Rapidly counting or listening, if it's too fast, it feels stuffy in the heart, the head feels stuffy, what's the reason?

Dear question asker,

Given the evident distress caused by this uncontrollable behavior, which is affecting your daily mood, I offer you my support and understanding.

In this state, one is compelled to continue counting each instance of a given stimulus, despite the awareness that this action is unnecessary. The inability to cease this behavior can result in significant discomfort. This phenomenon bears resemblance to obsessive thinking, which is characterized by the recurrent and involuntary engagement with specific thoughts, impulses, or images.

Obsessive thinking is defined as the recurrent or persistent occurrence of thoughts, impulses, or images in one's mind. The individual may recognize the futility and irrationality of these thoughts, yet they remain unable to dislodge them or exert control over them. This often results in feelings of distress and anguish.

However, it is important to note that obsessive thoughts are not indicative of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Therefore, there is no cause for concern. Regardless of the underlying issue, modifying one's thought patterns and lifestyle habits can facilitate improvement.

I have previously experienced similar issues and, upon reflection, I have identified that they were primarily the result of excessive stress and the numerous sources of frustration in life. In light of this, I have compiled a few recommendations for consideration:

1. It is important to relax, accept the current situation, and take things in your stride. One should attempt to identify the root causes of stress and work towards resolving them.

2. It is recommended that you improve your lifestyle, avoid staying up late, pay attention to your diet, increase physical exercise, and enhance your willpower through physical fitness.

3. Should compulsive counting recur, it is unnecessary to refrain from the behavior. Doing so will only prove counterproductive. Instead, one can simply cease counting while maintaining awareness of the action.

If one has family or friends in proximity, one may engage in conversation with them at this juncture. Alternatively, one may choose to plan ahead and determine when one will cease this behavior and bestow upon oneself a modest reward. One may also devise one's own methods.

The following is a brief methodology that I have developed in hopes that it will prove beneficial to others.

Good day. I perceive your distress and endeavor to provide assistance.

From your description of the situation you encountered, it is evident that you are somewhat demanding on yourself and that there is a possibility that you are experiencing excessive tension and compulsions. There are several ways in which you can attempt to adjust and improve:

First, count your breaths. When you encounter a similar situation again, it is important to resist the temptation to allow external factors to distract you. Instead, focus on your breathing, calm your emotions and state of mind through the process of breathing, and then resume attention to the outside world. This may help to reduce the sense of urgency that you are being carried away by other things to the rhythm of the other person.

Secondly, it is advisable to relax. Regardless of whether one is engaged in counting the trees along the road or taking notes, the primary subject of the event is oneself. One may become overly focused on the other person, which can result in a loss of rhythm and confusion. It is beneficial to consciously remind oneself to relax in order to regain a sense of self, establish a rhythm that is comfortable, and gain a greater sense of control and security.

Third, one can divert attention. Given the propensity for emotional changes triggered by things or events that happen in quick succession and at a high frequency, one can consciously divert one's attention. For example, when one sees trees in the car window, one can look away at the distant scenery, at the sky, or close one's eyes and rest. Selectively controlling one's attention and behavior can reduce unnecessary stress and burden.

It is not always possible to control the pace of external events; however, one can attempt to alter the angle at which one responds to them.

I extend my best wishes for a rewarding day.

Hello!

I'm really happy to be able to give you some advice!

From what you've written, it seems like you've had a couple of similar experiences. One time, you saw some big trees by the road and wanted to count them, but you missed your chance and felt a bit anxious. Another time, you were taking notes and the other person spoke faster than you could keep up with, which made you feel a little overwhelmed.

I can totally relate to the above two examples! We all want to do things perfectly and complete things perfectly, and we want to observe and absorb as much knowledge or content from the outside world as possible.

It's so important to remember that we can only do our best in a suitable environment.

Let's say we're taking a bus. The bus is controlled by the driver, who can drive it fast or slow. If we want to control the situation and make sure we can count as many trees as possible, one way to do it is to tell the driver to drive slowly. But the bus isn't entirely up to us – we can't control where it goes or how fast it goes, can we?

So, let's try something else. Let's get off the bus at the place where we want to count clearly, count carefully, and count patiently. But when we have counted the big tree clearly, the place we want to go to has stopped. So, when we face things that are out of our control and when we want to pause but may not reach the goal we want to achieve, we need to have a good attitude to deal with this sense of uncertainty, as well as this impermanence and unknown.

I totally get it! Your example says that the speed of the other person's speech is fine when taking notes, and you also want to record as much as possible of what the other person says, right? But as soon as the other person speaks a little faster, you feel overwhelmed and feel like you can't keep up.

It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed when you're trying to take notes at the same pace as someone else. It's so easy to get caught up in wanting to take full notes that we end up forgetting what the other person just said! And then our notes end up a bit all over the place.

When it comes to note-taking, the other person controls the speed of speech, while our writing speed can only reach a certain limit at the fastest. We all want to take comprehensive notes as much as possible because we want to give ourselves a good way to review, but I think there are also methods and strategies for note-taking that we can use to make things easier!

Teachers who speak slowly are great, but sometimes we encounter teachers who speak a little faster. In these situations, we can adjust our note-taking style to suit the situation. For example, if the speech is too fast, we can just listen for the main points, which can still be recorded quickly and in a small amount of words. This can also be a good exercise for our thinking and summarizing skills!

And when you first start exercising, your speaking speed might not be fully adapted yet. If the speed is really too fast, you can suggest to the teacher that you slow down a little. You have every right to negotiate with the teacher! This way, we can make different behavioral adjustments according to different situations, which will be really helpful for you.

And finally, I'd like to share a little saying I love: "The only constant in life is that it is constantly changing." This includes things like impermanence and the unknown, which we can't fully grasp.

I know it can be hard to take notes when the speaker is speaking quickly and there's so much to take in. It's like when you're in a car and you see big trees — there's no way to take complete notes!

It's so important to remember that we can always change our approach and adjust our mindset to suit the different times and spaces we find ourselves in. I truly believe that with a little bit of experience, learning, and practice, we can all cope with the unknown and impermanence that we'll face in the future.

It's totally normal to feel anxious and fearful when you see the unknown and impermanence. It's natural to wonder whether these things will bring good or bad to you.

I really want to say that it's up to us to decide whether something is good or bad. We can choose to make things better, and we can choose to make things even better. So, believe in yourself!

I truly believe that through your thoughtful analysis and summary of the two examples, you can reasonably adjust your thinking mode and your inner state. This will help you find your own way to deal with things in the future.

I wish you all the best!

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Hello there!

It's totally normal to feel pressure when you're under a sense of urgency. Sometimes, when that sense of urgency is really strong, you might even experience physical symptoms like a fast heartbeat, a feeling of your head swelling up, a feeling of being blocked inside, and an overall feeling of being very depressed and about to collapse.

I know it can feel like you're pushing your limits physically and mentally right now.

We've all been there. Faced with taking the bus and having to count the numbers, it can feel like a daunting task. I'm sure we can all agree that it's not something anyone can do perfectly! Putting yourself in that situation can feel overwhelming. It's like being in the middle of something that's challenging to complete, pushing yourself to do it. The pressure is understandable, and we all have different levels of tolerance for it. If you're not used to facing these kinds of challenges, it can be tough.

If you can avoid putting yourself in a state of anxiety and panic, that would be great! If you find you can't help it, it might be a sign of obsessive thinking.

Another thing to keep in mind is that if you find yourself struggling to keep up with the speed of others when taking notes, it can really start to make you feel nervous and stressed. On the other hand, it can make you feel like you're not doing a good job in this conversation by the end of the semester. But don't worry! These notes will still be super helpful for this study session, even if they take a little more time to take.

There are also some great techniques for taking notes! First, if we are listening, we should really pay full attention and let ourselves be absorbed in the listening process. It's so important not to just concentrate on taking notes and neglect the listening part.

First of all, don't forget about the importance of face-to-face listening and verbal communication! These are crucial aspects, even beyond the part where we need to take notes. But at the same time, we all know that we'll forget things, so it's a good idea to take notes for long-term memory, including to facilitate our own learning and future reference. When taking notes, it's not about writing down everything word for word. It's about summarizing and clearly picking out the key points, distinguishing the main ideas, and recording them in a way that is convenient for you to remember and review.

If you can do this well, you can avoid some disadvantages such as being unable to keep up with the speed of others and taking incomplete notes.

I think it's totally normal to feel this way when we're faced with something we're not sure we can do well or a challenge we can't complete. It's natural to feel nervous, anxious, or even panicked. We might even feel a little self-blame or guilt. These are all normal, complex emotions and feelings. But when these feelings and negative emotions intertwine and exceed our own tolerance, we might feel very overwhelmed. Here's a new topic: When our mind and spirit are very tense and uncomfortable, it's only natural that our body will also have some uncomfortable symptoms.

It's important to remember that these symptoms and discomforts also have a positive meaning and function. They help us to recognize our own limits, feel some discomfort in our existence, and facilitate our adjustment and integration. This allows us to return to a happy and relaxed state, which is great!

The comments and feedback included in the reply suggest that the questioner may be experiencing obsessive thoughts and emotions.

The following information is intended to provide support and assistance in coping with your own issues.

First, take note of the duration of the situation and its effect on your work and personal life.

As noted in the comments,

Discussing this situation is my primary concern, as it has been ongoing for an extended period. However, it does not occur frequently, only intermittently. When it does occur, it is challenging to manage and involves a degree of self-denial.

It should be noted that the speech component lasts for an extended period, spanning multiple years. However, it occurs less frequently and is intermittent. The aspect that has the most pronounced impact on professional and personal life is the self-denial.

In addition, when riding in a car, one's involuntary physiological response is to count the trees outside the window. If one is unable to count them all, one will experience feelings of anxiety, confusion, and overwhelm.

The individual in question will attempt to reduce their anxiety through repetitive behaviors or actions (such as counting or taking notes). However, these behaviors do not provide any tangible benefits and may even hinder the task at hand.

This has a significant negative impact on my life.

Next, consider how your own personality traits may influence these behaviors.

Secondly, consider how your personality traits may be influenced by external factors.

From:

Furthermore, they wish to demonstrate their capabilities and aspire to speak with authority.

It is possible to discern that the questioner's personality may include:

1. Expects perfection in all tasks and requires a methodical approach.

2. They are extremely demanding of themselves.

3. Frequently experience feelings of insecurity and are fearful of making mistakes in their interactions with others, engaging in constant self-monitoring and reflection to ensure their actions are appropriate.

4. Demonstrates meticulous attention to detail and may also pursue proceduralization in trivial matters of life.

If you have multiple of the above, the behavior in question is likely to be a recurring one. Personality traits, negative emotions, life events, and family factors are important psychological factors in its development and maintenance.

If the questioner has been under relatively high work pressure recently or if their family life is not harmonious, it is more likely that this will exacerbate the occurrence of phenomena such as counting and note-taking.

Ultimately, a combination of psychotherapy and psychological counseling can assist in reducing or even eliminating distress.

The aforementioned situation is likely the result of a confluence of complex factors. If the individual's distress has already occupied a certain amount of time every day (for example, for one hour or more every day), then self-help alone can only provide very limited relief.

It is recommended that you visit a professional psychiatric hospital as soon as possible or the psychiatric department or psychiatry department of a tertiary general hospital to confirm the following conditions. Professional psychological treatment combined with psychological counseling and systematic professional support can help reduce anxiety and relieve the pain caused by the behavior.

I wish you the best in your endeavors.

I am pleased to see your question and honored to be able to provide some insights.

I would like to extend an invitation to you. When you were riding in a car and saw a tree by the roadside and were unable to count the number of trees one by one, could you please tell me what the first thing that came to mind was?

Have you had a comparable experience during your formative years? If so, what comes to mind first?

There is a phenomenon in psychology whereby the body can recall the sensation of an event from one's youth, even if the event itself is not clearly remembered.

However, when similar or analogous events occur, this feeling may resurface, and the reason for it may be forgotten.

I would like to make a bold assumption, but I would be grateful if you could verify it for yourself.

I believe that the following is a reasonable assumption:

In the event that you are unable to recall your notes or unable to count, you may hear a voice of negation in your mind. This voice of negation occupies your mind, preventing you from thinking about what is happening in the present and even causing a lag in your thinking about what happened at that time. As a result, when such an event occurs, you may feel a little scared and afraid.

Please indicate whether you concur.

When you encounter a similar situation in the future, it is important to remain calm and think rationally. Instead of allowing your emotions to take over, try to view the situation from a different perspective. If you catch yourself thinking, "Oh no, this is happening again," you can use this as an opportunity to change your mindset and approach the situation more constructively.

Is that correct?

[Desensitization method] When you encounter a similar situation again, adjust your thinking accordingly. Practice a few more times, and the new, more positive outlook will become firmly established.

I would like to extend my best wishes to the original poster for their future endeavors.

Hello, I'm Jiusi, a listening therapist, and I'm excited to help you!

I totally get it! The thing is, when we're counting, we're not actually doing it on purpose. It just happens! We know it's not great, but we can't help it.

Guess what! Lots of people experience this in their everyday lives. It could even be a sign of OCD!

For example, if you encounter steps, you start counting them endlessly. There are occasionally people like this around you, aren't there? Isn't it fascinating how our minds work?

One fascinating manifestation of the mental illness OCD is compulsive counting. It refers to the uncontrollable urge to count when seeing certain countable objects such as steps or stones on the road. Many people with OCD find it uncomfortable if they do not count!

Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a fascinating neurotic disorder characterized by recurrent obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors. It has a high incidence rate, which means there's a lot we can learn from it! Studies have shown that 0.1% to 0.46% of patients visiting psychiatric clinics suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder, and it accounts for about 0.05% of the general population.

Obsessive counting is one of the symptoms of OCD. It can sometimes be severe, but don't worry! It can also ease up. The determining factor is the patient's mood. When the patient is in a bad mood or tired, it will be more severe. But when they are energetic and in a good mood, the symptom of counting will ease up!

People with OCD may also show symptoms of compulsive hand washing, washing apples, and washing clothes, even if they have been doing it for hours! Some people worry for no reason that they have a serious illness, and even after repeatedly going to the hospital for tests to confirm that they are fine, they still do not believe it. Others recall, think about, and worry about the bad things that have happened. They may also clearly confirm something many times but still not be relieved, and have to go back and check again!

In short, the manifestations of OCD are diverse. If you are endlessly counting, washing, or thinking about unnecessary things, it is a sign that you may have developed OCD. But don't worry! This just means you have OCD, and you can beat it!

The great news is that if these behaviors don't affect our normal lives, there's no need to worry. We can simply relax and enjoy counting things as if we were playing a game!

I know it's tough, but try not to focus on this problem. I'm optimistic that, with time, our symptoms will subside or even disappear!

If our behavior has seriously disrupted our studies and lives, I wholeheartedly recommend that the questioner go to the psychiatric department of a top-level hospital nearby for an evaluation.

I really hope my answer is helpful! I truly hope that the questioner can solve their troubles soon.

Thank you so much for your time! I'm Jiusi from Yixinli, World and I Love You.

It might be helpful to consider that it's not too late to take action. It's understandable to feel afraid of being punished or missing something amazing, but it's important to remember that there are many anxiety/every-time-i-share-learning-resources-i-feel-quite-unbalanced-and-its-quite-contradictory-what-should-i-do-5436.html" target="_blank">resources available to support you. The information in this can have different effects on our bodies and minds, depending on how it evolves.

If you find yourself feeling blocked when counting quickly or when you can't listen fast enough, it's possible that this feeling may be coming from a goal you have set for yourself, such as "I must finish counting them all."

It is possible that you may experience anxiety in the future as a result of the pressure you have placed on yourself to complete tasks. The feeling of being overwhelmed may be a contributing factor. When you are unable to complete a task, you may feel a sense of disappointment.

Of course, there are other possibilities to consider. You may be afraid of the consequences that may affect you if you don't finish counting in time. You may be punished by the outside world, which may also feel very urgent. So who do you think will be responsible for punishing you?

Because you must do it, because of what you fear, because of what you miss, all of this can make you feel anxious and worried. At this time, it might be helpful to take a good look at what situation is most suitable for yourself. When taking notes, it could be more suitable for the second or third situation, because you might be afraid that others will say that you are too slow and miss a lot of content.

I suggest that you consider speaking with someone and politely requesting that they speak a little slower, so that everyone can be happy. Your inner feelings are valuable and deserve to be understood, which will help you become a more well-rounded person. I recommend that you seek the guidance of a qualified counselor, and keep up the good work.

Could I ask you a question?

Good morning, I am Meng Xiaoxiao. I am grateful that we have had the opportunity to connect here.

From what you've shared, it seems like you're feeling some frustration about your own limitations, which might be causing feelings of anxiety and physical sensations like a sense of your head swelling and your heart pounding.

It seems that these reactions are all indicative of a common underlying cause: the frustration of being unable to complete a task.

I'd like to start by reassuring the original poster that none of this is their fault.

"Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses." Some people are good at shorthand, while others can count without making a single mistake. These are talents. Most people will inevitably encounter difficulties when working under pressure.

For instance, if the other person speaks quickly, you can usually understand the general meaning of what is being said, but it is not always possible to take down everything that is said. For example, when you are in a car, if the car is driving slowly, it is more convenient to count the trees along the road, but if the car is driving fast, the images that our eyes can capture are very limited, and what we see may not be entirely accurate.

If you're interested in making improvements in this area, it might be helpful to consider engaging in deliberate practice and targeted training.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that what you really need to learn at the moment is to deal with your own sense of failure and accept your own imperfections. When we experience failure and frustration, it's natural to allow ourselves to grieve, be angry, and feel aggrieved. However, it's important to recognize that these emotions can hinder our ability to move forward. It's essential to find a way to move past these feelings and continue living, rather than allowing them to stagnate.

With time, lowering your expectations of yourself can help to make your heart lighter. You are valuable in many ways, not just in this situation.

I hope the original poster will find some encouragement and inspiration in my words.

Hello,

From your description, it's clear that you experience anxiety and a sense of bloating in your mind when you try to count the trees along the road on the bus. Similarly, when someone speaks too fast, you feel like you're going to jump out of your skin. It's understandable that these situations are stressful and cause discomfort.

1. Regarding your symptoms:

Your behavior is somewhat obsessive, but there is a lack of clear data to support this, so I cannot make an accurate assessment.

When you have obvious emotional reactions, such as anxiety, suffering, or unease about imperfections,

They also display a behavioral symptom of compulsive counting. They are compelled to count objects like telephone poles, steps, or pillars in order, even though they know it is pointless.

This symptom is more common in obsessive-compulsive disorder. However, it also needs to be viewed in conjunction with the following points:

I need to know if you have any other obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors.

You need to tell us whether these obsessive symptoms appear continuously and how much time they take up. For example, do they last more than one hour a day?

If your symptoms are not severe or long-lasting, they are likely a physical reaction to stress and anxiety.

2. Your body will speak for you instead of your emotions.

When you can't assess the situation accurately and you feel "overwhelmed and anxious," it's crucial to stay still with these physical signals and listen to what your body is trying to tell you. When we imprison our emotions, our body speaks for them.

Sometimes it's a case of a head full of ideas, and sometimes it's a case of a heart full of anxiety.

Stop and observe what is happening. Reflect on whether you are being too demanding of yourself.

Is this a reasonable request? Is this request in line with objective reality?

If it's not possible to do it, that's normal. Relax your body slowly, take a deep breath, and distract yourself.

Looking back, I want to know if this method made you feel more relaxed.

"Other people are speaking too quickly, and you can't keep up." When you feel anxious, your body is reacting to stress and anxiety. Speak up and express your needs: "Speak a little more slowly."

"Because I want to write it down properly." This kind of approach is more meaningful and easier to adapt to than demanding that the self accomplish these difficult things perfectly in the moment.

Thank you for your question. I am confident that my understanding will be of help to you.

Dear question asker,

I have carefully read your question description and your feedback to the respondent, and I understand your current confusion. I am unaware of the duration of your experience in this situation, but it appears that you have already initiated a course of action. I have also experienced that kind of helpless and uneasy feeling. At times, I feel quite devastated. As you stated, it seems as though I am on the verge of a breakthrough. I extend my support to you.

The issue of the individual counting on the bus can be resolved by simply ignoring him. When the urge to count arises, one can simply engage in the act. When it becomes evident that there is no possibility of catching up with the person below and one is in a disagreeable mood, the individual can be disregarded and allowed to move aside. This action, over time, will result in an improvement in mood.

However, for activities such as note-taking and speaking at meetings, it is not feasible to circumvent them. Indeed, it can be argued that such situations are analogous to undergoing surgery in a car. That is to say, when confronted with circumstances that are beyond our control and when our expectations of success are not met, our body will respond with a strong reaction. This may be a contributing factor to our inability to work effectively. Nevertheless, this is my current understanding of the matter.

It has become evident to me that when I take notes, I am inclined to record as much information as possible.

Subsequently, I would neglect to recall the written material, resulting in a chaotic amalgamation of thoughts. My mind would become enshrouded in a state of blankness, akin to the phenomenon you described. I would experience a sensation of cardiac obstruction, followed by a period of tumultuous distress. Upon observing the notes of others, I would occasionally discern a remarkable degree of organization, prompting me to question my own shortcomings. I would then experience a profound sense of inadequacy, accompanied by a profound sense of distress.

I reflected on this and realized that I probably want to grasp everything. I always want to remember more, but I can't always grasp the main points. This may be due to my logical thinking. I am now attempting to adjust myself. When I observe others taking notes in the same class, I note that they always remember the notes in an organized way and that they are clear. However, I am the kind of person who makes a mess of things. I have found that this is because I don't grasp the main points very well. Therefore, I am attempting to reduce the number of keywords as much as possible. In other words, I already have a goal in mind and will not attempt to do too much at once. This relieves the pressure on me. I believe that, over time, the blockages have eased somewhat.

Additionally, when it is time to speak at a meeting, I am already preparing almost as soon as another individual begins speaking. I experience a great deal of confusion and trepidation when it is my turn, and as a result, I tend to draw and write extensively on a piece of paper in an effort to prepare. However, despite this preparation, I still feel as though I am rambling when it is my turn to speak. I have prepared extensively, yet I am unable to articulate my thoughts effectively. I observe that other individuals are able to speak for 20 or 30 minutes without difficulty. They speak at a slower pace, which allows them to articulate their thoughts in a more natural manner. However, I am unable to control my speaking speed, and before I am aware, I have used up all of the words in my head, leaving me unsure of what to say next. I allow the words to flow, yet I am unable to ensure that they are articulated clearly when I write them down. By the time it is my turn to speak, I am still rambling. I believe this may be due to the fact that I have not had many opportunities to speak, and I have not had sufficient practice. Nevertheless, I recognize that speaking is a skill that can be developed through practice. If I am given sufficient opportunities, I anticipate that I will improve over time.

If feasible, I endeavor to transcribe my entire speech in manuscript form. Given my limited adaptability, I simply recite from the manuscript, a strategy that mitigates undue distress. I posit that we should not set excessively high expectations for ourselves in the context of public speaking. Instead, we should embrace imperfection, create opportunities for learning, and gradually evolve as individuals. With time, we will likely become more adept at navigating these situations.

Indeed, it seems that the issue we are grappling with is not merely a personal one. Based on my observations, at least 80% of individuals will likely experience a similar process. I must admit that my own career has also undergone a series of shifts. While there have been no significant changes, I recall the immense anxiety I felt during a particularly challenging transition. I initially struggled to accept the new circumstances. Nevertheless, I eventually adapted to my new environment, although it was a challenging process. Through this painful transformation, I have gained valuable insights and grown in ways I had not anticipated.

I would like to propose a pact with you all. As we are all comrades in the same trench, let us join forces and accept the current self. Let us then engage in calm reflection on how we might get through this, and then? We will become an excellent self.

It is imperative to strive for the future self we aspire to become. The world and I extend my utmost support and encouragement.

Hello, questioner!

From your description, it's clear you're struggling with issues related to time management. It's evident you're facing difficulties with counting and note-taking, and it's understandable you're troubled by this.

First, think back to when you noticed this behavior in yourself. What was the first time it happened, and what was the reason?

Apart from the obvious difficulties of not being able to count or take notes in time, are there any other symptoms? For example, do you wash your hands repeatedly, check doors and windows over and over again, or must you put things away in a certain way according to a uniform standard?

If you have all of these symptoms, you may have a tendency towards OCD. However, you must go to a regular hospital and be diagnosed by a professional. Never label yourself. This will only increase your psychological burden and may worsen your symptoms.

When you go to the hospital, the doctor will first talk to you, then administer a scale to measure your symptoms, and finally come to a diagnosis.

The main symptoms of OCD are obsessive thoughts and compulsive behavior. There are three main types of obsessive thoughts: obsessive ideas, obsessive emotions, and obsessive intentions.

The content is as follows: repeatedly checking whether doors and windows are closed, repeatedly wondering why the sun rises, standing on high places and wanting to jump, and repeatedly washing hands.

Compulsive behavior is an action taken to reduce the anxiety caused by obsessive thoughts. The patient knows it is unreasonable, but they just can't control it. For example, if a patient has the thought of wondering if doors and windows are closed tightly, they will close the door.

Let me be clear: if there is only compulsion and no counter-compulsion, it is not OCD. OCD is the discomfort of not doing something, and the discomfort of doing it.

Obsession is the appearance of a worrying thought accompanied by a strong sense of anxiety and unease. It is usually expressed as uncontrollable thoughts, which is obsession.

Counter-compulsion is the use of various methods, rational thinking, denial, and rationalization to control the strong urge to think and worry on the one hand, and to feel that there is no need to worry on the other. These are the psychological defenses against compulsions.

It is, in other words, the opposite of a compulsion.

You can deal with obsessions in two ways. One is to recognize that the worry is the problem and to solve it.

You must think of various methods to solve or suppress the compulsion. Another direction is to deny the compulsion, believing it to be unreasonable and unnecessary.

It is crucial to understand that there is a difference between a tendency towards compulsiveness, a compulsive personality, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. These three are not the same. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is the most painful, while a tendency towards compulsiveness is the least painful. A compulsive personality is reflected in a person's views on life, themselves and others, and their way of dealing with them. It can be said to cover all aspects of life, and the resulting distress is often all-encompassing.

However, as long as it has not reached the level of a personality disorder, you can be confident that the impact of this kind of distress on people is generally tolerable.

If you can still bear it, it is not seriously affecting your work or studies, you can adjust it yourself, and there is no big problem.

Tell me how you deal with compulsions.

First, learn to tense and relax your muscles. Exercise is the best way to relax your body. It allows you to devote yourself to the movement, activates your whole body, and causes the brain to secrete more endorphins.

Second, divert attention. When obsessive symptoms appear, divert your attention. Tie an elastic band around your hand. Pop the band when the symptoms appear. You will feel better.

Third, face failure head-on. Don't let it scare you. Failure is just a lesson. OCD often stems from an underlying fear of failure.

Fourth, people with OCD often want to succeed in their work and studies, but their emotions are often suppressed. It is important to learn to manage your emotions and pressure in a reasonable way.

I wish you the best.