Not much contact with the opposite sex, need to go out with the southern colleague, don't know what to do?

I think your situation is similar to mine, so I'll answer this question for you.

I don't know if my experience will be useful to you, but I want to share it with you.

I'm an introverted woman who has less contact with men than women, but we have similar personalities.

I once tried to be as open as the head of the kindergarten, but it seemed to go against a certain anxious part of me. I was afraid of being seen as an open person. I was afraid of being seen as a loose woman.

The head of the kindergarten didn't seem willing to let them molest him. He was molested out of necessity. His actions and sacrifices in fighting back have a price. Is that how you see it? Do you agree?

Be yourself and respect your feelings.

Treat them like you treat your female colleagues. Don't single them out.

You and your male colleagues are in the same department. You are equal to them, even though you are seconded there. They make jokes at your expense. As long as they make you uncomfortable, you have to fight back.

How you're treated depends on how you treat others and how you respond to their feedback. If you let it happen, it will happen again. You must stand up for yourself. I believe in you, so keep it up.

Maybe you feel a little rusty after a long period without contact with the opposite sex. You're unsure how to handle your relationship with other male colleagues and how to reconcile it.

You have concerns about facing male colleagues at work. Since you accepted the job, you may have to think about it and just go with the flow.

You have your own boundaries. You don't want to be disrespected. You want to be recognized and have boundaries respected. You found problems at the kindergarten.

You are going on an inspection with four male colleagues. You don't know these people well. You are introverted and timid, and you have social anxiety. You see the male students flirting with the female headmaster, and you feel nervous.

There are many unspoken rules in our lives. Although they are married, they joke around. You are still colleagues with them. Talk to a heart coach to relieve your discomfort. See the merits of colleagues of the opposite sex. Good luck!

ZQ?

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

I'm so sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing. I was recently assigned to this unit, so I'm still getting to know my colleagues. It seems like you're expected to interact with a lot of people from the opposite sex, and you also have to go on patrol with four male colleagues during work hours. I can imagine that's quite a lot of pressure, especially since you don't have much experience interacting with people from the opposite sex.

Once during one of your inspections, four male colleagues teased a female kindergarten principal. We all know what the word tease means. As the principal of a kindergarten, you also need to have a certain level of professionalism. So is there something we can learn from the way the questioner has interpreted the situation when she says that the female principal accepted their jokes and teasing?

If you're worried about being fined for teasing from your male colleagues, it might be time to have a chat with the head of the kindergarten. It's not ideal to feel like you have to put up with teasing just to keep your job, especially when it's affecting your confidence.

Oh dear, I don't know what to do! I have to go out with them again tomorrow.

1. Different perceptions

All of the male colleagues are married, and they're all great guys. But the questioner has a different perception of married men because they've been led to believe that married men shouldn't mislead the opposite sex. So, when these guys behave in a way that seems a bit misleading, it makes the questioner worry that they'll mislead her too.

The female headmaster is more familiar with her male colleagues, so they all know that they can joke around with each other. However, the questioner doesn't know them well, so they see their daily interaction as a form of teasing. This is totally understandable! We all have different perceptions of how people act. As long as you don't know someone well, your male colleagues won't casually test your bottom line.

2. A clear attitude

The questioner said that he is introverted, timid, and a little socially anxious. This can be a reason we give ourselves to refuse to socialize, but we all know that socializing is very important in society. The good news is that we can gradually accept socializing as long as we overcome it!

It's totally understandable that the questioner is feeling disgusted and scared by this kind of joking from male colleagues. So, when you see them acting like this, it's really not necessary to smile back and try to fit in with them. It's okay to feel disgusted! You can take a straightforward, no-nonsense attitude towards their behavior and let them know that this kind of behavior is not okay with you.

3. Try not to worry too much.

It's always a good idea to be cautious about things that haven't happened yet, so you'll know roughly how to deal with them when they do. But if the person who asked the question is clear about his attitude and male colleagues still behave in this way towards you, you can just give them a bit of a hard time and express your emotions directly.

It's also good to remember not to worry too much about things that haven't happened yet. Worrying can really take its toll on us, and it can even affect our normal lives and sleep quality. So, it's important to find ways to relax and recharge. You could try exercising, drawing, writing, studying, or any other activity that helps you unwind. When you can calm down and do other things, you'll find it's easier to stay calm about this matter.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner. Sending lots of love!

Good day, young lady. I can discern the bewilderment you are currently experiencing.

The current situation can be described as an interpersonal problem. I offer you my support once more.

First and foremost, it is not advisable for the girl to self-diagnose with social anxiety.

Given the paucity of contact with the opposite sex during your formative years, you lack the requisite skills to navigate interpersonal dynamics.

In particular, when observing the four male colleagues engaging in flirtatious behavior with the female director, you experienced a sense of apprehension that they might do the same with you.

It would be beneficial to consider whether you were subjected to any form of mistreatment by your peers of the opposite sex during your childhood. For instance, were you the victim of teasing, and if so, were you too young to comprehend the implications of such behavior?

It is plausible that the subject may have experienced one or more of the aforementioned situations.

In such instances, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified counselor. This professional can assist in addressing the underlying issues that may have arisen during childhood, particularly in relation to interactions with the opposite sex.

It is only after these steps have been taken that a normal relationship with the opposite sex can be established.

In light of the aforementioned circumstances, it would be prudent to consult with your immediate supervisor. This could potentially facilitate a necessary adjustment on her part.

It is my sincere hope that the issue you are currently experiencing can be resolved in the near future.

I have no further suggestions at this time.

It is my sincere hope that the above responses are both helpful and inspiring to you, young lady. As the respondent, I endeavor to study diligently on a daily basis.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and the entire world. Wishing you the best!