My mom is almost 45 years old. Is she suffering from menopausal depression? Do I need to take her to the hospital?

I can tell you're worried about your mom. She's going through menopause and might be feeling more restless than usual. It seems like her relationships, work, and marriage aren't going well, and she's constantly arguing with your dad.

This can easily trigger the negative energy deep within her. You can also sense that she may say extreme things every time. These words need to be taken seriously. There may be a tendency towards depression, so it needs to be taken seriously. We don't need to label her, but we still need to understand some relevant knowledge.

She's now at an age where she's going through menopause, and everyone feels that she's becoming more and more unreasonable. She often complains about insomnia and suffering, has no money, is annoying, has lost her job, is divorced, and often argues. She even once planned to die by hitting herself against the road. So you can see that your mother may be in a very painful state.

It's not a good situation. You just need to face the world as it is and do your best. If you think she's suffering from menopausal depression, it's best to let her get the psychological counseling she needs so she can sort out some of the confusion and uncertainty in her mind.

However, the build-up of negative energy over the years has caused the other person a lot of pain, so it's important for them to talk about it. In addition to going to the hospital's psychiatric department, you can also look for some local city counseling organizations to see if they can help. At the same time, family members should also give her positive guidance and support, so that she knows that her family cares about her and to keep going.

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The person asking the question is a good child, so I'll give you a hug.

It seems like your mother might be experiencing some symptoms of menopausal depression. You might want to consider taking her to the hospital for a checkup and diagnosis.

It's usually a neurologist. It would be better for the doctor to determine her level and treatment plan.

There are a few things you can do to help your mother out. For example: 1. You can call her often, even if you just want to listen to her ramble on. Your mother may exaggerate the difficulties or emotions she feels, but you can reassure her and empathize with her to ease her anxiety. 2. Communicate with your father. Although you are divorced, you haven't left home. In the future, when you are old, you will probably still want to live together in old age. Showing your mother more care will also increase your happiness index in your old age.

If you don't put in the effort, you won't get anything out of it. The care you show her now is a kind of effort. 3. Encourage your mother to change her focus.

For instance, she could look for work or try to make friends. If she doesn't want to, there are still plenty of job openings, even for a security guard in the community.

She could also make 2,000 yuan a month, which would cover the cost of even a bottle of water. And your mother is not that old, so there are plenty of job opportunities out there.

It all depends on whether she's willing to do it. She could also go out and make friends.

The simplest and most direct way is to take part in square dancing, make friends and get some exercise. 4. Make some promises to your mother about the future to give her hope for her life.

For instance, you could promise to take her on a trip together at some point in the future.

When she feels the love and appreciation for her kids and the beauty of life, it'll help her feel better. Of course, it's best to go to the doctor for an exam, and if needed, get some medication to help regulate her mood.

I hope this is helpful.

Give the questioner a hug! I can feel the tension, anxiety, and unease in the questioner's heart. At the age of 45, she is indeed going through menopause, and it is normal to experience menopausal symptoms. Coupled with her unhappy marriage, lack of work, and children growing up and leaving home, these factors have combined to put a lot of pressure on the questioner's mother, which is totally understandable.

It's so hard when you're in this situation. It's really important for your mum to be open to changing her ways. You've got your own lives to live too, and you can't take on your mum's responsibilities. But you can make time to chat with her after you've taken care of your own things. Show her some love and attention, or help her with some chores when you're together. That way, she'll have time to relax.

I'd love to share some of my personal views with you in case they're helpful!

First, you might want to ask your mom what she thinks about her dad. Does she want to keep living with him, or does she want to go out and live her own life? Since they're already divorced, there's no longer a husband-and-wife relationship. They can each live their own lives and be happy on their own.

It's so important to remember that living together in this way is an ambiguous relationship. Neither party has to bear any responsibility or obligation towards the other, which can make both parties feel more and more miserable. That's why it's so important to talk to your mother so that she can have a clear goal. If you want to get back together, find a time to talk to your father as well. If you can get back together, then do so! But remember, both of you need to change the way you treat yourselves and each other in the future. Speak to each other properly, and try not to argue and complain all the time. Bear the responsibility of the marriage together, and you'll be able to make it work!

If they can't get back together, it might be best for them to just live their own lives separately. This way, they won't have to fight, they'll have enough freedom to pursue the life they want, and they'll be less irritable and more happy. At the same time, they'll still need to bear the responsibilities they have to bear.

Second, during menopause, our bodies change a lot. Some women experience hormonal changes that can make them feel irritable, have trouble sleeping, or get angry more easily. You can suggest that your mother take some medication to help her body adjust and feel more comfortable.

Third, once the first two points have been partially resolved, it would be great for the mother to take a job that she is capable of doing. This will give her something to do and an opportunity to demonstrate the value of her abilities. This will take her mind off of being idle and thinking about sad things, and also reduce her restlessness.

Fourth, I suggest that you pursue the life you want, such as cultivating some interests and hobbies of your own. You can participate in some collective public welfare activities when you have time, dance to square dance music, and so on. This will give her the opportunity to be with others, experience a different kind of happiness, and not have to be alone, so she won't be so lonely. This will also alleviate some of her restlessness and bring her more joy.

When you were a child, your mom probably needed your patience and understanding. She might have felt helpless and alone, just like a child. You can help her now by being there for her and letting her know you're there to support her. You can gently point out the problem and let her think about it. Then, she can make a decision and take responsibility. This is her life, and she's the best person to face it and take responsibility.

Hello, dear questioner! I'm thrilled to have this chance to meet here.

You've noticed that your mother has changed recently. Others may think she's becoming more and more "unpleasant" and "irrational," but to you, she's just worried and afraid that she's ill. You're a responsible and filial child who truly cares about your mother, and I admire you for putting together so many details. I understand your current anxiety, but I'm here to support you. I'd like to give you a warm hug.

First of all, seeing her mother's current state—insomnia, complaining, no work, no stable residence (her own home), a sense of worthlessness (annoying people), and other manifestations—it seems very much like depressive moods. But there's hope!

However, menopause is not that important. First of all, she is not that old, and there are plenty of other reasons for her depression.

She does have a lot of real-life pressures and anxieties at the moment, and I believe these situations have been going on for a long time, and her emotions have been pent up for a long time. The good news is that you can go to the psychiatric department of a hospital for a diagnosis to determine the situation. This is because depressed moods are not the same as depression.

Meanwhile, the family should learn more about the relevant knowledge and provide good company. Although you and your younger brother, as the people closest to your mother, are studying away from home and cannot be with her, you can still help her relieve her emotions by changing the way you communicate! For example, by learning about listening skills, you can become a better listener and help your mother feel understood.

The most important thing is to understand her! It seems that her mother is currently under a lot of stress, but no one around her can understand her, so she will keep complaining.

Perhaps these complaints are repeated over and over again, and the actual situation is not that serious. This means there's an opportunity for the family members to step up and show her they care! If they take her seriously and listen to her, they can help her feel understood and supported.

So, compared to taking her to the doctor for treatment, the support of loved ones will be more effective. You might think the situation she's in isn't as serious as it seems!

But you can help her by understanding whether these things have a special meaning for her; whether these things that happen to her as the person involved are even more terrifying. Once you can start to look at these things from your mother's perspective, I believe her state of mind will begin to improve!

I absolutely love answering questions and listening to students at Yixinli. I'm always eager to soak up new knowledge and share my experiences with others. I'm really excited to be able to help you!

Hello!

I read your question.

You understand and care about your mother's worries.

People often ignore the fact that children worry about their parents.

I'd be happy to talk with you. I hope it helps.

1. Pay attention to your mother's mental health.

You notice changes in your mother and care about her.

Good job!

Women are emotional at 45.

Moving and losing a job are big life changes.

The mother may be affected a lot.

She'll have insomnia and negative emotions.

Don't be nervous.

These emotions show her needs.

Has she adjusted to not having a job?

Losing a job means losing a lot for someone who has worked for many years.

Not only money, but also social connections, relationships, and a sense of security can make people feel lost and worthless.

What is my mother's income now?

Have you encouraged your mother to find a less tiring job?

Mom's complaints are her needs.

For example, work, money, having nothing to do, and not having the right social support.

Reassure her that these emotions are normal during major life changes.

It will get better after a while.

If your mother's condition hasn't improved, go to the hospital. You can go to the gynecology department, sleep department, or psychosomatic medicine department, or you can consult the hospital staff.

This is a complex symptom related to age.

It needs to be checked if it's menopausal depression.

2. Take care of yourself while listening, understanding, and encouraging your mother.

Mothers are in a special time in their lives. Even when they're not around, they worry about their children.

We need to take care of ourselves first.

If we only worry about our mothers, we can't help them and it affects our health.

Everyone has problems.

Mom is having a hard time.

We should talk with her when we can. The more we understand her, the easier it will be for her to come out of her shell.

She can help her mother make changes.

She can use herself as an example, saying the good things she does, taking care of you and your brother, and that you can go to school in a different place without her.

And encourage her.

Let her decide how she wants to live her life.

What can she do to fill her life?

How can you be happier?

3. Talk about the mother and yourself separately.

Moms who aren't feeling well can make their kids worry.

After we help, we need to let our mothers help too.

If you were there for your mother at work, you could support her. But if she doesn't take responsibility for her own happiness, she may not be happy even if you give her everything.

She hasn't taken responsibility for her life.

We must help our mothers adjust their bodies and moods.

It's not a lack of concern for the mother to distinguish between her issues. It's about taking responsibility for oneself. The happier we are, the happier we will be.

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Read "The Courage to Be Disliked" if you're interested.

Best wishes!

Good day. I am Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who employs visual imagery in my practice.

From your account of your mother's condition, it is evident that you are concerned for her well-being and anxious about her current circumstances.

Let us undertake an objective analysis of the situation.

It is not uncommon for individuals in similar circumstances to experience depressive symptoms and a sense of helplessness. The combination of unemployment, divorce, and a lack of social support can create a vicious cycle of daytime embarrassment and nighttime insomnia, preventing the body from attaining necessary rest and recuperation.

Given the patient's age, it is unlikely that she has entered menopause. However, the circumstances suggest that she may be experiencing depression. If she requires hospitalization, she can be admitted to the psychiatric department.

However, given her financial situation, it is unlikely that she will accept the doctor's treatment recommendations. This necessitates an initial understanding of depression and depressed emotional states, a search for supportive articles on the subject, and an exploration of potential familial support strategies.

Your current status as a student in a different location limits the support you can provide to your mother, which may contribute to feelings of helplessness. It is unclear whether there are reliable friends or relatives in your hometown who could assist your mother. You may wish to consider asking them to visit, engage in conversation, assist with activities, and enhance her quality of life.

Additionally, despite the divorce of the parents, they have never truly separated. Indeed, conflict is a means of communication for them. Disagreement and contention can be viewed as a form of strength. If one can adopt a different perspective, it may provide a measure of relief. The prevailing atmosphere of tension and stasis within the family unit is a significant contributing factor.

In your description, there is an evident apprehension about the past and concern about the future. It is crucial to identify effective strategies to address the current situation. One such approach could be to seek assistance and medical treatment in a timely manner while simultaneously conducting thorough research on your mother's condition from various perspectives. While these measures are beneficial, it is essential to recognize that relying solely on one's own strength may not be sufficient. Self-care is also a vital aspect of this process.

It is my hope that this response will prove an effective means of alleviating your anxiety.

I am sending you my best regards.