People always say things like low self-esteem, but first you need to accept your imperfect self. How should you do it?

Greetings,

It is likely that as you read this, you will perceive a complex and conflicting array of emotions and sensations within yourself. These may include feelings of distress, anxiety, and discomfort, which can collectively contribute to a sense of internal turmoil and distress.

The subject presents with a multitude of issues, including relationships with adults, academic performance, future aspirations, discontent with one's current circumstances, and a lack of clarity. It appears that the subject is overwhelmed by these challenges.

From your statements, it is evident that you are experiencing a multitude of challenges and emotions that seem to be overwhelming you. It is also apparent that you are striving to alleviate this internal turmoil and regain a sense of clarity and strength, so that you can effectively respond to the demands of life.

You mentioned self-acceptance. Might this be the solution you intuitively perceive amidst the turmoil of your mind? If so, it would be prudent to place greater trust in this intuitive insight.

In the context of overwhelming circumstances and a restless state of mind, self-acceptance represents a pivotal and indispensable step. Self-acceptance entails a recognition of one's present condition, free from judgment and the impulse to hastily rectify and enhance it. Instead, it entails a genuine and unreserved acknowledgment of one's current state as a complex and multifaceted entity, encompassing a multitude of inner experiences and a lack of direction.

To illustrate, consider an individual experiencing profound fatigue who is simultaneously judging herself for being too lazy, weak, vulnerable, and easily fatigued, as well as for failing to fight against this fatigue. It is evident that such self-judgment is a significant contributor to the individual's sense of exhaustion and lack of motivation.

If she were to recognize her circumstances and accept her current situation and emotions, the subsequent decision—whether to rest or to acknowledge her fatigue and the necessity of perseverance—would be significantly altered. With the guidance of self-awareness and acceptance, regardless of the chosen course of action, the resulting decision would be clear and compelling.

Frequently, individuals are unable to accept themselves due to the influence of chaotic feelings and thoughts, which result in a loss of control and immersion in one's own emotions and thoughts. This can lead to a perception of being overwhelmed and lacking an escape route, prompting a desire to resist and escape. This, in turn, can contribute to an inability to accept oneself.

To illustrate, individuals who experience feelings of inferiority and a plethora of unresolved issues may exhibit heightened levels of anxiety and a sense of being adrift.

In reality, however, it is possible to disassociate oneself from the challenges one faces and not define one's identity in relation to these difficulties. To illustrate this concept with a simple example, if one were to step in a pile of excrement, it would be inaccurate to perceive oneself as the source of the odor.

This phenomenon is curious.

The current situation and associated feelings of being underestimated do not represent the individual in question. The same is true of the aforementioned smooth sailing and success.

Can you perceive it? Regardless of whether we are experiencing a low or high point, the situation itself is merely a transient phenomenon. Who, then, are we in essence?

What is the optimal approach to dealing with these fluctuations? How should one experience the ebbs and flows of life?

This "us" is somewhat distinct from the situation we encounter.

In instances of suboptimal functioning, the capacity to disengage from the situation at hand allows for the recognition that, beyond the distress and the array of negative thoughts, there persists a fundamental sense of self. This prompts the question: Is there an intrinsic, unchanging aspect of the self that remains unaffected by the fluctuations of emotion and thought?

This may appear somewhat abstract; however, it is possible to actually feel oneself.

In the presence of a multitude of emotions and negative thoughts, it is possible to return to one's authentic self. This entails acknowledging one's current emotional and cognitive state, accepting it as it is, and thereby achieving a state of inner peace. This state is characterized by a sense of harmony and alignment with one's feelings and thoughts, as well as a capacity for deep understanding and acceptance. By observing and engaging with one's emotions, feelings, and thoughts with a sense of clarity and strength, a process of loosening, flowing, and dissipating of stagnant emotions and thoughts can occur.

The result is a more refined and robust version of the self.

Self-acceptance may be the key to this process. It involves recognizing and embracing one's inner self, allowing for the gradual dissipation of inner turmoil through one's own discernment and acceptance, while simultaneously becoming increasingly clear about one's identity and aspirations.

It is my hope that this information is of some assistance. Best wishes,

Good morning, my name is Flower.

If feasible, I would like to extend a gesture of comfort to the original poster. I perceive a lack of clarity regarding the concepts of "acceptance," "self-confidence," and "low self-esteem." Additionally, I discern a sense of apprehension, coupled with a striving for composure, yet a prevailing sense of elation.

There is no need to be in a hurry; we can take our time to address these issues.

The individual in question exhibits a reluctance to engage in communication with others, coupled with a tendency to attach significance to the opinions of others.

The subject reports a tendency to experience fear without an apparent cause.

It is challenging to engage in calm and constructive communication with my mother.

I am uncertain as to whom I should confide in regarding my distress.

I aspire to undergo positive transformation, yet I am uncertain as to the optimal methodology for achieving this goal.

It is acceptable to proceed at a gradual pace.

It would be beneficial to delve more profoundly into one's internal activities.

Let us endeavor to apply this technique. Take a few deep abdominal breaths, close your eyes, and inquire of yourself whether you are concerned with the opinions of others. Do you fret over the possibility of negative commentary from others?

From the depths of our hearts, do we not approve of ourselves? The subject of the lecture is the enigmatic phenomenon of inexplicable worry and fear. What are the underlying concerns that give rise to this phenomenon?

What are the specific concerns that instill a sense of apprehension or unease? Is the nature of these concerns grounded in a sense of unreasonableness?

It would be beneficial to ascertain the underlying cause of this concern and apprehension. These ideas tend to fluctuate within the mind, and the inquirer may benefit from documenting these thoughts to identify potential connections. The inquirer indicated that they would contemplate the matter for an extended period. Any thoughts or reflections that arise during this process can be meticulously recorded.

Then, return to the text and inquire of yourself the emotions and feelings that arise when you consider these matters. Inquire as well of the reasons for your thoughts on these subjects and endeavor to understand your innermost thoughts.

What methods might be employed to facilitate communication with one's mother?

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of annoyance when one perceives a lack of understanding from one's mother. It may be beneficial to identify an appropriate occasion to engage in a discussion with one's mother regarding this matter. The desire for enhanced comprehension and the expression of negative emotions, such as anger and distress, is understandable. Additionally, the aspiration to maintain composure is a natural one.

It is challenging to achieve a state of calm when the desire is to have one's mother comprehend one's feelings and cease her persistent remarks. In such instances, it may be beneficial to consider an alternative perspective. One's mother's tendency to repeatedly express her concerns may be a reflection of her deep-seated worry about one's well-being.

In instances of emotional distress, it is advisable to refrain from speaking for a period of three minutes. This allows for a period of self-calming, which can be achieved through deep breathing. Once a state of calm has been reached, communication with the relevant individual can then commence.

The issue can be distilled to a matter of self-esteem and related factors. The initial step is to accept one's imperfections. How might one foster self-acceptance and confidence?

One must endeavor to discern one's own unique brilliance.

One might inquire as to the source of feelings of inferiority. It is possible that a tendency to compare one's own shortcomings with the strengths of others may contribute to this phenomenon, leading to a sense of lack of success. It is also possible that there is a tendency to perceive the positive qualities in others, which may create a sense of comparison and a belief that one's own positive qualities are not as pronounced.

One might inquire as to the means by which one might become more confident. It would seem that the most efficacious method would be to commence with the minor details and to identify one's own strengths.

To illustrate, today I arose and consumed breakfast, and I am to be commended for my efforts. Similarly, I retired for the night at the appropriate hour, and I am to be commended for that as well.

Today I engaged in leisure activities with my friends, which I found to be a rewarding experience. It is important to recognize the value in every aspect of life, and therefore, it is beneficial to focus on the positive aspects of one's surroundings and acknowledge them.

It is recommended that the reader peruse the text entitled "I'm Really Great." Once an individual attains a greater sense of confidence, they may become less concerned with the opinions of others.

What is meant by the term "accepting oneself"?

The act of accepting oneself entails accepting one's current state. What are the underlying causes of feelings of distress, anxiety, and discontent?

Frequently, the desire to alter one's circumstances is driven by an underlying reluctance to accept the present situation, which can simultaneously induce a sense of being overwhelmed. One can choose to embrace an imperfect self or alternatively, to resist such an acceptance.

Both options are feasible. Although the concept may appear somewhat intricate, it essentially implies that we can acknowledge our inability to fully accept our imperfect selves.

However, acceptance does not equate to resignation, nor does it imply that we should maintain the status quo and refrain from action.

Accepting the current situation will facilitate a greater sense of peace and enable a more measured consideration of potential future changes.

I am reluctant to divulge my psychological issues to him, as I am aware that he will not be able to comprehend them or provide me with the assistance I require. I am apprehensive about disclosing my distress to anyone.

One may request assistance.

In the event that one suspects they may be experiencing psychological difficulties, it is advisable to seek assistance. Should one's mother be unable to comprehend the situation, it is possible to identify alternative avenues for support.

For example, one may consult with a teacher at their educational institution, such as a psychology teacher, homeroom teacher, or a teacher of a subject in which the individual has a particular interest. Additionally, this is a means of seeking assistance, as exemplified by the original poster who posed a question on the aforementioned platform.

The multi-person chat room on the homepage every day is free, and the questioner can also enter the multi-person chat room anonymously to express their confusion. It is important to provide a safe space for individuals to share their experiences and receive support.

I am striving to improve, yet I am uncertain of the means to do so. I am reluctant to attend school at this time, as the college entrance examination is imminent. I aspire to pursue higher education and secure gainful employment. I am currently lacking the fortitude to end my life.

I will divulge a secret: there is light at the end of the tunnel.

With only 20 days remaining before the college entrance examination, it is crucial for students who are considering not attending school to prioritize their studies. It is essential to persevere and recognize that there is a positive outcome on the other side. The examination is a pivotal point in one's academic journey, offering the opportunity to make informed decisions about one's studies and engage with a diverse range of individuals. There are numerous clubs and activities, including those centered around chess, cards, and other board games, ball sports, martial arts, and music, which can enrich one's academic experience.

As long as one is alive, there is hope and the capacity to perceive beauty in life. The world is vast, and it is reasonable to assume that one would want to see it for oneself.

I wish you the best of luck in the forthcoming college entrance examination. I am confident that your future will be bright.

It is important to note that there is still hope.