Often, there is no common ground and there is more than one sentence. Is it worth continuing with such a person?

Hello! I'm here to help you find peace.

It seems like there are a lot of arguments, and it's hard to communicate. It also seems like your husband isn't fulfilling his responsibilities as a husband or as a father. It's so sad to see a marriage on the verge of breaking up.

Right now, the kids aren't on board with the divorce, and the pressure from their folks and the economy hasn't led to it yet.

From what you've told me, I can see you've been through a lot. It's so sad to hear you feel powerless, hopeless, disappointed, depressed, angry and anxious.

First of all, please allow me to give you a warm hug. I'm here to give you some comfort and help you feel calm again.

Then, if you like, I would be more than happy to accompany you on your journey to find a way out.

You've already taken a big step towards self-redemption by being willing to raise your dilemma on the Yixin platform and seek help.

It's so great that you're looking for help! It shows you're self-aware and willing to try to find a way out on your own. That's really courageous. Way to go!

From what you've told me, it seems like things aren't going so well in your marriage right now. It's totally understandable that you're considering divorce, but it seems like there are some obstacles in the way at the moment.

I'd love to help you explore some questions together if you're up for it!

I'd love to know how you and your husband met! What were the qualities that attracted you to each other?

I'm so sorry to hear you've been feeling this way. When did you start feeling like your husband wasn't being responsible? Was it before you had kids?

And then, what happened afterwards?

I'd love to hear how you reacted when you felt this way. And have you been able to communicate your thoughts and feelings honestly with your husband?

Or did you try to work on your relationship in any way?

I'd love to know what his reaction was!

If not, I'd love to hear what considerations you had.

I'm so sorry to hear you and your husband have differing views on how to raise the children.

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. When you had the idea of divorce, what was your husband's reaction?

I can see why you're struggling to divorce at this stage. It's not just that you can't agree on the terms, but also that the children don't want it and there are so many other pressures, like parental and financial ones.

I'm so sorry to hear that the agreement didn't work out. Has your child told you that they don't want you to get divorced?

We all have those moments when we feel pressure from our parents. I'm sure you have too! So, what is your relationship like with yours?

Do you usually communicate well? Do they understand your marital situation? I'm sure they do, but it's always good to check!

I can see how you might think that if you tell them the truth, they won't understand and won't support you.

Let's talk about financial pressure. Do you ever feel like you won't be able to support yourself financially if your marriage breaks up?

I can see how you might feel like these factors are restricting you, binding you, and hindering you.

But if you think about it, you'll see that all the factors that are holding you back are actually your own creation.

When you're ready to look honestly at what's on your mind, you'll see that the answer you're looking for is right there in front of you.

You've got this! You can find a way out. I'm sending you all my best wishes.

Dear question asker, After reading your statement, I empathize with your situation as a woman and would like to extend my support and understanding.

A husband who displays short-tempered, irresponsible, and selfish behavior, as well as a tendency toward self-indulgence, can present a significant challenge to his wife. In addition to the demands of parenting a three-year-old child, who requires care and companionship, the wife in this situation also bears the burden of household responsibilities. It is evident that the wife in this scenario is facing considerable difficulties.

From your account, it appears that the primary cause of the marital discord and eventual dissolution is the couple's inability to communicate effectively and their tendency to engage in frequent arguments when they disagree. Additionally, your husband exhibits a lack of affection and love for his wife, a reluctance to share domestic responsibilities, a proclivity for anger, and a deficit in his sense of responsibility.

One is prompted to inquire as to the circumstances that led to the couple's decision to marry and the subsequent trajectory that led to the present situation. It appears that the husband possesses the capacity to drive to his place of employment, which suggests that he retains the ability to work and generate income.

You indicate that he neglects the children following an altercation with you. This suggests that, in the absence of discord, he assumes responsibility for their care. Who typically assumes this role?

The child exited the residence without footwear and was able to contact you to inform you of his continued concern and attention to the child, is this correct?

In response to accusations made by the wife, how does the husband typically react? Is his response characterized by an aggrieved defense?

Alternatively, does he simply dismiss the issue? Is his reluctance to fulfill his responsibilities due to a lack of desire or capability?

What are your expectations regarding the actions your husband should take to demonstrate his care for you?

It is important to note that, on occasion, it may be necessary to explicitly convey one's needs and expectations to another individual. This allows the other person to understand your requirements and subsequently meet them.

It is unclear whether communication with the individual in question occurs in a calm state or if reasoned debate is conducted when emotions are running high.

The statement does not mention his dissatisfaction or accusations against the questioner. It is therefore unclear whether the questioner believes that the respondent is satisfied or dissatisfied with her performance in the marriage. Furthermore, it is unclear what the respondent's expectations and needs are.

It is therefore pertinent to enquire as to whether the aforementioned needs can be met.

In the interim, the questioner may consider the following:

1. What are the advantages and disadvantages of remaining in the marriage and living with the spouse in question? What are the advantages and disadvantages of initiating divorce proceedings and subsequently ending the marriage?

2. Are you currently satisfied with your own self-perception, and if so, what are the reasons for this positive self-assessment?

It is this writer's hope that the questioner will list the aforementioned questions in sequential order, then transcribe them onto a sheet of paper and respond to them in a serious manner. Should the questioner remain uncertain as to the optimal course of action, this writer encourages them to engage in further discussion.

It is my sincere hope that my response will prove beneficial to you. I extend my best wishes for your expeditious departure from this unfortunate situation and the advent of a joyous new chapter in your life.

I've heard that nine out of ten relationships are sad, and most of them don't work out. Either the couple eventually gets tired of each other and loses interest, or they feel sad because they can't seem to make their relationship work.

It's so sad to see how many people just let their emotions run wild these days. They get married when they fall in love and get divorced when the love is gone. This kind of love is often a form of narcissism. Many people explore different lovers in search of love, but ultimately feel increasingly lonely. The reason is that narcissistic love can never last.

It's not realistic to expect anyone to live up to all your expectations. We all love lovely people, but if you can still love someone when they're not as lovely as they once were, and if you're willing to discover their loveliness again, then that's true love!

If love is just a feeling, then when it encounters a challenge, that feeling will quickly disappear because it is easy to find that feeling in different people. So the most common excuse for infidelity is that I don't feel it anymore. But true love is not just a feeling; it is more of a responsibility, a mutual sacrifice and mutual achievement. True love is not just a moment of emotion; it must be a long-term commitment, mutual sacrifice, mutual achievement, and mutual respect.

The love theory proposed by American psychologist Sternberg believes that love consists of three basic components: passion, intimacy, and commitment. Passion is the sexual component of love and is emotional fascination; intimacy refers to the warm experience that can be aroused in a loving relationship; and commitment refers to the decision to maintain the relationship or guarantee.

It has three elements: passion, commitment, and intimacy. And it's only in perfect love that we can truly see the true face of love.

The two of them decide to enter into marriage, build their own love, take on their own responsibilities, and share the ups and downs of life together. The beginning of marriage is always beautiful, with a beautiful longing for the future.

The outcome of marriage is a bit of a mystery, isn't it?

Once the two of you were in love, without the constraints of material comfort, everything was wonderful. When we enter into marriage, we enter a second realm of relationships. Just like a tree that needs to be watered and maintained, relationships need our care and attention to flourish.

If you let one go and let it consume, then it will wither and die.

We're all special, and we all have our own good and bad points. But in our romantic lives, we often see things in a one-sided way.

When you're in love, your partner always shines, so nothing is a problem. But in marriage, when faced with the trials of life, we eventually become enemies.

Our lives are long and short at the same time, and it's so important to be responsible for the choices we make. It's a good idea to think seriously about why we chose him in the first place, and why we chose to leave him now.

We all have high expectations of our loved ones, and it's only natural! Our hearts tend to idealize our loved ones, which can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. It's important to remember that everyone has their own limitations and that not everyone is willing to do everything we ask. This can sometimes result in a bit of a cold war in the relationship.

Communication is the best way to make things better, but it can also be the hardest. In our family, we've found that emotions, parental interference, and other factors can make simple communication more complicated. This can make it harder to understand each other. Once upon a time, you could talk about anything, but now you have nothing to say.

It's funny how our minds can play tricks on us. What we think is familiar can turn into a stranger.

There are some beautiful love stories out there, but they're few and far between. Most love stories are spent in the midst of conflicts and compromises. We'll meet many people in our lives, we'll miss many people, and we'll misunderstand many people. Often, we're fearless before losing someone, but after losing them, we'll regret it and try to get them back, but it's already too late.

Take a moment to put aside material things and children. Do you still love each other? Have you ever loved each other? It's okay if you're not sure. We all have moments where we question our feelings. Why is your love so fragile? Even without the torment of illness and grief, it collapses under the desire to self-destruct.

If you still have love, find the real problem and save the big tree of love that belongs to you. If there is no love, try not to let material things and children become a barrier between you. A thousand pieces of gold can be spent and returned, and a person has nothing in their life or in death. Since you have loved each other, there is no need for material things to become mortal enemies.

It's so important to remember that what a child really needs is a family that's there for each other, not just on paper. Your relationship doesn't have to be perfect for your little one to have a happy childhood.

Life is a journey, and parting is easy. When you really choose to leave, nothing can hold you back, my friend.

If you're still feeling unsure, there's no need to rush. You can always take as much time as you need to make the right decision for you.

Good day, madam.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a sense of disappointment, despair, and confusion at a crossroads in your life. It is understandable that you would choose to continue living together and dealing with the challenges that come with it, but it is important to recognize that divorce is also a complex process with its own set of practical difficulties.

Such circumstances are undoubtedly exhausting.

Now, when you consider your husband, you are primarily aware of his lack of care for you, his lack of participation in domestic tasks, his low level of responsibility, and his apparent lack of responsibility towards the children. Do you feel that you were previously unaware of these shortcomings?

It would be beneficial to recall what initially attracted you to him. Have those initial positive attributes remained? Has he changed, or have societal standards regarding marriage and husbands changed?

Please indicate the length of your marriage and the nature of your relationship prior to the absence of children.

At what point did the arguments become unending and the language used become hostile?

At what point did the notion of divorce first arise? What were the underlying reasons for this shift in perspective?

It would be beneficial to ascertain what qualities your husband found attractive in you. Have these qualities remained intact?

If you were to summarize your marriage at this point in time, what would you say?

Please recall the most affectionate event that has occurred over the course of your relationship.

Please describe the most touching thing your husband has ever done for you.

Please describe the most touching thing you have ever done for your husband.

It is a commonly held belief that relationships are reciprocal and the result of interactions. One might cite the adage, "You are only as good as the company you keep," as an exemplification of this concept.

It is important to note that any difficulties experienced in a relationship are not the fault of one individual. For the purposes of this exercise, let us assume that there is a prize of 1 million. What is the objective of this competition?

Your objective is to maintain the status quo, as previously described, characterised by ongoing discord and your husband's lack of responsibility. Conversely, your husband's objective is to effect positive change and become a more responsible and considerate partner and father.

Should you succeed in reaching your goal, you will receive the prize; conversely, should your husband succeed in reaching his goal, he will receive the prize. What course of action do you believe you would undertake in order to achieve victory?

It may be beneficial to attempt to identify the key factors that contribute to success in this endeavor and to compare them with the strategies currently employed.

Identifying the source of the problem is the initial step in implementing a solution.

A significant number of couples experience emotional difficulties as a result of ineffective communication. It is crucial for individuals in relationships to ensure that their partners are aware of their thoughts and feelings. Failure to do so may result in prolonged misunderstandings and the exacerbation of existing issues.

For example, women who are able to demonstrate a certain degree of vulnerability and request assistance from their partners tend to fare better in terms of household chores. It is important for women to learn to acknowledge their weaknesses and to make requests of their partners, thereby demonstrating their need for support.

It is important to ensure that your partner feels needed, as this will contribute to the stability and resilience of your family unit.

Rather than alienating him with your words, refrain from placing yourself on a moral pedestal and leveling accusations at the other party.

Are men and fathers expected to embody a specific set of characteristics?

In conclusion, it is hoped that the suggestions put forth for improving the relationship are beneficial in the event that the couple does not wish to divorce. Finally, in the event that the couple does wish to divorce and is unable to agree on the division of assets,

It is acceptable to seek the assistance of a professional divorce lawyer in order to advocate for one's best interests.

If the foundation of the relationship remains intact, it is advisable to attempt to salvage it. Should this prove unfeasible, it is possible to seek professional family therapy for marital counseling.

It is my sincere hope that this response will prove to be of some assistance to you.

I would like to extend my sincerest congratulations.

I hug you!

When you encounter annoying things, it seems like you don't want them.

It's hard.

I'd be happy to go through it with you.

1. Put aside the problems and prioritize your needs.

You want to separate because of the quarrels.

There are many practical problems.

What should you do at a crossroads?

Nobody can answer this.

You have to decide for yourself.

Where do you start?

List the pros and cons of being apart and together.

Assign different points to them.

If they don't separate, the child will have a complete family, which can give the child better educational resources and less financial pressure.

They argue, and I feel he contributes less. I may be unhappy.

What's more important?

Is the other person abusive or unfaithful?

Comparing pros and cons can help you make a decision.

Don't rush this process.

Set a date in your heart, like six months.

2. If you have feelings for each other, it's worth it.

Couples often argue.

We need to learn to argue and communicate better.

Even couples with a lot of love can lose their feelings because of an argument.

After forming a family, there will be conflicts and contradictions.

You may have contributed a lot to the family and be disappointed in your husband.

Have you tried seeing things from his point of view?

What has he done for the family?

Is there something he does well?

If we only see his faults, we ignore his good points.

If we're too critical, he'll behave badly.

He may think:

You say I'm no good, so I'll show you.

You won't see it.

Have you tried a new way to communicate?

Couples often argue about the same things over and over, and this leads to divorce.

This is because we don't know how to be a husband and wife.

Many families don't need to end in divorce, but they do because of poor communication.

Seek marriage and family counseling if possible. It could lead to a different outcome.

3. Make changes to be happy.

Many women feel aggrieved, wondering why it is their partner's fault.

If we change our thinking, we can be happier.

Everything we do is for our own happiness.

We always have a choice.

Can you change the way you speak?

Ask for his opinion by saying "What do you think?"

This is a negotiation, not a request or order.

Is there one thing he does well?

Is there one thing he does well that you can praise him for?

Good men also need to be cultivated.

You always have a choice.

You always have a choice.

We can make choices based on our situation, whether we separate or repair the relationship.

Do only things that are in your best interest.

To be happy, you have to learn and practice.

Read "Love needs to be learned" if you're interested.

Bless you!

Hello, questioner!

From your question, I can see that you and your husband have a lot of challenges in your relationship. It sounds like you're on the verge of divorce, which is never an easy thing to go through. From your description, your husband is an irresponsible person with a low sense of family responsibility. He is unable to play the role of a father to your children and does not know how to care for them. I think he is not qualified as a father. In view of this situation, you don't know what to do, and you feel disappointed, desperate, and broken. I can feel your emotions, and I'm here to give you a hug from afar.

Let's find out why you can't communicate with each other. If your husband is someone who is not willing to talk and take the initiative to solve problems, then he is someone who chooses to escape, is irresponsible, and is unable to take responsibility for the family, for you and the children. As a family, the man needs to have a certain amount of responsibility and obligation, to be responsible for you and the children.

If the other person is unable to communicate with you, immature, and unwilling to compromise on the division of property, then I suggest you seek legal advice from a lawyer to protect your rights and interests. You have the option of leaving, too!

It's time to learn to take responsibility for yourself! When you do, you'll find that you can avoid so many frustrating and disappointing situations. You'll also be able to make the right choices for yourself, even when you're under pressure from having children, from your parents, or from the economy. And you'll be able to see whether such a life makes you more tired.

If you choose to continue, you will have to sacrifice yourself. When your child grows up, your child will say to you, "I don't need you to sacrifice yourself like this." I think you will be even more sad and sad at that time, so now look for ways that are good for yourself. For yourself, learn to take responsibility for yourself. You can seek legal advice and find a solution. Believe in yourself!

No matter what life throws at you, you must take good care of yourself! When looking for your next relationship, keep your eyes open, learn to love yourself, focus on yourself, work hard to improve yourself, and good people will come your way!

I really hope my answer is helpful to you!

Hello!

"Is it worth continuing with someone who has nothing to say?" I thought it was about a girl confused about love.

Opening it up, you discover a marriage full of problems.

If you divorce, your in-laws may complain. But the questioner doesn't say anything bad about them.

It also shows you are willing to confront him and resolve disputes in your family.

From a husband and father's point of view, some of the man's problems have been highlighted, and some of them you've already found very serious.

His lack of care for the children made him seem childish. Do you feel overwhelmed raising two children?

What else?

Rest your brain, clear your thoughts, and think.

Don't blindly follow the clichés of people with more experience. There's a saying: "everything in moderation." Too much advice can also affect your judgment.

Don't use your children as an excuse. They'll see that everything is an excuse and feel exploited.

Be realistic and love and care for your children, no matter what.

Love yourself first!

There's a way out of this. I can't say she'll come when you pray, but she might when you feel like you're falling, embrace yourself, listen to yourself, and gradually stand up.

Hello. I can see that you're feeling pretty anxious right now. It seems like you're upset with your husband, especially when it comes to his temper. You feel like he gets angry easily and ignores the kids whenever there's a disagreement. You're also frustrated with his lack of responsibility, and you feel like he doesn't care for or love you. You're hoping he'll share more of the housework.

You're trying to decide whether to divorce.

Let's look at what happened today. You said you packed your kid's school bag and went to work this morning. Then he sent me a message and called to tell me that the kid had run outside barefoot while he drove to work by himself and left the kid at home alone. The kid is under three years old, and he told me not to regret it if something happened to the kid when he went back.

I think you had a fight yesterday or this morning. After breakfast, your kid had to go to kindergarten, so you packed his school bag, told your husband to take him there, and you went to work. After you left, your husband sent you a message saying that your kid had run outside barefoot and that he didn't care because he had to drive to work.

Just give him a call and tell him that if something happens to the child when you send him back, you won't regret it. (The implication is that you should quit your job and come back to take care of the child. / You argue and hurt me, so I'm going to cause trouble and hurt you in return).

You're feeling pretty angry, hurt, and a little helpless right now, given what your husband did.

You can feel your anger towards your husband and worry about your child in the moment, and focus on your body to feel where these emotions are reflected in your body. Just focus on your body for now.

Once you've had a chance to calm down, take another look at the situation and focus on the task at hand.

Hello,

The couple often quarrel. Sometimes, they don't get the empathy they need. They often have a lot of pent-up emotions.

Your husband doesn't seem to care about your emotions and opinions. He argues with you and gives you a lecture.

We want a husband who is gentle and considerate. He should be there for us when we are emotionally vulnerable, protect the whole family from the wind and rain, and teach the children with care. But your husband is not like the image you have in your heart, which makes you feel unacceptable. You don't want to work hard during the day and come home at night to take care of your husband and children, with no one to care for your emotions, no understanding or support, no love or companionship, and only mental arguments instead of spiritual communication.

You're tired and don't know if you can keep going. Is that right?

He says he doesn't care about the kids anymore. This morning, I packed their school bags and left for work.

He sent me a message and called to tell me that the child had run outside barefoot while he drove to work by himself, leaving the child at home alone. The child is under three years old, so it's fine as long as you don't regret letting my child go back.

From the description, it seems that before the husband argues with you, he will take care of the children, but after the argument, he just says he doesn't care! Do you also have differences in your views on child-rearing? As a mother, you will criticize your husband for certain behaviors.

The husband is angry because he thinks it's the mother's job to take care of the kids. He feels blamed and scolded. He gives up and acts like a child.

The two often argue. Is it because they have problems communicating? They used to be too lazy to explain, then they stopped listening, and now they just insist on their own views. This has led to more and more frequent and intense conflicts.

In short!

Mutual understanding and empathy between husband and wife is key to mutual respect.

2. Listen, communicate, and respect each other to resolve minor issues.

3. Marital disputes are only temporary. People may be irritable or grumpy, but they will adjust and regain their radiance.

I hope you can give yourselves and each other more time to get through this. You've been together a long time and I believe you still love each other.

Best wishes!

I hope my answer is helpful.

Read the original poster's description and feel the original poster's dilemma. The original poster is disappointed with her husband's role as a husband and father, but does not want to separate because of factors such as the children. Many people in marriage have similar situations as you describe, but everyone's choice will be different. Ultimately, the original poster must choose.

However, we can choose to do so based on what is known in psychology as "issue separation."

You must understand that you are the only one who can bear the consequences of your choice, whether you choose to leave or continue. In fact, "issue separation" means that the person who directly bears the consequences of an event is the one who owns the issue.

You don't need to take on other people's responsibilities yourself. Take on your own responsibilities and let go of other people's responsibilities through "issue separation." This will make you feel much more relaxed.

You can choose to separate from your husband, but you will have to face the consequences. These include pressure from your parents, financial pressure, and your child receiving little care from his father. Alternatively, you can choose to stay with your husband, but you will also have to face the consequences. These include him continuing to not share the housework, having a bad temper, and not caring about the child after an argument. You can also choose to stay with your husband but learn to communicate with him in a better state of mind and with better communication skills. You can express your needs, adjust your expectations, and create a better family atmosphere. However, this also requires you to face the consequences. You will have to grow and learn more about managing intimate relationships. You may become even more hardworking, but you will reap more harmonious relationships in the long run.

We have many options and ways to solve problems. There are actually far more than just leaving.

You still have a lot of needs for your husband in your marriage. Let's communicate better with him and adjust our attitudes. That will make everything better.

My suggestion is this:

First, understand the purpose of communication between husband and wife. Don't just focus on his bad aspects.

Communication between husband and wife is not just about expressing each other's meaning, negotiating and discussing steps and directions. It's also about making each other feel close and sensing each other's needs. This is how you maintain a happy marriage and enhance the intimacy and satisfaction of both parties. You can understand a lot from an expression in the eyes, tone of voice and attitude. For example, you can see whether you like or approve of something. But you also need to explain things carefully. This is how you decide where to use the family savings, how to discipline your children's behavior, where you want to go on vacation and whether you approve of going on a business trip with a colleague of the opposite sex. These are things that require in-depth discussions.

We must express our needs and listen to each other. We need to find common ground and compromise. This requires open communication. A happy marriage is built on a foundation of mutual respect and open communication.

There are three main functions of communication between a husband and wife.

1. Communicate with each other to let the other person know what is going on. You must face the situation together to make it clear to both partners that they are a team.

For example, when you go out to work, the child runs out barefoot, but your husband drives to work by himself, leaving the child at home alone, and he even threatens you that if anything happens to the child, you should not regret it. This makes it clear that you are not one entity, but you have not discussed in depth the raising and education of the child. You need to discuss who is mainly responsible for taking care of the child.

You need to discuss whether one of you can put aside your work temporarily when the other has an urgent matter to attend to. You are both away from home for work, but the children cannot be left unattended.

You need to discuss this.

2. Express your understanding of the other person and your own needs, solicit and express opinions, and discuss solutions.

The child ran out barefoot while you were both at work. If you go out to work and have to work that day, you can talk to your husband in advance. Understand him and respect him. Make requests and demands of your own.

If we want the other person to listen to us, we have to stop commanding and controlling them. Instead, we need to talk about our needs in a way that shows we understand them.

I need your help tomorrow. I have an important task to do, so I can't take care of the kids. Can you take care of them for a day? I really need your help, and I hope you can spare the time. I need to focus on my work.

"In that case, he will make time. If he can't do it, we'll find another way. We can ask another family member or good friend to help out for a day. That way, we can work with peace of mind, right?

3. You must let your partner know how you feel about him. Express your appreciation, love, and devotion to maintain and strengthen the relationship between husband and wife.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Focusing on the other person's weaknesses will lead to dissatisfaction and resentment. Focusing on their strengths, including the care and love they show you, and expressing appreciation, love, and devotion to them often will lead to a mutual feeling of love and appreciation.

Second, adjust your expectations of your partner.

A happy marriage is not one without problems, but one that is good at solving them. You must lower your expectations of marriage to ensure the quality of life after marriage.

Excessive expectations result in one party being detached from the other's actual situation, criticizing him for everything, and making him do things that are beyond his capabilities. Many people are dissatisfied with their married life after marriage because they misunderstand married life and expectations.

Our ideal partner is a man who can earn a living to support the family and also take care of the family. This is difficult to achieve, including for my husband. I used to feel like you, that he only cared about making money and lacked care and concern for me and the children. Then I put myself in his shoes and realized that it was actually quite difficult for him. He often traveled and worked hard, and at this time, I often complained about him, which only increased his burden and pressure. So I adjusted my mentality, settled down at home to raise the baby, and constantly grew myself to give my husband the help and support he needed. Now, his work is not as busy as before, and he understands my needs. He will try to come home to spend time with the children as much as possible. We cook together and go on outings together.

I am certain that if I hadn't adjusted my expectations and kept blaming him for not being perfect enough and not being family-oriented enough, our relationship would have gotten worse and worse, and my own inner feelings would have become more and more negative. There is no doubt that he would have been under more and more pressure, which would have affected not only his work but also our relationship.

Third, find the things you love about each other.

You're married with kids, so I'm sure you're together because of love. But here's the thing:

Love must be renewed constantly. We must seek the resonance point of love. In other words, we need to capture the common things in the hearts of two people and develop on this point. This will cause the hearts of the two to collide and generate a huge centripetal force. This will make the love grow stronger and stronger.

Love is expressed in many ways. It is shown through encouragement, support, and help in careers. It is demonstrated by sharing worries and difficulties. It is expressed through consideration and care. Beauty is found in mutual charm and constant discovery.

In the past, I always said that my husband didn't care about me. I was wrong. He liked to play mahjong and never came home. He wasn't there when the kids were sick. I would then get caught up in very negative emotions, feeling like a victim. I was wrong about that, too. Later, when I saw the good things and bright spots in him, such as the fact that he could earn enough money to support the family's expenses, that he would buy groceries and cook for me when he came back from a business trip, that he would buy me a nice purse when he saw one outside, and that he would take us on trips after work, my mood improved. I also came to understand a saying: my husband's flaws are like the stars, and his good points are like the sun. When the sun comes out, the stars disappear.

We must see more of the beauty in each other, step out of our role as victims, focus on the present, solve our own problems, and find the balance in our lives. When we do this, you will rediscover the happy taste of love.

You may find the above useful for reference. Best wishes!