My parents don't respect my opinion at all. What should I do if I don't get along with them?

Hello. I understand how you feel. You want to be respected by your parents.

1. "My parents disappointed me. Yesterday, I was riding my bike when I was hit by a car. The car hit the bike, not me, and I just fell off and broke my hand.

I didn't want to make a big deal, so I let it go. But my parents called the police. I said I didn't need to call them, but they did.

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Is the questioner in middle school? The questioner is kind and can deal with things as they come up.

The questioner thinks he has a small cut and the car is broken, so there is no need to call the police. He also finds it hard to understand his parents' decision and actions.

(2) Parents may have other reasons for reporting the accident to the police. Have they considered these reasons? The focus is on the questioner. First, there was a traffic accident with injuries. Reporting the accident to the police allows the traffic police to solve the problem through formal channels. This is also a sense of safety.

Second, the questioner sees that his broken skin is a traumatic injury, but has he affected internal injuries? It's hard to say. You don't know, your parents don't know, and no one else knows either. Therefore, with the cooperation of the traffic police, you need to follow the proper procedures. You need to go to the hospital for an examination and X-rays.

If there's a problem, deal with it. If not, fine. Also, if there's no police report and no cooperation from the traffic police, would the questioner go to the hospital for an injection or observation?

I don't think so because the questioner thinks it's just a small cut.

The parents' decision to report the incident has made people more aware of safety.

(3) I'm happy for the questioner. You can think for yourself and know yourself. These are your strengths. The questioner can use them when they enter society as an adult. Good luck!

2. "Then I was hit at almost 10 pm. I had gone running, and my parents called the police, which made it late.

I don't want to talk about the middle. It got to 3 pm the next day and I still hadn't showered. I had a cut on my hand, but I still had to go to the hospital. It was originally a minor injury.

I couldn't stand it. A small matter was blown up countless times.

The questioner didn't like not being able to go running or hang out with friends.

I know this is a long process. I can understand the questioner's feelings. Was he with his parents during the tests? Was he alone in the hospital?

The questioner is great. Even if you don't want to face these problems, the questioner did, which is great!

3. I went to the police station at 10 a.m., went out for lunch at noon, and returned at 3 p.m. What do you think?

I did all this, and they just called the police.

They don't respect me. They don't consider my feelings. They tried to manipulate me. They just want compensation.

"I want to say more, but I can't."

I understand the questioner's feelings. You're a brave, independent thinker who can face difficulties. I applaud you. It's great that the questioner handled the situation himself. You showed me a strong side of yourself. The questioner handled the situation independently, without the parents.

Did your parents not come with you? I don't know because the questioner didn't say.

Come on?

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Good morning, host.

My name is letmefly, and I am here to assist you and gather your feedback.

The host indicated that he felt his parents did not respect him. I empathize with this sentiment and recognize the confusion and helplessness that may accompany it. I would like to extend a supportive gesture to the host.

Firstly, it is my personal belief that our relationship with our parents is the foundation of all subsequent relationships. Given the limited information available regarding your usual communication style with your parents and the specifics of this situation, I am unable to determine whether your parents respect you or not, or whether this is a one-time occurrence or indicative of a broader pattern.

Secondly, I believe that when you describe this incident, you do not feel that your parents did not respect you. What causes you frustration is that after your parents called the police, you had to navigate the subsequent situation without their support. You were simply apprehensive about the potential consequences.

It is recommended that the original poster have a productive discussion with your parents about your communication style and approach to conflict resolution. I am unaware of the age of the original poster, but I do not believe you are particularly young, so you may have a similar perspective. As an adult, you are responsible for making your own decisions.

I hope this information is helpful to you. I look forward to your feedback, attention, and likes.

Hello, I am Wanshi Ruyi. It is clear that something has happened and you feel that your parents don't respect your opinion. The ideas they have taken for you have caused you a lot of trouble, disrupted your normal life, and you have a lot of anger and resentment, as well as disgust and irritability. You feel disrespected, and I understand you very much.

I don't know how old you are, but I know you're an adult. In this crash incident, your parents should stay up late with you at the police station and accompany you during the examination at the hospital. They will not let you face so much trouble alone. You can make your own decisions about some things, whether to do them or not. Even if your parents have made a decision, you can still choose not to do it.

You don't seem to feel in control in some problem-handling situations, which makes you feel passive and suffocated. As you grow up and become independent from your family, you will gain a stronger sense of control.

You know that your parents' decision to call the police and go to the hospital without your permission was not out of concern for your safety or a desire to be treated fairly and impartially. You know that your parents' goal was to get compensation and use you to get money.

You have a lot of opinions about them. There are other ways of doing things that have created a lot of distance between you and your parents. They always fail to understand you and respect you in some matters, always do things against your wishes, and then always cause you a lot of trouble afterwards. You are very resistant to and resentful of your parents' actions.

You have a lot of disagreements with your parents, and you think they're controlling you with PUA techniques. You can feel whether your parents love you or not. The so-called PUA relationship is one without love, where control is achieved in the name of love, purely to achieve one's own ends. Have you ever had happy moments with your parents after spending so many years together? Have your parents ever treated you well?

The questioner should think about it, write about it in a diary, or talk to a trusted friend about it. This will relieve stress and negative emotions.

It's clear that your parents and you have different ideas. They have their opinions, and you have yours. You should know that changing other people is difficult. Tell your parents your feelings and needs. If they don't respect and understand you, respect your own feelings. Take control of your own affairs. If you're in a bad mood, go out and take a walk, listen to music, and do something you like to relax and relieve your irritability.

You have an independent attitude and your own judgment when dealing with things. This shows you are very autonomous and self-aware. You are great just the way you are. I know you can grow up to be an independent and strong person in the future. Wu Zhihong's "Why Does Family Hurt?" is a good read. It gives a profound explanation of family relationships, self-relationships and conflicts, and will be helpful to you.

You will overcome your troubles soon. I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, my name is Flower!

I'm so honored to receive your kind invitation to answer! ?

I saw the previous question-and-answer session on your website. She's now 14 years old and probably in junior high school. From the current question-and-answer session, I can sense the questioner's inner struggles, feeling pressured to do things she doesn't want to do, and her disappointment in her parents. These feelings are really frustrating, I can imagine.

? Be sure to take care of yourself, too!

When I saw that the questioner was hit by a car, I was really surprised at first. My first reaction was to worry about your safety. After all, it was two strong, metal objects (the car and the bicycle) hitting each other, and it was a good thing that it was a car that was hit, not a person.

I'm really worried about how the person who was hit felt in their heart, and if they felt any anger.

From what the original poster said, I get the feeling that the incident of being hit didn't really stir up much emotion in us. It was more the series of medical treatments and record-keeping after our parents reported the incident, and the operations that could have been avoided, that got our minds all worked up.

This is totally normal!

If our parents hadn't called the police, we'd probably just go home and take care of the bruises. We'd even be able to take a nice cool bath on a hot summer day! We wouldn't have to worry about getting X-rays and shots, and we wouldn't have to stay up all night and into the afternoon.

So, we feel troubled. What emotions are there? There may be annoyance, anger, distress... When dealing with this matter, because it was the parents who first raised it, it is possible that many other unhappy things related to the parents are also associated. We're here for you if you need to talk.

It's possible that they feel unappreciated by their parents. It can feel like your parents don't understand you or think about things from your perspective. It can also feel like they don't consider your feelings. We often have to face and solve these problems on our own, even when they might not even be problems at all.

Take a moment to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself a hug.

Try your best to express yourself in a calm and confident way.

It's totally normal for us and our parents to have different views and feelings about this. Parents aren't directly involved in the incident, but they've made decisions for everyone involved (and we have to admit that they also have the status of guardians).

For instance, after taking a moment to think about how serious the situation was, we could calmly explain that we don't think it's necessary to call the police, that we'd prefer not to go to the hospital, and that we'd like to go home, take a bath, and go to bed.

Of course, we also need to tell our parents our firm reasons. After all, no one was hit and there were no major injuries, so we don't feel the need to call the police.

It would be really helpful for you to talk to your parents about "suffocating love."

As guardians, parents have the wonderful responsibility and obligation to take care of their children. The person involved in the incident is the question owner, but parents tend to think in a negative direction and worry a lot, wondering if they really didn't hit anyone and if there are any injuries other than bruises. Sometimes a fall can be very serious, and parents will be very, very worried about their children's physical health.

It's totally understandable that the questioner feels unappreciated and disrespected, especially given the accumulation of one thing after another with his parents. It's so important to feel loved and respected at home, and it's clear that the questioner is feeling like a pua.

Then, if you can, try to sit down with your parents and have a nice, calm chat. Let them know about the times you feel disrespected.

We'd love for you to tell your parents what we expect!

And it's true! Parents also need their children to teach them how to be parents.

I'd also like to suggest the book "Nonviolent Communication." It's a great read for the whole family! Wishing you all the best ??

Hello, classmate. I see you're confused. I hug you!

You're dealing with family issues. Let me give you another hug.

Thank you for trusting me and inviting me to answer your questions.

I think their parents are doing what's best for you.

They probably saw your hand was broken, so they called the police and asked you to go to the hospital.

A cut on the hand is a minor injury, but it should not be ignored.

If you didn't disinfect the wound properly, it might take longer to heal and you might have a scar. I don't know if you're a boy or a girl, but if you're a girl, you probably don't want a scar because it's on your hand and you'll see it all the time.

The hospital may have given you an injection to prevent infection.

You can choose not to take the X-ray if you're an adult.

You're upset with your parents for how they handled your bike accident. You're in 7th grade, but they still treat you like a child.

When you're less angry, talk to your parents about how you feel and what you think about how they handled the accident.

Don't say it now. You might be angry and say things you'll regret.

If you don't say anything, your parents won't know you've grown up.

I hope you find a solution soon.

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I hope my answers are helpful and inspiring. I study hard every day.

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