxiety and psychological stress.

From the information provided, it can be concluded that the child is experiencing excessive internal pressure and a state of anxiety and unrest. While online news is typically separate from a child's real-life experiences, the child has expressed the thought "someone is poisoning me," which is a generalized expression of fear and a symptom of paranoid delusions.

It is recommended that you seek the assistance of a psychologist or counselor.

[The parent's guidance has played a role in relieving some of the emotions]

In this situation, you, as a parent, have repeatedly provided guidance and insight to the child, which has had a positive effect on the child's emotional state.

From the root cause, the child is more sensitive to external stimuli and has insufficient external release. Some emotions are resolved with guidance and comfort, while others are suppressed. When coupled with the constant academic pressure, these negative emotions accumulate, causing greater internal conflict. This manifests in different forms.

[The child's psychological pressure manifests in different forms, such as playing with the phone and watching TV]

Recently, he has demonstrated a lack of interest in his studies. He attempts to avoid his responsibilities by engaging in leisure activities on his mobile phone or watching television. He is unable to complete his homework assignments in a timely manner when he is at home during school holidays.

The child's current behavior indicates a sense of powerlessness. The phone and TV represent a means of relieving the pressure of schoolwork, as if only by hiding away here will they not feel their "powerlessness" and "frustration."

At their core, all individuals crave affirmation, recognition, and a sense of worthiness. It is natural for children to desire to be perceived as exceptional by their educators, peers, and guardians.

The child is experiencing a cycle of self-attack and self-doubt, which is having a detrimental effect on their wellbeing.

Once a child feels unable to achieve a goal, their interest wanes and they may engage in self-attack and self-denial, such as "I can't do it, I'm useless, I can't do it." This negative behavior may attract criticism, worry, and education from parents or teachers, which can reinforce the child's self-denial and self-attack.

"Seeing the child helps the child."

I can see your deep commitment to your child's well-being. I can even sense your emotions when I draft this message. I want to inform you that only by understanding what is going on inside our children and recognizing their sense of powerlessness can we provide them with the most effective support and assistance.

In the event that we observe our child exhibiting signs of powerlessness, what action can we take?

If I may make a suggestion, I believe the following course of action would be beneficial:

1. Seek professional psychological counseling and guidance. If your child is unwilling to do so, you can serve as an invaluable source of support for your child, but you may also be under considerable pressure. Seeking professional help will be beneficial to both you and your child.

2. Set aside the objective of academic achievement for the time being and adjust the objective to align with the child's mental health in order to reduce stress.

This is a challenging but crucial point. The third year of high school represents a pivotal stage of life. For parents, temporarily setting aside the goal of academic achievement is a difficult decision.

From another perspective, if the child's current mental energy is weak and they no longer have the capacity to cope with academic pressure, and they feel a sense of powerlessness and resistance, and we also consider school advancement as an external influencing factor, then things will not develop in a positive direction.

It is essential to maintain a calm and stable state of mind to provide effective support to your child. It is also important to avoid placing additional pressure on your child. Only when we are able to relieve ourselves of this pressure can we create a positive physical and mental environment.

3. It is essential to foster a safe and happy family atmosphere. This can be achieved by listening to your child attentively in a non-judgmental and non-educational way, guiding your child to express more, helping your child deal with emotional stress, and guiding your child to release their inner emotions through activities such as sports, keeping a diary, painting, etc.

During this period, children are particularly vulnerable and sensitive, and may also feel a sense of powerlessness. They have received a great deal of information about the future and school from a number of sources, including school, society, parents, and classmates. As parents, it is important to believe that they understand these principles and that they are experiencing fatigue as a result of being surrounded by this information for an extended period of time.

The child who appears to have the physical maturity of an adult is, in fact, still a child. When he is overwhelmed, the love and support of his parents will provide a much-needed break and help him to regain his strength.

As a key figure in your child's life, it is essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being, maintain composure and stability, embrace your child's inherent vitality, extend unconditional acceptance, and consistently seek out their strengths and interests. Additionally, it is vital to provide encouragement, affirmation, and praise. Your child requires the sustained support and guidance of the family unit to rebuild self-assurance and resilience, enabling them to flourish.

I extend my best wishes to you and your child for good health and happiness. I also wish you both the best in the world.