Novelists from the internet, constantly plagued by self-doubt, so anxious that they can't sleep?

Hello! I'm so happy you asked. I totally get where you're coming from. When I was younger and less experienced, I also thought about making money from online writing.

I used to be a self-media writer. Back then, I wrote articles on lots of different platforms, and the data was pretty dismal. I often faced the consequence of output not being proportional to input. My mind was very simple back then. I saw some social problems and wanted to expose them. I was a bit naive, but I wanted to speak for justice.

You know, this kind of thinking is a bit unrealistic, don't you think? At that time, I was just like you now, every day I looked at the dismal data and doubted whether I had done something wrong, whether I was not suited for this path. This situation continued until I stumbled upon a hot topic, and what I wrote without any intention had a high readership.

I was really happy and felt a great sense of self-satisfaction, but I started to get some pretty abusive messages one after the other in the background. It was a real wake-up call!

I guess I made a mistake in thinking that my achievements meant that what I wrote was good. It was more that I had tapped into a hot topic and said something that resonated with most people.

I started to suffer from insomnia.

I'm sure you'll agree that I got a great return from that hot topic, but I have to admit that I wrote it without any intention. I feel a bit ironic and helpless, and I have to admit that who doesn't love money?

So I kind of deviated from my true self. I used to only care if I could be seen, and then I cared if I could get a little benefit.

We all change, and that's okay!

I've also noticed this problem when I've been keeping an eye on how mainstream media is developing. It seems like many media outlets have gradually become more marketing-oriented.

I can roughly guess what genre you write. A few years ago, this genre was not yet popular. At that time, everyone followed the plot, and the articles were full of ambition. Later, everyone came for the sake of profit, and the articles in this genre could not be read carefully.

I totally get where you're coming from and I know you're feeling anxious, but if change can come at any time, why not just calm down for a bit? It's just that life has got in the way of your hobby, so this job is making you feel miserable.

If you go back to those days when writing was just a hobby, I bet you weren't as miserable as you are now. Why not take a little break? You'll be back to it in no time.

It's totally normal to feel a range of emotions when you're trying something new. It's also okay to care about rewards — we all do! But remember, it's also important to be kind to yourself and recognize that you probably didn't get a lot of support when you first started out.

You can start fresh! New policies will lead to new transformations. Writing articles is a great way to build your skills, but it's also a chance to try something new. The articles you wrote a few years ago have helped you grow, but it's okay if you're not quite there yet with new topics. It's natural to be eager for results, but remember to take your time and enjoy the journey!

It's so important to ask yourself if there's room for improvement. And if you can find the courage you had back then and learn to sum up, that would be great!

It's totally normal to fail when writing. There are just so many online writers these days! If you're feeling anxious about your results, it's a great idea to take a little break and think about how you can write about the same subject in a way that will attract other readers.

And finally,

Just my two cents: I don't think writing online full-time is the way to go.

It can be a great source of income, but I don't think it should be your whole life. Get out into the world, clear your mind, and since your original intention has changed, start from the mindset you have now and think about how you can innovate.

Hello, questioner! You've put in a lot of work.

I really admire online writers. You face a lot of pressure: you have to use your talents and passions, you have to handle financial pressures, and you have to build up your own resilience because you may face a lot of negative comments. This is really a profession that tests people in every way.

You've stuck with it and achieved a lot in a subject you're good at. I really admire your ability, talent, perseverance, and spirit of persistence!

Your hobby is also your career, which is a dream for many people. You've already found your area of expertise and shown what you can do. This should be impressive to many people, and I'm also impressed from across the screen!

As you mentioned, the shift in subject matter is the root of the issue. The new subject matter isn't your strong suit, and you're not doing it of your own volition. You're only continuing because of financial pressure, which is causing you a lot of pain.

This change has really shaken your belief and original intention to "persevere because you love it." It's tough when your beliefs are challenged and your original intentions have to change. It's even tougher than getting criticism and negative comments from others.

Otherwise, why would you keep working on a topic you like even after getting bad reviews, but not be able to handle getting bad reviews on a topic you don't like?

I don't think the root cause is the comments from outsiders. I think it's more that your beliefs and initial intentions have been challenged and disintegrated. It's a pretty desperate and powerless situation.

I don't think you're mentally weak. You've also received bad reviews on your favorite topics, but you still insist, which shows your mental strength.

Your passion and resilience are the two things that have helped you get through the tough times and can handle the triple pressure on online writers that I mentioned in the first paragraph.

However, when beliefs and passions are challenged and forced to change course, and when one has to do things they don't like while dealing with a lot of negative comments, even the strongest people will gradually become exhausted.

One of the signs of burnout is doubting and rejecting yourself, and eventually forgetting what you originally set out to do. This is why there's a popular saying these days: "Don't forget your original intentions."

It's easy to lose confidence and feel overwhelmed when you're facing pressure at work. It's also easy to lose sight of your original goals.

My advice is to:

Rest: You mentioned that you've been writing non-stop on a variety of topics, including some you're less enthusiastic about. It's understandable that you're feeling the need to take a step back and recharge. It's important to remember that inspiration and creativity flourish when we're in a moderately relaxed state. During your break, try engaging in activities that you enjoy, give your mind a moment's rest, and seek out new sources of inspiration.

During your breaks, you can take out your favorite manuscripts and flip through them like treasures. This will bring back happy memories of the past. When people's memories are good, their body and mind will also relax, which is also a kind of rest. This will awaken your internal drive to pick up your favorite topics again.

On the one hand, you've been hit with some doubts, and on the other hand, you haven't touched your favorite subject in a while. You're worried that if you start writing again, you won't feel as good as before, so you're hesitant.

So, during your break, you can start writing. Don't worry about financial goals for now, and ignore your inner critic. Just start writing, not on a platform, but on your own computer, to get a feel for it.

You can also write about unrelated topics. For example, you can write about your writing career over the past few years, or keep a personal diary, or publish it on social media to share with others.

It's only when you press pause that you can take a step back and review your past experiences. This review isn't a waste of time; it's a way to move forward.

You're a professional writer, so writing will definitely bring you spiritual comfort. Writing about your past experiences can help you reflect on the past and move forward, and it can also have a self-healing effect.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you. I believe that after a good rest, you will feel refreshed and ready to go. I hope your initial goals stay with you!

Hello!

Host:

From reading the post, I can see the poster is struggling. She's facing her issues head-on and seeking help, which is a great step.

I'll share my thoughts on the post, which may help the poster understand his anxiety better.

1. You are able.

The poster has achieved great things in his field. His income and praise show that he is talented.

You can make great achievements in a subject you are good at. The host may want to read his old books to find the feeling he had at the time. Reading them often may help him feel stronger.

The host can have a dialogue with his emotions. Use your imagination to imagine the images of these emotions and communicate with them.

Anxiety may be trying to tell you that it hopes you will write better works. Thank it.

Tell him he can do it. Reassure him.

Talking about our feelings helps us feel better.

2. The person isn't bad, just that the task wasn't done well.

The poster wrote about a subject he wasn't good at and failed several times. I can feel his sadness, frustration, and anxiety.

The host realized he's not good at this, so it's no surprise he got this result.

The work wasn't good enough, and my fans scolded me. So, this is over.

We haven't done a good job, but I can do it. I've done it before.

The host may learn to care for himself. Self-doubt and self-attack can break us, but self-care gives us strength.

How do you care for yourself? Imagine how you would comfort and encourage your best friend in this situation.

Use this to comfort and encourage yourself.

3. Accept and thank the accident.

The accident has harmed the host. Can't he use this to his advantage?

Your creations come from life. The richer your life, the more detailed and vivid your work will be.

An author got a bad review and was angry. He wrote to a friend, who wrote back. I don't remember what they said.

Thank him for his comment. It's no wonder your work is emotional.

The host was also affected by the accident. It was good and bad. We just need to understand it.

4. Learn ways to manage anxiety.

If anxiety prevents you from sleeping, don't force yourself to sleep. Get up and read, or read a book on psychology. Go back to sleep when you feel sleepy. Following your heart's desires may make the host feel more relaxed.

The host can learn breathing and relaxation methods.

These methods require practice. They're not magic, and they won't solve your symptoms. But if you practice, you'll be grateful.

You can also do mindfulness meditation. If you can, you can follow a teacher to do this meditation together.

I hope these help the host. I'm Zeng Chen, a psychological detective coach.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi.

I can see from your description how you made your hobby a reality. It's inspiring, so thank you. I have a few small thoughts to share.

Don't doubt yourself.

No matter what happens, we pursue a career because we're interested in it. This helps us persevere and gain from it. Don't doubt yourself. Not many people can do this. You're already better than many people.

2. How far can a dream go?

Lu Yao spent six years writing The Ordinary World. He did a lot of research and investigation. The novel didn't receive much response when it was first published, but it eventually achieved success. Yu Hua didn't read or write when he first started writing. He simply started writing after reading two sentences.

Aunt Qiong Yao, the author of "Love in a Fallen City," also wrote for the screen. In her autobiography, she said she did it because she was interested and then wrote every day until she became a master.

Once you have a dream, calm down, stay calm, and create as much as you can. There will always be people who understand you and will read your work.

3. Opportunities from the outside world.

Every silver lining has a cloud. We may receive online violence while creating, which makes it hard to concentrate. But we can get through it. If we review our direction and calm down to provide better content, we can do it. Opportunities and challenges always coexist.

Best,

Hello, host. Writing novels was once a hobby that made you happy. Now it's stressful and you feel powerless.

If we look at the timeline, it might help you feel better and help you write again.

[In the past]

You write novels as a hobby. You made writing your career. This hobby has supported you in writing many novels, and each one has been more successful than the last. You are getting better at writing and making money from it.

Sometimes I stay up until 1 or 2 a.m. to finish an article, but I don't feel tired. I still check comments and data from readers. Even if some comments are bad, I can be objective.

Every day is happy, and I never stop updating.

This hobby has brought you happiness, joy, wealth, accomplishment, and fulfillment.

Now

Due to policy reasons, I can't publish my novels on the subject matter I'm good at. It feels like my past efforts have been labeled as negative. Now that the policy has eased, I can continue to write on related subjects, but I have lost confidence.

I've tried writing novels in genres I'm not good at, but they haven't sold well or been well-received. I find this hard to accept.

I'm not in good shape. I daydream, I'm easily influenced, I have insomnia, I'm anxious, and I'm losing confidence in my abilities.

You were caught off guard by a sudden change that caused you to lose a lot and generate a lot of emotions.

[Future]

You still want to write novels. You may still want to choose a field you are good at. What was your state of mind when you first started working on a topic you were good at? How did you become an author good at this topic?

What would you tell yourself about your first novel now?

We can learn from our past to find success. Can we return to our original state, like restarting a computer?

Sudden changes can be shocking. While we were happy, policy changes made us think about diversifying. Many industries disappeared because of competitors. For example, China Mobile and China Unicom lost to Tencent.

Why not reconsider your topics and the industry's changes? Can you choose one or more tracks for diversified development and enhance your ability to withstand risks? When crisis strikes again, you may be able to turn danger into opportunity.

You still have strength. Give yourself a little light. When your glass is empty, welcome new water. When your glass is full, let go.

I believe in you. I love you.

Hello, question asker.

I want to give you a hug from afar.

Comfort your anxious heart!

First and foremost, be inspired by your experience and know that you deserve more than mediocrity.

You can change your fate through online literature to become stronger.

You need to know how long this anxiety has been going on. It's important to understand how it's affecting your life and sleep.

If it is more serious, you must consider first undergoing an assessment and diagnosis by an authoritative medical institution to find out if you need medication.

Psychological counseling should be considered, excluding biological factors.

In the face of your current anxiety,

You should consider these sources of anxiety. What are the realistic pressures?

I want to know what the spiritual or ideological aspects are.

The reality level is the anxiety caused by the existential crisis.

Let me be clear: the so-called spiritual and ideological level is...

You have high expectations of yourself and are confident that you can achieve success in the near future.

You can and will make a successful transition, write works that satisfy the reader, and write works that imagine the market.

I would also like to add that…

You will not be anxious because of the reader's evaluation.

I'm going to tell you how to resolve it.

If it is the existential crisis brought about by reality that causes anxiety,

You need to solve the problem of food and clothing.

I don't know your age or gender, but I guarantee you'll find a job that allows you to take care of yourself.

As an example, if you are a woman, you can work as a storekeeper or a station attendant.

If you're a man, you can work as a deliveryman or in a hotel.

I'm not saying you should give up your dream. You should first support yourself.

You have to survive first, then you can realize your dream.

If you can afford it, take a break from writing.

You need to get over repeated setbacks and severe anxiety.

It is challenging to be inspired to write better works.

Deal with your anxiety now!

You must nourish your exhausted mind.

You need to travel, read, or get counseling to nourish yourself.

You must also read more about successful works, see where others succeeded, and learn from your own failures if you want to succeed in your transition.

You should definitely try to get to know these successful Internet celebrities, become friends with them, and discuss experiences with them.

Finally, I want to tell you this:

Your online literature has no market in China.

There may not be a market abroad, but that doesn't matter.

Furthermore, works that have been bought and sold can still be popular in foreign markets.

You must regain your confidence and believe in yourself!

Believe in your own strength!

There is no such thing as eternal failure. Only eternal surrender!

I am Consultant Yao Laoshi!

I love you forever, Yixinli!

After reviewing your introduction, I am impressed by your achievements.

1. You have a proven track record of writing multiple books.

2. Each book has achieved better results and earned more money than the previous one, demonstrating market recognition.

3. You consistently update your content on an annual basis, demonstrating remarkable dedication and perseverance.

4. Writing can be a lucrative pursuit, offering financial rewards.

As far as I am aware,

One of the most challenging aspects of online writing is the lack of response.

Or, in the absence of inspiration, you may be tempted to abandon your efforts.

Your perseverance has brought you both income and a sense of accomplishment.

This demonstrates your passion and suitability for this role.

The following issues require attention:

1. You place a high value on reviews and sales figures.

However, you are able to maintain a level head and avoid letting your emotions affect your decision-making.

Additionally, you prioritize adequate rest. You have effectively achieved a balance between your writing and other aspects of your life.

2. A sudden policy change resulted in the removal of your work from the shelves.

You are experiencing a high level of distress. In order to maintain financial stability, you have attempted to diversify your writing portfolio.

You take prompt and decisive action in the face of a crisis, which demonstrates your willingness to adapt and your initiative.

3. The transition was unsuccessful, and several of your books were unsuccessful. You did not generate any revenue, and you faced pressure from life and criticism from readers.

It is evident that you are eager to overcome this challenge and find success in the shortest possible time.

It is challenging to write a novel, particularly when attempting a new subject matter that is outside of one's expertise.

Furthermore, you have published multiple books in a row.

This indicates that you are an impatient individual who sets high standards for yourself and desires to achieve the same results as before as soon as possible.

You have underestimated the difficulty of writing about a subject in which you lack expertise and have set unrealistic expectations regarding the speed of your achievements.

The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment when they cannot be fulfilled immediately.

In the event of significant disappointment, it is possible that self-confidence may be eroded, leading to a loss of confidence in one's abilities.

You are now able to resume work on the original subject matter, but you have lost confidence in yourself.

My recommendation is as follows:

It would be advisable to temporarily withdraw from the creative environment for a few days.

You may wish to consider taking a short trip to clear your mind.

Take some time to reflect on the challenges you have faced and how you have overcome them.

* Distinguish between unsuccessful material creation and material unsuitability for writing.

It is important to accept that you have a particular skill set and are not an expert in all areas.

Seek out sources of support and positive feedback.

Writing requires a substantial investment of knowledge and a significant time commitment.

It is essential to maintain a calm and collected mindset.

The path to success is not always straightforward.

If the route is circuitous, that is to be expected.

Embrace the unexpected and treat unexpected developments as the norm.

I hope you find this information useful.

From your description, I understand that you began writing novels as a hobby and subsequently transitioned into a career. Initially, you were enthusiastic and driven, but after encountering a setback, you experienced significant anxiety and insomnia. How can I assist you in managing this situation?

The unsuccessful transformation represents a significant setback. Your inability to generate income from writing about a specific topic has resulted in a lack of financial compensation. Additionally, the pressure of life and criticism from readers have introduced another layer of stress. This dual pressure has led to feelings of anxiety, a loss of confidence in your abilities, and a perception that you are unable to excel in any area.

When we encounter failure, it can be challenging to see the truth clearly. We may tend to believe that everything is our fault and that we are solely responsible for the outcome.

It is important to note that the setbacks encountered are not necessarily entirely the result of personal shortcomings.

Due to policy reasons, you may have to switch to a subject you are not initially proficient in. This may entail a trial-and-error process. You may have to switch to a subject you are more experienced in, and you may face setbacks, which is to be expected.

The books I wrote previously all enjoyed considerable commercial success, and I had high expectations of myself, believing that the transformation would undoubtedly be successful. The same may be true of readers, so the greater the expectations, the greater the disappointment.

When things don't go as planned, individuals may experience a sense of self-criticism and doubt their abilities.

It is counterproductive to attempt to avoid reading and responding to comments. Doing so only increases the pressure you are facing. Just as a spring is more resilient when it is allowed to rebound, you will be better able to handle these situations if you acknowledge them.

It is advisable to confront the reality of the situation, acknowledge your emotions and feelings when faced with such comments, allow yourself to process them, and then make any necessary adjustments.

If you find it challenging to manage these issues, you may wish to seek the guidance of a counselor to assist you in addressing the negative emotions that have accumulated. It is important to recognize and acknowledge emotions and feelings, rather than attempting to suppress them.

When emotions are expressed, reason will prevail, and you will be able to face yourself and accept reality.

Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. They provide an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Best of luck!

When your career and your interests start to merge, it can be hard to keep your original appearance.

Everything is difficult at the beginning, and that's okay! If you want to achieve results in an area you are not good at, the process will definitely be very painful. In the face of failure, don't have other emotions. Accept your failure carefully, and then transform from failure into something better. You can rebuild your foundation!

Writing requires a lot of accumulation, and the transition directly into the original fans is a great challenge. Readers are the most direct group, and they're often based on the quality of the work. They want to see you grow, and they want to see what they want to see.

It's so sad to see so many people just giving up, getting blacklisted, and not making their voices heard.

As an online writer, don't limit yourself to just one area. There are so many different categories out there, so why not try them all? You'll not only be able to explore lots of different areas, but you'll also be well-versed in many fields. And when you do face difficulties, don't worry.

Once you became a writer, you had unlimited courage because you were not burdened by past glories. You were able to keep fighting until your moment came! Now you are switching careers, but you are just retracing your steps to become a writer recognized by everyone.

In the face of the current predicament, it's okay to take your time and don't rush to make a choice. Do you still have the same love for writing as you once did?

It's totally normal to have lots of unpublished works if you're just starting out. But if you're thinking of making writing your career, it's really helpful to have a long-term plan and ways to improve yourself.

We all know that writing is different from other industries, especially online writing, which is prone to a high degree of convergence in models and works. The good news is that we can avoid being washed away by constantly innovating and changing!

Even if things don't work out the way we hoped, it's a great chance to think about ourselves and our future. We can't control everything that happens in the industry, but we can take charge of our own future!

But we can take a serious look back, give ourselves a break, and think about what we really want. Writing is a matter of what it means to oneself, and we all know that's something that's unique to each of us.

We all have our imperfections, and that's totally okay! Don't take the past too seriously — it's in the past for a reason. You have the power to create your future, and while it's always a good idea to think about the present, don't let it hold you back from chasing your dreams.

Hello, topic owner. I can see you're confused, so let me be clear:

1.

You can support yourself by writing novels. You wrote well before, and you can write even better on that topic because you can still break through to a higher level! When you feel anxious, think about how you achieved your former glory!

2.

You should write about a different topic if you talk about anxiety. Novels are free-flowing and are determined by the author's thoughts, so they can go anywhere!

In fact, reality is more exciting!

3.

If you've ever been restricted in writing on this topic, it's time to write about psychological topics. You can research information and collect real-life data every day, heal people, and make money at the same time. Your topic will become popular, and psychological topics are a great choice for you right now!

The current female psychologist is a perfect example of a subject that is needed now more than ever.

I encourage you to give it a try!

4.

Listen to the self-help podcast "Anxiety Relief" by Li Beiyu on Himalaya when you have time. It's excellent for self-help. A colleague of mine has been to the hospital and seen a psychologist because of anxiety. She said this podcast helped her a lot. You can also broadcast your own works on the Himalaya platform. If you can, find a professional anchor and do the post-production!

Your path will be broader!

5.

Don't overthink it. Just do it. Develop more interests and hobbies for yourself. People who love sports tend to be happier. If you persevere, you'll discover that you like yourself even more! When you're free, go out and explore. If you can afford it, go on a trip to change your mood!

6.

Choose a career you love. You can be criticized for it, but that shows you still have a lot of influence. The average person does not attract so much attention. You are a behind-the-scenes worker. The information age has also pushed behind-the-scenes workers to the forefront, so you need to enhance your psychological resilience. How? Let the work speak for itself. How do you make your work a classic?

Live with your heart and observe with your heart. There is subject matter everywhere!

Everyone is a self-media. A while ago, I saw a movie based on the work of a well-known author, and it wasn't great. The point is that we can have a lot of work, but not all of it can be good!

It's like when a director makes a TV show: sometimes it's a hit, and sometimes it's just plain mediocre. It has a lot to do with inspiration. Gain more experience, even though it may seem like a waste of time. You will gain a different perspective and inspiration!

I am confident that you will succeed! I am certain that my advice will be of benefit to you. Best of luck!

Greetings,

First of all, I admire creators like you. I would be very interested to know what it is like to work all year round. I have never tried it myself.

I believe that the person who can do this must be someone with very strong self-control. Many people, including myself, find this challenging.

I can sense your unease and doubt about the future. This situation has kept you awake at night.

In her book Letting Go of the Past, American writer Byron Katie offers a perspective on the universe that is thought-provoking and insightful. She suggests that there are three main categories of things in the universe: our own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of the heavens.

I believe that what happens to me is within my control, and I can do my best to make it happen.

Perhaps it would be best not to interfere with or force others. And it might be helpful to remember that we shouldn't take responsibility for others.

With regard to matters of a spiritual nature, it is perhaps best not to concern ourselves with them.

Due to policy reasons, we have been unable to write online articles on that topic. We respect this matter as one that is beyond our control and accept it.

Writing books is our own business and something we can control. Given our past success in writing books, why not try writing on a different topic? You mentioned that you have written several books on topics you are not as experienced in, and they have not been as successful. Could it be that we could have succeeded in writing on that topic the first time around?

I believe that our current anxiety may not be primarily economic or related to the subject matter of online articles. It may, in fact, be largely a problem of self-doubt.

I believe that now is an appropriate time to address that topic. We still have the opportunity to demonstrate our abilities based on our previous achievements.

Perhaps it would be beneficial for the questioner to take some time to relax, revisit their previous online articles, and consider making some revisions. It is possible that with a little time and reflection, inspiration may gradually return.

Perhaps you could consider that you were once a king who worked tirelessly, and that you can create glory again today.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. I sincerely hope the questioner can return to the top of their game.

I would like to express my gratitude to everyone for their time and attention. My name is Jiusi, and I am a member of the Yixinli community. I am grateful to be part of this community, and I hope to continue to contribute to it in a positive way.

Good day, Sir. I hope my response is of some assistance to you.

I empathize with your situation. When confronted with setbacks and negative feedback, it's natural to experience anxiety and distress, which can impact your sleep. Poor sleep can further exacerbate these emotions, creating a vicious cycle. I believe your challenge is a lack of inner confidence and courage to navigate these challenges. Don't worry or be afraid. With time and adjustment, you will develop the resilience to handle these pressures.

I would advise the original poster to:

1. Learn to respond to feedback in a constructive manner and accept the possibility of being criticized.

I recently read a report in which a netizen questioned Wu Jing about his decision to add words to his passport that were not originally there. The netizen accused Wu Jing of destroying the Chinese passport. In response, Wu Jing stated, "This is an expression of my emotions, an expression of my love for a strong motherland. It is a film work, a work of art. I have not actually destroyed the real Chinese passport. I have not broken the law, and I have already had a lawyer clarify this for me. I am just expressing my values. Any film is an expression of a director's values, and I hope to gain the recognition of the audience. You can also disagree. There are a thousand interpretations of the Chinese passport in the minds of a thousand people. If a few people oppose this kind of thing, you can correctly express your demands..."

Despite the success of his film, Wu Jing continues to face criticism. It is important to accept that criticism is a reality in any field.

What is the correct way to handle other people's evaluations?

It is important to recognize that each individual possesses unique characteristics and a distinct set of evaluation criteria.

When others meet our evaluation criteria, we offer them our support and recognition. Conversely, when others do not meet our evaluation criteria, we reserve our disapproval and doubt.

Conversely, when our performance aligns with the other person's evaluation standards, they will recognize and accept us. Conversely, when our performance does not align with the other person's evaluation standards, they will reject us.

It is important to note that whether or not the other person recognizes you is less a reflection of you and more a function of whether you align with their evaluation criteria. It is not possible to control the thoughts and actions of others, and it is not feasible to meet everyone's evaluation criteria every time.

Life presents challenges to all of us, and we each have different needs and circumstances. There is no need to conform to external standards or expectations, nor to impose our standards on others. It is not necessary to seek constant understanding and approval from others.

It is therefore unnecessary to sacrifice oneself in order to gain the approval of others, or to maintain relationships. It is irrelevant whether one is liked or disliked, as there will always be individuals who hold positive and negative views of a person. The crucial point is whether one can accept this duality.

It is important to understand that we do not live to satisfy other people's expectations. If we continue to seek approval from others and care about what they think, we run the risk of living other people's lives. If we seek excessive approval from others, we may end up living our lives according to other people's expectations and lose sight of our true selves. This can cause significant issues as it may not align with our genuine aspirations.

It is essential to reassert control over your own judgment. You can treat yourself as an impartial observer and evaluate your performance with comprehensive, objective, and truthful criteria. This approach allows you to gain a deeper understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, as well as your personal goals. At this stage, external evaluations may become less influential.

When you prioritize your own authenticity and live your true self, you will find that your relationships will actually improve. Those "bad relationships" that you have traded for by pleasing others and suppressing your own needs will no longer be a source of concern.

Furthermore, I believe that if you write what you want to write, your supporters will continue to endorse and appreciate you. Therefore, it is essential to be authentic and consistent in your actions and beliefs to attract genuine followers.

2. Identify and prioritize the factors within your control and take action accordingly.

The feeling of fatigue often stems from a multitude of concerns. It is, therefore, essential to ascertain whether these concerns can be altered.

If you have the ability to change it, then do so. Worrying about it is an ineffective use of time and resources. If you are unable to change it, then accept it.

As the adage in "A Change of Heart" states, there are three categories of matters in this world: one's own affairs, the affairs of others, and the affairs of heaven. Individuals experience distress when they fail to control their own affairs and instead concern themselves with the affairs of others and the affairs of heaven.

The question, then, is to distinguish between one's own business and that of others.

It is important to remember that other people's actions and thoughts are their own business.

As previously stated, an individual's personality is shaped by their upbringing, educational background, and living environment. They have their own set of evaluation standards. When we meet these standards, they view us positively; otherwise, they view us negatively.

We all have our own standards by which we judge others. When others meet our standards, we like, support, and approve of them; when they don't, we dislike and disapprove of them. Therefore, whether others evaluate you positively or negatively seems to have something to do with you, but in fact it has to do with whether your evaluation matches theirs.

It is therefore important to recognise that everyone has different needs and positions, and that there is no need to cultivate oneself in other people's hearts or force others in your own heart. Furthermore, there is no need to crave others' understanding and recognition in everything. This will help to create a more relaxed environment.

It is our responsibility to ensure that our own actions and thoughts are in line with our personal standards and values.

As we are unable to control the actions and thoughts of others, and the purpose of our lives is not to satisfy the needs and recognition of others, it is essential that we focus on our own needs, understand ourselves better, identify our requirements and then take steps to address our issues.

When we lack something inside, we seek it outside. Therefore, if you require the approval of others, you must learn to approve of yourself. When you accept and approve of yourself sufficiently, and when your confidence is strong enough, you will not be concerned about the external evaluation and approval of you, as you will already have it.

Once you have taken the time to care for yourself and love yourself, and your mental energy has been enhanced, you will then have the ability and energy to love others.

Therefore, it is important to focus on your strengths, continuously enhance your skills, expand your knowledge base, gain new experiences, and pursue ongoing growth.

When we can distinguish between what is within our purview and what is not, we can accept what is unchangeable and change what is changeable.

Once we have accepted others and recognized that we cannot change them, we will be less concerned about their actions and thoughts. When we accept their patterns and become accustomed to their behavior, we will experience peace and relaxation in our hearts, and we will not be emotionally drained.

3. Prioritize self-care and emotional well-being to achieve a positive state of mind.

It is recommended that you begin by adjusting your lifestyle to establish a regular sleep and diet routine. This is the foundation of maintaining a healthy state. In other words, ensure you get sufficient rest, eat fresh and nutritious food, and become more physically active.

In terms of emotions, you may feel that you have a lot of emotions inside, and you may need to release them in a timely manner rather than suppressing them. You can use the following methods to release your emotions, and you should do it often:

1. Form connections with individuals who can provide support and encouragement, and with whom you feel at ease.

2. Engage in physical activity that aligns with your interests and promote relaxation of the body and mind during exercise.

3. Writing therapy: Document all relevant feelings and thoughts on paper. There is no need to concern yourself with the neatness or clarity of the handwriting, or to adhere to any particular logic in the content. The objective is to express your feelings as fully as you see fit.

4. Anger release techniques may include punching pillows or sandbags to release pent-up frustration.

5. The empty chair technique can be used to release emotions. In a room, place an empty chair, assuming that the person you want to talk to is sitting in the chair. You can then express yourself to the chair (anger, abuse, etc. are fine).

Have confidence in your abilities. Despite the challenges you may face, you will overcome them. I wish you the best of luck.

Let's talk about this emotional anxiety together.

When I read your words, I thought, "You're really courageous for doing something many people like me want to do but are afraid to try. I admire your ability."

Is it possible to turn a hobby into a profession so you can do what you love every day? The questioner was very skilled and full of motivation and joy in life when he first started writing online novels.

That's really something to be envious of! However, life is never smooth sailing.

Due to policy reasons, all the original poster's work has been taken offline.

To make a living, he had to switch to writing about a subject he wasn't that good at. It's hard to imagine how difficult it was for him to face all this, and how hard it was for the questioner.

It felt like he'd fallen from heaven. The transition was a complete failure, and he was under a lot of pressure.

I'm not sure if the questioner has found a way to improve his weaknesses through learning. Instead of avoiding those negative comments, he dwells on them and it affects him.

A believer had a craving for a cigarette while praying, so he asked the priest present, "Can I smoke while praying?"

The priest replied, "This is disrespectful to God."

The next day, the same devotee wanted to smoke again, so he asked the priest present, "Can I pray while smoking?"

The priest replied, "It's always remembering to pray."

One questioner asked the group, "Can you turn a hobby into a job?"

"No way! That's too simple!"

"The respondents all agreed.

The next day, the questioner asked the audience again, "Can you make work your hobby?"

"Work with pleasure, and you'll get twice the result with half the effort!" The answerers all agreed.

I think the questioner will get the point of this story.

Here are some ways to relieve stress:

1. Take action right away. Don't spend time on things that aren't important.

② Adjust your mindset and accept that the world is always changing.

③Do your best, reflect on your work after each task, look at what you have to do from outside your current role, make timely adjustments, avoid getting stuck in a rut, and do less useless work.

Next, we'll look at how to improve work efficiency.

fifth, make sure you get some exercise in regularly, because your health is the foundation of a revolution.

Most of us are going through something similar, so try to relax. There's always a way out, right?

I hope the questioner has a happy life and a great career.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I feel like it's a particle of ash from a mountain that everyone's been blessed with. It also reminds me of the Russian-Ukrainian war that is currently underway. For the civilians in Ukraine, there must also be many successful people among them. Just the day before yesterday, they were still living peaceful and harmonious lives, but now they are in dire straits. Life is really unpredictable, but it's also full of possibilities! I wonder if you, when you are anxious about your own affairs, also think about the civilians in Ukraine? The reason I mentioned the Russian-Ukrainian war is because I want to express that we should be especially contented that we can live peacefully now, without the worry of war. In this situation, can our current anxiety be eased a bit?

Let me give you a big, warm hug first!

I remember someone saying that as long as it's not a matter of life and death, everything is not a problem. People in a war are really scared, but they can still find ways to cope. That kind of anxiety, that kind of helplessness, except for silently praying to God, I once read a news report that civilians in Ukraine were kneeling in subway stations praying for safety. Most people really have no way out, but they can still find ways to make the best of it!

I want you to turn your attention now to the incredible, inspiring story of the Russo-Ukrainian War. I know you have turned to him, and in the future, you will be able to alleviate some of your worries about your current problems. What's more, there is a glimmer of hope for you now, because after all, the policy on the subject you used to be good at has loosened up again. If you can get over this hurdle and get through this, you can definitely leap to the next level!

So, how do you get through this confusing stage? Let me share my views based on my personal experience!

First of all, if you are seriously anxious and can't sleep, then don't sleep! You have a lot of free time, so use it! You said you make a living writing internet novels, so you have the freedom to do what you love. Writers who type are not anxious, and they usually become more and more excited after midnight because inspiration always comes when it's quiet at night. I think this is probably also the case with you! If you are also one of these people, then when you feel anxious, I think it's probably because of habit that you may also be unable to sleep. Since you can't sleep, simply don't worry too much. If you can't sleep, just let it be. During the day, how can you make up for it?

Anyway, in my personal experience, if you stay up all night and don't worry too much, what about during the day?

He will get sleepy, and then he can rest. I don't know if you can do the same, but you can definitely try! You can judge for yourself whether this method works.

Second, when you are anxious and unable to sleep in the middle of the night, I think, since you are an author of online novels, you might as well use your strengths and record in words the process of repeatedly thinking about how to get through the long night. Just record whatever comes to mind. Of course, this record can be about a night when you couldn't sleep and did nothing, and then the second night when you also couldn't sleep, and you can record what you did the night before. In fact, it's just reviewing what happened every night. This is also our personal experience, a gift from our lives. Just treat it as a gift to us. People who have never experienced a sleepless night really can't understand. Just as the saying goes, a life without nights of crying is not a life. No, without sleepless nights and anxiety, you really can't appreciate the sorrows of life. Since a grain of dust from the times has fallen on us and become a mountain, let's just treat it as a gift from life and let it become a stepping stone on our way forward.

Another thing to think about is how we can make the most of our days when we're not feeling too anxious or stressed, but still have trouble sleeping at night. Let's make the most of our daytime hours! Try to get as much exercise as you can during the day. We all know that exercise is a great way to release stress and boost our mood. The best way to do this is to find an activity you enjoy, whether it's walking, jogging, playing a sport, or going to the gym. Take action that suits you based on your actual situation, and really let yourself sweat!

Now, let's talk about the online subject you wrote about! You're deeply involved in an unsuccessful subject, the one that turned your hobby into a career. But here's the good news: you can write about it again! Take a deep breath, then exhale slowly, calming yourself down. Inside, you think about yourself now, and you realize you have two subjects.

You say you didn't make money from this later topic and are still facing life pressures. But you have experienced a different kind of life at this cost, and it's been a wild ride! No one wants to experience this, but after going through it, you'll see it was worth it. This reminds me of people who are so miserable after a breakup that it takes them years to recover. When they finally do, they feel truly relieved and can laugh about the suffering they endured. They can laugh at their own foolishness, their own infatuation, and their own delusion. These are the experiences that must be gone through in order to suffer. Only in suffering can you grow yourself. Of course, this is something that only the strong, those who can come out of suffering, can understand. I think you are an online fiction author, so you must have a God's-eye view and be able to understand this. As for me, it took me half of my life to understand this, and I also had a miserable time. So, I really hope that you can strengthen this belief. As long as you go through this painful and muddy stage, you will be able to grow.

And I believe in you! You have a God's perspective, and that's why you wrote that successful novel on that topic. You must believe in yourself and be determined to get out of this predicament. You must be as determined as a general who can take command of the army. You will think of a method that suits you. There's a saying that says:

There are always more ways than there are problems!

I have great expectations for you! I can't wait to see the early success of your original novel. And since you've already dabbled in this new subject, you'll gradually become better at it with time. You should know that current education advocates interdisciplinary and cross-border studies. This is an inevitable trend in the development of our human race. You're experiencing this now, and it's a great thing! Opportunities really do exist in times of crisis.

Seize this amazing opportunity! Unleash your full potential and show the world the best of who you are. The world and I love you!