People who are smarter than me work harder than I do, and I feel incredibly useless. What should I do?

I give you a hug!

From what you said, I get the feeling you're a kind person at heart.

You know your actions are a disgrace to your parents' love and care.

You're wonderful!

You are good-looking, have good grades, and are a nice person. You like it when people praise you.

You still want this kind of me inside, but there's a small self inside that's less mature.

The child inside is at play. It looks good on the outside, but it's not fully grown.

We all have a child inside us, but we hide it as we grow up.

Growing up is painful.

People who don't learn or grow are just adults on the outside, but on the inside they're still young.

People who have experienced hardships are stronger and more resilient than those who have had an easy life.

The landlord is currently under his parents' care.

Not knowing what you're meant to be when you grow up can make you feel lost, bored, and powerless.

Find someone you trust to talk to about your feelings.

It feels good to share your thoughts and feelings.

Being true to yourself is when you're at your strongest.

I don't know how to set or pursue goals.

If you're in middle or high school, focus on your studies.

You should also work out.

A healthy person is knowledgeable and has a healthy body.

Everyone should exercise.

Learning is important, but so is physical fitness. Physical education will also be important in the future.

Apart from schoolwork, we should develop our own interests and hobbies.

When you know your strengths and interests.

You don't need anyone to motivate you. You'll start on your own.

If you don't have any hobbies, think about it.

Then try one after the other until you find one you like.

Don't do everything and don't try anything just a little.

Find one or two projects you're willing to work hard on.

It's hard at first, but changing your mindset changes your behavior.

Your actions affect your results.

You said, "If someone's working harder than me, why shouldn't I work hard?"

We must also compare ourselves to our situation.

I will work hard to improve myself.

Surpassing others isn't impressive. There will always be a first and last place.

Don't be too obsessed with your ranking. Enjoy surpassing yourself.

The result depends on how hard you work.

You're still growing up. You'll get lost sometimes.

When you know what you want, you can go out and get it.

I wish the original poster a happy life!

I love you!

Extend a gesture of empathy to a friend who is adept at studying but experiences feelings of guilt.

Those who have demonstrated a high level of academic achievement, intellectual aptitude, and a robust capacity for knowledge should not experience feelings of guilt or self-reproach due to their superior test scores compared to individuals who have invested significant time and effort into their studies.

Despite maintaining satisfactory grades, there is a sense of unmet potential and room for improvement. The decision to engage in leisure activities has led to a perception of lower satisfaction with academic performance and a heightened sense of accountability to parents and guardians, which in turn intensifies feelings of guilt.

One might inquire as to the source of this guilt.

The experience of guilt indicates that there is a desire to learn, yet a lack of self-discipline to do so effectively. For instance, an individual may be engaged in activities such as phone usage, Weibo account checking, video viewing, and so forth, simultaneously attempting to study and engage in leisure. This phenomenon is known as the dual-tendency mentality in psychological literature. Consequently, the individual may neglect their studies, and leisure activities may impede their academic progress and fail to provide satisfaction. This often gives rise to a sense of guilt.

What is the most effective method for implementing change?

It is essential to create a timeline. The time that has elapsed is irrecoverable. Therefore, it is vital to cherish the present, with a clear awareness of the current situation. To illustrate, it is time to retire for the night, yet one may neglect this due to an unintentional distraction, such as checking one's phone.

It is now time to retire for the night. It is important not to dwell on any negative emotions or thoughts; instead, it is advisable to get some rest.

It is essential to confront one's shortcomings and implement gradual changes. One strategy for doing so is to establish a reward system, such as allowing oneself to play a game for an hour after completing homework.

With regard to one's social circle, it is indubitable that one will be held in high regard by one's peers. It is only those who have distinguished themselves in some way who can attract a considerable number of friends.

My name is Huo Menglan, and I am hopeful that I can be of assistance to you.

Good morning, my name is Liang Ning and I am Xinqing's assistant.

From your description, the most striking aspect is your tendency to self-reject. You perceive individuals who outperform you in intelligence or work ethic to be superior to you.

If another individual's academic performance is not as strong as yours, you may perceive them as less dedicated to their studies. Your parents may have a different perception of your work ethic, while you feel you are spending too much time on non-academic activities. When you receive praise for your appearance and academic achievements, you may feel that it is not genuine.

Furthermore, you recognize that your feelings of inadequacy are a misperception and that change is necessary, yet you lack the insight to implement it.

First, it is important to understand the underlying reasons for self-deprecating behavior. There are two potential explanations for consistently putting oneself down: either one is genuinely lacking in a particular skill or ability, leading to a perception of inferiority, or one has tried one's best but has not achieved the desired outcome, leading to a sense of inadequacy.

Another possibility is that you have exerted your best efforts but have not achieved the desired results. You may attempt to justify your performance by claiming that you have not tried hard enough and that if you try harder, you will be able to achieve your goals. It is important to carefully assess your situation and determine the best course of action.

In general, if you are in the top ten in your age group, you should be considered a leader in your studies, and your family and classmates should view you as a hard worker. It is also normal to have some entertainment in life, and we should not be overly demanding of ourselves.

Secondly, we will address the question of how to evaluate oneself objectively and fairly. It is clear that you are concerned about whether you have tried hard enough.

There is no clear standard for what constitutes hard work. Some individuals may consider studying in a rigorous and dedicated manner to be a form of hard work, while others may view the completion of tasks in a timely and efficient manner as a similar endeavor. Similarly, engaging in leisure activities, such as leisurely phone use, could also be perceived as a form of hard work.

It is important to recognise that different individuals have varying standards of judgement. To gain insight into your own definition of hard work, it can be beneficial to engage in dialogue with classmates who you perceive as hardworking, as well as those who have commended you for your efforts. This can help to identify similarities and differences between their perceptions of hard work and your own. It is also valuable to establish a personal standard for what constitutes hard work.

Having standards allows for a more objective evaluation of one's performance.

Finally, a method for improvement. It is beneficial to set high standards and hold oneself to a high level of accountability. However, an unattainable pursuit of perfection can lead to a reduction in self-esteem and confidence over time.

It is important to have a clear objective in mind as you progress through life. This should be to pursue self-growth and perfection. This will ensure that you remain on the right path as you develop and evolve.

Hello, I'm Good Will Hunting, a counselor.

I read your account.

You think you could get better grades if you worked harder.

You feel guilty towards your parents, who gave you their best and told you to just do your best. You don't study as hard as they think you do.

Your classmates praise you, but you don't feel like boasting. You don't think you're as good as they think you are.

You care about your grades and are happy with your results, but feel guilty. You feel sick, weak, and don't know what to do. Or you know you have to study hard, but don't want to think about it.

You may feel a conflict within yourself. You are happy with your results, but feel you have not worked hard enough. Do you feel this?

Your grades are in the top ten, which is great. You should be happy. If you hadn't worked hard, could you have done it? You worked hard and paid a lot to get these results.

Enjoy your achievements.

You want to do better, which shows you are proactive.

You feel you should study all the time, but you also want to play. You feel torn between the two. It seems like you're doing nothing, but you're also doing something. How do you feel?

People need leisure and entertainment to be happy.

A person can handle not playing for a short time, but long-term lack of play can lead to stronger cravings.

This content is for reference only. I hope it helps. You can also leave a message for more help.

If you're still troubled, see a counselor.

I have seen a lot of good comments, but the original poster laments that he is useless. This is a shame.

The original poster has very good parents. They comforted me after I got a bad grade, telling me to just do my best.

My classmates also like me a lot. When they introduce me, they always say I look good, get good grades, and am nice.

My grades are excellent. I consistently rank in the top ten in my year group.

The external evaluation system is good, but the host has the misguided idea that "people who are smarter than me work harder, and those whose grades are not as good as mine also work harder than me."

This idea will prevent you from continuing to learn. "I just feel sick, nauseous, and weak. I don't know what to do."

First of all, I want to ask the original poster why they are so sure that someone smarter than them is working harder than them.

How can you possibly know that the other person is smarter than you? Is it because of an IQ test?

Or through the results of regular exams?

And how do you know for sure that the other person is working hard? Do you live together 24 hours a day?

I also met some classmates who said they never did their homework and went back to play after class when I was studying.

Later, after graduation, I learned from their parents that they spent almost all their weekends and evenings doing homework.

We cannot take what we hear and see as the absolute truth. What is the truth? We often don't know.

Similarly, if someone's grades aren't as good as yours, it doesn't mean they've worked harder than you.

If this idea is not necessarily true, then why does the original poster still think that he is useless?

1. I have set the bar too high for myself, and I accept that I have let others down as a result.

"I will play with my phone, go online, and follow stars behind their backs."

"I lied to them. I got better grades than they did even though I didn't work as hard as they did. I lied to my parents and told them I studied hard, but I didn't."

The original poster believes that hard work means studying 24 hours a day, except when you sleep.

However, no one can achieve this level of effort.

Our lives are made up of many parts: physical health (exercise), relationships, leisure and entertainment, work and study.

Dividing 24 hours into 8 hours of sleep, 8 hours of study, and 8 hours for personal physical and mental health leaves plenty of time for other activities. Use the remaining time to do things you enjoy, such as surfing the internet or following celebrities.

Everyone should relax a little and work or study properly. If you only sleep and study, life will be boring.

You can relax the rules you set for yourself. For example, instead of "I should get in the top ten in every exam," say "I can get in the top ten in every exam."

"I should study every day, not go online or follow celebrities." Change it to "I can go online and follow celebrities every day in addition to studying."

The host will feel a difference.

Accept your imperfections. When we set the bar too high for ourselves, we often "shake our goal."

If you want to do well in an exam, you're more likely to fail. This will make you lose patience and confidence in yourself. When you accept your imperfections, you'll see that you deserve affirmation from your parents and classmates. You're just as good as they are.

2. "Whenever I'm happy, a strong sense of guilt wells up inside me."

You aced the exam, so why can't you be happy?

I want to know what the poster was thinking when they wrote this sentence. Was it influenced by the saying "no pain, no gain"?

Or are you worried that you are being complacent and will therefore fail to achieve good results again?

You must tell yourself, no matter what: I have the right to be happy, and I can be recognized for my efforts.

Everyone has the ability to be happy and the right to be happy. When our emotions flow freely, we are more motivated.

Imagine this:

Don't think of a pink elephant right now.

Don't think of a pink elephant right now.

Don't think of a pink elephant right now.

What do you think about? Is it a pink elephant?

If you don't allow yourself to be happy, you'll conjure up more happy images and scenes. You'll need to resist them with your own willpower.

If you can't, relax. When happiness comes, feel it; when it goes, don't let it get you down.

You will get along with yourself better, gradually.

3. Accept yourself completely because that is who you really are. Play to your strengths and do meaningful things for society.

We will have a kind side, and we will also have a mischievous side from time to time.

We will have good exam results. We will also have a situation where we fail an exam.

We will have good times and bad times.

This is our life, and it is our experience. We must accept it.

Learn to develop your strengths. The host, "good-looking, good grades, nice person," needs to broaden his mind and horizons.

You are not an ordinary person. You have come to this world to constantly improve yourself.

You are the one who is even better. You not only face the real you through self-healing, but you also improve the lives and situations of more people through your own energy.

We came into this world to discover more meaning, to make ourselves feel more sense of worth and existence, and to benefit society in a direction and embodiment.

You are already a role model to your classmates. Don't hold yourself back. Accept your true self and use your power as a role model.

The future is in your hands. You represent the future of our great nation. Get ready.

Make the most of your value! Go for it, classmate!

It is beneficial to be young. The typical perspective is: "Study hard, gain admission to a reputable institution, secure a favorable position, work diligently, and achieve success." However, life presents a nonlinear trajectory. When challenges arise, youth offers distinct advantages.

Furthermore, the situation is not a complete setback. From an external perspective, you are an excellent student; however, you may not perceive yourself as such. You are accustomed to identifying positive qualities in others and negative qualities in yourself, as well as engaging in self-reflection. Therefore, it is essential to give yourself a break. A balanced approach is the optimal solution. To give yourself a break, it is vital to alter your perception. Just because you study hard does not guarantee a positive future!

Historical data indicates that students who perform above average have a greater chance of success in the future.

If you are unable to let go of your own self-imposed limitations, then it would be advisable to set yourself a small, achievable goal. It is important to keep your own counsel, as well as informing your parents and close friends of your intentions. Once you have achieved your goal, it is important to reward yourself for your efforts.

You can also discuss with your parents your efforts to excel academically and any concerns you may have about their potential reaction to this. However, it is possible that they will not be upset. They will likely be pleased to hear about your achievements and accept your shortcomings. They may also be able to provide guidance on any challenges you are facing.

However, if you do not inform them, they may remain unaware of the situation.