My family has repeatedly brainwashed me not to want to take the postgraduate entrance exam. How can I counter their brainwashing?

Hello, landlord. I admire your persistence and your lovely family. They seem like a very tactful and warm family.

I admire you. I have been living alone in a big city for more than 20 years, and I have not had any relatives or family members to turn to. I would be so happy to have a family like yours, who can "kindly" dissuade me. But then again, although the process of struggling alone in a foreign land is challenging, if I had to choose again, I would still choose to go down the same path, because I have never regretted it.

You might consider a tactful approach in dealing with your family. They may be concerned about your health. You could politely explain that you are experiencing dizziness and depression and that you require treatment in a larger city.

It is likely that there is logic and fear behind their worries. It would be beneficial to prove to them that you are healthy and happy while studying for your master's degree and looking for a job. This may help to make them happy.

Regarding dreams and struggles, it would be beneficial to gain a deeper understanding of yourself. When your personality structure aligns with your ability structure, you may find greater motivation. It's important to consider your family's perspective when making decisions. Open communication about your dreams and plans can help you gain their support, or at the very least, their understanding and blessings.

I am a psychological counselor, Zhang Huili. You are welcome to come and talk to me, and I encourage you to talk to your classmates more, and in terms of planning for your future career, talk to your teachers and seniors more. You will be victorious if you know yourself and your enemy. I wish you all the best in life, and may the love of your family be your strength, not a hindrance. The world and I love you.

Hello. You want to be yourself and do what your parents ask, but it's hard to decide. Let's talk about it. It's not about the result, but how to make a choice.

First, ask yourself, "Who am I and what is my path?" You can take the postgraduate entrance exam after you start working. It's about time, ability, and independence. Are you ready to stand on your own two feet?

This is the unconscious behind your conflict.

What are your chances of getting into graduate school? How good are your job prospects?

This is something you need to think about and talk about with your parents. Your parents are very worried, and you are too. This will only make things worse. What you need now is stability, communication with your parents, and to say what you think, including what you think after the exam. Talking about it can help you and your parents feel better and find a solution together.

I hope you and your parents can work together. There are always more solutions than problems. Work together to do your best. The road is your choice. Good luck!

From the description of the feelings, it is clear that the questioner is acting out of filial piety and distress, as well as a persistent desire to take the postgraduate entrance exam. The conflict with the family seems to be about the exam, but there may be a deeper reason. The family is brainwashing him against taking the exam, and the questioner is also taking various actions to cooperate and refute the family (such as seeking the advice of a traditional Chinese medicine practitioner) to gain their support. It is essential to think about and analyze the superficial appearance to understand the truth of the problem!

The desire to take the exam is a matter of self-improvement and learning. The questioner is an adult, so there's no reason they can't do it without the family's consent. If support is really needed, suggestions should be put into action to face and try to untie the family's knot, seeking a win-win situation!

Life is short, so don't worry too much. You are the master of your own life, and you can do this!

?See through the fog and face it head on.

See through the fog and face it head on.

Listen to your true thoughts carefully and make a preliminary plan by listing them.

Psychology has a phenomenon called "confirmation bias." It's a fact that individuals are prone to this bias. They tend to accept information that aligns with their existing beliefs, which limits their exposure to diverse perspectives. This makes them susceptible to manipulation. To avoid this, it's essential to consider ideas from different angles and viewpoints.

It's important to understand where your family members stand on this. Do they want you to get a job first and then take the postgraduate entrance exam, or do they not agree with taking the exam even after getting a job? Are there any financial factors involved? It's also crucial to know whether you're taking the exam just for the sake of it or whether you have a goal and are thinking long-term. Can you support yourself financially if you insist on taking the exam?

When communicating sincerely, express gratitude with empathy and gratitude to family members (they're worried about opposing the postgraduate entrance exam for love or other reasons). Then, explain your real thoughts and life plan for taking the postgraduate entrance exam and persuade them to support you (let them know you're an adult with your own opinions). If they still express concerns or don't support you, show them your true attitude and determination. You're the one who solves the problem, so treat the heart of the problem with medicine!

I am going to tell you what I think.

Be brave and make changes. You will see a breakthrough.

You have the freedom to choose. If you are willing to change, you can bring about unexpected changes in the situation!

Life is yours to live, not someone else's script. Stop trying to please others and become the protagonist. Explore yourself, discover your strengths, and don't dwell on your weaknesses. Accumulate and blossom your energy. One day, you will live your life to the fullest.

Every dark cloud may have a gold rim. Appreciate and bless yourself with courage. Understand this, and you'll see that life itself is the best gift!

Embrace your true self and face life head-on. You will break free from invisible shackles and experience true freedom.

Life has no limits. Be your unique self!

This is my opinion, and I'm sticking to it.

You need peace of mind.

Hello, I'm Lumi. Shell?

I'm planning to take the postgraduate entrance exam, but my family wants me to stay and work in my hometown. They're trying to convince me not to take the exam in every way they can.

I get where the questioner is coming from. We often turn to our parents for guidance on important matters because we know they love and care about us. Parents will do their best to love and protect you in the way they think is best, and they may even try to change your mind.

First, they said that my body couldn't handle such a high intensity of study, and I almost believed them. Then I found a few relatively good traditional Chinese medicine practitioners to take my pulse, and they all said it was a minor problem that could be recovered with a simple adjustment. When they saw that this trick didn't work, they took the example of a colleague nearby and said, "Look at Auntie So-and-so, she's so tired every day, and then she got this disease or that disease, which shows that people are not suited to hard work." I was pretty shocked when I heard this.

Parents often try to find evidence to prove that what they have experienced or seen is right in order to convince you to change your mind. In fact, sometimes we don't care about what might happen to our bodies, and we are not afraid of getting sick from working too hard. We know that our parents love us, so what are we really struggling with? What has really happened?

Let's look at this together.

1. An idea pops into my head about what I want to do, and the people closest to me try to deny my idea, all in the name of love.

2. We're always trying to negotiate with them to keep our options open. It's really about who's in control, but we're worried about hurting their feelings because we're being too extreme.

I'm not sure how to respond, and I'm feeling pretty conflicted. How should I handle this?

I think we should try a different approach.

First of all, we should be happy and feel blessed to have such parents and accept their love. However, that doesn't mean we have to accept their ideas. We can tell our parents that they're right and that just as they said, there is a possibility of such and such a situation. They still think of us as kids, but we're already adults, and they're always thinking of us and worrying about us.

2. I suggest you listen to the song "The Night." Don't rush into making a decision. Get out a piece of paper and pen and write down the reasons for applying and not applying. Don't try to persuade your parents or anyone else. You only need to convince yourself. Just do what you should do, because your parents have already done what they should do!

Best wishes!

Good day. I extend my sincerest regards to you in the form of a 360-degree hug.

In response to your inquiry, I would like to clarify that

If the family's influence is successful, it may be that you never intended to pursue opportunities elsewhere. In the face of the family's influence, you may feel compelled to remain in your current role, and thus you may be reluctant to pursue postgraduate opportunities elsewhere. This is a form of conspiracy between you and your family, except that when you decide to remain in your current role, your family may still believe they can control your life, thus satisfying their desire for control.

Furthermore, you may perceive this as an act of filial piety, despite being compelled to do so. In the event of any discontent with your decision to remain in your hometown, you can attribute it to external factors and assert, "It was your decision to let me do it."

Naturally, these activities are conducted in a manner reminiscent of a game, with the objective of achieving the initial goals of all parties involved. Throughout this process, each participant experiences a sense of triumph.

Naturally, if you are successfully brainwashed, it may seem as though you have compromised. However, by relinquishing some of your rights, you will also receive certain benefits, such as resources, support, and a reputation for being obedient and filial.

In essence, family members can successfully influence you because you are willing to allow them to do so.

There is a possibility of success, as well as a possibility of failure. Regardless of what your family may say, it is advisable to adhere to your own decisions.

Ultimately, studying for the exam is something you can do independently. While they may be able to restrict your movements, they cannot prevent you from studying.

If you wish to study, you will identify a solution to continue doing so.

In the event that the family does not accept your decision to take the exam, or displays any other extreme emotional response, this is a matter for them to address.

If you do not accept your family's perspective, you may experience emotions related to perceived obligations, gratitude, and other complex issues. These are personal challenges that require individual reflection and resolution.

It is important to recognise that each individual is responsible for their own emotions, regardless of whether these emotions are perceived to be caused by external factors. It is a fact that not everyone experiences negative emotions in response to the same situations, while others do.

Therefore, you have the option of adhering to your own decisions while addressing the guilt you may feel for appearing to betray your family. Your family, in turn, must navigate the loss of control and the challenges posed by your unruly child.

Take responsibility for your own issues.

Naturally, in addition to complying with your family and standing up for yourself, there is another option: discussing with your family and finding a mutually acceptable solution. For instance, your family may agree that you attend graduate school, but you may be required to return to your hometown for a specified period after graduation.

This method is advantageous because it allows for flexibility in response to changing circumstances. It is based on the understanding that the future is unpredictable.

Perhaps you performed well on the postgraduate entrance exam and secured a position abroad, allowing you to support yourself independently. This may lead your family to reconsider their expectations regarding your return.

This method is highly adaptable. When a stalemate occurs, it is advisable for each party to make concessions initially, to pacify the other party, and to allow time for further developments.

Time is a powerful tool that can be used to effect change and influence outcomes.

You may also consult with a counselor.

I am a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, occasionally positive and motivated. I extend my best wishes to the world and to you.

Hello, I'm grateful for the opportunity to hear your thoughts on this matter.

One could say that the essence of brainwashing is to take advantage of the subject's limited knowledge in a certain field to influence them in a way that may not be entirely objective or contextualized, with the ultimate goal of achieving one's own objectives.

I believe there are two key points to consider here. The first is the potential for knowledge blind spots, and the second is the importance of ensuring that information is taken out of context, presented in a one-sided manner, and not subjectively indoctrinating.

In life, everyone has areas where they may not have complete knowledge, and there is always the possibility of being influenced in ways we may not fully understand. Another important aspect of brainwashing is gaining someone's trust. If there is a lack of trust, it may be more challenging for brainwashing to take place.

It would be wise to remain open-minded and consider the other person's views with a critical eye to avoid being unduly influenced.

Perhaps we should consider whether we can trust our family members' opinions on this matter. While it's important to respect their views, we should also be mindful of their ability to provide evidence to support their claims. Accusing someone of wrongdoing can be hurtful, so we must be careful with our words and ensure that our statements are well-considered. "Bad" is a more serious accusation than "stupid," and it's crucial to choose our words wisely.

"I plan to take the postgraduate entrance exam, but my family would prefer that I stay and work in my hometown, so they're trying to persuade me otherwise."

The key to this question is whether family members can provide sufficient evidence to demonstrate that remaining in one's hometown to pursue employment may be a more viable option than taking the postgraduate entrance exam. If they are unable to do so, it may be advisable to consider alternative perspectives.

"When they saw that this tactic didn't work, they took another example from a colleague nearby: 'You see, Auntie So-and-so was so tired all the time, and then she got this disease or that disease. This shows that people are not suited to working hard. I was speechless when I heard this, but I didn't know how to refute it. And my heart was in a mess. How should I regulate it?"

I believe this statement can be easily refuted with scientific, logical, and reasonable arguments. First of all, it would be challenging to prove that there is a direct correlation between the health of an individual and their workload.

Even if it can be proved, it would be interesting to know whether this is a survivor bias or a common phenomenon. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether everyone who worked the same amount of hours as your aunt got sick.

Secondly, how might one go about proving that working in one's hometown is a more straightforward option than pursuing a postgraduate degree? Is there anyone in your family who has done so? Or have you heard about it from others?

If it's hearsay, I've also heard that postgraduate studies are not tiring. Which "hearsay" is more reliable? How can you prove it?

It is important to remember that the key is not to try to convince your family of your decision to pursue a master's degree, but to find a way for them to accept it. Your family's reluctance to support your choice to study for a master's degree is similar to your own initial hesitation to accept their suggestion that you stay and work in your hometown. Both are personal decisions that deserve respect. It is also crucial to recognize the distinction between wanting your family to approve of your decision to pursue a master's degree and your family trying to influence you into staying and working.

We all worry that our choices might hurt the hearts of those who love and care about us. But just because something is for our own good doesn't necessarily mean it will be good for us. Family members are also ordinary people who make mistakes and make bad choices. But don't you want what's best for you? So "for your own good" might not be the best reason for you to listen to them.

I'm not sure if you should go to graduate school or stay and work in your hometown. I don't know what you want, but I do know that you can't go wrong by listening to yourself. If the other person can convince you, it means you are still listening to yourself because this argument is based on your own judgment. If the other person cannot convince you, it means that their understanding of this choice is not sufficient or comprehensive either. If it's a gamble, you have to roll the dice yourself, right? After all, it's your life.

My name is Xiao Dong, and I'm a psychological counselor. I hope you have a happy life!