Reading improves my mood, but without time, I feel bad and internally consume energy without reading?

The questioner should recognize the value of the present moment and express gratitude for the opportunity to engage in this encounter.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a certain degree of inner anxiety and conflict. I extend my support and encouragement to you.

Let us proceed to discuss this topic.

1. Conduct an introspective analysis of one's internal self.

Your description suggests that you desire to read more and that reading will improve your emotional state. However, reading is also a futile pursuit.

Such internal conflict can result in a state of depletion.

One can discern their inner self and ascertain their current needs. Should one require a period of quietude to attain a state of calm and comfort, it is recommended to temporarily set aside one's plans and obligations, engage in reading material, and refrain from concerning oneself with the passage of time.

If relaxation is the priority at this time and you wish to engage in an activity that you find enjoyable, then you should proceed with that activity. It would be advisable to refrain from reading at this juncture.

It is essential to identify one's desired outcome, to differentiate between the appropriate timing for action and inaction, to select a single course of action, to maintain focus on the present moment, and to refrain from dwelling on the alternative choice.

2. Disengage from expectations.

It is not always necessary to achieve a goal in order to facilitate personal growth. Rather, it is possible to develop and enhance one's abilities as the goal becomes increasingly within reach. Therefore, it is essential to abandon expectations and establish realistic objectives. The remaining step is to concentrate one's time and energy on the process.

It is imperative to concentrate on the process, exerting considerable effort to attain the desired outcome, as success is inevitable.

Thirdly, the concept of leisure must be rethought.

If one is in need of rest, then abstaining from reading or working is a necessary physical act. A brief period of repose will enable one to resume their forward progress. This concept is analogous to ascending a mountain: one can reach the summit with greater ease and reduced fatigue if they do not pause along the way.

Taking brief intermissions to replenish one's energy and recalibrate one's mental state facilitates the attainment of one's objective with greater expediency.

If one desires to rest, it is imperative to do so. Furthermore, it is beneficial to venture out and explore. Once this has been accomplished, it is crucial to concentrate on the physical sensations experienced while exploring, and to detach from any thoughts or ideas that may arise.

Resting at this juncture can be beneficial. Reframing and redefining leisure, and embracing periods of inactivity, may assist in more effectively managing one's time.

It is my hope that this response is of some assistance to you, and I wish you the best of success in your endeavors.

Hello!

I can see where you're coming from. Reading can help us feel more stable emotionally, but spending too much time on it can get in the way of our plans for the future. It seems like we don't have a clear goal, and when we stop reading, we don't know what to do. And once we stop reading, we fall into internal conflict again, feeling like we've made a bit of a mess of things.

1. About reading

There's a saying that goes, "If you don't read for three days, you feel like an abomination." It's a bit extreme, but it still shows how important reading is for our self-acceptance, growth, and emotional stability.

There's also the saying, "Books are a portable refuge." Books let us have a spiritual refuge where we can nourish ourselves and feel like we're "farther from the world" in the noisy world.

I have to say, though, that I don't quite agree with these two sentences.

I don't think reading is about escaping from the world. I think it's about connecting with it better. And I don't think reading is done just for the sake of reading. I think it's done to better understand oneself and the world.

2. About "reading" and "working"

You said that not reading and not working is like being a loser. It seems like you think these two things are separate.

You either read or you work. Reading affects how much time you can spend working, and working affects your ability to set goals, which in turn affects your reading and your mood.

It seems like no matter what you do, it's not quite right.

So let's circle back to the previous argument: Why do you read? What if reading is about doing a better job?

What if reading helps you find your life's purpose and discover your strengths? What if "reading" and "working" are one and the same thing?

That way, you won't be delayed in finding your goals, and your ideas can be inspired and verified by books. It's great that "reading" and "working" can have a positive feedback loop.

You could even set up an online reading and sharing account that combines reading with online productivity. Persist in combining input and output to attract like-minded people. And positive feedback from the internet will also take you further in both "reading" and "working."

I hope these ideas are useful for you. Best regards!

First, I want to be clear that everyone faces similar challenges. You're on the right track by actively seeking solutions. Here's my analysis and recommendations in response to your questions. I'm confident you'll find them helpful.

First, you said you haven't been doing the things you want to do. This is likely because you haven't found your interests yet, or you've been distracted by other things.

I advise you to try something new, discover your interests, and set small, achievable goals. Build your confidence and then achieve them one step at a time. Remember, it's the journey, not the destination, that matters.

Second, you mentioned that you always fail to achieve your goals, which makes you doubt your abilities. First of all, you've got to give yourself a break. You've got a positive attitude, and that's great. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Set reasonable and achievable goals. Reward yourself when you achieve them to boost your self-confidence.

Failure is the mother of success. Every failure is a stepping stone to success.

Third, you don't study or work, and you feel like you're just going through the motions. This is a very common feeling, and you need to rest and relax.

Take some time for yourself. Go for a walk, listen to music, or chat with friends. Find a way to relax that works for you and helps you feel ready to take on the day.

Fourth, you said you can't get up in the morning and feel tired. This is likely because your work and rest schedule is irregular or the quality of your sleep is poor.

You need to establish a regular routine and get enough sleep. Before going to bed, do some relaxing activities like taking a warm bath or listening to some gentle music.

Set small goals to motivate yourself to get up in the morning.

You should definitely go out and have some fun!

Travel will relax you and broaden your horizons. Choose a place you like and enjoy the beauty of nature and the local culture.

You must plan and prepare well to ensure a smooth and safe trip.

I am confident that my advice has been helpful. You will undoubtedly face many challenges and difficulties in life, but as long as you maintain a positive attitude and work hard, you will undoubtedly overcome them.

You've got this!

Hello! I'll give you a big, warm hug from afar first!

I'm thrilled to see that you've asked for help! I'm excited to share with you and support you in any way I can.

From your description, it's clear that you see reading as a great way to relieve your emotional state. You also feel that reading will waste a lot of your time, but I'm sure you'll find a way to make it work!

Right now, it's crucial to identify what matters most to you. Ask yourself: is maintaining a positive emotional state a priority? If so, you'll be eager to find ways to fit more reading into your schedule!

And from your description, it can be seen that although you know you have a lot of things you want to do, you don't have the will to do them. So why don't you use this extremely confusing time to read? It'll be a great way to get through this!

Reading could be just the thing to help you sort out your current state of confusion. It could help you realize what you really want and what is truly suitable for you. Reading is, after all, a great way to sort out your restless emotions!

I'd love to know your thoughts on this!

In fact, when you lack the desire and motivation to do what you want to do, it means that you have set the bar too high for yourself. This is an opportunity for you to recognize that you often have overly perfect expectations of yourself. You can choose to accept yourself when you are not perfect. You can also decide to stop judging yourself based on your successes and failures.

So, let go of the expectations of the perfect self, face the real self honestly, allow yourself to be less than perfect, do not define and evaluate yourself by the results of what you do, and pay more attention to the good parts of what you do!

If you can, go for it! Follow your heart's desires. Go on an outdoor trip alone for once, or try not doing anything at all. Spend time with your idle self. Take a good rest for a day. Don't think about anything related to study or work. You deserve it! Taking a good rest is also a kind of ability. It's a way to comfort and take care of yourself.

When our body and mind are happy and nourished, we can devote ourselves fully to our studies and work!

Variety is the absolute best thing for your happiness!

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!